Question:

How can I convince my family to stop telling me what I “ought” to be doing. I’m 42 years old, have a good income but family holidays are a nightmare with everyone giving me advice. Help!

Answer:

My sister asked me many years ago “Why is it everybody tells me what I should be doing, what kind of car to buy, where to go on my vacation, etc. and nobody ever tells you what to do.” I thought for a moment and realized the reason. I never told anyone what I was going to do. I waited until after I had done it and then showed them the results.

One of the first metaphysical suggestions we are given is to not tell what we are thinking about or planning. We are told to make up our minds, make our plans, take the action, show the results. If we need advice, we go to an expert in the field, get any related facts, and make up our minds without the help of others.

When people constantly ask for advice they are frequently looking for someone to blame just in case they make the wrong decision. There is no learning process in that. One of the reasons we come to planet Earth is to learn wisdom. We learn wisdom by looking at the different opportunities, evaluating them and making a decision about our own lives. Nobody else can do that for us.

Post a comment and let us know if this helps you!

Terrie & Anne

QUESTION:

How do I eliminate feelings of anger and frustration for people I work with who are constantly complaining, gossiping, and not getting their work done?

ANSWER:

When you feel anger and irritation you are giving energy to the problem.

Take the energy off the problem and put it on a solution. If these people are not in your direct link of responsibility, learn ways to get your mind on to something else.

When you master the technique of “taking the wood off the fire” you will let the “fire go out” and the problem will dissolve. This is not as easy as it sounds but it can be done.

Then you begin to make affirmations of peace and harmony in the workplace.

Denials first.

“I never complain and I do not attract people who complain.”

“I never gossip and I do not attract people who gossip. I never waste time or leave work undone.”

Then do affirmations.

“I am always happy and positive and I always attract happy, positive people.I am competent and effective and I am surrounded by competent and effective people.”

“We soon have the reputation of being the most efficient and productive (units, organization, department, etc.) in the business.”

Try it for awhile and see how it works. Comment below so we can see if you’re having the success you can have.

Terrie & Anne

Q
Having listened to Anne teach for several years now and having studied metaphysics for almost 30 years, I find that there seems to be a scooting away from the fundamentals of metaphysics. I know “The Secret” is the rage but, frankly, it’s like the new psych-o-babble and sales pitch. Since “The Secret” was released, there are even web-sites from people in the movie that tell you they have the missing link for you that was left out of “The Secret.” No wonder people are confused and think of New Thought as just old snake oil.

A The movie and book “The Secret” explaining the Law of Attraction as is being taught today leaves much to be desired. It does not take into consideration the beliefs that have been planted in us in the past.

There are other laws such as the Law of Multiplication, the Law of Consciousness, The Law of Grace and others. (I’ll do those in another question) These laws interact and if your beliefs are contradictory, the good doesn’t come until you remove the contradiction.

That is why we start new classes with denials. For example, if you were told as a child that you inherited your mother’s inability to solve math problems, you probably will struggle in your math and algebra classes. The denials for that would be “I don’t choose to believe that math is difficult for me”. You may add an affirmation “I inherited Uncle Joe’s genius and I can do all math quickly, easily and accurately.” Your conscious mind has the ability to dissolve and/or correct our subconscious beliefs. It would be beneficial for you to listen to the Spiritual Law series we have on the membership site.

Anne

Q
Having listened to Anne teach for several years now and having studied metaphysics for almost 30 years, I find that there seems to be a scooting away from the fundamentals of metaphysics. I know “The Secret” is the rage but, frankly, it’s like the new psych-o-babble and sales pitch. Since “The Secret” was released, there are even web-sites from people in the movie that tell you they have the missing link for you that was left out of “The Secret.” No wonder people are confused and think of New Thought as just old snake oil.

A The movie and book “The Secret” explaining the Law of Attraction as is being taught today leaves much to be desired. It does not take into consideration the beliefs that have been planted in us in the past.

There are other laws such as the Law of Multiplication, the Law of Consciousness, The Law of Grace and others. (I’ll do those in another question) These laws interact and if your beliefs are contradictory, the good doesn’t come until you remove the contradiction.

That is why we start new classes with denials. For example, if you were told as a child that you inherited your mother’s inability to solve math problems, you probably will struggle in your math and algebra classes. The denials for that would be “I don’t choose to believe that math is difficult for me”. You may add an affirmation “I inherited Uncle Joe’s genius and I can do all math quickly, easily and accurately.” Your conscious mind has the ability to dissolve and/or correct our subconscious beliefs. It would be beneficial for you to listen to the Spiritual Law series we have on the membership site.

Anne