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Ooooh, That Feels Good

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how_are_you_feeling_button_400_clr_9148Which button will you push today? The “Happy” button I hope.

But lest you think I always am in the “Pollyanna” mode, I would be happy if you hit the “I feel OK” button too. Remember how Abraham talks about the emotional scale and there really are no bad or negative emotions. It’s an Emotional Guidance System with the emphasis on the word “guidance”. It’s not hard and fast and you can move quickly (or slowly) from one emotion to another. It’s better, though, if you move up the scale gradually – that avoids all the ups and downs that we experience sometimes. But back to the guidance part – sometimes we need to be deeper thinkers and not just look at the superficial. For example, when we’re maybe feeling “down” or “depressed” we might just continue to feel cruddy and think that everything is hopeless. Instead, if we could, it would be beneficial to find out why we feel down and then look at the scale and see what the higher emotion is and if we can try to get there.

Continuing the depressed example, the next emotion on the scale is unworthiness and even jealousy, insecurity and guilt. Then comes hatred and rage -> revenge and anger and so on.

Who would ever think that being jealous or feeling guilty would be a better emotion than depression. But if you think about it, it makes sense because it allows you to generate more energy than you have with depression. It alters your vibration and this is a good thing. The more your vibration raises, the closer you get to feeling better and getting whatever it is you’ve been asking for in the positive realm.

When you’re feeling not as happy as you’d like, try reaching for some thought or memory that made you happy at one time. I have coach_with_whistle_400_clr_4694recently had a very hard time with this. Since I had to drop from my trek across Tennessee only making it 104 miles, I was able to get over the initial disappointment and depression that is associated with wanting something for a year and then not having it materialize. I was able to look at all the factors involved (which are the topics for another time and another place) and then be proud of what did actually do. But what did get me down was the fact that I was sick/injured so badly I could hardly walk for almost three weeks and thought that I would never be able to run again. Most of you know how important running is in my life so that was something I was having a hard time dealing with. I kept trying to get myself back up the emotional scale but wasn’t find the key. Finally, though, I was able to  reach out to my EFT coach with whom I had not been in touch with for 8 months. But I knew I wasn’t being successful by myself and recognized I needed help. She worked with me and got me on the right track and within a few days my back and body was well on the mend. I still haven’t run yet but am just giving it a few more days to completely heal. This is the longest I’ve been forced to not run in a very long time but it’s one of the smartest things I’ve done. So, even though I could be depressed that I’m not running, I find myself focusing on how smart a a move it is to not push it but to be giving myself time to get better and hopefully not get injured again. I could be focusing on the “poor me” part of all this but I’m making myself attend to the wisdom surrounding my decisions.

Pay attention to the way you feel and do whatever it takes to just move your emotions up the scale. Don’t be shooting for the moon but just a  little movement. Once you see that you can accomplish that, then you’ll realize you can move up again when you’re ready.

Always remember to consider getting a coach especially to help you with these tougher times. Explore different possibilities of engagement with your potential coach. See what will work for you both. But Coaching is invaluable.

Terrie

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Change Your Environment, Change Your Vibration

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sphere_custom_14887No, this doesn’t mean you have to pack up and move your house and all your belongings! But there are things you can do to alter your environment and remove the toxic effects.

Those things that surround you continue to influence you 24 hours a day. What you are exposed to is absorbed constantly by your subconscious mind. Then your subconscious mind affects your vibrational frequency.  And we all know that it’s your vibrations that determine what you really attract via the Law of Attraction – regardless of what you “say” you want. It’s all about vibration and feeling.

No matter how positive you try to be or how many affirmations you say, if your subconscious mind is constantly bombarded by the opposite – complaints, unhappiness, discontent, disarray, rumors, gossip, etc – your subconscious will rule your being more than your conscious mind.

This is a typical scenario for those who say the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for them. You want happiness and joy but when you examine their your routine, you find out that you hang out around the office water cooler, listen to people complain all day about this and that or talk about what they don’t have that others do (resentment and envy). “Life’s not fair”, “I don’t have any luck”, “I never get anything”, etc etc etc.

Do you watch the news every night? Are you glued to CNN or MSNBC? When was the last time you saw or heard a half hour of positive happenings in the world on the evening or night time news? People want to hear about crime and blood and guts for some reason. The world doesn’t appear to be interested in good things that happen throughout the world even though awesome events occur all the time. So what happens when you’re exposed to all the news about crime and destruction and death and despair? That’s what seeps in to your subconscious mind and when that happens, your subconscious (which is not objective at all and doesn’t know good from bad) “assumes” that that is what you want more of. And guess what? It delivers……it delivers more and more of the bad stuff.

Do you have friends that are down in the dumps ALL the time, complaining about others, talking about poor me or how unfair life has been to them? If so, that is what you will attract more of…more misery and more friends that are living in lack. Do you want to be surrounded by lack and unhappiness? Really? Or is it because your friends like you and you’re happy that you have “friends” that care about you? Ask yourself this, though….do they really care about you? Would they be there for you if something bad happened in your life and they would have to stop wallowing in their problems to help you through yours? Try to answer this honestly. Now I am NOT talking about your friends that have legitimate concerns – serious injuries or illnesses that have had a tremendous impact on their lives. These are truly friends in need and those to whom you must devote as much attention as they need but also privately be seeing them as completely whole (not “healing” but completely whole – you do not want to visualize or see anything to do with healing because that then implies lack – lack of health and therefore illness and that is not what we want). I’m talking about the “friends” who are always having some sort of problem or crisis no matter what the situation. They can’t seem to exist without some sort of drama in their lives and they are trying to bring you into that drama – you do not want to be a part of that because it will lower your vibration and bring you down.

At work are there people who complain about everything, who don’t embrace any idea of change (I am not fond of change so this one is near and dear to my heart)? It’s one thing to not want to change or not be enthusiastic about it but quite another to be actively resisting it by trying to recruit other complainers and even embellishing the “hazards” of such change. Stay away from them and try to evaluate the recommendations on their own merit without the influence of others. And also without the influence of your past experience if you can do that (I’m still learning this one). One thing that will help with this is to use the Book of Positive Aspects for the person(s) who are instituting the change. Find the good things about them, write them down and see what happens.

Remember that the best way to see change in others is to change yourself. Then it doesn’t matter whether they have actually changed or you have – it’s what you experience that matters.

Take these steps to change your environment:

  • Evaluate the areas of your life and what your level of happiness (or prosperity) is in that area – health, peace of mind, happiness, wealth, relationships, etc
  • If you find an area that lacks what you wish, assess your environment and see if there are any influencing factors, both good and not so good:
  • Write them down and determine if you enjoy having them in your life or not
  • Assess what you can do to change the things you don’t like and what you can do to add more of what you do like
  • Start your book of positive aspects and write in it every day
  • Use the rampage of appreciation even when you’re in a situation when you’re not as happy as you’d like to be
  • Practice using Segment Intending to create or pave your entire day and your interactions with people. You could use this to avoid interacting with the folks that aren’t as positive as you’d like…and using Segment Intending this avoidance occurs without you feeling guilty or without it appearing as if you’re intentionally avoiding someone. It just happens. Remember that the Universe will create what you are vibrating/feeling – so if you’re feeling happy and wanting to move along calmly (let’s say) during a meeting, it will bring events and situations that will be calm. If you’re stressed and anxious over something, you will create more havoc because that’s what you’re focusing on.

Try these things to alter your environment and remove whatever it may be that is bringing your vibration down!

Get a coach to help you too. Sometimes you need help getting out of the quagmire. A Coach will help you. Contact me if you want more information on coaching.

Terrie

change your environment – let go of friends, news, water cooler, worry etc

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Where Do I Start?

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square_oneOften I get asked this question – Where do I start?

The first thing I have to ask is “start doing what?” I need to know what you’re after, what your goal is. I can’t tell you how to get to New York if I don’t know a) that you want to go there and b) where you are right now. Sure I could give you general directions to New York City but that would be my determination of where I thought you wanted to go. That’s not what you’re after I’m sure.

So you have to be specific about where you’re headed. Do you know what you want should be the first question. Then you need to know why you want “it”.

Thanks to Michael Hyatt for bringing these questions to my attention. I think they’ll help anyone who is going through any type of uncomfortable “situation” right now. The answers to these questions will help you figure out where you want to go. Sometimes just asking the questions will raise your vibrations and bring you into a much better state. Just as Abraham says – you won’t find the solution as long as you’re focused on the problem. You have to focus on the solution.

The answers we get are often determined by the questions we ask. If we ask bad questions, we will get bad answers. If we ask better questions—empowering questions—we will get better answers.

If you are going through a difficult, uncertain time, here are seven better questions you can ask yourself (and your team which can be defined in any way you want – basically it’s a group of people who are there to book_searching_for_answers_400_clr_12525a support you). You can also just use the questions for any situation you’re in, difficult or not. These questions are great for general life assessment:

  1. What if this isn’t the end but a new beginning? Just asking this question will put you in a better space. It’s always better to think of a beginning than an end. What can you get out of this, what good can come from this situation.
  2. What if the answer to my prayer is just over the next hill? This reminds me of Winston Churchill’s “Don’t ever quit”.  If you stop now, you’ll never know what’s over the hill. What if the hill is just a few hundred feet away and not the miles you think it is. What if it really won’t take the immense amount of effort you think it will? Perception is often said to be reality. You can change your perception of this situation too. You can see that hill as conquerable. You can use the mantra of the ultrarunner – relentless forward motion. Keep on going.
  3. What if this is necessary in order for me to be prepared for the next important chapter in my life? This can be a scary question to answer. But it’s important. When you were ready to start school, you didn’t just start with college did you? You had to build up to that. Similarly, life events teach you about the next step and help you learn to take that step.
  4. What if God (or the Universe if you prefer) knows exactly what I need at this particular time? Again Abraham says that the Universe brings you everything you ask for. But there is the Law of Gestation that I keep talking about. I tell you that if you plant an acorn you can’t dig it up ever day and ask “where’s the oak tree”. But, you also can’t just plant it and keep food and water from it and expect it to grow. There are things that are needed to support that gestation. Same with bringing you what you want. There are steps and the Universe knows what those steps are. Have faith in that.
  5. What does this experience make possible? This is a really important question to ask.  Does it force you to slow down? To re-evaluate your life? To stop spending so much time at work? To spend more time with your family? Does it give you the opportunity and time to write and be creative – to do something you’ve wanted to do for so long? What can you do because of this situation that you were putting off or just “didn’t get to”
  6. What will I be telling my grandchildren that I learned was so valuable in this season of my life? Or if you don’t have grandchildren, what will you write in your memoirs. Another way to look at it is what would you like people to remember about you?

Take these 6 questions and write out the answers. Be serious about it. Date your page (or write in your journal). Write down how you feel and what vibrational state are you in before you start answering the questions. Then take as long as you need to answer them. At the end, record how you feel. Is there a difference? Do you feel as if life is more manageable at this point? What did you learn just from answering the questions? Where do you want to head now?

Use these questions as your starting point. They help with clarity for moving forward instead of staying stuck where you are right now.

Let me know if you enjoy answering the questions.

Terrie

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Get an Emotional Hostage Negotiator – A Coach!

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coachingSo often we find ourselves just spinning our wheels. We get into a rut and can’t seem to get out of it. What’s happening in these situations? Why do we seem to spiral downward?

We’ve become an emotional hostage – our emotions are keeping us stuck. For those of you who are old enough to remember, it’s like a record player and the needle getting stuck in the same groove and playing the same section over and over again. The needle moves a tiny bit but then skips right back to the place it started. For those of you who are not that old, maybe you remember the movie “Groundhog Day”. Being an emotional hostage is similar to that. Repeating the same events, the same feelings and thus the same vibrations over and over again without any hope of change.

We don’t want to be stuck and when we get out of that groove we surely don’t want to repeat it but it’s as if we started playing the record again from the beginning – it skips again. If you put yourself in the same or similar circumstances with the same emotional tools as you’ve had all along, all your brain knows is to repeat history. And it’s very good at repeating history – that’s called “habit”. Before you know it, you’ve reacted the same way as you did before , whether it was last week, last month or yesterday. It takes the path of least resistance (and least effort). Unfortunately, that most often leads us right back to that rut again.

So how do you break out of this hostage situation. Think about it. If you don’t make any changes, you are a hostage to your emotions. They have reacted before you’re even aware of it. You don’t want that but you’re not sure how to prevent it since it just “seems to happen”.

You can try Abraham’s processes on your own and be pretty successful but you’ll be more successful if you get yourself a “coach” (a Life Coach, Law of Attraction Coach, Personal Coach – whatever type of coach meets your needs). Often times, it’s just the accountability factor that makes this work but when you really are an emotional hostage, your coach will help you spot these areas and your responses and guide you to creating different methods of response – preceded by thinking about where you really want to be. A primary advantage of using a coach is the speed with which you can make the changes. You don’t have to flounder around on your own, trying this and trying that.

Consider talking to me about Law of Attraction coaching. If you’re interested, you can either comment in the comment box or contact me using the contact form. I am a certified Law of Attraction Coach and have been practicing/teaching the Universal Laws of Metphysics for over 25 years.

Terrie

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Do You Have a Personal Trainer For Your Soul?

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personal_trainer_with_treadmill_400_clr_3845You’ve heard me talk about Dan, my former personal trainer – the man who changed my life completely – in only 2 1/2 years! And, although he was “supposed” to only work on my body, he definitely impacted my emotions, my spirit and every possible part of my life. That is what changed my life – working on and with the total package.  When I signed up to work with Dan, I did so for one specific reason. I was having back pain in the right side of my upper back and thought that if I strengthened my core, that would make the pain go away. In the long run, it did NOT go away, but what I got out of all those sessions with this wonderful man for 2 1/2 years was worth so much more. I learned what was deep inside of me and more importantly, I learned to believe in myself – something which I had not done for over 60 years before Dan.

Coaches or trainers are vital if you want to go about changing your life.  You can tell them what you want to work on and aim toward that  goal but a  “Life Coach” or a “Law of Attraction” coach (which is what I am certified as) will help you see what’s going on in your entire life because, you know what? If you have resistance (a block) in one area of your life, it will definitely be impacting your success in other areas. Even though you can still achieve things in these other areas, your success will multiply significantly and your momentum will increase dramatically if you address the areas with resistance.

Think of it this way – when you go on a trip and there’s construction or an accident on the road (even if it’s in the opposite direction from where you’re going), you won’t get there as fast as you could have if you had one of those up to date technological GPS systems that monitor the traffic as you drive. It would have directed you differently so that you’d miss the accident, the block. That block in your road impacts everything you’re trying to do – you can’t get to work quickly, you might miss a meeting because of that, you will increase the internal stress you’re feeling especially if you have something that needs to be done. You might be late for a date with another person. That would impact your relationships as would the internal discomfort you’re feeling. All aspects of your life are impacted by this one block. If you know your way around the town, you could exit and work around the block.

In the same way, a coach will help you when you come up against a block in your life. You might recognize that it’s a block but don’t know what to do about it or you might not even realize you have a block. A “personal trainer for your soul” (a coach) will help you identify these areas of resistance and guide you to figure out what you want to do and what you can do to work around it.  Remember the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over yet expecting different results.  Sometimes people just keep trying things that are actually variations on the same theme over and over again yet get nowhere substantial. Your “spiritual personal trainer” will help you identify what is the same activity and ask you how you’ve faired when you’ve used that technique before. A “spiritual personal trainer” will guide you but allow you to come up with your own solutions. Everyone who is successful has a team behind them. This is no different. Your “spiritual personal trainer” is a vital part of your team.

Consider hiring a coach, a spiritual personal trainer. I have had several and I would not change that at all. I have achieved so much more in my life than I would ever have been able to simply by fumbling around on my own.

Try it, you’ll like it! If you have experience with a coach, talk about it in the comment box below. Let others know about your success.

Terrie