“If you feel drawn to someone, but you are annoyed because you think that they are telling you some lies, try to look beyond the lies and try to focus upon the feeling. People offer all kinds of words for all kinds of different reasons. Most lies are offered to try to keep things in alignment. We’re not encouraging it, but the motive behind lying is usually a pretty honorable motive. In other words, when a child lies to their parents, it’s usually because they want to be free to do what they want to do, and they don’t want their parents to be upset about it. It’s about wanting an alignment. Physical ears have a hard time hearing this. You keep talking about “We need to be honest.” And we say, we don’t meet any of you who are honest. Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest, but your vibration always is. We would trust the feeling more than the words.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Houston, TX on January 13, 2001]
This is a very interesting concept and one that even I have a hard time comprehending and embracing. However, if I can look beyond my wanting to be so virtuous, I can see the truth and meaning behind it.
I think the key thing is that if you can really tune into that person’s feeling and allow yourself to absorb where they are coming from you should be able to discern the person’s true nature. If you use your instinct and trust your gut, you’ll be able to tell whether the person is truly honest or not. If you detect that this is a truly good person, then you will be able to realize that there is some special reason behind any lie they might tell. It could be embarrassment or shame or any personal feelings that they don’t want exposed. It’s possible they have told a lie because they have a fear of rejection if they told you the truth. It’s self protection and I bet if you looked at your past, you might even find a time when you told a “white lie” in order to protect yourself.
Take the person as a whole. Ask yourself how much that one particular lie matters in the grand scheme of things. Is it possible that you or they have misinterpreted something and therefore it’s not even a lie?
It’s a concept worthy of thought. Why not contemplate it this week and see what it does to you. Let your gut feel things.
Comment on this if you’d like.
Terrie
Funny isn’t it how we could never figure out how our parents always knew when we were lying—until we had kids of our own and they tried to lie to us. Hey! That sounds familiar. Ah Yes! “There’s nothing new under the sun.”
Jerry,
as usual you hare right on the money. It’s kind of like our parents and teachers had those eyes in the back of their heads…we never realized how transparent we were. Too bad we still aren’t!