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Change Your Environment, Change Your Vibration

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sphere_custom_14887No, this doesn’t mean you have to pack up and move your house and all your belongings! But there are things you can do to alter your environment and remove the toxic effects.

Those things that surround you continue to influence you 24 hours a day. What you are exposed to is absorbed constantly by your subconscious mind. Then your subconscious mind affects your vibrational frequency.  And we all know that it’s your vibrations that determine what you really attract via the Law of Attraction – regardless of what you “say” you want. It’s all about vibration and feeling.

No matter how positive you try to be or how many affirmations you say, if your subconscious mind is constantly bombarded by the opposite – complaints, unhappiness, discontent, disarray, rumors, gossip, etc – your subconscious will rule your being more than your conscious mind.

This is a typical scenario for those who say the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for them. You want happiness and joy but when you examine their your routine, you find out that you hang out around the office water cooler, listen to people complain all day about this and that or talk about what they don’t have that others do (resentment and envy). “Life’s not fair”, “I don’t have any luck”, “I never get anything”, etc etc etc.

Do you watch the news every night? Are you glued to CNN or MSNBC? When was the last time you saw or heard a half hour of positive happenings in the world on the evening or night time news? People want to hear about crime and blood and guts for some reason. The world doesn’t appear to be interested in good things that happen throughout the world even though awesome events occur all the time. So what happens when you’re exposed to all the news about crime and destruction and death and despair? That’s what seeps in to your subconscious mind and when that happens, your subconscious (which is not objective at all and doesn’t know good from bad) “assumes” that that is what you want more of. And guess what? It delivers……it delivers more and more of the bad stuff.

Do you have friends that are down in the dumps ALL the time, complaining about others, talking about poor me or how unfair life has been to them? If so, that is what you will attract more of…more misery and more friends that are living in lack. Do you want to be surrounded by lack and unhappiness? Really? Or is it because your friends like you and you’re happy that you have “friends” that care about you? Ask yourself this, though….do they really care about you? Would they be there for you if something bad happened in your life and they would have to stop wallowing in their problems to help you through yours? Try to answer this honestly. Now I am NOT talking about your friends that have legitimate concerns – serious injuries or illnesses that have had a tremendous impact on their lives. These are truly friends in need and those to whom you must devote as much attention as they need but also privately be seeing them as completely whole (not “healing” but completely whole – you do not want to visualize or see anything to do with healing because that then implies lack – lack of health and therefore illness and that is not what we want). I’m talking about the “friends” who are always having some sort of problem or crisis no matter what the situation. They can’t seem to exist without some sort of drama in their lives and they are trying to bring you into that drama – you do not want to be a part of that because it will lower your vibration and bring you down.

At work are there people who complain about everything, who don’t embrace any idea of change (I am not fond of change so this one is near and dear to my heart)? It’s one thing to not want to change or not be enthusiastic about it but quite another to be actively resisting it by trying to recruit other complainers and even embellishing the “hazards” of such change. Stay away from them and try to evaluate the recommendations on their own merit without the influence of others. And also without the influence of your past experience if you can do that (I’m still learning this one). One thing that will help with this is to use the Book of Positive Aspects for the person(s) who are instituting the change. Find the good things about them, write them down and see what happens.

Remember that the best way to see change in others is to change yourself. Then it doesn’t matter whether they have actually changed or you have – it’s what you experience that matters.

Take these steps to change your environment:

  • Evaluate the areas of your life and what your level of happiness (or prosperity) is in that area – health, peace of mind, happiness, wealth, relationships, etc
  • If you find an area that lacks what you wish, assess your environment and see if there are any influencing factors, both good and not so good:
  • Write them down and determine if you enjoy having them in your life or not
  • Assess what you can do to change the things you don’t like and what you can do to add more of what you do like
  • Start your book of positive aspects and write in it every day
  • Use the rampage of appreciation even when you’re in a situation when you’re not as happy as you’d like to be
  • Practice using Segment Intending to create or pave your entire day and your interactions with people. You could use this to avoid interacting with the folks that aren’t as positive as you’d like…and using Segment Intending this avoidance occurs without you feeling guilty or without it appearing as if you’re intentionally avoiding someone. It just happens. Remember that the Universe will create what you are vibrating/feeling – so if you’re feeling happy and wanting to move along calmly (let’s say) during a meeting, it will bring events and situations that will be calm. If you’re stressed and anxious over something, you will create more havoc because that’s what you’re focusing on.

Try these things to alter your environment and remove whatever it may be that is bringing your vibration down!

Get a coach to help you too. Sometimes you need help getting out of the quagmire. A Coach will help you. Contact me if you want more information on coaching.

Terrie

change your environment – let go of friends, news, water cooler, worry etc

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What’s Your Personal Creed?

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This was in the Weekend Wrap-Up but not everyone reads that so I thought I’d post it here.

I’ve had kind of a nostalgic week. Friday my boss retired. He was an excellent boss and as so often happens in the military, he wasn’t there as long as we would have liked. But I learned so much from him even at my age! He was an exceptional leader and I respect him greatly.
As many of you know, I was in the Navy for 30 years and witnessed many retirement ceremonies but this was the first Army retirement I’d seen. And I have to say it was much more moving than any other I’d seen.

This is not pertinent to the subject but the part that moved me the most was when the young Soldiers presented the flag. They ceremoniously unfolded it to show it in his full view, then refolded it perfectly for presentation. While the Soldiers were performing this, the MC read “Old Glory”. I encourage you to read this poem if you’re an American…and I also recommend you have tissues around.

 

My boss told us his philosophy, his creed, the first day he reported and that is what has stuck even amongst all his other great leadership traits. This is his creed and what he embodies:

  • Treat others with respect
  • Treat yourself with respect
  • Take responsibility

Seems pretty simple doesn’t it? But look at each of the components and see how your life stacks up against them.

Even though I had heard them two years ago, this was a terrific reminder for me – not only to see how well I was doing living up to them but also to think about what my own personal creed is. What do I live by? What do I believe? Do I jump from  3rsone behavior to another or do I stick to the straight and narrow (as I have defined it – we each define our creed in the way that fits our lives).

Does my boss’s philosophy work for you? It sure should because it encompasses everything we need to take care of others in this world. If you’re in a service profession, you know that that’s what life is all about. And you know what? Almost every single profession is a service profession since in order to have any income, you have to provide a service..even if that service is to deliver a product.

Take stock of your life. What would your retirement ceremony be like? Who would speak at it? What would that person say about you? What types of remembrances would you want at the ceremony (they showed a video with photos of my boss all throughout various stages of his career. Interspersed were videos from people whom he had influenced in his life and who were far away. Each one said thank you and told him how much he had taught them – it was extremely touching).

You’ve heard people recommend you write your own obituary. Well, although I think that’s a good idea too,designing your retirement ceremony is a great way to reflect upon your life and then you can also see if there’s anything about your life you’d like to change in the next phase of your life (even if it’s an arbitrary line you draw). In the imaginative world, you can retire at any time you want and begin another “profession/job”- meaning starting a new phase of your life.

Think about it and figure out who you’d invite, when you want to have the ceremony, and what will be said – not only by you but by the guest speakers you invite.

Write it out and keep it. Refine it as you go along.

Try it and see what happens. What do you have to lose?

Terrie

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Do You Have A Daily “To Be” List?

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check_off_with_pencil_800_7226Almost everyone I know has a “to do” list and they update it at least once a day if not more. It’s full of things that have to get accomplished, places to go, items to pick up, people you want to eat with etc.

Busy, busy, busy.  “Life is so complicated” – that seems to be this generation’s mantra. But is it really as complicated as we make it? Does it have to be?  I, personally, do NOT think it has to be so complicated. But am I an expert at uncomplicating it? Unfortunately no.

However, I do know that one way we can make it more meaningful is to work just as hard on a daily “To Be” list as we do on our daily “To Do” list.

The recent shooting at the Navy Yard has had a significant impact on me because it’s so recent and perhaps, because that is where I spent the last 9 years of my Navy career. The other mass shootings and tragedies we’ve had have been important too but I think I was in this particular place right now for many other reasons. Different events impact us in different ways based on how our lives are going in general.

What I started to think about and realize after this latest mess was that those people who were shot got up, ate breakfast, maybe worked out, got ready for work and traveled there – some maybe dreading the drudgery of the day, to besome maybe dreading the day because of boredom and wanting to be retired or someplace else, some just wanting to get thru the day to get it over with, some just too exhausted to think about anything, some not even thinking about work but too sad and depressed to care, some happy about life and looking forward to the evening or the weekend, etc etc.

But their lives were suddenly cut short.

What would you think about your life up to this point if it ended unexpectedly today? You may not have achieved all your goals but would that change what would be your epitaph?

Why not start making a daily “To Be” list.

Include things like:

  • “I am happy today”
  • “I am pleasant to everyone today”
  • “I make at least one (or two or three – you pick) people smile today”
  • “I help another person in some way today”
  • “I want to be there for someone who needs me today – or for someone who needs support”

Put down what it is you want to be – how you want to be remembered.

This list might also include ways you want to feel that day – happy instead of sad, in the moment instead of just waiting til closing time, etc.

This may seem a bit difficult initially but if you make it a practice everyday it will become as automatic as your “To Do” list.

Try it this week – but don’t just make the list, “BE” what you wrote!

Let us know what happens. Does it change your feelings about your day? What else?

Terrie

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Time to Prune Your Tree

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I’m indebted to Cheryl Richardson for this post. It’s so poignant that I couldn’t resist linking to it. In her newsletter this week she talks about pruning her trees and how it’s a great metaphor for what’s going on in her life.

To summarize the three stages to pruning that she talks about:

1) Cut out dead branches

2) Focus on the interior of the tree and remove cross branches (alive but growing sideways)

3) Remove branches that would improve the look of the tree.

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What’s left in your life that you no longer need (the dead branches). This goes along with yesterday’s post about the changes made when you relax and allow the transformation to take place inside of you. Sitting back or getting ready to sit back (perhaps you’re waiting til Winter) and re-examining your life and what beliefs, ideas, activities, or anything else there is for you to eliminate from your life. Identifying which branches you want to clear is the first step. You can’t just go on a rampage and just cut branches in a willy nilly manner (you could but that would not be constructive).  So take some time to figure out what is no longer useful in your life. Maybe it’s something you’ve held on to for many years but it’s serving no purpose any more.

Where are your cross branches? These branches are alive but they are interfering with your growth. Sometimes I think we want to have those branches because they are alive and when looked at individually they are “pretty” but they keep us from moving forward. If possible you want to make forward movement, not sideways (although sideways is better than no ways).

And the last step is to get rid of those branches that are alive but are not necessarily adding to the support of your tree and may actually be weighing you down from achieving your real goals.

Read more of Cheryl Richardson’s newsletter.

Thanks Cheryl!

Terrie

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Seasons Change, Caterpillars Change – So Can You

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Fall in a park Happy Fall! Yesterday really did feel like Autumn had arrived. It felt cold when I took Jackie out for a walk.  And then when I went out for my long run, it was absolutely gorgeous. The change really started on Saturday though but we all thought it was cool because we had finally gotten some rain. But it was the subtle beginning of a change.

Things frequently creep up on us and maybe we eventually will notice that there has been a change. Often, the change is so gradual, though, that we don’t pay much attention and just morph into this new aspect of our life similar to the life cycle of the butterfly.

The butterfly starts out as an egg.  That’s not so unusual, right? So do we. But when the egg hatches we’d expect to see a butterfly but we don’t – we get a caterpillar, whose primary function in life is to eat (sometimes I wish I was a caterpillar) and grow. That’s similar to us as an infant and child – we are constantly eating (absorbing tons of information about the world and growing with that knowledge but often absorbing faster than we can grow). The caterpillar also has to shed its skin since the skin doesn’t grow with it. We shed our skin too as we move from one stage of our life and “knowing” to another. As the caterpillar eats it gets bigger. We get bigger and hopefully we grow in proportion to the knowledge we are accruing.

The excitement then begins. The caterpillar goes into a stage called a “pupa” – it looks as if it is resting but inside is where all things are changing. How much does this parallel our development. There are times when it appears nothing is happening with us. We often think monarch-emergingwe should be “doing” more – we think we appear lazy. Our creativity seems to be stopping, we feel as if we aren’t going anywhere. Fatigue might set in and we just want to lounge around, “chill out” as it were. What the heck is happening?

With the caterpillar there is a complete metamorphosis. Caterpillars don’t have wings. During this “pupa” stage of change, organs are completely transformed and new limbs and wings develop where there were none before.  If you give yourself a chance and stop criticizing yourself for doing “nothing”, stop stomping on what’s going on and changing inside, the transformation in you will be remarkable. We often call it a spiritual journey but it’s so much more than that. Your thoughts, ideas, philosophies and even beliefs can change dramatically if we just allow ourselves the time and let the process happen deep within.

Then it’s time to emerge as a butterfly, rest and then spread the wings and fly.  This is an amazing process but it’s a tiny, although miraculous, representation of what happens within ourselves – if we let it.

How can you take the caterpillar within you and transform yourself into what you have always wanted to become? Stop moving in a million directions and stop trying to accomplish dozens of things at one time. Sit back, go within, step away from the activity, relax, take time for yourself. Now that fall is here, spend some time on the porch or patio and enjoy life – it’s very short you know. It’s time that we take each moment and revel in it!

Let the butterfly within you emerge with the new you! Let me know what it’s like.

Terrie