“Oh my goodness…it’s not what I wanted! It looked different in the catalog. What do I do now?” “What’s the return policy on this?” “How can I send it back?”

Have you ever had that thought when you’ve received your order or even brought something home from the store – “I knew I should have tried it on, darn it”.

So what DO you do when you end up with something you thought you wanted but didn’t really (or in other words, you didn’t spend enough time and energy deciding the specifics of what you were asking for)?

Now that your manifestation has materialized, it’s yours. If you’re not happy with this, you can change it. If it’s an object, that’s a bit more difficult but there are definitely ways to recycle it. You can give it away. Depending on what it is you could take it in and get it reworked, redesigned. If it’s the wrong size, you could keep it until it fits (or find someone who can wear it). Or, you could return it and either get a refund or a replacement. That takes more time effort perhaps but it works.

If it’s not a physical object, you can turn the situation around. I don’t know if you remember Rule #1 (pay attention) but I manifested and materialized a way out of my last 100 mile event because my fear was working way overtime and was very powerful (as is our fear most of the time). And much to my dismay I was able to manifest it and have it materialize very quickly!

I got what I ordered!But when I “opened the package” (so to speak), it surely was NOT what I really wanted. So I had to “return” it. Fortunately I was able to look at the situation and realize where it had come from – no, my identity hadn’t been stolen and someone else ordered this. The result I got was what I had asked for! This step of looking at what you got and trying to figure out how it got to you is vital before you “send it back”. You have to examine what you have and look at it closely. Ask yourself some hard questions:

• What the heck was I thinking?
• What fears and anxieties were occupying my mind with such power?
• Why was I having these fears and spending so much time with them?
• Is this what I really want?
• If not, why was I concentrating so hard on it – you know you only get what you really put your energy into.

Take the time to analyze what you received. Acknowledge that you did, indeed, order it and that it IS yours and was a product of your “ordering process”. Then you can examine your “ordering process” and find what’s inherently wrong with it. Do you focus on the lower vibrations (this assumes there are no bad vibrations, just lower level – all vibrations and resultant feelings are telling you something that you need to hear)? Are you just operating in some pattern/habit that you’ve always employed? Did you make a conscious decision to bring this into your life? The answer to that most likely will be “no” if it’s not something you want – however, you still have to acknowledge that YOU DID bring it into your life. The Law of Attraction works whether you receive good things or bad things. Always remember that. So, the package you receive that is not what you think you ordered really is what you ordered. You just have to work to figure out which buttons you pushed on the order page to bring that awful color or size to your address.

Often people see this when they claim they are focused on abundance and prosperity and yet they are just certain that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work because they still have so much debt and the bills are piling up all around them. They may be trying to focus on abundance and are uttering the words for abundance but deep inside they are still sure they are never going to get out of debt and will always have all these bills because “after all, nothing good ever happens to me” or “you have to work hard to make money” or “life is a struggle” or “you have to be greedy and selfish to be rich” or “money is the root of all evil”.

See how your limiting beliefs get in the way all the time? You have to identify these things before you can make the changes (and I recommend EFT as the best choice for clearing but there are many). That’s why you have to hold your manifestation in your hands (literally or figuratively), turn it around and around and look at every side of it so that you can determine the vibrations it’s emitting and where inside of you it came from.

Once you’ve dug deep, then you can turn it around. This is just what I did when I found the resources to work on my back and demanded that I get a better materialization – my vibration level was so high you could palpate it. I had no more fear, no more anxiety. I had faith that I could make it work (with my team). And I did get a better result (return) – not only did I make it to the starting line two days after I couldn’t walk, but I completed the 100 mile event!

Using this self-examination process is like reading the return policy and then implementing the instructions – some places you have to call and get an authorization number for return and then have to put it in this type of bag, etc. Some places you have to email them. Some you can just fill out a piece of paper and send it back. But you don’t know what the process is until you look for it! That’s what I’m asking you to do whenever you get anything you don’t want. Don’t just put it aside and say “oh well, I’ll just go order another thing”. Figure out WHY you got the wrong materialization to begin with!

Terrie

If you don’t act “as if”, then you don’t truly believe you already have what it is you wish to physically manifest in your life. It is imperative that you believe you have already received/attracted whatever you want. Just as when you place the order from the catalog or online, you know you’ll have it. You just have to wait for it to be delivered (the law of gestation – everything has a period of time it takes before it actually physically comes into being – babies take 9 months; acorns, roses, weeds, all have different gestation periods).

But since you “know” you are going to receive your desire in physical form eventually, you should begin to act as if you have already received it. If it’s new clothes, clean out your closet or your drawers so that you will have a place to put the new item. If you’ve decided to manifest a new car, then make sure you have a place for it. Is your garage full on one side (if this is a second car) or is there a nice space there waiting for it? If you want a mate, is there space for all that person’s clothes and belongings? There has to be a place in your life where your manifestation can come and take up space. Just slip in so to speak – “as if” it was already in your life!

“Why do you have to do that?”, you may ask. “Why can’t I just wait for it to come? After all, I don’t want to get too excited.” “What if it doesn’t manifest?” “What if….what if….what if….?”

If you are asking the “what ifs…” then you don’t have the faith that once you have placed your order (and have been sure and specific about what you want), you need not worry. As one of the principles of Reiki says “Just for today I will not worry”. If you believe in the Law of Attraction and know that it works (whether you work it or not), then you need not worry. It will come to you. What happens is that we question either ourselves or the Laws of the Universe and then we start to worry and hem and haw and go back and forth. We make excuses for ourselves – “Well, that really wasn’t what I wanted anyway so it’s ok that I won’t get it” or “What if I really do get it and I’m not ready, or it wasn’t what I really wanted?”

Much of the resistance to acting “as if” is that we might feel cocky or like a braggart if we act that way. There’s also the worry that we will look foolish if we act as if but if it doesn’t come about…what we don’t realize is that if you think that way, you are creating (or magnifying) the resistance you have – it really means that you don’t believe that you deserve this manifestation or that it will come to you. Some of the problem is because you’ve been “outlining”, which is a no-no. Outlining means you’ve told the Universe how and when to deliver the manifestation to you. Your job is simply to precisely define what you want and then believe that you have it.

There is a difference between manifestation and materialization. You have manifested it once you’ve placed your order. The materialization is dependent on your vibrations, your level of resistance (related to your vibrations), your ability to detach (the Law of Detachment) knowing that it is coming, and the Law of Gestation. If you spend your time trying to figure out when your manifestation will materialize, you will have set up resistance and you don’t want that at all.

If you want a new car (and have placed your order), drive your old car being grateful that it is taking care of you while waiting for the “new member of the family” and be grateful for all it’s done for you in the past. Sit up straight and act as if you are driving that brand spanking new car! Clean out the garage and make a nice, neat place for it.

If you want a great relationship, smile and write in your gratitude journal that you’re so grateful for this person who is just what you’ve always dreamed of. Dress up, put your make up on (if you’re a woman; if you’re a man find a good suit or a wash that special pair of jeans you wear on your first date), clean the house etc.

You have to FEEL as if this “thing” is yours. You must not be thinking of being wealthy while worrying about how you’re going to pay the bills or dreading going to the mailbox for fear of what’s going to be in there. You have to believe that you are prosperous and change your vibrations so that you are exuding the power of abundance. This is vital to your success. Acting “as if” helps to elevate your vibrations!

Try it, you’ll like it!

Terrie

We each have limiting beliefs and they are unique. However, there are certain beliefs that appear to be universal limiting beliefs – ones that everyone has deeply ingrained in them. Do you identify with any on this list?

I’m not good enough.
I’ll never be enough.
††I’m not lovable.
††I don’t know what to do.
I can’t do anything right.
There’s not enough time.
I am worthless.
I need someone else/something else to make me happy.
I’m a failure.
People are judging me.
I need to be in control.
People are not trustworthy.
I don’t belong.
I have to be perfect.
Life is dangerous.
Life is hard.
No one loves me.
I never get a break.
I always lose anything I get.
I don’t deserve it.
Everyone else comes first.
There’s no point in wanting something because it will be taken away.
I’m a victim.
I have to work really hard to earn love.
I’m always disappointed.
Something is wrong with me.
I’m a burden to others.
I never win anything.
Rich people are greedy.
Money is the root of all evil.
Money doesn’t grow on trees.
You have to work hard.
I’m not worthy (variation of some of the others listed above).

I bet if you thought about it, you’d be able to come up with some other “Universal limiting beliefs”.

Write down those that have resonated within you. These are ones you must eliminate in order to make progress.

“But why can’t I just do affirmations?” you may ask.

Because simply doing affirmations is like trying to build a structure on top of a stretch of land that was just mowed and not dug up. You have to clear the land before you can lay the foundation. If you put something on top of the mowed land, the weeds and roots will continue to grow below the surface and soon will be interfering with your structure. But if you’ve cleared the land and the roots your structure will stand tall and unencumbered. Clearing the roots is the same as clearing your limiting beliefs.

There are many ways of clearing and you can search the internet and try the one that works the best for you. I prefer denials and EFT as my clearing methods but I know there are many others out there. I have found EFT to work the fastest and is probably the easiest when done correctly (focusing on specifics rather than on generalities).

If you have alot of affirmations around the house or on your computer you can use them to help you identify your limiting beliefs. Say an affirmation and then pause. If that little voice in the back of your head says “but…..”, then that is your limiting belief. It’s the easiest way I’ve found to identify those limiting beliefs that are mine specifically. I can use the Universal Limiting beliefs to start with but then to delve in deeper, I go with the affirmation approach. This is NOT what the creation of affirmations was intended for but it’s a very useful technique.

Write down the things you want in life and then create the affirmations that go along with that desire. Then say the affirmation with strong feeling following that emotional statement with a period of “listening”. Once you have heard your little voice, you will know what you really need to work ok. You can create denials (”There is no poverty in my life”, “There is no loneliness in my life”, “There is no pain in my life”, etc) and say them over and over several times throughout the day. Or learn about and use EFT to clear those limiting beliefs.

Once you’ve identified and worked to clear these beliefs, you will now be able to fill in the space with the affirmations and visualizations that represent what you want!

Get to work. This is the most important rule of all.

Terrie

When you hear people say “it’s all in your head” your natural reaction most likely is one of anger and disbelief and astonishment – “how can you possibly think that – this is real?”

Reality is in our heads. Take this action. Write out what the actual facts are. Then everything else is your (or someone else’s) interpretation. And much of that interpretation is based on what we think and believe. If we have limiting beliefs still embedded in the cobwebs of our mind, then the interpretation of those facts will be very negative. If we’ve done a good job of eliminating our limiting beliefs and replacing them with UNlimiting beliefs, the interpretation will be extremely positive.

I’ve talked for many years about limiting beliefs and I feel that it should be a more prevalent topic of discussion than the Law of Attraction. Those who saw “The Secret” and later said it was baloney and didn’t work were not aware of the power of limiting beliefs and how they control all our thoughts, feelings, actions AND results! Your beliefs are what governs your feelings and subsequently your thoughts.

We accumulate our beliefs very early in life – from birth, if not before. They come from our parents, our family, peers, friends, colleagues, teachers, religious leaders, media, bosses, national leaders and anyone around us. Some of the beliefs are stronger than others. The more we are exposed to ideas and the more we respect or love a person, the more likely it is that we will adopt their ideas as our own beliefs.

As Abraham-Hicks says “A belief is just a thought we keep thinking over and over again”. When we think it over and over and over, it seems as if it must be real to us and so we start to believe it. But it is NOT necessarily reality. Remember that everyone felt the earth was flat. But it isn’t. They also thought that no one would ever be able to run a mile in less than 4 minutes – but it’s been done many times now. Think of all the things we have at our fingertips now – all the inventions. Were they ever thought to be possible? No – not until someone received the divine idea and chose to believe that it was possible. Once things are “visible” to others, they can become the subject of a new belief – such as the earth is round. Anyone now a days who believes that the earth is flat would be laughed at.

This should be (and probably will be) a multi-part “rule” because there are many different parts that need to be addressed (and are better addressed in some of our courses).

You have to understand that we are our own worst enemies. What if a baby was self-deprecating and each time it fell down while trying to learn to walk it said “gees, you’re really stupid – you fell down again. How dumb can you be?” or “Why can’t I get that right – I just started doing it yesterday, you’d think I’d be able to walk by now – there must be something wrong with me.” Or “I’ll never get it. Why bother?”.

Thank goodness children have not yet been overwhelmed with these horrible limiting beliefs and thoughts that if they don’t succeed and do everything perfectly on day 1 that they are “bad” people. If so, they would never do or try anything.

Why do we do that to ourselves as older children and then repeatedly as adults? Because somewhere along the way someone (or many someones) have made a statement that we interpreted as a criticism or statement that we were bad people. It may not have really been intended that way but that is the way we perceived it. You’ve heard the phrase “perception is reality”. Well, that is so very true, especially in our own worlds and involving our own ego. If someone is having a bad day and comments on something we say or do but it doesn’t sound all cheery and enthusiastic, we are likely to interpret it as them not approving or worse yet, them criticizing us. When, in reality (their reality), they are NOT enthusiastic about ANYTHING at that moment except, perhaps, making their bad day go away. That has absolutely nothing to do with us and our performance. But since children believe that the world revolves around them, the pattern of interpreting others actions in terms of their own world is established. So, unless this other person says something like “hey, I’m just having a bad day so don’t take anything I do or don’t do personally” then we are liable to interpret their actions or looks or words the wrong way. Do you do that? I know I do and then I kick myself when I realize what I’ve done. But it’s taken me years to realize what it is that’s happened – it was ingrained in me as a child to just interpret and not ask – actually when I asked, I never believed the response so I just stopped asking and felt that I “knew” what the real truth was. That’s a worse scenario, believe me.

You don’t even know all the things you believe in. You may be able to spout off the basics “I believe in God”, “I believe in justice”, “I believe in the 10 commandments”, “I believe you’re innocent until proven guilty” (”well, maybe not all the time but I have to say I believe that”), etc.

But what do you believe about your self-worth, about your ability to succeed, about your ability to love and be loved, about your ability to perform in something you love doing? Look at your life and your dreams and desires and see what it is you believe. Because your thoughts and words reflect your beliefs and your actions reflect all of that most of all. Why not take a moment and write down what’s happened in your life – are you successful in business, relationships, happiness? What have you accomplished? Have you reached your goals? Did you ever have goals? Or did you just “settle” for what came your way? Did you have a reason (excuse) why you didn’t become that person you wanted to be when you were a child. For example, I wanted to be a neurosurgeon from the time I first saw the TV show “Ben Casey” (showing my age I know). But when I was 21 I developed epilepsy. That shot down any hopes of being a neurosurgeon. So that’s my “reason”. I could look alot more deeply into it and figure out how I created that reality but I don’t really care anymore since I found another direction and goal and was very happy with that. If, however, I had not been able to find something else, then I would have benefited from further exploration into my reason/excuse and see what was really going on.

This will be your starting point. Once you’ve written down all you’ve accomplished and all you wanted to accomplish, go back and figure out what it is you are lacking and see on that list of “wish I hads” that may still be sparking a desire within you. Then write down why you don’t have that particular thing. Be honest with yourself. No on else needs to see it. I think it might be revealing to you.

We’ll go a little deeper next time! But this will be a great start for you.

Terrie

Now that you’ve realized the power of the Law of Attraction, figured out what you wanted and became specific about it and then told the Universe “This is what I want – bring it to me”, you must believe that it will be yours.

It won’t do you any good to be checking the mailbox two or three times a day – that won’t bring your order to your house any quicker, will it? Of course not.

Have faith and believe. This is a big part of “The Law of Allowing” – you have to realize that it is yours and that it will be given to you since you’ve asked. But you have to allow it into your life. The more you “check your mailbox” the less belief you express. You begin to wonder “did they get the order?” “Maybe they were out of of what I wanted”, “What if I didn’t put the right address?”, “What if….”, “What if….” etc. The doubts start to creep in. Every time you check the mailbox to see if the Universe has delivered your order, you wonder more and more if you made the right decision, if you deserve this gift (because if you did deserve it, it would be here already, right?), if it’s ever going to come, is this Law of Attraction really exists and works and if so, why won’t it work for you and on and on and on. The questions come faster and more furiously each time you check and there’s nothing there.

It will come if you continue to believe, to have faith. There is the Law of Gestation that comes into play here. It takes time for things to grow and manifest themselves. Different animals have different gestation periods; different seeds take different times to grow and sprout. If you plant a seed and then dig it up every day to see if it’s grown, it will never sprout above the soil. But if you plant it, water it and even talk to it and love it, in the proper amount of time (for that seed) it will bloom or sprout. The words to the song “The Rose” come to mind when explaining this concept.

“Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love
In the spring becomes the rose.”

So when you’re enduring the “winter’s bitter snows” know that your order will be delivered to you and you will receive The Rose!

It will arrive just as you asked.

Terrie