Sometimes It’s The Smallest Decisions

sometimes-its-the-little-decisions "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever" (Keri Russell)

Have you ever experienced this? It might take some time to recognize that there were little decisions in your life that changed its course, but I imagine that if you think about it long enough, you'll see that it's true.

One day when I was still in Virginia, I was working in DC and there was a snow storm starting. I asked my boss if I could leave early since I had a 60 mile drive. He said "no" because we were having some sort of class or lecture. I was not a happy camper. It took me 8 hours to get home that day because I-95 was closed due to a 100 car pile-up (yes, that is 100 cars). Was I upset? Not at all because I realized that had I left when I wanted to, I would have been right smack in the middle of the pile-up. That would not have been good. But it was a small decision by my boss that saved my day (and maybe saved even more than that).

Even funnier is that I chose to join the military to pay my tuition for medical school. That was not a small decision. But the reason I joined the Navy over the other services surely was a small decision. I liked the uniforms! Seriously, that's the reason my friend and I picked the Navy. The recruiters didn't tell us squat to help us make any other kind of decision. In fact, had they told us more, I would have joined the Army because then I could have gone to Viet Nam and done the work I wanted to. In the Navy I couldn't do that because I was a woman.  However, I will tell you that joining the Navy was the best thing that ever happened to me. Even though I joined for two years and that's really all I intended to stay for, 30 years later I was retiring with a really great career and life behind me. All because of the uniforms!

Go back through your life and examine the things that have happened to you. What led up to those events? Can you find some small decision that led you down that particular path?

As your life continues, do not demean the small decisions you are being asked to make. What seems small now may not be small in the long run.

Pay attention and investigate the past. It will be a fun exercise to do. We all need a bit of fun right?


Crossing One Finish Line Takes You To The Next

stick_figure_race_finish_400_clr_6285You know that at this time of year I have to post something about racing...ha ha.

However, most parts of a running life are analogous to our lives in general. And no more so than when getting to the finish line. Reaching the finish line in life isn't about death but about achieving something (a goal you've set for instance). Just as a runner does not stop running when one race is over, we don't stop living or setting goals just when one goal is achieved.

You always have to have another goal or plan in mind. If not, you'll end up with the "is that all there is" syndrome. The bigger the goal or accomplishment, the more important it is to have something planned to shoot for next. Otherwise you're liable to plummet into depression so deep you don't know what to do about it.

Your achievement or accomplishment may or may not lead to the next thing you want to go after. Perhaps you're on a roll and are building up to something even larger - for example a runner might start with a 5K and gradually make it up the scale to a marathon or ultramarathon or even multi-day events. Or, it might be that you're ready to move on to something different in your life so your next goal might be completely new and unique. There is nothing wrong with that at all. What is important is that you do have someplace else to go.

Give yourself some time to rest and recuperate after you complete the race (goal) - relax and don't think about much of anything - revel in your success. Then allow yourself some time to reflect on what happened - what went right and what went wrong and what you might have wanted to do differently. Use this as constructive "life" time, not just for that particular goal. Take the lessons from this one event and see how to apply it to your life in general.

Now it's time to move on to the planning and achieving of your next goal. All you had to do is figure out what your goal was while working toward the other one. You did NOT have to plan how you were going to achieve it. Just having something to aim for next is the key. Once you've rested, relaxed and taken inventory, it's time to plan for this new endeavor. You can apply all you've learned previously to your planning efforts now!

What's your next finish line? Can you see it yet?



Try Something New For 30 Days

This is great. Go ahead. Try something, anything, just as long as it's new for 30 days. Start small but start. Then do something else new for the next 30 days and so on. See if you can do it and more importantly, see if it makes a difference either in your life or in your outlook on life!


Easier Said Than Done – Embrace the Journey

maze_solved_14345Boy has the last few months been an adventure (to put it mildly) for me. But it wasn't until yesterday that I realized the importance of the phrase "Embrace The Journey, Not The Destination" (there are multiple variations on this but this is the quickest way to say it). People, myself included, often focus on the ultimate goal - the destination. And then if the goal is not achieved, they are crushed and all that time has gone by without them enjoying that time.

You have to be present at all times. You always hear that you need to enjoy the moment because you don't know what's going to happen in the next. Until you experience that, however, you don't really know what it means. On Feb 17th this year, I experienced a life change that was totally unexpected and led down this path to my recent surgery. It wasn't as significant an event as many have had to deal with. But it was enough to stop me in my tracks for the first time in my life. As I've been trying to recuperate, my primary focus had been on getting back to running so I could train for the run across Tennessee in July. But, yesterday as post-op issues continued to prevail and as I realized I still have several evaluations to go through, I found myself understanding that it's all about today, this minute, not what's going to happen (or what I hope to happen) in July.  Strangely, though, I felt at peace with that knowledge. I have spent too much of my life working toward something else - working thru my childhood just to graduate medical school and at that time my only thought was "What now?" (not a good feeling); training for a race; working 5 days to get to the weekend; working 8 hours to finally go home, etc. I never have spent time smelling the roses along the way. In my initial years as a physician I was a typical physician - go, go, go. Then in my later years I worked in the DC area and that's completely rush, rush, rush, especially when coupled with my lousy working hours due to the distance and traffic.

I would say that the closest I have come to embracing the journey has been when I've been doing my long runs because I have so much time to think and do whatever I want. However, when you add training to that picture, it throws in the goal and that takes away from the pure enjoyment I used to have on the runs.

So, what happened yesterday? I think it was a combination of no longer wanting to fight these undesirable post-op issues as well as just having the time to take care of myself. All of a sudden I found myself thinking that I may not make it to the Tennessee run in July. I just don't know what will happen in the next few months - with my training and my body. Rather than be upset about maybe not getting there (still an unknown), I am choosing to love my body and love the challenges I'm experiencing and just be grateful. I am going to put gratitude first in my life and try every day to do something nice for someone else.  And I'm going to be kind to my body and try to listen to it more. If I make it to Tennessee, that will be wonderful. If I don't, I won't have passed up months just thinking about getting there - I will have spent those months enjoying life and doing for others, two of the most important things you can do in life.

See, you're never too old to learn about life. Even though it's easier said than done, I feel confident that I am on a different path at this point.


Empowerment Comes From Within

custom_sweatshirt_15158We've said that awareness of the Universal Laws and concepts then imposes responsibility on you. In other words, once you're aware of how the Universal Laws work, you cannot get away with blaming others or the world for anything that happens to you. You know that you're responsible for creating your life and all that's in it. And if you don't like it, you must take action to correct it. You and only you!

Although this may seem "unfair" and inequitable, it's also very empowering if you think about it. To know that you really can control your life through your thoughts, words and feelings. You can change your vibration and momentum at the drop of a hat and if you're diligent, you can bring everything you want into your life. Of course it takes some work because you have to slow down, take your time to investigate and uncover your limiting beliefs and then proceed to clear them and replace them with current beliefs that are not limiting and further your ability to achieve anything you want!

Tale that power (from within) and vow to work on it, knowing that it will help transform your life phenomenally! Find your desires, get specific about the details (and of course about the "why" you want them), identify your fears about achieving these goals and once you've written all of these things down, then figure out what are the new beliefs you wish to cultivate.

For example, replace "I'm not worthy of being rich, I haven't earned it" with "Richness and abundance is part of my Divine Right and I am so deserving of all riches, including wealth. I can do so much good for others with the money I earn."

Replace "you have to work hard to make money" with "Richness is mine by Divine Right and the Universe knows how to deliver anything I want in the quickest and easiest way and I'm certainly all for that!"

Make up your own replacement phrases. Write them down for two reasons:

  1. You want to make sure you have no negatives in the phrases and you want it to be in the present tense as much as you can (typical of any affirmation).
  2. This way you'll be more likely to remember them and be able to read and say them repeatedly during the day. You can also tweak them if they don't sound exactly like you'd like. Maybe tweaking the words some will make the phrase resonate more with you. As you begin to cultivate these new beliefs you'll want to adjust the phrasing so that you refine your belief and maybe even change it so it's more freeing.

You should identify your fears regarding these things you want and then face them, knowing that what you fear is an afraid to doindication of what you should do next! Your fears are simply pointing out more of your limiting beliefs. For instance, if you were more successful and made more money, maybe you're afraid that you won't have enough time for your family or to even rest, relax or play as much as you'd like. Alter that belief just as you did the others. "I have Divine abundance/prosperity and along with my success comes all the time to do the things I want to do. I am never exhausted and always feel energetic, rested and relaxed. I have all the time in the world to play and do things I want and with the people I love." - or whatever sounds good to you. Turn your fears around via words and then you'll be excited as the fear sensation fades away. You'll be amazed!

Take your empowerment from within and run with it. There will be no stopping you!