I’m a bit late checking in with you but what do they say? “Better late than never”.

I’m wondering how your “resolutions” are going. I don’t know about you but that word has negative programming in my brain. I hear the “resolution” and I feel “resolve” and almost a drudgery type sensation. I don’t really know where that interpretation and emotional response came from but what it tells me is that I need to avoid using that word. Why use something that you know has negative connotations and will create a negative emotion in me? That sounds counter intuitive don’t you think?

I think that’s why I went to such lengths to come up with your plan of action for scripting your new year. I wanted you to be able to visualize what you are expecting and wanting to happen this coming year. It’s like your own version of the “Bucket List” movie. But right now you’re doing it for just a year.

Take a few minutes and answer honestly as to whether you’re still following your resolutions or not. Have you “modified” them, perhaps? What’s going on with them? How’s it working for you? I love that expression because it implies that maybe you could revisit what you’re doing and come up with something different or more workable for you. If it’s working well, keep on doing it. But if it’s NOT working well, then you should take a different approach. No sense repeating the same things over and over again hoping that at some point there will be a different result. That’s just not going to happen.

If you made resolutions and didn’t script out where you want to be by the end of 2016, take a few minutes now and write out how you’re doing. If you’re continuing on and have had positive results with your resolutions, then keep going on that track.

If, however, your resolutions have gone by the wayside, then try scripting what you want your year to look like. Write it out as if you’re creating a Hollywood movie and it’s going to have your favorite stars in it. Live it, dream it, create it!

Do it now, though! Here’s a link to  New Beginnings, Not Resolutions.

Think about this and take some action now.

Terrie

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As you may or  may not have noticed, I’ve been MIA (missing in action) for over a week.

The FLU!!!!  Get your flu shot now if you haven’t already. I just hadn’t “gotten around to it” and boy am I sorry I procrastinated on this – but aren’t we always sorry we procrastinate on things…sigh. But that’s for another time.

What I really wanted to talk about today  is that old phrase “one step forward and two steps back”.  That’s the spiral that I feel I am in right now. But it’s totally up to me to keep it from being a negative spiral and using the changes to my advantage. That is my responsibility because what I do and what I choose to do is all dependent on what’s inside of me, NOT what’s external. It’s often easier to put the blame or responsibility outside of ourselves because then we don’t have to do anything – we can just whine and complain and feel sorry for ourselves. No  other action is expected  of us. Anne used to say that once you started learning metaphysics you were “in trouble” (jokingly) because you can no longer stand by innocently and blame the Universe for what happens to you. You MUST accept responsibility and take action because this is all of your making.

I know this and so I am examining my attitude and making the appropriate adjustments. I have definitely declared that 2016 is MY YEAR. And I know it will be. So, I have to look at everything that happens and simply “Declare it good!” and then believe that it will be good. So many things have happened in my life to prove this statement that all I really need to do is look back at a few of them (remember I call them Kodak Moments because they are good memories that I can recall and change my vibration almost immediately).

What does all this have to do with my not posting for over a week? I was finally getting back into the swing of running – even though I really was starting over and almost as if I had never run before. But, at least i was out there doing it. And feeling good about persisting through the discouraging moments, those moments of doubt about whether I’d really be able to run or not but continuing to be out there. And then I get hit with this knock down Flu bug and I’m out of commission for about two or more weeks. That means I will have to start over again….poor me..NOT. I am declaring it GOOD! I know there is good in this one step forward and two back. I am being exposed to important lessons and it’s up to me to absorb them and build on them. That I can do. That I will do. I am unstoppable!

What seems to be standing in your way? What can you do to change your attitude to deal with it in such a way that it will end up “Good”.

Remember to declare everything GOOD!

Terrie

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Have you ever had to start all over? Maybe not at everything but at something in your life that matters? What’s your attitude been? Has it been one of these:

• “Damn, why me? I had made it so far and now I have to start all over again? That’s not fair”, or perhaps
• “I just won’t bother. It took me so long to get to where I was and it was a lot of hard work. I’m not really ‘up’ for doing all that hard work again so I’ll just move on to something else. It’s not fair but oh well I’ll find something else.”  or
• “Life has treated me so unfairly and here we go again. Every time I get somewhere on the road to where I want to be, I get pushed off the road by something or someone and I have to climb back up the hill to get back on the road. Why me? Why not someone else? What did I ever do to deserve this? Why didn’t this happen to Johnny? He doesn’t work as hard as I do and he’s mean.” or
• “OK, so I have to start over. What have I learned in getting to this point of having to start over. I know there’s some very good and important lessons here that I have to pay attention to – if I do, I’ll get even further this time. I am really excited to try new and different approaches this time to make the most of the opportunity I have. I am so grateful I do have the opportunity to start over.”

I would pick the last one for sure.   What good does it do to lament what you don’t have anymore? None and in fact, focusing on what you’ve lost and how unfair it is, stimulates the Law of Attraction to bring you more of that – more loss and “unfairness”. You definitely don’t want that.

Look at starting over as a blessing. What can you enjoy this time that you didn’t get to enjoy the first time around because you were going so fast and were just checking off blocks. Take some time to smell the roses this time. Remember that tomorrow never comes so what can you be grateful for that you have today or that happened today. Be grateful that you had the opportunity to start over and do things even better this time. Savor the experience. You probably didn’t savor it before.

Don’t rush it this time either. Enjoy it. Learn more from it. Meet more people this time. Give more back to the Universe as you’re experiencing this restart.

Your attitude will make everything so much better and rich the second (or third) time around. I promise. It’s all in the attitude.

Enjoy yourself!

Terrie

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As you continue working on your 2015 inventory, think about this saying. I know it’s had meaning for me. But, I have to believe that things are falling into place even when I can’t see what that place is.  I think that’s the problem. We always want to be able to see what’s coming up so we can decide if it’s what we want or not…That’s kind of funny as I write it. That approach is NOT one of faith, nor does it say we have much confidence in our ability to work with the Law of Attraction.

This saying fits quite well with “Everything always works out for me” because if I know that everything is always going to work out for me, then I know that no matter what is happening, it is for the good. It is falling into place. It may not be a place I predicted but remember that when we place our order we should NOT be outlining – outlining is telling the Universe how we want something to occur. Our job is just to “place our order” and then let the Universe find the best way to deliver it. Often times, we don’t do a very good job of “placing our order” – maybe this is  a good time to briefly review what you have to do to get the order actually placed in the Universal Catalog.

• Decide what it is you actually want. Sometimes this is easier to do by simply listing what you don’t want and then describing the opposite. Make sure that it resonates with you deep inside.
• Be specific about what you want – go into great detail (this is one of the reasons I’m having you write your script for next year – so you can list the details). For example, you can’t just say you want a “lasting relationship” or an “intimate relationship” because you could have either of those with an abusive criminal or someone who hates everything you like.
  • Write out the specifics and go into the greatest detail you can.
  • Always end with “this or something better”
• Read the list over again and make sure it’s really what you want.
• Do NOT allow yourself to be swayed. When you do that, you’ll never get what you want.
• Do NOT doubt that you’ll get what you’ve asked for – no matter how long it seems to take (remember the Law of Gestation).

Place your 2016 order now!

Terrie

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I told you last week that I was going to concentrate on you preparing your life for 2016 pretty early. Of course, if you listen to the music in the stores now, it’s not too early (I couldn’t believe that the day after Halloween they had Christmas music on already – why couldn’t anyone create Thanksgiving music?).

There are various parts to preparing for the new year.

Today we’ll start with the inventory phase.

1) You should start listing all the things that went on in your life this past year. I like to do that periodically through the year but it’s definitely important now. You can make simple lists of what happened. You can elaborate as much or as little as you want. The point to this list is to help you remember what you experienced and this includes emotions and thoughts. Did one event seem to lead to another? Did you get “down” on yourself or even in yourself because of one or more events? What did you do to get out a funk if you were in one?  Eventually you’ll be using this list to figure out what you want to change for next year.

2) Once you’ve made your list, go back through it and simply put a plus or a minus by each item on the list. Plus means it was  a good experience. Minus means that it wasn’t as stellar as you would have liked. If right now you feel neutral about it, then you can put both a plus and a minus.

3) Go back through the list and see if any of the events led to the next (or another one down the list); kind of a domino effect. If they did, draw a line to connect them. More importantly see if the plus/minus designation is the same for both.

4) If the plus/minuses are the same can you remember what thoughts and emotions you had during these times? This is important because you want to see if there is any connection in your vibrations or if you were successful in recognizing that you needed to change your thinking and then you did so.

5) Can you recognize any patterns? Where there repeated successes? Failures? Illnesses? Injuries?

6) Take another piece of paper and write down the themes you see.

7) Once you have the themes listed, determine if they are patterns you are happy with or not. Mark them on the sheet or put the ones you’re happy with on one side and those you’re not happy with on the other side.

8)Read the lists over again and determine what you want to change; or, what you want to have more of next year.

9) Go through each of the themes and see if you can identify your beliefs (limiting or not) that worked to bring these events into existence or at least what beliefs affected the outcome.

10) How did the Law of Attraction come into play with these events?

Keep reviewing this list for a few days before we go on to phase 2.

Go ahead and get started. Hopefully you’re like me and write everything down on a calendar that you can use for reference.

Terrie

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As I was watching “The Shift” with Dr. Wayne Dyer (may he rest in peace), it struck me that we really do spend so much time interfering in our own lives.

Instead of realizing that the Universe has heard our “order” and desires, and will be delivering them to us, we start trying to control HOW things happen and WHAT happens. Who are we to think we can out do the Universe anyway? How absurd a concept is that? When we think that things aren’t happening fast enough for us or that they aren’t going to happen at all, then our vibrations actually become lower because we enter the human realm instead of allowing ourselves to be lifted up to the more Universal wavelengths.

I don’t know about you but I do not want to be held back to the human lower wavelengths. How do you stop that? You recognize that things will come to you that need to come to you in order for you to fulfill your purpose in life.  Once you relax into that feeling, the calmness will take over and you’ll allow the Universe to deliver your order.

When you are contemplating something, always sit back and close your eyes. Just allow yourself to feel. Does the course of action you’re contemplating “feel right”  or does it create anxiety inside of you? Obviously, when you take on a new endeavor, there will be a degree of anxiety, but this anxiety should also be mixed with the excitement and joy of knowing you’re working toward your purpose.  If that feeling of excitement is absent, you need to revisit what you’re thinking about.

If the excitement is there, then go for it! But repeatedly ask for Divine Wisdom to show you the way. The Universe will provide you with guidance even more than you’ll find on the internet or by asking others. Ask for the Divine Guidance before you start searching for others to help. This will help ensure that you get the best possible help there is.

Stay out of your own way. Stop second guessing what you’re doing. Follow your passion. If something feels good, it is good and will continue to be good. If you have any trepidation, back off and regroup and head in a different direction. It could still be aiming for the same goal but perhaps with new processes or systems. Listen to what’s happening inside of you. It’s so important that you pay attention to your gut (in more ways than one but that’s a topic for other posts).

Stop interfering in your own life! Let the Universe provide you with the tools and people you need to accomplish what you want to achieve.

Terrie

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 “Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever” (Keri Russell)

Have you ever experienced this? It might take some time to recognize that there were little decisions in your life that changed its course, but I imagine that if you think about it long enough, you’ll see that it’s true.

One day when I was still in Virginia, I was working in DC and there was a snow storm starting. I asked my boss if I could leave early since I had a 60 mile drive. He said “no” because we were having some sort of class or lecture. I was not a happy camper. It took me 8 hours to get home that day because I-95 was closed due to a 100 car pile-up (yes, that is 100 cars). Was I upset? Not at all because I realized that had I left when I wanted to, I would have been right smack in the middle of the pile-up. That would not have been good. But it was a small decision by my boss that saved my day (and maybe saved even more than that).

Even funnier is that I chose to join the military to pay my tuition for medical school. That was not a small decision. But the reason I joined the Navy over the other services surely was a small decision. I liked the uniforms! Seriously, that’s the reason my friend and I picked the Navy. The recruiters didn’t tell us squat to help us make any other kind of decision. In fact, had they told us more, I would have joined the Army because then I could have gone to Viet Nam and done the work I wanted to. In the Navy I couldn’t do that because I was a woman.  However, I will tell you that joining the Navy was the best thing that ever happened to me. Even though I joined for two years and that’s really all I intended to stay for, 30 years later I was retiring with a really great career and life behind me. All because of the uniforms!

Go back through your life and examine the things that have happened to you. What led up to those events? Can you find some small decision that led you down that particular path?

As your life continues, do not demean the small decisions you are being asked to make. What seems small now may not be small in the long run.

Pay attention and investigate the past. It will be a fun exercise to do. We all need a bit of fun right?

Terrie

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You know that at this time of year I have to post something about racing…ha ha.

However, most parts of a running life are analogous to our lives in general. And no more so than when getting to the finish line. Reaching the finish line in life isn’t about death but about achieving something (a goal you’ve set for instance). Just as a runner does not stop running when one race is over, we don’t stop living or setting goals just when one goal is achieved.

You always have to have another goal or plan in mind. If not, you’ll end up with the “is that all there is” syndrome. The bigger the goal or accomplishment, the more important it is to have something planned to shoot for next. Otherwise you’re liable to plummet into depression so deep you don’t know what to do about it.

Your achievement or accomplishment may or may not lead to the next thing you want to go after. Perhaps you’re on a roll and are building up to something even larger – for example a runner might start with a 5K and gradually make it up the scale to a marathon or ultramarathon or even multi-day events. Or, it might be that you’re ready to move on to something different in your life so your next goal might be completely new and unique. There is nothing wrong with that at all. What is important is that you do have someplace else to go.

Give yourself some time to rest and recuperate after you complete the race (goal) – relax and don’t think about much of anything – revel in your success. Then allow yourself some time to reflect on what happened – what went right and what went wrong and what you might have wanted to do differently. Use this as constructive “life” time, not just for that particular goal. Take the lessons from this one event and see how to apply it to your life in general.

Now it’s time to move on to the planning and achieving of your next goal. All you had to do is figure out what your goal was while working toward the other one. You did NOT have to plan how you were going to achieve it. Just having something to aim for next is the key. Once you’ve rested, relaxed and taken inventory, it’s time to plan for this new endeavor. You can apply all you’ve learned previously to your planning efforts now!

What’s your next finish line? Can you see it yet?

Terrie

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This is great. Go ahead. Try something, anything, just as long as it’s new for 30 days. Start small but start. Then do something else new for the next 30 days and so on. See if you can do it and more importantly, see if it makes a difference either in your life or in your outlook on life!

Terrie

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Boy has the last few months been an adventure (to put it mildly) for me. But it wasn’t until yesterday that I realized the importance of the phrase “Embrace The Journey, Not The Destination” (there are multiple variations on this but this is the quickest way to say it). People, myself included, often focus on the ultimate goal – the destination. And then if the goal is not achieved, they are crushed and all that time has gone by without them enjoying that time.

You have to be present at all times. You always hear that you need to enjoy the moment because you don’t know what’s going to happen in the next. Until you experience that, however, you don’t really know what it means. On Feb 17th this year, I experienced a life change that was totally unexpected and led down this path to my recent surgery. It wasn’t as significant an event as many have had to deal with. But it was enough to stop me in my tracks for the first time in my life. As I’ve been trying to recuperate, my primary focus had been on getting back to running so I could train for the run across Tennessee in July. But, yesterday as post-op issues continued to prevail and as I realized I still have several evaluations to go through, I found myself understanding that it’s all about today, this minute, not what’s going to happen (or what I hope to happen) in July.  Strangely, though, I felt at peace with that knowledge. I have spent too much of my life working toward something else – working thru my childhood just to graduate medical school and at that time my only thought was “What now?” (not a good feeling); training for a race; working 5 days to get to the weekend; working 8 hours to finally go home, etc. I never have spent time smelling the roses along the way. In my initial years as a physician I was a typical physician – go, go, go. Then in my later years I worked in the DC area and that’s completely rush, rush, rush, especially when coupled with my lousy working hours due to the distance and traffic.

I would say that the closest I have come to embracing the journey has been when I’ve been doing my long runs because I have so much time to think and do whatever I want. However, when you add training to that picture, it throws in the goal and that takes away from the pure enjoyment I used to have on the runs.

So, what happened yesterday? I think it was a combination of no longer wanting to fight these undesirable post-op issues as well as just having the time to take care of myself. All of a sudden I found myself thinking that I may not make it to the Tennessee run in July. I just don’t know what will happen in the next few months – with my training and my body. Rather than be upset about maybe not getting there (still an unknown), I am choosing to love my body and love the challenges I’m experiencing and just be grateful. I am going to put gratitude first in my life and try every day to do something nice for someone else.  And I’m going to be kind to my body and try to listen to it more. If I make it to Tennessee, that will be wonderful. If I don’t, I won’t have passed up months just thinking about getting there – I will have spent those months enjoying life and doing for others, two of the most important things you can do in life.

See, you’re never too old to learn about life. Even though it’s easier said than done, I feel confident that I am on a different path at this point.

Terrie

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