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Derek Jeter Demonstrated The Power of Emotions

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New York Yankees Wallpaper 50Those of you who know me even the slightest little bit know that I am an avid New York Yankees fan (maybe that should say “rabid” instead of “avid”). By the way, there is a big difference between being a baseball fan (which I am not – I actually think the game is rather boring to watch even though I love to play softball) and being a Yankees fan. But I digress.

This year, the Yankees have been terrible because everyone (and I mean almost every single big name star) has been on the Disabled List (DL). They had been keeping their head above water but just barely.  But they couldn’t score any runs or hit home runs (they are, after all, called the Bronx Bombers).

Yesterday, Derek Jeter – the Captain – returned from a very long stint on the Disabled List from a fractured ankle last fall.  This has been a long awaited return and emotions were very high at the ballpark (and in my living room).

His first at bat was in the first inning. And yep, the movie script couldn’t have been any better. He hit the first pitch out of the park – and Derek Jeter is NOT a home run hitter. However, he’s hit two very big ones in the last couple of years. One was for his 3000th hit, a very big accomplishment in baseball. The other was yesterday when the Yankees desperately needed to stop  the skidding they were doing.

Not only did that hit put them ahead in the game but it ignited a fervor they had not experienced in a long time. The rest of the game was back and forth, lead wise, but the Yankees always maintained the higher vibrations.

The confidence and excitement instilled in them by Derek Jeter’s return raised their vibrations and enhanced their beliefs that they could win. And win they did – in dramatic fashion as well – something they have NOT done all year.

When you are excited, enthused, encouraged by something, your emotions and subsequently your vibrations will rise and then you will be unstoppable. Find that thing that takes you up, up and away emotionally and you will soar on top of the world!

Terrie

P.S. Find out more about how your Feelings, Attraction, Vibration and Emotions can improve your life in a way you couldn’t imagine!

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Time To Practice What I Preach

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dangerous_words_400_clr_9450 It’s times like this when all teachers go “uh oh” – when they have to walk their talk and live their lives as they recommend to others. Such a time has come for me.

Yesterday, on the way home from the gym I just had all sorts of dread thoughts about how bad Jackie might be because she looked so miserable in the morning before I left. I didn’t know if I had over-exercised her the few days before or if it was just a bad day or what had happened. I just knew that when I left for work in the morning she did not look very happy to be here.  So my thoughts were very melancholy and dark as I drove home – I even found myself going slower and slower the closer I got to home. That is something very UNLIKE the New Yorker in me – we don’t know the meaning of slow.

I was near tears and acknowledged that I had been all day long.

But as I drove the mile down the primary street in my neighborhood I realized that there was something I really COULD do about it. I had a choice even when things weren’t going great. I could sit and mope and who would blame me because my best friend, companion, child, whatever you want to call her is on her way to be with her sister. Of course people wouldn’t condemn. They would console.

But, I could also choose to raise my vibration and feel as good as I possibly could despite the situation. We have to understand that we really do have control over our feelings and emotions and these are the things that regulate our vibrations and our vibrations are what brings more into our lives. We can actively decide which things we want in our lives – more good or less good.

As a result of hitting myself over the side of my head, I made the conscious decision to make whatever time Jackie had left the best possible for her and for me. Just how am I going to do that? By applying the techniques I’ve learned.

I started with praise and appreciation, all the while reminding myself that I could use  “Which thought feels better” to really make me which thought feels betterfeel good finally. If I sat and thought about how lonely I was going to be and how I didn’t know when it would be the right time etc I would feel miserable. But, I also had the choice to sit and think about how much joy Jackie has given me and how much I love her and all the fun things she’s done and how much we’ve done together. Instead of regretting certain things that were out of my control at the time, I could celebrate the wonderful things – she proved much tougher than I ever thought she’d be and not only lived much longer after her sister died but survived an illness that threatened to take her from me. I reveled in her strength and thanked her for being so stubborn that she wanted to remain with me. I chuckled and smiled and told her what a great being she is.

Every time I started to experience a lower level emotion (remember there really are no negative emotions) I would find something like this to make me grin and look at her and her courage and determination. It truly is amazing how when your vibration raises, you can feel it immediately and it doesn’t take much effort at all. You can allow your mind to rule you or you can take control and regulate the thoughts you want to think and the emotions you want to feel.

Try it, you’ll really like it. It made our night together alot more fun and enjoyable even though we didn’t “do” anything different – Jackie ate just like a puppy and then went back to bed just like an old lady. But she was happy. And so was I.

Which thought feels better? Try it. More later – now I’m going out for a run!

Terrie

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Show A Little Love – EVERY DAY!

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jackie2I am learning so much about love in the past few days. Unconditional love and living up to your standards no matter what other people do or say about you. It’s been a very painful and educational experience for the past 6 days. I have learned that people are not always who they appear to be on the surface and that you have to look deep and keep your eyes peeled in order to see the clues. Otherwise they will be very deceptive and manipulative and you’ll find that you’ve been used and you won’t even know it. If this weren’t a “family” blog we could make another kind of reference that starts with “slam bam…..” but you get my drift. I have been blind to all the clues that were right there in front of me and I have allowed myself to be manipulated so much in the past week that it’s cost me a thousand dollars. But, I did live up to my standards and as Dan told me yesterday, no one can take that away from me, no matter how hard they try to hurt me or my friends.

I have learned alot about true friendship too and that’s the valuable part. I have strengthened some friendships in this time of trial as well. So I must consider myself blessed. You have to show love to people and be supportive.

But you can show love in other ways and should every day. My little girl, Jackie, is almost 15 years old and she’s not doing well. She’s frail and has very little balance because of her hips or her back and has become increasingly incontinent. She doesn’t want to lie down anywhere except on my bed and I don’t really know what I’m going to do when she can’t get up there any more. Thank God that Steve built her sister a ramp.

But she’s still a strong willed dog and has shown me so much character in the last 4 years since her sister died. I did not expect her to live beyond a year but she’s pulled through some serious illnesses and is hanging in there. My dilemma, also in the past week, has been to know “when is it time”. So  I’ve had to ask the Universe to “show me the way”.

And although I haven’t seen the answer light up the sky about when it’s time to say goodbye, I have seen the answer and that’s to spend as much time with her as possible and show her love in whatever way I can every single day. And I think everyone should show love every single day even if it’s in a small undetected way. Dan, my trainer, showed me great love yesterday by listening and helping me get my head straight.

I’ve decided to take Jackie for a short walk once or twice a day. And you have no idea how happy she is. It’s like her head does not realize how frail her hind end is. But she’s happy to have the leash around her neck and be out there sniffing away. And you know what…if I didn’t have the leash on her, she’d start running in her bunny hop way and beat me down the road – at least for awhile.

So, if this makes her happy for at least a few moments, then it’s the thing I can do to thank her for all the joy, happiness and companionship she’s given me for the 13 years I’ve had her. She and her sister were pretty set in their ways when I got them at age 2 (like most two year olds) but I have to say that Jackie is THE BEST DOG I’ve EVER had and I”m so grateful for the opportunity to have shared this time with her.

What love are you going to show today?

Terrie

 

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Go Ahead – Take That Step

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Urban Runner What’s holding you back? When you think about taking some action, what are the very first thoughts that come into your mind?

Are they fear-based thoughts and emotions? Do you feel as if there’s a glass door in front of you but when you look at it you can’t see clearly through it and what you do see is very scary? Is it grimy and blurry? Is there a big green monster looking back at you? Does your heartbeat go up when you look at the door? Do you automatically back away without even thinking any more about going through that door?

How often during the day (and even the night) do you think about that door and what’s beyond it? You know that if you could get out there, you could get what you want and be oh, so happy. But something is holding you back…..

You haven’t even tried the door before you backed away. You don’t even know if it’s locked or not of if with the slightest pressure it will open and reveal the greatness of what is out there for you. There’s no blur or grime – nothing to stand in your way once the door is opened.

FEAR is an overpowering and overwhelming emotion that holds us back from achieving and obtaining so much of what we desire and iStock_000011322531XSmalldeserve. It’s the fear that is loading those obstacles in front of us. When we look through our FEAR-filled eyes, our vision is extremely blurred and everything does look monstrous and forboding.

What’s the answer? You just have to decide to first, try the door and see if it’s locked or not. If it’s not locked, then your journey will be so much easier. If it is locked, then you have a few more things to conquer. But right now you don’t even know whether it’s locked or not. Once you’ve decided to see if it’s locked or not, then you simply tell yourself to open the door and focus all your energy and will on putting that foot out past the door jam.

You will be amazed at what will happen. I imagine if it’s like most situations, you’ll be kicking yourself because it turned out just fine. All that you feared didn’t happen. In fact, after you’ve actually gotten out the door, you’ll soon forget what it was you were worried about. You will be totally amazed and will be wondering why the heck you didn’t try this before.

You’d think that would help you the next time but it’s no surprise that the next set of FEAR based thoughts will keep you from venturing through the other door.

Let me give you an example since you’re probably thinking “yes, this is so easy to say but not easy to do.” Believe me I know it’s not easy. I just want to help you make it easier as each situation presents itself.

As most of you know, I finished my 2nd 100 mile event about 3 weeks ago. What I don’t think I mentioned was that at mile 90 my right foot was in agonizing pain. Every step for the next 3 1/2 hours was filled with nauseating pain (the pain that is associated with “bone” pain – which to me was indicative of a stress fracture of one of the long bones in the foot). But despite wanting to cry for a good part of that time and feeling so alone and abandoned, I finished. But I was worried.

Fortunately I had an appointment on Monday with my AIRROSTI provider and felt she could help me figure out what was going on. She agreed that she thought it was a stress fracture. Of course I wanted to know if it was as soon as possible. To make a long story short, I was finally able to get an MRI and it did NOT show a stress fracture. There were some abnormalities visible but nothing to explain the type and location of my pain. Although it was sort of a relief that it wasn’t a fracture, it created more consternation because my foot still hurt and no one knew what was wrong. If it had been a stress fracture I would have known that it would be 4 weeks minimum without running but then I could start running again. Without a diagnosis it was hit or miss as to when I could run again. I was told that after 3 weeks I could try to run again..that put the ball back in my own court. I had to open that door!

So much of FEAR is based on the UNKNOWN. I guess it’s why so many are afraid of the dark and why things always seem worse at night or when the lights go out. When you can’t “see” very far in front of you, your old programming takes over and your imagination goes wild. Your heart rate speeds up, your breathing rate increases, and your anxiety level maxes out. It’s a very similar reaction to our “Fight or Flight” survival physiology. We FEAR the UNKNOWN and want to run away from it rather than standing tall and facing it. In some instances that may still be appropriate but our intellect tells us that we should assess our situation before we decide the response. Or we could even say “ok, I don’t mind initially responding with flight, but when I’ve gotten a bit away, I’ll stop and reassess everything and see if further flight is warranted or if this is something I can handle”. I did the right thing because I shut my body down from running to allow whatever it was to heal. But I didn’t know how long that was going to be. The UNKNOWN consisted of not knowing whether it was going to be healed enough that it wouldn’t hurt; of not knowing if it would hurt or not; of not knowing how far I could get.

The other component of FEAR is “What if”. We are so good at creating imaginary scenarios in our mind and living them and reliving them virtually. And for some reason we always seem to go to the negative scenarios, not the positive ones. What would happen if I went out and ran on it and it hurt? What if it never gets better? What if that means I have to stop running? What if this means I can’t do the New York City Marathon this year? What if, what if, what if?

So, after we stop our flight or flight reaction and reassess what the UNKNOWN really is, then it’s time to play the “What if UP” game. This is an Abraham-Hicks process and is meant to get you to not only look at the other possibilities but also to raise your vibrations. In my case it would go like this “What if my foot doesn’t hurt? What if I can run really well and far without pain? What if I’ve given it enough time to heal? What if I feel really good when I’m out there again? What if everything is fine? What if I was worrying for nothing? And I wasted all that energy on worrying when I could have been doing something positive? That’s key – what if I was worrying for nothing? How many times have you worried about an upcoming event and then when it came along it turned out to be a great thing and one you actually enjoyed and were so glad you experienced. Do we think, then, about the worry? Probably not. But if we used it to learn a lesson about worry, that would be great!

What happened with me? I went out and ran today and was able to do 2 miles (that’s all I intended so as not to push it) without ANY pain. And almost felt normal again. Of course, all my attention was focused on my foot and “oh what was that I just felt?” But no matter how hard I tried (LOL) to make it hurt it didn’t. Now I’m prepped to go out tomorrow and run further and see what happens.

Try the “What if UP” game and see if you can raise your vibration (I guarantee this will do it) and then you’ll be able to move back to the door and reach for the handle….and then actually turn the handle and find out that it’s beautiful outside.

Terrie

 

 

 

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Valentine’s Day – It’s NOT Just For “Lovers”

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heart_puzzle_piece_missing_pc_400_clr_4847Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

I’m still on a high about last weekend’s accomplishment even though I’m trying not to brag. I did have a fun surprise though when my business coach, Rich German,  told the whole group about my achievement. I had told him of course because it’s one reason I hadn’t done the work I was supposed to do for him (ha ha – always looking for excuses) and he told everyone even though it had nothing to do with our course. But that was kind of nice. It was an act of “love” and caring.

Which leads me to today’s topic. People think of Valentine’s Day as being only for “lovers” but I like to look at it as being for everyone who loves something. For example, my running family is full of love – probably more than I’ve ever experienced on any Valentine’s Day in my past.  And they express that love every single day. Loving someone or something means being there for them WHENEVER they need it (and even when they don’t need it but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them).

Practice putting love into your daily life and even today try to tell others “Happy Valentine’s Day” even if you’re risking funny looks. Isn’t making someone else feel better worth a funny look? You have no idea what’s going through that person’s mind and how they are feeling and your three words might actually make a significant difference in their life (but that’s the subject of another post).

What do you love? Who do you love? What does love mean to you?

Remember to use your Gratitude Journal to express your love to the universe even if you don’t do it to another individual. Gratitude is THE most powerful force in the Universe! Write it out, type it out, think it, just DO IT! Saying your “gratitudes” will help you create your own reality in a positive way. You get more of what you put out every day. So put out that love and gratitude that you’re feeling!

Terrie