How’s That Working For You?

I'm a bit late checking in with you but what do they say? "Better late than never".

I'm wondering how your "resolutions" are going. I don't know about you but that word has negative programming in my brain. I hear the "resolution" and I feel "resolve" and almost a drudgery type sensation. I don't really know where that interpretation and emotional response came from but what it tells me is that I need to avoid using that word. Why use something that you know has negative connotations and will create a negative emotion in me? That sounds counter intuitive don't you think?

I think that's why I went to such lengths to come up with your plan of action for scripting your new year. I wanted you to be able to visualize what you are expecting and wanting to happen this coming year. It's like your own version of the "Bucket List" movie. But right now you're doing it for just a year.

Take a few minutes and answer honestly as to whether you're still following your resolutions or not. Have you "modified" them, perhaps? What's going on with them? How's it working for you? I love that expression because it implies that maybe you could revisit what you're doing and come up with something different or more workable for you. If it's working well, keep on doing it. But if it's NOT working well, then you should take a different approach. No sense repeating the same things over and over again hoping that at some point there will be a different result. That's just not going to happen.

If you made resolutions and didn't script out where you want to be by the end of 2016, take a few minutes now and write out how you're doing. If you're continuing on and have had positive results with your resolutions, then keep going on that track.

If, however, your resolutions have gone by the wayside, then try scripting what you want your year to look like. Write it out as if you're creating a Hollywood movie and it's going to have your favorite stars in it. Live it, dream it, create it!

Do it now, though! Here's a link to  New Beginnings, Not Resolutions.

Think about this and take some action now.


Momentum Monday

momentum-monday1"Momentum really is the most important aspect of deliberate creation that you could consciously contemplate. Because what momentum says is: Once you get going in that direction, it is more likely that you will continue in that direction." ~Abraham  Excerpted from: Orlando, FL on January 11, 2014

This Abraham quote follows quit nicely with yesterday's post. Remember how I mentioned that the more you worry, the more pain you'll experience as well as the more worried you'll become. This is all about  momentum. When you are at the top of a hill and push and push against a boulder, it's hard to get that thing moving. But once you get it going down the hill, the momentum keeps it going down the hill and it's nearly impossible to stop it due to the force it accumulates. The same goes with worry. Once that worry has started down the hill it keeps gaining more and more momentum. You worry more and more and as a result, the Universe brings you what you're focusing on - more worry (or pain or whatever thing you've given momentum to).

See if, instead, you can get the momentum started in a positive way. Declare things good. Just know that they will be good - they will eventually demonstrate that they were the right things to happen in your life.

The minute you start to think something is bad or not so good, stop pushing that boulder, stand back and think how you can turn your thoughts and feelings around!

Have a great week!


How Do You Respond?

How do you respond to thoughts that creep into your brain and fill you with worry?  Especially when you don't really know what's going on? The Unknown is horrible place - kind of like a black hole - that dread and fear. It always seems as if it's not so "black" once we enter into it and find out what's actually going on, even if it's not great news.

We have the hardest time dealing with something that we can't deal with - the Unknown. Perhaps that's because we are made for action and planning and analysis, none of which we can do when we don't know what we're up against. Once we know what's happening, then we can put our skills to work and come up with the appropriate strategy, gather the proper support system, figure out what resources are needed and where to get them, etc. This is one of the reasons terrorism is so much worse for the psyche than flat out war (this is not a political statement - I'm just trying to show the similarity). With war - we know who the enemy is and generally have gathered enough intelligence to know how they operate so we can prepare our counterattack. However, with terrorism, everything is hidden until the terrorist act is perpetrated. And their method of attack is spontaneous and can even be different every time. This uncertainty and the Unknown is what leads to the "terror" in terrorism.

When we are faced with the Unknown we often feel terror.

Here are some famous quotes about fear which I think might help when we find ourselves consumed by fear:

  • The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.

    ~H. P. Lovecraft

  • I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.

    ~Rosa Parks

  • There are very few monsters who warrant the fear we have of them.

    ~Andre Gide

  • “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
    ~Mark Twain

How can you respond better when you are besieged by fear? The way you respond will pave the way for more of what's coming your way. For example, if you are experiencing pain and begin to worry about whether you'll have this forever or what might be causing it, your pain will be magnified the more you worry. Soon, not only will you become paralyzed and you won't be able to do anything at all but sit and worry more but your pain will intensify proportionately to the amount of worrying you're doing. This is actually a great example of the law of Attraction in action - you get more of what you focus on - in this case you're focusing on your pain so it's a given that you'll get more pain.

Try to find some other way to deal with your fear. Say affirmations over and over again even if you don't believe them. Remember that a belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over again. Keep saying the affirmations and they will begin to be embedded in your mind. Try these favorites of mine:

  • "Everything always works out for me"
  • "Nothing and nobody can interfere with my xxxx (fill in what you want - such as "my health and well being"), not even myself". It's important to add the "not even myself" in this one because we are usually the ones that will mess things up or get in our own way.

I also recommend EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). This is a phenomenal technique that allows you to work with the meridians in the body and essentially apply energy medicine to your own body. This definitely works to reduce the anxiety surrounding your issue and if it's pain, EFT will often remove the pain as well. It's easy and free and you have nothing to lose but a few minutes of your time - and you have plenty to gain!

It also helps to have a support system that you can talk to when you need to express your fears. It's beneficial to express them and get them off your chest, so to speak. But make sure your support system will listen but not allow you to wallow for long. Explain to them that you're just looking for someone to listen and then to help them divert their attention.

Examine how you respond when you start to worry about something. Then investigate how you can change your patterns.  Try to be as positive as you possibly can. This is not that easy I know but it will definitely be beneficial if you can figure out a way to change your responses.


Momentum Monday

momentum-monday1"Once you've decided that you want something, the opposite of it is going to be very much a part of your awareness too." ~Abraham   Excerpted from: Napa, CA on February 27, 1997

This is the basis beyond Contrast vs Clarity. One way we can use to determine what we really want is to look at what we don't want - often that is more clear to us than what we want.  In fact, it's frequently not until we have this thing in front of us that has all the characteristics we do not want in our life that we can get as specific as we need to be in order to "place our order correctly". Otherwise it's like going on amazon and seeing a blurry picture of some kind of machine and you don't have any details listed but have to decide that you want to place an order based on the blurry picture and maybe the description only. Who knows what you'll get.

Don't be surprised then, when you spend the right amount of time and put the right effort into determining what you want and then all of a sudden you start seeing the opposite - it's as if it's in your face all the time. Some of this has to do with the RAS (Reticular Activating System where your brain sorts out the millions of data that are bombarding us minute by minute. Once you've started to think of something, the RAS will pull more of that into your conscious awareness. Think about a certain type of car and then tomorrow see how many of that type of car you see on the road around you.)

Do NOT let the appearance of the "opposite" sway you from what you desire, however. Use its appearance to help you hone in on the specifics of what you really want. We're all too frequently in a hurry and make declarations of what we want and do not delve into the specifics. "I want a partner" is a common wish - well, does that mean you want a business partner, a love partner, what? Does it matter whether he or she is mean and rotten or dishonest? Does it matter how old they are?

See what I mean about being specific. If you're starting a new business, outline who you want for your ideal client. Write it down and then when you see other people and how they deal with service people see if they might be giving you other hints to add to your "wants" and "don't wants" list.

Pay attention this week to see what's popping up all around you.


One Step Forward…..

As you may or  may not have noticed, I've been MIA (missing in action) for over a week.

The FLU!!!!  Get your flu shot now if you haven't already. I just hadn't "gotten around to it" and boy am I sorry I procrastinated on this - but aren't we always sorry we procrastinate on things...sigh. But that's for another time.

What I really wanted to talk about today  is that old phrase "one step forward and two steps back".  That's the spiral that I feel I am in right now. But it's totally up to me to keep it from being a negative spiral and using the changes to my advantage. That is my responsibility because what I do and what I choose to do is all dependent on what's inside of me, NOT what's external. It's often easier to put the blame or responsibility outside of ourselves because then we don't have to do anything - we can just whine and complain and feel sorry for ourselves. No  other action is expected  of us. Anne used to say that once you started learning metaphysics you were "in trouble" (jokingly) because you can no longer stand by innocently and blame the Universe for what happens to you. You MUST accept responsibility and take action because this is all of your making.

I know this and so I am examining my attitude and making the appropriate adjustments. I have definitely declared that 2016 is MY YEAR. And I know it will be. So, I have to look at everything that happens and simply "Declare it good!" and then believe that it will be good. So many things have happened in my life to prove this statement that all I really need to do is look back at a few of them (remember I call them Kodak Moments because they are good memories that I can recall and change my vibration almost immediately).

What does all this have to do with my not posting for over a week? I was finally getting back into the swing of running - even though I really was starting over and almost as if I had never run before. But, at least i was out there doing it. And feeling good about persisting through the discouraging moments, those moments of doubt about whether I'd really be able to run or not but continuing to be out there. And then I get hit with this knock down Flu bug and I'm out of commission for about two or more weeks. That means I will have to start over again....poor me..NOT. I am declaring it GOOD! I know there is good in this one step forward and two back. I am being exposed to important lessons and it's up to me to absorb them and build on them. That I can do. That I will do. I am unstoppable!

What seems to be standing in your way? What can you do to change your attitude to deal with it in such a way that it will end up "Good".

Remember to declare everything GOOD!