“Just when I think I’ve learned the way to live, life changes.” ~Hugh Prather

How true this is. I guess the Universe doesn’t want to see us get comfortable for long. Or, perhaps we don’t want to be comfortable….that, would have to be an unconscious desire in most cases, though, since I don’t think many people really want things to continually change.  Maybe that depends on how happy you are with your current circumstances.

When you think you have everything figured out and know what you’re supposed to do, something pops up in your life and you realize you have to do something different.

Since we know this is what’s going to happen, it behooves us to just accept the fact and be wary of it. If you know that things in your life are going to change, then you can do two things – one is to accept it and not be devastated when the changes occur and two is that you can help guide the Law of Attraction to bring positive changes. Don’t be sitting there worried about what “bad” things are going to happen. Instead, talk to yourself and envision great changes – write the script for your life as you want it to happen. In essence, you’ll be writing out the “life changes” you want to occur.

Make the movie of your life. Know that stagnation is not necessarily a good thing for you but adding variety (change) into your life is healthy and will help you live a more fulfilled life.

Many of the posts for the rest of this calendar year are going to continue to focus on change AND what you can do to prepare yourself for the good you want in your life next year. I really want you all to be prepared to script your life and then live it. Sometimes I think what happens is that we get in a little rowboat or kayak and float down the river with no oars. We bounce around from one side of the river to the other, hitting whatever rocks pop up in our way. Without oars there is no way to guide the boat so you’re subject to the current and the obstacles in the river. Why would you want to live your life like that? You wouldn’t. But if you aren’t aware and don’t prepare, then that’s what will happen. Think about it – has this happened to you or anyone you know? The moral of that story is to always bring your oars with you. With them you can maneuver away from the obstacles and head in the direction you want – you are not at the mercy of the river.

Change is good! If you embrace that and feel it, any change that happens really will be good.

Keep your eyes and your mind open. Embrace everything that happens in your life and know that there is a message in the change. It’s your job to figure out what it is you’re supposed to learn.

Terrie

“If you don’t change direction, you may end up where you’re heading” Lao Tzu

Or, perhaps worse yet, you might not end up anywhere – you’ll just be spinning your wheels forever.

Do you know where you’re heading? Do you know where you want to head? What is your purpose in life (you’ll hear more about purpose in the upcoming weeks)?

Maybe you’re like me and you don’t like change and would rather just sit around doing the same old thing over and over again without any variety – of course, until I DECIDED I wanted to change something. I could couch the fear of change by saying I only step out after I’ve taken the cautious approach. But, it really is just a fear of new things, a fear of change. That probably comes from my childhood – doesn’t everything? So what, though? Just knowing where something came from doesn’t really do any good. I have to examine what it is about change that scares me. What’s happened in the past when things have changed. I already know the answer to a part of that and all the changes that happened night after night in my childhood simply created intense fear every single night. There is probably more but that’s a good place to start.

Now I ask myself “are you the same person you were then, Terrie? Of course not. You’re an adult now and you really do have more ability to react or respond in a positive way to any situation. You are not a child any longer and subject to your parents and their behavior. You can choose the people you wish to be around.” etc.  Talking to myself and journaling about it definitely helps. It lets me know that I don’t have to be afraid of the changes. Will the fear be gone immediately? Of course not. But with time and discovering more circumstances that have occurred in my life, and with use of EFT (emotional freedom technique), the reasons to fear change will diminish and eventually leave.

I have to look at every situation that irks me or gets my pulse going as a disguise for some sort of change. When I get upset or disturbed by things, I have to look and ask myself “what am I resisting?” More importantly I have to decide to follow my intuition and align myself with the inner spirit and peace (from which I came and am one with), take a deep breath and allow whatever it is into my life and embrace it. That may sound funny but identifying the resistance to something and then deciding NOT to resist any longer is the most important part of your actions. Just let things happen. Trust in the Universe to know what it is that should happen. Then stop fighting the Universe and allow it to bring you what you “ordered”.

In order to grow and experience all that life has to offer, you have to figure out what direction you want to go in. Then the most important task is to take that first step. Decide, then do!

Do NOT stay in one place. Decide which direction you want to go in, take the first step and then trust the Universe to help you take the rest!

Terrie

Over the years I’ve had many opportunities to make the most of change. I haven’t done so very often. But my good experiences with change really began last year when I got a new boss. And the year since then has been filled with many changes. It’s as if this past year has been jam packed with all the things I should have done or absorbed over all my other years….that’s a lot of years to cram into one tiny year.

Fortunately due to my training in the Law of Attraction (both with Reverend Anne Kunath and as a Law of Attraction coach) I have learned to go with the flow, so to speak, and not be as resistant as I’ve been all the rest of my life. I’m a stubborn, red-headed  German and if those characteristics don’t make you resistant to change, nothing will.

So last year I took positive action when I felt my new boss was ignoring me and leaving me out. I used the Book of Positive Aspects as well as segment intending and talked with her and more importantly opened my mind to see what she was teaching us. As I looked upon these changes, I realized how much I had to learn from her and opened my mind and arms even more to absorb everything I could. As it turned out, this was the BEST Boss I’ve ever had in my life. I learned more from her than I ever have in my entire working career.

My changes actually started before I met my new boss. The year of change (better than the year of the rat I guess) really began when I tried the same Tennessee Trek that I finally completed this year. I stopped after 104 miles and this was the beginning of a new life. I had to deal with the back pain that was bothering me so much – that was pretty debilitating but it led me to dealing with the emotions of quitting and then it led me to a new way of eating. A healthier way and my eating habits have continued to be in the healthy mode since then. That helped decrease the inflammation in my back but more importantly it led me to the psychology of eating coaching training that I’ve just completed. Each path was opened up because I allowed myself to stay out of the resistance mode. Remember that what you resist persists.

Things were going along fine and dandy until February of this year when I ended up having a medical issue that required surgery in March. After that I had more problems with my digestive track and was unable to run for 6 weeks. I had to review what that was teaching me and also not resist those restrictions. This hasn’t been easy but I now know that it paved the way for my feet fractures which has completely sidelined me from any activity. Even though I completed the run, I have now been 8 weeks unable to exercise and run. But on labor day weekend, I realized that I had needed that prolonged restriction to rejuvenate my body and get me back into the excited mode of running. A few days or a week’s rest just wouldn’t have done it. Although I’m still not back to running I know that this forced downtime was essential for me to regroup and start retraining.

In all these past few months I’ve gotten a new boss again. This one is another exercise in not showing resistance. I obviously didn’t learn enough last year or I would not necessarily have to repeat this same experience.

This down time has also afforded me the opportunity to review this past year and see what lessons I’ve learned and maybe still have to learn. It is always beneficial for us to do this.

Do your own inventory of the past 6-12 months and see what you’ve learned or what you have resisted. What can you say about yourself and change based on this review?

Tell us about it.

Terrie

“We cannot change anything until we embrace it” ~Carl Jung

This concept is so important. Remember “What you resist, persists”. So when you feel yourself fighting hard against something, just know that you’ll have that something in your life — and will also attract more of the same into that life. Do you want more of that?

In order to keep moving along in life though, things should change. Change means that you can grow and evolve. You don’t really want to stay in one place in your growth or you’ll miss out on a tremendous amount of fun and probably abundance too.

The military is a great place to learn to experience change. Unfortunately I didn’t really learn until last year how to embrace all those changes. I was the type to resist the changes. I would put all the energy I could muster into figuring out why that idea (that involved changing things) would NOT work, instead of raising my vibrations to focus on the solution and discover how the other person’s ideas could probably work if we all just put some work into it. What a tremendous amount of time and energy I wasted all my life. But I think the reason for my resistance was that the idea for change was not mine and so I felt inferior or something. It was hard for me to admit that another person could have an idea. I felt I was inferior if I didn’t have that idea. And since I didn’t want to feel inferior, I fought back – with resistance. How foolish and young of me. Of course I got better at accepting change as the 30 years in the Navy went by but I don’t know that I ever embraced it.

But last year, when the best boss I’ve ever had in my career arrived and I watched her with all of us, I truly did embrace the changes she made – and boy, were there a  lot of them. You know what, though? They were all good, if not great. I learned more from her than I have ever learned from any boss in all my years of working. And I think it was easier to learn those things because I finally did embrace the change. Every week I knew there would be something new and although that meant more work, I actually looked forward to those changes. I knew I would have to alter my outlook and attitude each week and that became a fun challenge. One I saw the great benefits from.

Ways to help you embrace change include anything that will help you relax such as meditation or EFT. Deep breathing is a part of meditation but can also be used separately if you don’t have time or experience to do full blown meditation. Once you’ve relaxed, you’re less likely to put up resistance. Keep this in mind and take some time when you find yourself resisting some change that’s coming into your life. I know that as we have another new boss whose style is totally different than last year’s, I will be doing a great deal of relaxation techniques to just allow the changes to happen and to welcome them into my life to see what gifts they bring even if they aren’t visible right now.

Do you embrace change? Do you resist change? What have you noticed when you’ve done either the embracing or the resisting?

Terrie