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The Grass is Always Greener

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grass is always greenerThink about this…and be honest too! How often has this been proven true in your own life? I know it’s been my way of thinking in the past.

Is there anything wrong with this way of thinking? Not really….BUT….when you’re always looking over the fence – at something you don’t have and wishing you had it, you are wasting your life.

For some reason our perception of what’s “out there” on the other side, or, what we MIGHT be able to attain is more attractive than what we are experiencing right now.  Maybe our current situation is boring (or just “there” because nothing is different). We arrange our life in a way that’s comfortable to us. We all like routine and we like to have things in a certain way.

But then there is that part of our brain that thinks that something that’s “out there” is better than what we have. So we wish for that thing without knowing anything other than how it APPEARS from our distance. It’s judging a book by its cover and wanting to pick it up and buy it – without even reading on the cover or initial pages to see if it’s really something we’re interested in.

Did you ever order something you just “had to have” and then when you received it, it was no big deal? It wasn’t the “thing that changed the world” like it seemed when you ordered it – the “thing” you couldn’t live without.  I think it’s our anticipation of something and what we imagine it will be or what our lives will be like if we have it (or achieve if it’s a goal). We are very good at imagining but then there’s a let down when our “order” finally gets here.

There is a lesson from that last paragraph that’s so important to think about. If we can imagine how great our life will be or how great something will be, then we can enjoy our life right now even without actually having the “thing” in our possession. Abraham always talks about feelings and vibrations. You can capture the joyous feelings you experience when you think about having something and feel them in the “NOW”. It’s so important for us to live in the now and not always be waiting for the future or something to come in the future. Think about the happiness and joy of completing a goal. Close your eyes (when you’re done reading this of course…ha ha), feel how happy and satisfied you’ll be when you reach that goal. Actually feel it, feel the satisfaction and glow. Now absorb that deep into your soul. If you can feel that, then you can reproduce it any time you want. And you do NOT need to have actually achieved the goal or received the object to feel that way, do you? Once you’ve felt it, you can pull it back any time you want. Right NOW!

Don’t live for the future (the grass on the other side). Live in the NOW and enjoy your life NOW. Look around you and see how many people have had adversity fall upon them and as a result they have been derailed from pursuing all their goals and destinations. They are then forced to live in the NOW because as far as they know there may not be any tomorrow. When you go to bed, express your gratitude for all you’ve had and experienced during the day. When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you should do is to express gratitude for having awakened and been given another day.

Live each day for others and see what you can do to help others. There are so many people out there that are in pain and no one knows that. You don’t know who you are touching. Just a smile or a kind word can make a difference. Have you ever experienced that? When you’ve been down and things just not going right, you’ve received a smile or someone has said “thank you” or “how are you today” or just something that makes you think that there is at least one other person in the world that cares about you? I know I have. And the endorphins I experience either from being the recipient of that kindness (or even better being able to give the same to someone else) are not surpassed by anything. To be able to help others provides the greatest joy you can ever experience.

I can’t run right now and don’t know for how long I’ll be sidetracked. Someone on my Facebook page wrote that we always wish for rest when we can’t and when we have to rest, we wish we could be out doing the activity (my paraphrasing). And you know what? That’s so right. Instead of sitting here wishing I could run and feeling remorse for the events I’ll be missing, I must focus on the benefits of not being able to get out there. I am getting some better at this as my feet feel better and I can walk OK. It was more difficult when it hurt so much to just get up to walk to the bathroom or the kitchen. But, as walking becomes easier, I am taking the opportunity to alter my thinking every time I start feeling depressed and worried about not being able to run. I ask myself what am I supposed to be learning? There are so many things I can do now that I have the time I would be out training – get them done now and be happy. They are the tedious chores that I would normally put aside as I lace up my shoes. But now I have no reason to put them aside. So get them done and rejoice in that achievement.  I can work on my books. I have started to read again which I hadn’t done before. There are so many things I can do to feel fulfilled. I could also relive the events I’ve done in the past and take the feelings from them and be happy at that. The trick with that is to not then slip into remorse because I may not be able to  them again. I have to stop myself from thinking that way for two reasons. It ruins the moment but more importantly, I am likely to attract that situation. I just need to think about how well my feet are healing and how strong my mind and body are right now. I don’t want the Law of Attraction to bring me more inability to run. So, I’m working with it to bring me strength and capability. Slowing down, I think, has been the lesson for me in 2015. It’s time for me to relish that thought and think what it really means to me. I obviously haven’t learned well enough from it because it keeps being forced upon me. I need to delve deeper…..hmmmm

So, for at least a week, put the lawn mower away and don’t even look at the grass on the other side. Look at your own yard (life) and even if there are brown spots in the lawn, think about what you could do with that brown area. Think about the earth underneath it and what critters are living there.  Or even better, just look at what’s around the brown and be happy you have a yard no matter what it looks like. Many people in the world don’t even have a yard. Take a drink of clean water and be oh, so grateful that you have running clean water. So many people don’t. Think about how you can help others every single day. Make that your goal each day instead of thinking about what you “could” or “will” have ….eventually. Do it now and be in the now. It really makes a difference. In fact, try to define what the phrase “live each day to its fullest” means to you…and then go live that way – each and every day.

The grass really is NOT greener on the other side. It’s perfectly fine right where you’re standing so live it and love it. It’s yours and you should rejoice!

Join me on the journey to live in the NOW. We aren’t that good at that anymore but we can try to get back there. Are you game to try?

Terrie

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What To Do When Things Don’t Seem To Be Working Out

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things not going your way 2This is continuation (of sorts) on this week’s post on How You Handle Adversity. Hopefully, if you handle that adversity well, it won’t get to this stage. But remember that perception is reality and if you don’t think things are going well or working out for you, they won’t be.

However, many years later you may reflect back on that time and realize that everything worked out perfectly and as it was supposed to. You could say that that’s quite a fatalistic approach to things but I don’t think so. I do believe we can make everything better even “on the fly”.

I look back at many times in my life where I thought “the end is here” (in my youthful dramatization) and several years later I understood that everything worked out exactly as it should. I think that happened because I tried to just march right through those events and make the most of them and then forget them. I tried not to dwell on any bad event for very long. This was way before I knew anything about metaphysics.

There was an easier way though – had I known.

Remember in my Terrie’s Trek Across Tennessee report how I recognized how important it is to stay present and stay IN the present. By doing that you avoid the “what if” this or that happens? When you enter into the “what if” mode, you can come up with all sorts of bad things….you can also come up with all sorts of good things if you come at it from a different approach. This is one of Abraham’s techniques that is excellent and helps you get into the proper vibration.

I am currently dealing with that “Things Don’t Seem To Be Working Out” scenario regarding my feet. It’s been way too long since the end of the race and I should have healed faster. After all, almost everyone else who participated in the event has been out running races already. I can still barely walk even though all this time has passed since it ended. Initially I was very worried. Worried that I would never be able to run again. I was obsessed with this. You see, running is one of the most important things in my life. And there would be a great void if I weren’t able to do it any longer. And then, there’s the “what am I going to do for exercise and keep the weight off” issue that always permeates a girl’s spirit and soul.

When I wrote my report and when I was fortunate enough to be interviewed by two folks, I really began to realize that these injuries are a gift. Often times we don’t know the meaning or value of a gift when first given but it later becomes apparent. I started to see how this problem was doing more for me than rapid healing would have done.

I was seeing how so many disabled people have to live every moment of every day. The empathy (and sympathy) I was garnering for them was of great value even though I’m not yet certain of how I will apply the info. I just know that I was meant to experience this and become aware.

I was also forced to realize that my life is too shallow. That I need to find other outlets and valuable ways to fill my time. My coaching program will be an excellent example of that. And I could be getting ready for it now while I’m healing. In other words, I do not have any excuse right now for not working on it since I can’t be out running.

I have much more time for my writing too. There are the two books that I’m working on. I have no excuses really but my procrastination has continued despite having the time.  Still have to figure that one out.

I started reading again too. I haven’t done that in a very long time. I especially am getting into the two books Ben exposed me too during the run. I have started “Infinite Jest” and am enjoying working my way through it. And of course, James Patterson came out with a new book right at this great time.

I’ve also learned more about essential oils. I was very interested in them before but now am working on the right combination for pain and inflammation. This has been a terrific exposure since I am much better at the “see one, do one, teach one” mode. If I can see the results (on my feet) then I can remember the techniques and combinations better in order to impart my knowledge to others.

For, I have realized that my role in life is to learn things and pass them on to others.  Just as we talk about needing to keep money in circulation (buying and selling vice saving and stuffing your money away) is the way to absolute abundance, the same goes for all we learn. It does no good to just learn something and store it away. We are compelled and obligated to pass it on to others. The human race is a social race and it is our responsibility to keep it that way despite all the dependence and reliance on technology.  What have you learned that you can pass on to others?

The attitude with which you view your situation is the key point in how they will turn out. If you view each problem with the “what am I learning from this?” or “what can I learn from this?” and “how can I apply this in my life for the best?”, you will have raised your vibration and you will be searching for the solution.

Remember to focus on the Solution, not the problem! If you focus on the problem(s), you will receive more of the problem and more of that attitude. But if you focus on the solution, you’ll raise your vibration and you’ll be on a different plane than problematic thinking and you’ll be much more likely to attract the solution and all the benefits.

When things don’t seem to be working out, just tell yourself that they will work out the way you shape them no matter what. The Law of Attraction is always working. You just have to manage it and turn your attitude and beliefs about this current situation into whatever positive you can. It’s not a “pollyanna” approach. It’s just accepting that you created the situation and now it’s your responsibility to accept it or shape it into something useful and valuable. You do that via your attitude and belief.

What’s going on in your life now? How can you view it differently? Let us know in the comment section. Repeat this phrase endlessly – “Everything always works out for me!”

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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“What separates people that get what they want out of life from those people who do not get what they want out of life is their response to challenges.”
Dr. Steven G. Jones

Although I don’t believe this is the only thing that separates these two groups of people, it’s an extremely important point.

Think about yourself and how you respond to a challenge. Do you crawl up in a ball and want to die? Sometimes that’s ok initially. What’s not productive is when that behavior or thought process continues on and on and on. Do you get mad and decide that this is not going to beat you? That you’ll find a way to conquer the challenge, to climb up and over whatever obstacle is in your way? That is the way of the warrior, the person who excels at life.

Remember that there are two different vibrations at play when you are confronted with a problem. There is the vibration of the problem and if you continue to think about the “problem”, you will stay on that lower vibration and not move anywhere – you are focusing on the problem so that is what you’ll get more of. Maybe the problem won’t get worse but it won’t get any better either when your vibration remains on the problem.

You have to raise your vibration to the level of the solution – a much higher vibration. Instead of thinking about and focusing on the problem, concentrate on the solution. Tell the Universe you are ready to receive the answer and you know that it’s out there waiting to be delivered to you.

Think back to your past and think about when you’ve discovered a solution to something – what have you felt like when you’ve been in the process? Maybe take a look at a time at work when a problem has been identified. Everyone might respond with “oh nuts, what do we do now?” But then you all got your heads together and brainstormed until you figured it out. What kind of elation did you all feel? Use that as  “Kodak Moment” to elevate your vibration when you’re after a solution to your current problem.

I don’t even use the word problem once I’ve identified what it is. I think about how great it’s going to be when I come up with the solution to x, y, z – describing the situation if I must. Or preferably I use something that’s brief but objectively describes the situation. Then I go right back to looking for the solutions – opening my heart and mind to the Universe to deliver the answer to me.  I use some of the processes we’ve talked about – the 68 second process, rampage of appreciation and even the “wouldn’t it be nice if….”.  If you’re skeptical or it’s the first time, you can use “I’m in the process of….”

Next time you come across a challenge, immediately switch to the solution seeking mode and your vibration will automatically elevate with you! Try it, you’ll like it. Don’t dwell on the problem.  Move out and move up!

Terrie