Embrace The Journey – Are You In This Trap?

trapWhat “will” make you happy? That’s a trick question, of course. The trap I’m referring to in the title of this post is the one where you are thinking/feeling anything similar to:

  • I’ll be happy when I have a good job
  • I’ll be happy when I lose 50 pounds
  • I’ll be happy when I’m rich
  • I’ll be happy when I meet the right guy
  • I’ll be happy when I finally do a 100 mile run or when I do a PR (personal record)
  • I’ll be happy when I complete this run across Tennessee
  • I’ll be happy when I graduate from college
  • I’ll be happy when I’m done with my internship and residency

Instead of “happy” you can substitute any number of other terms

  • I’ll be important when………………….
  • I’ll be special when………………….
  • My life will be great when………………….
  • People will notice me when………………….
  • I’ll be popular when………………….
  • I’ll be rich when………………….
  • I’ll be famous when………………….
  • I’ll be comfortable when………………….
  • I’ll be attractive when………………….

Why is this a trap? Because you’re wasting so much of your life and energy thinking/hoping that your life will change when something else happens. What about living in the now? If you are holding back your happiness and joy until something happens, you are missing out on so much. I experienced this all my younger life when I just “knew” everything was going to be fine in my life WHEN I finally became a doctor. That’s what every minute of my life was aiming for. That was the purpose behind everything I did. I never took time to enjoy or experience the journey or have any fun along the way. What if I had not graduated? What If something had happened to me along the way before I graduated? I would have missed life.

Do you want to miss life? I can personally tell you that things can change in an instant so it’s important that you have fun and get meaning out of your life each and every moment. It doesn’t store up – you can’t bank enjoyment for later. Later may never come.

What’s worse is when I graduated from medical school, my response was simply “Now what?” – I was almost despondent and certainly depressed because I had wanted that for so many years and now that it was finally here I hadn’t thought beyond it. So, I had nothing else to live for. It’s what you hear about when you talk to runners who train and train for races such as a marathon and then after it’s over they have severe depression unless they have set their sites on another goal – OR know how to enjoy each moment and realize that the race was just that – one time period in their life that was fun and challenging but not your entire life.

If you think you won’t be happy until something else happens, I encourage you to start feeling the way you think you’re going to feel later but do it NOW. If you think you’ll go out on dates when you lose 50 pounds, go out now. If you think you’ll get new, pretty clothes when you lose 50 pounds, buy them now. Act as if! Acting as if will make whatever you are wishing for come true faster than anything other. If you think you’re not rich now, not attractive now, not slender now, you’ll be pushing any of that away. That’s the Law of Attraction in action. Look around you. Are there people in your life who are living in the future like this? Are you doing this?

Take some time to examine if any of this applies to you and then think about how you would feel if something happened to derail you in the next hour or so. What can you change about your life right now to make it meaningful and enjoyable?

What are you waiting for?


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