One Step Forward…..

As you may or  may not have noticed, I’ve been MIA (missing in action) for over a week.

The FLU!!!!  Get your flu shot now if you haven’t already. I just hadn’t “gotten around to it” and boy am I sorry I procrastinated on this – but aren’t we always sorry we procrastinate on things…sigh. But that’s for another time.

What I really wanted to talk about today  is that old phrase “one step forward and two steps back”.  That’s the spiral that I feel I am in right now. But it’s totally up to me to keep it from being a negative spiral and using the changes to my advantage. That is my responsibility because what I do and what I choose to do is all dependent on what’s inside of me, NOT what’s external. It’s often easier to put the blame or responsibility outside of ourselves because then we don’t have to do anything – we can just whine and complain and feel sorry for ourselves. No  other action is expected  of us. Anne used to say that once you started learning metaphysics you were “in trouble” (jokingly) because you can no longer stand by innocently and blame the Universe for what happens to you. You MUST accept responsibility and take action because this is all of your making.

I know this and so I am examining my attitude and making the appropriate adjustments. I have definitely declared that 2016 is MY YEAR. And I know it will be. So, I have to look at everything that happens and simply “Declare it good!” and then believe that it will be good. So many things have happened in my life to prove this statement that all I really need to do is look back at a few of them (remember I call them Kodak Moments because they are good memories that I can recall and change my vibration almost immediately).

What does all this have to do with my not posting for over a week? I was finally getting back into the swing of running – even though I really was starting over and almost as if I had never run before. But, at least i was out there doing it. And feeling good about persisting through the discouraging moments, those moments of doubt about whether I’d really be able to run or not but continuing to be out there. And then I get hit with this knock down Flu bug and I’m out of commission for about two or more weeks. That means I will have to start over again….poor me..NOT. I am declaring it GOOD! I know there is good in this one step forward and two back. I am being exposed to important lessons and it’s up to me to absorb them and build on them. That I can do. That I will do. I am unstoppable!

What seems to be standing in your way? What can you do to change your attitude to deal with it in such a way that it will end up “Good”.

Remember to declare everything GOOD!


Don’t Put On The Brakes (Don’t Give Up) – It’s Just Around the Corner

figure_prohibit_stop_400_clr_2495Sometimes we get on a roll and can easily keep that momentum going while things seem to be going well.

But then, we may hit a stumbling block (or more than one) and everything comes to a screeching halt. We may gradually slow down but often it’s like “hitting the wall” in a marathon. You just can’t go any further. You lose your incentive and desire to achieve what you set out to do. You feel that there’s no hope and that nothing will work. Much of this is because you’ve been going, going, going and may even be running on fumes now. You’ve been operating on adrenaline and motivation but when you hit a stumbling block, you’re very likely to hit the brakes and stop cold.

If this happens, pause and take a deep breath but don’t stop completely. It’s most likely time to reassess your vibrations. For some reason you have attracted this block. Remember that you attract everything in your life, not just the good things or the things you consciously ask for.

This happened to me in my Tennessee run. I have been working toward this for a year now. I had signed up for it about 10 months ago and everything I did since then was a part of training for it. I’d been derailed once before (in March of this year) when I had this unknown custom_text_pulling_a_wheelie_13463illness and was out of commission running wise for about 9 weeks. Then I was able to do a 3 day event and did “ok” there but knew that I was not ready. So, I spent the 5 weeks before the event trying to put together all that I should have been doing all year. I tried many different types of shoes (which messes up your gait) and I was training with a 15 pound pack which also has adverse effects on you. I increased my mileage way too fast. So what should I have expected? To do really well? Heck no. I ended up being injured (to the point where I couldn’t even walk) the week before I was supposed to leave for the event. Then when I got there and at the start of the race I tried to run and knew I couldn’t because my back was still bad. So it was all walking from the start to the point where I dropped. But when I wanted to drop (the 3rd night), I didn’t. I knew enough to sit back and regroup even though my pain was very severe that night. In the morning I felt ok enough to continue to try. Turns out I was way behind and realized that night that I couldn’t make the cutoff times. I also realized that it would be better for my long term health if I dropped then. So, yes, I did ultimately quit but I didn’t quit when my emotions were ruling me (the previous night). I evaluated the situation and continued on. Then I made an informed decision based on the facts (that I couldn’t possibly reach the cutoff point in time).

But why did all this happen? I have no idea what vibrations and thoughts I put out there to attract these events. But I do know that I did this to myself, no one else did. But instead of complaining about it and feeling cheated, I have spent the past 5 weeks working on all that I learned from this experience. I also have not run for those 5 weeks (until yesterday) and that is a different aspect of my life. Something I had to do in order to heal and as a result I learned that there is more in life than just running and I learned to do other things and be satisfied with doing them. So much has happened in the past few months that I have learned and decided that I do NOT want to waste a day (or a week or more) just waiting to be able to do something else (running in my case).

I have learned so much about what I did “wrong” or what I should have done differently during the run. And it will be so much help for next year. I also forged a valuable friendship that will never be marred and had I been able to run and continue on, I would not have had that opportunity. That relationship is so much more valuable to me than completing the entire 314 miles. I will be able to do it again.

So, don’t quit. Usually what you want really is just around the corner. Try to rest and take advantage of hitting the obstacle and see what opportunity it will afford you. Take some time to raise your vibration and get things back on track again.

Then start back up and you’ll see where you go from there. Your desire will materialize (it’s already manifested when you put out that desire, now it just has to manifest and that’s by you allowing it to come in).








What’s Your “Nyad”?


Figure out what’s inside of you – what’s there that you want to accomplish, what’s there that you’ve been dreaming about for years, what are you passionate about? That’s your “Nyad“.

You can adopt that phrase to represent something deep inside you that you really want to accomplish. It’s most likely something that you’re not ready to announce or even tell your significant other yet. Perhaps it’s still in the gestation period and you need to nurture it some more.

Today is the day to start ‘watering’ and nourishing your “Nyad”.  Consider using “The Passion Test” to help you with this.  It’s a great story and the test is actually pretty quick and easy – plus it’s YOURS and you can also refine it as you go along.

If you’re not happy or are feeling like something is missing in your life, this is the place to start. There is a “Nyad” buried deep in each of us. Most of us are afraid to admit it – even to ourselves. But you don’t need to be afraid to find it my dream isand cherish it and smile to yourself. Keep it to yourself because it’s still fresh and vulnerable and all those well-meaning folks around you will try to “protect” you by convincing you that your idea/dream is “really stupid” or “you can’t do that – when are you going to have the time to do that?” or “What? You’ve got to be kidding, right?”. This is a pretty normal reaction from folks around you and it’s the easiest way to set yourself up for failure or derailment. So keep it to yourself until you have firm plans in place.

If you don’t have the Passion Test and want to get started right now, start writing down exactly what your ideal life will be like. What will you be doing or being or what will you have? These are not goals, they are processes.  Take that first step today. What is it you REALLY want? Look deep inside. What’s been there nagging you all through your working to “make a living”, “raise a family”, “be a good spouse”, etc. We put off what we want for so long and for so many other reasons that it’s time we just said – “hey, this is really what I want to do with my life and I’m going to start pursuing it now”!

Do NOT allow yourself to be stopped by the fear or wonder of how on earth you’ll be able to pull this off. The Universe will provide the way and clear the obstacles for you.

Will you start making that list today? I am. Share below if you like – ideas on this topic, not necessarily your dreams (yet).  If you want to be bold, you certainly can share your goal!


PN (Post Nyad) Day 2 – What Did You Do Differently Yesterday?

joshbillings130930_m-resizedThis could be “PN” or “PD” (post Nyad or post Diana) – it doesn’t really matter. I just want to continue reminding you that your dreams are yours. As one reader commented though, they don’t all have to be physical. Diana Nyad’s achievement was not so much about endurance swimming as it was about the human spirit and she knows that and has tried to get that message across to all of us with her “three messages” and “Find a Way”.

So look at your day and do something different to get you going in a different direction. “That’s easy” you say – well, it’s not so easy. We are creatures of habit and that’s a safety measure built into our survival mechanism. We have to make a conscious effort to change things up. So pick one small thing to change and then do it. From my own experience I recommend you have alternative “changes” – all of which are small. Why? Because one might not pan out and if you have other options to pick from then you are more likely to actually do something instead of staying in the same rut and then spending the rest of the day or night chastising yourself for not doing it. We create more energy and “action” by criticizing ourselves for failure instead of looking at the situation and “Finding a Way”.

I’ll give you an example from yesterday for me. I decided to change up what I did when I came home. I planned on coming home and going for a run before my coaching call instead of just going to the grocery store to get One Stands Holding Change, Others Crusheddinner, coming home, eating it while reading, doing the call etc.

But as I was driving home, the same old pattern took hold and although I debated with myself with all sorts of “excuses” (it’s too hot, I’ll do it later etc), I ended up going to the grocery store first. So I “failed”, right? Not at all. First, I had thought about the habit/pattern and decided to make a change – that was definitely a different action/reaction than before. I was not operating as an automaton.

Then I “debated” which action I was going to take and why. Sure, most of the “whys” were excuses, not reasons …but – the key here is that I was thinking about it. Then I chose to NOT beat up on myself for not doing that ONE thing I had planned. I immediately looked for a different “change” to make (it would have been better had I come up with that option/alternative in the morning so I had some to fall back on but I didn’t and I learned from it).

So what did I do? I went and got dinner. But instead of eating it reading and watching TV, I ate it while sitting at my computer (instead of the recliner) going through and cleaning out my email. Was this the best course of action. Probably not – people will say I wasn’t “present” for my meal because I was multi-tasking and others will say it was still a waste of time. I disagree. All I know is that I felt good because I had done something different and had consciously thought about it. It was such a tiny little thing that would not be noticed by others. But my subconscious being sure noticed it and in this case it felt good – most likely there was no bad reaction from within because it was such a tiny change. You can’t make major changes right away. You have to work your way up to things.

Today’s action – take a look at your daily life  and routine and see what one tiny thing you can change that has to do with your dream. If you aren’t sure, yet, what your dream is, then just change something. See how it feels. Then keep going. Decide in the a.m. what you’re going to change. Then write in your gratitude journal (also can be called your success journal) about what happened. See how you feel and go from there.

Let us know what happened.

ONWARD – Find A Way!