Monthly Archives: April 2014

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The Water Cooler Is More Dangerous Than The Soda Machine

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stick_figures_at_water_cooler_pc_400_clr_3800Do you hang out at the water cooler at work? Or some equivalent – we have a “break room” at work even though we don’t have a water cooler.

I bet you’re thinking that this is a post about germs and all the bacteria you find at the water cooler? Well, it’s not.  It’s easier, in a way, to fight the germs because your body does that automatically. You don’t have to think about anything. Your body operates in its own best interest.

Compare that to your subconscious mind which operates automatically but that operation is based on what we have stuffed into it all our lives – and worse yet, the things that others have stuffed into it (parents, media, clergy, friends, etc).  Your subconscious doesn’t know anything about best interest or not best interest. It just “is”.

What happens when people gather together at work? They talk. About what? About lots of things. Often it’s about family and kids and that might be really cute stories or it might be complaining about what little Joey did at school yesterday. Or they might be complaining about work and what’s wrong. Or even better, talking about (complaining) what’s going on in the world or the country and how it “should” be fixed.

Even if you just stand or sit there and don’t participate in the talk, you’re absorbing the momentum and vibration of those around you.  That will change your vibration and move your momentum into the same direction as that of the complainers. If you had good momentum going and the day was moving along fine, you most likely will find that things are not so great now and you don’t feel as excited and happy as you did before your “break”. In fact, you might wonder what happened to your good mood or you are confused as to why you’re tired all of a sudden. “What’s going on?” you’re thinking. “I was in such a great mood before and now I’m grumpy”.  Or, you might not be that aware.  But, once you’ve begun to pay attention to your vibrations and your momentum, you will notice that things are different. Then you need to track back to where you’ve been and what you’ve done. Once you start tracking these things, you will know how to change your behavior.

It’s imperative that you hang out with people who will help your momentum continue in the direction you want it to go. Whenever you start hearing stories from yourself or others, ask yourself “is this the direction you want your momentum to go in”. If it’s yes, then continue with it. If not, then go do something else.

Stay away from the water cooler is my advice. Let others talk but don’t participate. Your momentum depends on it!

Terrie

 

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What Do You Do?

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Two runners So here’s a hypothetical question but also pretty relative to most of our daily activities if we think about it.  What  do you do when someone “passes” you? You can translate that into anything that means you interpret someone as doing something better than you if it will be easier for you to think about.

It’s happened to me many times and I would feel different things depending on the situation but last week it happened and I actually thought about what was happening. I was on a night time run so it was dark and I had no idea that this guy was going to pass me (usually there aren’t that many folks out when I run). I was plodding along as I always do (many people would not even consider what I do as running). All of a sudden this tall guy passed me (going in the same direction as I was) and he seemed to be running fast (of course, my 15 year old arthritic dog would seem to run faster than me too).  As he kept moving up over the hill and disappeared from view I started to feel really “down” and depressed. Why? Because he was faster than me and it made me think about how “bad” I was. I felt incompetent, embarrassed, and stupid being out there with the “big guys” – who did I think I was trying to compete with them. I didn’t deserve to be on the same road with these talented and ‘important’ people (I don’t even know who he was but I assumed that since he passed me he was important).

But then I stopped my thoughts – not soon enough but at least I did stop them. I asked myself “what the heck just happened here? I was feeling great and happy just a few seconds ago and all of a sudden I feel like cr*p JUST BECAUSE someone passed me. What’s up with that? How can I let my mood, and possibly my actions, be so influenced by someone you don’t even know and in just a few seconds?”

Think about that. The only difference in those few seconds was that a man I didn’t even know ran past me. So what? What does that really mean? I already know I’m slow – that’s a given – the whole world knows that. So why did observing something that someone else iStock_000016008010XSmalldid change my thoughts and feelings? I know that in 1993 I started running at night because I was embarrassed and full of shame because I was heavy and slow and had no endurance. And I’m still slow and don’t have the endurance I should but gees, I did do two 100 mile events in 6 weeks this spring. Why didn’t I just hold onto that thought and be joyful in that? Or why didn’t I just keep thinking whatever it was I was thinking before he passed me? What caused me to change my thoughts, feelings and almost my actions. I was at the “you should just quit Terrie, there’s no way you can do this race in NYC” point. I should know where I am preparation wise without having someone run faster than me.

This one miniscule event and it’s subsequent reactions demonstrates how deep some of our insecurities are. And worse yet, the reliving of these thoughts and feelings can derail our current progress. Instead of being down, depressed and ashamed, I should have just been happy I was out there running and that I have the opportunity to go to New York and will do the best I can. I had the choice to feel good, bad, or no change at all. Why do we make choices to feel bad? Is it because it’s a habit? Do we think we should be humble and this is the way we feel humble? Do we not know how to feel good for very long and it’s uncomfortable? If you look at NLP and the concepts within its teaching, I should use some other event as an anchor and I can use the control panel in my mind to minimize the impact of this guy’s passing me. Remember it’s all about vibrations. I want my vibrations to be as high as possible and that’s how I’m going to make my choices. I want to feel good and I deserve to feel good AND I have the ability to change how I feel.

Think of people “passing” you and how you think  or feel. What do you do in response? When someone passes you on the highway or street, what do you think? What do you do?

When someone passes you in production at work, what do you do or think? or more importantly, what do you feel?

Take some time to think about this. Share it with us in the comment box.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1 Pick a feeling you’d like to experience more of this week.  Write it down somewhere – the action of writing is powerful and the Universe doesn’t care where you write it (napkin, back of your hand, notebook, post-it, scrap paper, etc).

Now associate some event you’ve experienced in the past where you felt this emotion/feeling.  Stop what you’re doing and sit back and really remember that event. See if you can recreate that wonderful feeling you had. That’s the key right now – to experience that emotion just as if it’s happening to you right now.

Once you have that feeling re-embedded in your mind, practice calling it up again. Practice that a few times right now. The point is to be able to feel that emotion almost with the push of a button. Some people find the use of an “anchor” helpful in recreating the feeling. I’m defining “anchor” in this situation as an action that will cement the feeling and bring it back to you immediately. For example, you see athletes clenching their fists and pumping them in the air sometimes with the word “yes” and sometimes without. The action of clenching their fist and pumping it cements the feeling they are experiencing. Usually it’s of some success. You can clench your fist without punching it in the  air, you could cross your fingers, tap your head, do something that you don’t normally do in your every day life. You don’t want to pick some action that you repeat all day long because it won’t anchor the specific feeling you’re looking for. Make it something unusual for you.

Once you’ve picked your anchor, practice using the anchor to generate that feeling you’ve chosen for the week. Practice that a few times right now.

Use this anchor to recreate the good feeling either whenever you just want to feel good or more importantly when you catch a story or events going in the wrong direction. By wrong direction I mean one that you don’t want. If things start going down the wrong road at work, use your anchor to bring up the good feeling and stop the negative momentum as soon as you can. As Abraham says – if you’re on a hill in San Francisco and you give your car a nudge, you could stand in front of the car and it would stop. But if you are at the bottom of the hill and you stand in it’s way, the momentum it’s gathered will not be stopped by you standing in front of it and you’ll be wiped out too.

Thus, our goal is to stop the momentum before it gets going very fast. Use the anchor-feeling method to try that this week. Do this consciously and see how it works. Let us know in the comments box.

Terrie

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Which Comes First – The Chicken or the Egg?

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chicken_or_egg_400_clr_10064No, this isn’t an early Easter post 🙂

It’s about your expectations and needs.

The question you must always answer is “Can you feel happy BEFORE you have the actual manifestation”? Hopefully the answer to this is yes!

Close your eyes and start to feel what it will be like when whatever it is you want has come into your life. Feel the joy, the happiness, the ecstasy you’ll be experiencing when it happens. Garner these feelings BEFORE you receive the manifestation.  Remember that it’s a three step process – Ask (you’ve already done that), Receive (the Universe has already created it and brought it to your door), Allow – this is the key – eliminating resistance and creating the vibration that will enable you to allow you to accept what you’ve asked for.

So many of us have resistance and so we don’t get what we want and have asked for. And as typical humans we then blame it on the Law of Attraction, simply proclaiming that “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work”.  At some point we need to take responsibility and realize that the Law of Attraction works but we have to go through the steps and “do” our own work.

We are vibrational beings and our primary moment by moment goal should be to raise our vibrations in an attempt to feel the joy that is our right.  We can feel joy without having something in front of us.

Let me give you an example. Even if you are tired of hearing about my running experiences, they help you understand what I’m talking about.  I am looking forward to the running trek across Tennessee in July. I’ve been aiming for this for almost a year now and whenever I start to feel “down” for some other reason, I always “go” there in my mind and it raises my vibration immediately. I feel happy. Do I have the experience yet? No, it’s not July and I’ve never done this event before but I can feel how I will feel in the 10 day trip. My vibration skyrockets when I do this.

But that’s not a physical manifestation, you say. True. As I was planning this post I realized that even though I have not manifested a car yet (because I haven’t made up my mind as to which one I want – we’ve talked about that before), I get great joy and pleasure out of imagining each car at the time I think I want that kind of vehicle. My mind gets off any problems or troubles and I smile and think about sitting in and driving that particular vehicle and I am happy. This feeling can last as long as you’d like. You just have to continue thinking about the feelings you’ll have.

In the health arena, imagine and then feel how you’ll react and be inside when you get the clean bill of health and the doctor tells you everything is fine. Hold on to that happy feeling – like you’re doing cartwheels. Or, if you want, envision how great you’ll feel when you feel strong and able to run or lift weights or just make it through the day with tons of energy – whatever it is you are asking for.

Do NOT entertain any “Buts” – get off your “but” and if one comes into your thoughts, then immediately say “That is not my truth” and go right back to envisioning and feeling the joy associated with receiving that gift.  Remember the 68 second process and try to hold onto that good vibration and excitement for at least 68 seconds  – simply basking in the joy of receipt.

Try it, you’ll like it and you’ll realize you don’t really need the manifestation in order to experience the happiness and other feelings that go along with the manifestation. Plus, you’ll find yourself going to various “places” in your mind and emotions during the day just to feel better!

Let me know how it’s going for you.

Terrie

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Stop Telling Your Story!

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STOP! Stop telling your story and rewrite your legacy instead.

Why am I being so “mean”? We’re trying to focus on generating the momentum you want to have – the love, excitement, joy and happiness. Most of our stories start the momentum of something we don’t necessarily want to continue.  Even if the “moral of the story” is that you changed and now your life is better, you don’t want to be telling the entire path you took to get there because that starts the momentum of what you were and didn’t like/want. So, why would you want the momentum to be carrying you along in the old direction?

“It’s not that simple” you’re thinking. “I can’t explain what’s going on in my life without telling the history.” Not true.

You can say

I now know what it feels like to be excited 24 hours a day and how to get myself into a wonderful state.

You don’t have to say

A few years ago I was really depressed and even desperate to the point of doing something I would regret. I tried this and I tried that but nothing seemed to work. I really hit bottom. I didn’t know what to do, where to turn, how to get out of the dumps. I tried therapy, I tried self-help books, I tried everything and nothing worked. Then I found Abraham-Hicks and now I know what it feels like to be excited 24 hours a day.

Even when I was writing these made up statements, I could feel a different momentum with the second one, couldn’t you?microphone story

What advantage did hearing the second quote give you? Anything? Did the information in it matter? Not really. It’s just history. What we’re trying to focus on is the NOW and making the NOW be as great as it possibly can be. We want the Universe to  really sense our positive vibrations and bring us more of what we’re feeling – more joy, love, happiness, health, well being, peace of mind – whatever it is you want!

So next time you hear yourself telling people your story about how you got here, stop and ask yourself “Is this the momentum I want to increase?” If not, excuse yourself and get to the punch line or tell a different story. If so, then continue on. You’ll hear me talk more and more about your story and legacy in weeks to come!

Let us know what your experiences with this awareness is – put it in the comment box below.

Terrie