You’ve heard of self-fulfilling prophecies?

What you say and believe over and over, comes true. So, if you say “you don’t (or won’t) love me once you get to know me” and you really believe and feel that, guess what? It will happen. That relationship will end eventually.

A self-fulfilling prophecy is another way to talk about what you believe and focus on, is what you will end up with in your life.

Be careful what you say and think. Make sure every thought you have and every feeling you have is something you really want. And, be specific and careful about what you say.

For example, don’t just say “I’d like to quit this job” or “I want to retire”. Be more specific – “I want a regular retirement so that I can enjoy my health and life.” Otherwise you could end up having a medical retirement and you don’t necessarily want that. So, every time you think about something you want, make sure it can’t be misinterpreted.

When you are examining what you’ve asked for make sure you’re focusing on the positive, not on the lack. I could have said “I want to retire but not medically”. That would make me focus on the fact that there are other types of retirement and the most common alternative is for medical reasons. I don’t want to focus on medical problems or issues. I want to focus on enjoying the retirement and being totally healthy in order to do that.

One little maneuver with your words can make all the difference. See why it’s important to take the time to determine and then define your goals? Make them specific and focusing on the positive aspects of life, not the things you don’t want – the absence of what you want. Don’t say “I want my bills paid off” because you then focus on the fact that you have lack in your life. Say “I am prosperous and have terrific credit”. When you don’t pay your bills, your credit score is affected. This way you’ve said that you have great credit and that will secondarily mean that the things that impact credit are taken care of.

Go for the world but make sure you’ve defined the world the way you really (and specifically) want it.

Terrie