Don’t Be A Ping Pong Ball

img_1519Do you find yourself not getting what you want?

Perhaps it's because you haven't specified to the Universe exactly what you want. Or, you might have said "I want this" one day and then another day say "oh, I really want that" - bouncing back and forth between items.

I've told you many times about why I haven't gotten a new car. I bounce between wanting a Honda hybrid and a Toyota hybrid. Until I can make up my mind, the Universe continues to play ping pong. It fills one "order" and then when I think that maybe the other type of car has better features, it starts to fulfill that order. But then I'll flip back again. Who knows how many orders for a new car the  Universe has fulfilled for me. But, I will tell you that it has NOT delivered any of them because I have never hit the "Place order" button. You know how when you order things, you have to go through several steps but the final step is always placing your order. You can hit the back button or change this or change that all you want. However, you won't ever receive your order if you never place it.

What i would have to do (and you, as well, substituting your desire for my car analogy/metaphor) is make up my mind about which vehicle I want - bottom line, nothing more, nothing less. How simple can it be? Why do you think I can't make up my mind? I'm not certain except that I don't want a new vehicle badly enough. I love my current car and only want a second car as a backup. I don't need a car like that as a second car. I also have no space right now in my garage. If I really wanted the car, I would clean out a place for it, go look at potential vehicles so I could see which one drove like I like it, smelled and looked like I like it, etc. I would be taking action! Remember that the Universe loves action.

It's one thing to sit around and talk about "gee, I'd really like something" and yet do nothing about it. Recently I hurt my back and I could have sat around and whined about not being able to run or sit or do much of anything. But, I took action - I pulled out all the stops - I made appointments with my acupuncturist, my AIRROSTI provider, found the two medicines I've used with success and rested. I adjusted my environment so I had to stand, not only because it hurt more to sit but also because it is healthier to stand.  I found all the positive aspects of this situation that I could. I did NOT dwell on the pain and problems. I focused on getting it better. And it is getting better. If I had just concentrated on how bad it was and how it was negatively impacting my running (and my life), I would have succeeded only in receiving more of the same. And that is NOT what I want at all.

You have to take some time to decide what it is you really want. You can use the clarity vs contrast procedure to do that. Think about what you don't want and then write down the opposite - how does that feel inside you - if it feels good, then it's  what you want and you can then proceed to define the specifics of it (to continue to use the car - I would list the color, whether automatic or standard, how many doors, how many cylinders, etc right down to the interior surface and color and radio..all the specifics). Then I would 'Place my Order" by saying "this is the car I want" and then I would LET GO! just as you do when you send in an order. You sit and wait for it to be delivered, knowing that it will come on schedule. We will talk about checking

Stop changing your mind. Figure out what you want (find your "why" first - that will help you determine what it is you really want easier), tell the Universe with feeling and be adamant about it and then let it come to you!

Terrie

Create Your 2015 Story NOW!

get ready for 2015Now is the time to start getting ready for 2015. You want to enter 2015 with your life and attainment of your desires mapped out in detail and visualized. Even though December is usually a very busy month, why not consider changing your focus from holiday gifting and partying to creating your life and setting yourself up for success in 2015?

This not just about setting goals. Most of us have January come upon us quickly and we hastily throw together some things we think we might want to work toward in the coming year. But unless we prepare properly  we may not be choosing the right kind of goals or might not be getting specific enough, or maybe not even deep enough.

So what's the best way to go about this? I like to review everything that's happened to and "in" me during the last year. I cherish my calendar for this. I have gotten into the habit of writing an amazing amount of information in my calendar. It serves as a journal of sorts. I have tried a separate journal but that doesn't work. Since I have this great calendar program that has room for everything (notes, comments, addresses, journal of its own) that seems to be the best place for me to keep everything in one place.

I go back to the previous January in my calendar and I look at all at the events that I've had (even if I didn't journal in the calendar, just noting the events would be sufficient for this purpose). I am always amazed at all that's happened. As I'm looking at each thing, I ask myself where I was spiritually and emotionally at that time and then compare it to where I am right now. What has changed? What did I learn and how did it effect me? What changes have happened since then? How is my attitude different if it is? What would I have liked to have happened differently? Is this something I want to recreate but in a more successful manner? Or is it something that I've done and am done with?

It's almost as if I write the story of the past year as I'm doing this. It really is revealing as long as you ask yourself the right questions and take the time to answer honestly - that is probably the really key thing - to answer deeply and honestly.  Take your time with this. It's very important - it will generate feelings and emotions as you go through the whole year. You'll use those emotions as a gauge for where you want to go next.

Once you've done this, you can "feel" how you want your life to go on. You can determine what you want to happen in the coming year. Once you let your emotions guide you in that direction, you should then take the time to actually script out the results you're seeking for the year. Write out your attitude changes, your life changes, your nutrition changes (I keep talking about that lately but it's essential to have the right nutrition to feed your soul as well as your body), your exercise and work changes. What events would you like to have happen and what outcomes would you like. For example, would you like to change jobs or maybe retire? If so, get specific so you create the job or retirement situation you truly want ( you do NOT want a new job where you have to work even harder than you may be doing now; when you retire you want to be comfortable and have at least all the amenities you have now). Think through everything carefully.

Write these things down. Feel them. Get the momentum going. Keep this "story" by your side at all times and keep reading it. But remember that you can rewrite it as you go along. You can add more details to it; you can change details; you can change goals and outcomes or even delete a particular event if you decide that you really don't want it; you can add things to it depending on what happens.

But the point to writing it out is to embed it in your mind and get the "engine" (Law of Attraction) going. You will be amazed how once you've take the time to get specific, list the details and actually script your story, it will come to pass!

Try it. Do a little bit each day or take a day on the weekend. Just do it though! That's the important thing.

Let me know how things are going.

Terrie

Focus On What You Want

focus We've talked about focus several times in the last few weeks. But, I really believe you can't talk about it enough. Problems usually arise because of three things - 1) someone isn't focused but the thoughts and feelings are scattered all over the place 2) someone focuses on the lack of something or on what they do not want and 3) because a person hasn't made up their mind what they really want (you've heard my story about not manifesting a hybrid vehicle because I couldn't decide which type I wanted and so I couldn't get specific enough to place my order to the Universe).

Use the contrast you have in your life to determine what it is you want. Pick the things you want, not the absence of what you don't want. For example, don't say "I don't want any bills". Instead, say "I have an abundance of money to pay off anything I want to pay and have plenty left over to enjoy my life the way I want to be accustomed to." Instead of "I don't want to be sick" or "I want to get well", say "I am healthy and hearty and can do everything I want to do." Look at health, NOT healing. So you are picking the positive things you want to focus on.

Then become specific about what you want. If you want to have plenty of energy instead of your fatigue, express that by saying to yourself (and writing down) "I have energy every day, all day and am able to accomplish so much more at work than ever before in my life." Or, "I have plenty of energy to run a 100 mile race". You can even use visualization to help you become specific because if you can see it, you can write it down in greater detail.

Make sure you know what you want and then keep your mind on that at all times. Make a treasure board or book so that when your thoughts wander, you'll be able to bring your mind back to where it needs to be. If you think about this, then that, then something else, the energy is diffused. You want to have laser focus on the thing you want. No matter what else is going on, that's where your thoughts are to be.

Focus on what you want, not the obstacles or what you don't want - do NOT allow yourself to be drawn in by the negative aspects of your life. Don't focus on the lack. Focus on what you're going to have. Remember that you have manifested it already - once you've done the above steps. Now you're just waiting for the materialization and you have to remember that the law of gestation may be in play as well.

I will give you a personal example. I've told you recently that I have epilepsy. I never once thought that that would keep me from getting in the Navy - at least until the day I was driving to the recruiter's station. I had simply assumed I would be accepted and that there was no reason I shouldn't be. I never even thought that my epilepsy would be an issue. As it turned out, most people will not be accepted with epilepsy. But I had not allowed that into my thoughts so my positive energy was sufficient to overcome the blockages faced by others. And I got in!

Try to monitor your focusing this week. Pay attention to where your thoughts are going - are they all over the place, are they on positive or negative things? What are you creating in your life? What do you really want to create in your life?

Let us know what's happening.

Terrie

When You Wish Upon A Star

when you wish upon a star Given how things have gone for me in the past few months, I probably should also caveat this with "Be careful what you wish for".  When the Law of Attraction works extremely well in you life (as it does in mine), you often get what you want very quickly - often you haven't taken enough time to be specific about what you want.

Whatever you ask for, you will manifest. Most of us, however, have passing thoughts like "oh, I'd like that", or "that would be nice in my living room" - you know, the window shopping syndrome. The Universe will actually manifest each thing you ask for, each and every time. So why aren't our houses and lives filled like a version of "Hoarding"? Because there is a difference between manifesting and materializing. The Universe manifests everything we ask for but in order for that to materialize in our life we have to allow it in and be ready to receive it. When it's a passing thought, there isn't enough focus or desire for it to materialize in your life. You know how we say "act as if" and "focus on having what you want". Think of it as you putting a homing beacon out for the UPS truck to make it to your door. If you're on and off about something, then it's as if the truck is zig zagging around your city or neighborhood instead of making it straight to your house.

This is a good thing for us because often we'll make quick remarks as a result of some emotional event/situation. And when we say something like "I wish you were gone", you don't really mean it but you've shouted it out to the Universe! Fortunately this is a temporary feeling/thought and it's not something you really want to happen.

Once you identify something you really want, don't leave it at that. Go back and be specific. Define what it is you really want - what color is it, how big or small do you want it, what other parameters are you desiring. This is easy (if you remember to do it) for physical items, but it's as critical, if not more, with the non-physical items - often because we can't envision all of the aspects involved. Let me give you my personal example which will make you chuckle. I was feeling "left out" at work with the new "regime" (I really need to learn to like change..ha ha) and wished I was more involved with the new president. Now for the funny part and I am not complaining because I did get what I wanted and I know that I can refine it to be more manageable. I am now constantly occupied with the new president and helping out and talking, reviewing, etc. In addition, I was wanting more people to ask me questions. Now, my office is like a revolving door.  I really am enjoying it because I love to teach and guide BUT (there's always a 'but' if you don't get specific enough) I can't get any of the other work done that I have to. You see, all I did was make the two statements - I wanted to be more involved with the president and I wanted more people to ask me questions. I never went any further. There were many ways I could have arranged for everything to happen had I just taken the time to be specific.  I could have said I want the president to consult with me for a finite period of time (I would need to say what that finite period was) or in segments, etc. I could have specified that people ask me questions in the afternoon between 1 and 3 but that it's just what they do, not that I put out the word that they can only do it then. Why not make it so that the Universe guides them to only have questions during that time rather than me mandating it.

There are many aspects to consider. Make yourself a list of characteristics or parameters you should address when being specific about something. If you've made that list ahead of time, then when you're ready to ask for something, you've got the checklist right in front of you. Just remember to be specific.

Here's some examples:

For a physical wish:

  • What is it you want
  • What color do you want
  • What size/shape/model do you want (31 x 32 x 24 inches for example, or midsize, compact etc)
  • Where do you want it to fit?
  • What kind of maintenance do you want it to require or to pay for?
  • Just think of the characteristics you want and list them all.
  • For a non-physical wish:
  • What is it you want
  • Is it work related, home life, relationships, all of the above - be specific about which part of your life you want it to occur in
  • When (which part of your day, week, month etc) do you want it to occur
  • How should people approach you
  • How often should it happen (occur)
  • How long should an encounter last (if pertinent)
  • Who do you want to interact with

Remember that when dealing with people you can also augment your list and make your wish come true faster by using the Book of Positive Aspects and the Rampage of Appreciation.

All these techniques and laws work together. Just remember to be specific or "be careful what you ask for".

Have  a great week!

Terrie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Get Off The Merry Go Round

running_in_gear_pc_400_clr_2628You've heard of self-fulfilling prophecies?

What you say and believe over and over, comes true. So, if you say "you don't (or won't) love me once you get to know me" and you really believe and feel that, guess what? It will happen. That relationship will end eventually.

A self-fulfilling prophecy is another way to talk about what you believe and focus on, is what you will end up with in your life.

Be careful what you say and think. Make sure every thought you have and every feeling you have is something you really want. And, be specific and careful about what you say.

For example, don't just say "I'd like to quit this job" or "I want to retire". Be more specific - "I want a regular retirement so that I can enjoy my health and life." Otherwise you could end up having a medical retirement and you don't necessarily want that. So, every time you think about something you want, make sure it can't be misinterpreted.

When you are examining what you've asked for make sure you're focusing on the positive, not on the lack. I could have said "I want to retire but not medically". That would make me focus on the fact that there are other types of retirement and the most common alternative is for medical reasons. I don't want to focus on medical problems or issues. I want to focus on enjoying the retirement and being totally healthy in order to do that.

One little maneuver with your words can make all the difference. See why it's important to take the time to determine and then define your goals? Make them specific and focusing on the positive aspects of life, not the things you don't want - the absence of what you want. Don't say "I want my bills paid off" because you then focus on the fact that you have lack in your life. Say "I am prosperous and have terrific credit". When you don't pay your bills, your credit score is affected. This way you've said that you have great credit and that will secondarily mean that the things that impact credit are taken care of.

Go for the world but make sure you've defined the world the way you really (and specifically) want it.

Terrie