What Story Are You Telling?

book_character_reading_400_clr_9091What? What the heck are you talking about Terrie? What do you mean by my “story”?

Everything we talk about is in story form in one fashion or another.

There are facts and there are stories that revolve around those facts. The stories vary from person to person. Look at so-called “eyewitness” accounts. They can differ dramatically. It’s all about interpretation. You’ve heard “perception is reality” I’m sure. Well that is true.

And there is a definite vibration surrounding your story. So why not tell the story the way you wanted it to be? “But that would be lying” you say. Not really. You can talk about facts without putting lower level vibrations (also known to some as “negative” vibrations) into them. Let’s take a recent example that I mentioned Sunday about not getting into the 100 mile endurance run I wanted to get into.

Facts:

  • I prepared really well:
    • I wrote in my gratitude journal that I got into this event
    • I had no other activities planned for that day until after the sign up time
    • I rebooted both of my computers and shut down everything that would use up resources
    • I was online on both computers on the right site so that I just had to click refresh
  • I clicked refresh repeatedly when the registration link did not show up
  • I repeated this action for 30 minutes, never getting a live registration link
  • I did not get into the event

Stories:

  1. It’s just not fair that I didn’t get in. I did everything right. It must be fixed so that only certain people get in. Why couldn’t I get in. It’s not fair. They don’t want people to participate unless they are specially chosen. I can’t do anything right. This must mean that all this Law of Attraction and gratitude stuff doesn’t really work. I’m so hurt, sad, disappointed, frustrated. I’m really mad I wasted my whole Saturday.
  2. I didn’t get in. There is a reason and it’s one I can’t see right now but I know that “everything always works out for me” and this will too. I had considered whether the dates of this event were too close to the more important 150 mile event I am going to do for MS so maybe this is the Universe’s way of confirming that. It also means I can find other events to run in. I just have to look and will find something even better for me.

See how the facts are pretty straight forward but the two stories are completely different? And there are multiple variations on the story that I could have written.

Which story do you want to tell? Practice changing your story. We’ll talk more about this later this week but right now it’s time for a run!

Terrie

 

 

What Are You Thinking?

what are you thinkingYou’re sitting there kind of zoned out and all of a sudden someone says “what are you thinking?” and it pulls you out of your reverie. You probably answer “uh, nothing. What’s up”?

Does that sound familiar? You may actually believe the “nothing” part of that story but it’s not true. There is almost no moment during any day that you are NOT thinking something.

The challenge I have for you is to pay attention to what you are thinking ALL the time.  Decide to be diligent for at least ONE day this week (preferably more) to monitoring your thoughts – be your own “Big Brother”. You’ll be very surprised.

It’s pretty simple – you can use a small notebook you can carry in your pocket or your purse or you could even use a portable recording device (there are many apps for your smartphone that would serve that purpose).

 

Yes, I know you have to work and you have to take care of your family and more. But these busy times are the times when you’ll usually find the most revealing thoughts – things like:

  • “I can’t believe it, I don’t have any time to myself”
  • “I’m so overwhelmed”
  • “Gees, what more do they expect me to do”?
  • “Get out of my way damnit, I’m in a hurry”
  • “I’m so stressed out. I can’t take it any more”
  • “I hate this job (or fill in any blank)”
  • “It sucks to be me”
  • “Why me”?
  • “I can’t win”
  • “I can’t catch a break”
  • “How did I get myself in this mess”?
  • “I’m so angry/mad/p.o’ed”
  • “I’m afraid that ……”
  • “I’m so tired”
  • “I’m sick and tired of …….”
  • “You’re killing me with all this”
  • “I’m so ashamed that….”
  • “I”m so embarrassed”
  • “I wonder what he’s looking at”
  • “I wish I weren’t so ….. (fat, dumb, stupid, lazy, etc)”
  • “I wonder what would happen if…”
  • “I’ll never get all this done”
  • “That’s ugly”
  • “I wish I had that”
  • “God I’m starved”

These are just a few common thoughts I came up in a few seconds. There are millions more that you have going through your mind repeatedly.  The key word is “repeatedly” – we think the same things (perhaps with minor variations” over and over again. And if you remember how Abraham defines a belief, it’s “a thought we keep thinking over and over again”. So, guess what? You’re creating or reinforcing beliefs with all these “simple” thoughts.

Write down (make an effort) or record all your thoughts. It is important that you pay attention to all of them, not just the good ones, not just the bad ones – all of them. The idea is so that you can see how your thoughts balance out – what percentage of the time do you spend thinking positive thoughts and how much time do you spend thinking less than positive thoughts. And then, what thoughts are you repeating throughout the day – whether positive or not. Those are the ones you’re cementing in your subconscious as beliefs. You really want to make a conscious choice about what beliefs you cultivate, don’t you?

When you write these thoughts down, pay attention to what’s going on at that time – are you stressed, relaxed, working out, in the car, what? Make sure to pay attention to any follow-on thoughts and actions. For instance, if, after you think, “God I’m starved”, you your thoughtshead to the snack machine or the refrigerator and pick something you wouldn’t necessarily describe as “healthy”, write down what thoughts (if any) are going through your mind as you hit that button or pull open the frig door. Is it “I really shouldn’t be doing this” or is it “some chips or ice cream is just what I need right now”.  Perhaps you’re not even thinking – you’re just rushing to the machine so that you can take the food to numb the feelings. Unfortunately, you may be using the food to numb the feelings (stress, overwhelm etc) but you’re probably still thinking while you’re doing it. And you’ve made a conscious choice to pick the food regardless of the negative thoughts because feeling the pain from the emotion is worse than feeling the guilt or shame from having eaten that ice cream.  Some people use cigarettes, alcohol, food, drugs, abuse, exercise or many other actions to keep from feeling certain emotions.  Do you want to keep using your “drug of choice”? Or do you want to change your behavior? If you want to change your behavior you have to change your thoughts.

Here’s a short example. Yesterday was the day runners could try to get into a popular 100 mile race (Umstead- one I know I could do well at). I had planned the day around the “registration attempt” time (11 am my time) and I’d used affirmations and beliefs that I was definitely going to get in. I had written in my gratitude journal every day that I was grateful that I got into Umstead 2014 (being specific so that the Universe knew that this was the one I meant, not sometime in the future).

11 a.m. came and I tried and to make a long story short, I didn’t get in. I could have spent the rest of the day being really bummed out and saying that all this stuff really doesn’t work and I’m just a hypocrite, blah blah blah. But you know what? That would have done absolutely nothing but bring my mood and vibration way down. I chose not to experience that so I realized that “everything always works out for me” (Lord knows I’ve experienced that so many times in my long life) and began to think about the alternative runs I could do or apply for. And my day improved. It took some conscious work but I chose to feel good, not to plummet to the depths of despair which I could easily have done had I not paid attention to my thoughts.

Are you up for this challenge? Can you commit to at least one day and hopefully more? Let us know by putting your comments in the box below.

Have a great day!

Terrie

 

 

Law of Attraction – Rule #10 – Thank You!

loa rule 10Ah – we come to Rule #10 – the last in this series. Of course, you can make as many rules as you’d like. One (of many) definitions of the word “rule” is: “a principle or regulation governing conduct, action, procedure, arrangement, etc.”. A rule is not a law. The Laws of the Universe are not things we make up. They exist no matter how much we try to deny them or change them. When trying to understand this, always remember the Law of Gravity and then go sit under the apple tree :-). But the interpretation of how to work with these Laws (or even the man-made laws) is set down in rules that we create. So you see, I have presented these 10 rules on how to get the most from working with the Law of Attraction. I have found them the most effective over the years and even more importantly the most consistent.

So what the heck is rule #10? It’s the most important rule in the Universe and the most powerful force in the Universe – GRATITUDE! Showing gratitude all day long as much as possible will bring you everything you want. It’s like the Energizer Bunny for the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction will work no matter what you do. However, we want it to work FOR us, don’t we? Of course we do. You can start small and see how it snowballs in your life. Start by being thankful that you woke up and that you have a house, your health, family, pets, friends, automobile, job, whatever in your life. Even if things are not perfect for you right now, they are a lot better than they could be gratitude-journal120x150and they are certainly a lot better than they are for many people around the world. Find something! This should not be that hard. Then as you go throughout the day continue to be grateful no matter what. Get stopped at a stoplight and you’re late? Be grateful anyway. Say “thank you for having me stop at this stoplight. I know there is a divine reason and I am grateful for it even if I do not know what it is at this moment.” I tell the story about the time I worked in Washington, DC and lived 60 miles south of there. One day it had started to snow and I had asked my boss if I could leave early (people in that area do not know how to drive in the snow and even if they did, there are a whole lot of them out there). He said “no” because we were in an important class. Naturally I was grumpy and moped around until we got released. And yes it took me 8 hours to get home that day. But you know what? If I had left at the time I asked him, I would have been right in the middle of the 100 car pileup on Interstate 95 that the snowstorm led to. Instead I was just inconvenienced by a longer drive home – but I was safe and sound. The Universe was looking out for me even though I didn’t have any idea of what was happening or what would have happened to me had I left when I wanted. Instead of grumbling I should have been praising the Universe. I did that later but it would have been more effective had I done it when I was told I couldn’t leave. Remember the mantra “everything is always working out for me”. Say that over and over. It will be the topic of a separate post soon.

Start a gratitude journal. You can combine your gratitude journal with your pleasure journal if you want and it will become a very powerful tool. Especially if you carry a small notebook around with you all day and are continually writing both your pleasures and your gratitudes in your notebook.

You can also use our Gratitude Journal software program (for the PC) we created for everyone to use.

I bet that if you keep track of your gratitudes for the next month, you will see a remarkable change in your life. Try it. What do you have to lose?

Terrie

 

 

Law of Attraction – Rule #9 – Corollary – Time Expands To Fit Your Needs!

rule 9 corollary “I never have enough time”. “I can’t afford the time.” “I don’t have time to fit that in”.

Have you ever thought these things? Have you ever said them out loud? I bet you have. Most of us have.

But if you think about Rule #9 – “There is Always Enough” that applies to time as well.

Change your thoughts and beliefs and realize that Time Does Expand To Fit Your Needs. Think about it. Why wouldn’t that be the case since we believe in the law of Supply and Demand. When you have to get something done, you do – it may be at the last minute but you get it done. If you relax and meditate, visualize and use the Abraham techniques, you’ll get it done with much more time to spare and much less stress. clock_pie_chart_clip_400_clr_5729

We want to enjoy our lives and most people, when asked, want “more time” with their family or their kids or do to things they enjoy – time often leads to happiness in people’s minds. At least that is what we perceive as happiness. And perception is reality.

So, if you want to feel as if you have all the time in the world, use that affirmation over and over again – especially when stressed. If you use EFT, it is great to tap while saying it “Time expands to meet my needs”. “I have all the time I need and want”.

Try this for a couple of weeks and see what happens. Be consistent and don’t just wait until you “need” extra time. Say it repeatedly throughout the day.

Terrie

Law of Attraction – Rule #9 – There’s Always Enough!

rule 9 aThis is one thing that people tend to forget – or more likely are programmed from childhood to not believe. Remember when you were always told to clean your plate because there are starving children in Africa or China or someplace else? What that did right away was instill the concept that there “isn’t enough to go around”. This idea couldn’t be further from the truth. The Law of Supply and Demand is always in operation and the Law of sufficiency is also always in effect.

All you have to do is Ask, Believe and Ready yourself to receive. See – these are the same concepts we’ve been talking about all through the “10 Rules”. When you have fear that there isn’t enough, then you push it away and it doesn’t manifest itself and therefore does NOT materialize. You have to eliminate the fear and remember that these universal laws are much more powerful than you are. You just have to allow it in.

Every time we experience some sort of need or demand, someone discovers or invents a solution. Look at the fuel issues. When it seems (and it is only a perception) that there is a shortage of oil, research and development on alternative  iStock_000015593024XSmallfuel sources speeds up and new items and techniques are invented. Look back through history and the majority of time this occurs. Penicillin and other antibiotics were developed when diseases came forth. So why haven’t we been able to find a cure for cancer or AIDS? Well, look at the question a little better. We actually can cure some forms of cancer. And we are so much further in treating other kinds than we were in the past. Same goes for AIDS – there are many treatments now that prolong and improve quality of life. But the reason we haven’t found a “total” cure is that we have what’s called “Race consciousness” – it’s the mass belief that cancer is incurable. So, although there are many people working day and night to come up with a cure, they are held back by the fear we have about cancer or AIDS.

Always know that there is enough out there to fulfill your order and bring you what it is you asked for. If you thought of it, it can be created and that’s the bottom line. You do NOT have to worry about where the supplies or money or anything are going to come from. The Universe will provide. So please don’t ever think that you can’t have something because you don’t see evidence of great amounts of whatever it is surrounding you! It’s there for sure. Your job is to follow these rules believing that whatever you order will be delivered to you.

Take that information and let it wipe out your limiting beliefs about lack.

Terrie