It’s so often that we want to blame something or someone else for our problems. But, once we’ve embraced the metaphysical teachings, including the Law of Attraction, we have to accept the fact that we really are the ones responsible for everything that happens in our lives.

Although it’s much easier to externalize the blame or put the responsibility elsewhere, it’s not correct. And it’s definitely dis-empowering (not sure that’s a word but it says everything).  If other people or other circumstances are responsible for what happens to you, then you’re like a little bobblehead doll just sitting there waiting for someone to shake you. You can’t move until you’re shaken. Do you want to live like that? I know I don’t.

I met a man last week and joined his coaching program. I got the distinct impression when I met him and (and when I talked on the first coaching call) that he didn’t like me. In the past, I would have just moped around saying to myself (or anyone who would listen) that he didn’t like me….which translates into “poor little ole me……blah blah blah”.

Now, however, I have a much different approach – instead of accepting that conclusion (which, by the way, has no real basis), whenever I start to have that thought I continue to say to myself  “if that’s true, it’s my job to change that and I can do that”. That makes it my responsibility. It means I have to take the action to behave in a way that would turn his opinion around, not just sit and wait and “hope” that he’ll change and magically start to like me. It’s all within my power.

This type of situation often occurs when there are abnormal family dynamics too. If you sit around the BBQ and listen to people talk, it’s always “the mother-in-law’s” fault or the “sister” or someone else. Instead, stop and look at what your part is in the dynamic. If you’re not even part of the disagreeing parties, then you should probably just stop even talking about it. If you are involved, consider using the Book of Positive Aspects to see what can be changed about the situation. Every day write down THREE things about that other person that are good. Sometimes that might be hard but you can even resort to things like “he/she is always clean” or something of the sort until you can come up with another more meaningful positive attribute.

Take the responsibility for your life and your actions. It will make all the difference in the world.

Terrie