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Are You Afraid of Growing Old?

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afraid of growing old 2If you said “no” when you read the subject line of this post, you should ask yourself if you were being honest. The majority of people are actually afraid of getting old. And as usual, the media does absolutely nothing to change that. They make it worse. Think of the ads you see of people falling and needing to push a button to get help or the ads about medicare supplement programs (this hit me this past year – it seemed like every 5 minutes they were talking about what you don’t get with Medicare – which is actually true but I didn’t need to have it crammed down my throat every minute of every waking day).

There are so many other media discussions of age and mostly in pictures so that even if you turned the sound down, you would still have the visuals there bothering you and being embedded in your subconscious. Then there are the “news” reports of age discrimination, special organizations for “old” people, special diseases “old” people get, etc.

The best way to avoid that is to stop watching TV – which we recommend for many other reasons too. However, you will still be exposed to these themes. So what do you do?

First you can use my favorite two sayings:

1) That is not my truth.

2) Nothing and no one can interfere with my prosperity, well-being and peace of mind, not even myself.

Every time you start to think about getting old and the “bad” things that seem to go along with it, use one of these phrases, if for no other reason than to get your mind off that thought. Say one of the phrases (or even both) over and over again until you’ve become calm and relaxed and can think about something else.

Remember that we create our own realities and if we see ourselves as characters in those ads, then that is what we will become.

Try writing down your beliefs about getting old. List them on a piece of paper or in your success (or even gratitude) journal. Then decide which of those beliefs you want to change. Then try EFT (emotional freedom technique) or some other clearing method (denials are also simple to use) to clear the old beliefs. Bottom line is you want to change your momentum and start thinking about the great things that come with age. Use the 68 second process about the cool things that go along with moving along in years – retirement, vacations, traveling etc.

Stop thinking about your age and that of others. Don’t even make jokes about “at my age” (I find myself doing that and know I want to stop it – I don’t want to be training my brain that way).

See if you can figure out what expectations you’ve had installed in your subconscious about getting older – you can’t do this, you can’t do that, you’ll be lonely, you’ll forget things, you’ll have age discrimination issues, etc. What have you been brought up to believe about getting older? Then refute them. Do you want to continue to believe those things? Heck no.

Start thinking about how great you are, how good your memory is and how well you do things. Think about how people look up to you and come to you for information and advice. Think about those that love you and depend on you.  Get yourself some good momentum going about your youthful feeling and thoughts.

You are as young as you feel AND think! It’s all about vibrations remember.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1 Make this week “FASCINATING” instead of “FRUSTRATING”.

I have to admit this is not my original idea. I read an email from someone about this a few weeks ago. This guy recommended substituting the word “fascinating” every time the word “frustrating” came into your mind or out of your mouth.  I’ve tried it and boy it really does make a difference in my vibration. I’ve even used it to substitute for other words that aren’t on the vibrational plane I want to be on.

Just try it this week. When you say “I’m so frustrated by this project (or by Joe Blow or this job or whatever)”, stop for a second and consciously say “I’m so fascinated by this project (or whatever)”. Let that sink in and see how you feel. Give it a few moments to permeate and spread throughout. I think you’ll be surprised at what a difference it will make in how you feel. I bet you’ll even smile and whisper to yourself “wow, that does feel different”.

I also bet that when you do this a few times you will actually start finding solutions to problems or issues that have been bugging you. Remember that the vibration of a problem is different than the vibration of a solution and once you’ve changed your vibration from frustration to fascination, you’re on a much higher plane and it will surprise you how much more of the world and ideas open up to you. It’s like looking at the world from the base of a mountain compared to looking out once you’ve reached the summit!

See what other words you can come up with that you can easily substitute but just for this week, let’s focus on making our world much more fascinating.

 

You up for this? Let me know what happens.

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Terrie

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Name That Fear: 5 Beliefs That Keep You Stuck

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fearWhat keeps us stuck? It’s our beliefs and fears (which are based in beliefs).

Consider these 5 fears that often paralyze us:

  1. Fear of Rejection
  2. Fear of Dying (or having a bad illness)
  3. Fear of Disappointment
  4. Fear of Being Poor (losing your money or not having enough)
  5. Fear of Being Alone

 

Fear of Rejection:

If someone is afraid that they will not be accepted by others, then they spend their life trying to figure out if what they say, wear, or do will make another person (or worse yet, personS) think good or bad of them, then they can essentially be paralyzed from doing anything. This is because it’s inevitable that whatever one person will approve of is something that another person will NOT approve of. So, what do you do? Nothing. I spent a good portion of my life altering my life and thoughts dependent on whom I was around. And when I finally realized it, I couldn’t even imagine how I operated for all that time. It was like being a yo-yo and bouncing all around. How stressful was that? Unbelievably stressful.

You have to follow your heart and do things for your own reasons, not because of others. If you’re not sure how others will react, don’t tell them.

Fear of Dying (or contracting a bad illness):

This is another fear that can paralyze someone from taking any type of action at all. Usually, the person will be so engulfed with fear that they spend all their time thinking about their death and how it’s going to happen and then they fear certain activities, knowing for sure that that one activity will bring about their death. Or they sit and think that they should do something before they die but because they are so afraid, they don’t do anything.  If if’s fear of contracting an illness, they use most of their energy examining their bodies and every sneeze or cough or other bodily function. With the advent of the internet and search engines, this has become worse. You can even find that hiccups are a symptom of cancer (which it may be in rare situations – emphasis on the word ‘rare’).

Fear of Disappointment:

This can be a fear of being disappointed or of disappointing others.

In the first instance, people don’t get intimate or even develop close friendships because they fear that they will be disappointed. Or they misinterpret another person’s actions as being something against them intentionally when it may not be that at all. This leads to sadness and unhappiness and behavior that leads to problems in that relationship (whether it’s a close one or just a working relationship). And then the person who has been disappointed, is stressed and experiencing emotions that bring them down and prevent them from pursuing their desires.

If someone has a fear of disappointing others, this is paralyzing for the same reasons as above. They don’t do anything for fear it will disappoint someone! They over analyze and then try to mind read what the other person wants them to do. Then if the other person doesn’t respond in a positive, happy way, the sense that there’s been disappointment ensues. And of course, that person is too afraid to ask what’s going on and if they have disappointed. Worse yet, based on the second person’s reaction, someone might change their behavior hoping that the new behavior will make the other happy. Another yo-yo situation. So, you either bounce around or you do nothing. Is that any way to live your life?

Fear of Being Poor:

This is related in many ways to fear of growing old and fear of dying. Many people are afraid of what’s going to happen when they get older or when they stop work because they don’t think they will have enough money to survive – or to survive in the manner to which they are accustomed.

The TV Ads make this worse because they are forever putting on advertisements telling you about how Joe is very afraid that he won’t have enough money in retirement but “OUR BANK/PLAN” will help you prevent poverty, etc.  This is one reason I don’t watch much TV. The Ads we are exposed to are horrible fear generators. That’s what they teach you in copywriting too – capitalize on the fears that people have.  And if you didn’t have them before you saw the Ads, you will afterwards.

This fear leads either to not spending anything and leading to deprivation (which like with diets, doesn’t last long) or to overspending, thinking “what the heck, if I’m going to be poor, I might as well enjoy it now.”

Remember, though, that the Law of Attraction brings to you what you are concentrating on. So, if you are paying attention to and being afraid of poverty, then that is what you will attract.

Fear of Being Alone:

This is often a consequence of the other fears and leads to further problems because if you are afraid of rejection or afraid of disappointing/being disappointed then you’re liable to stay away from people – the result – you will be alone.  Also, with the Law of Attraction – if you think about being alone, that’s what you’ll get.

What To Do?

You do not have to succumb to these fears, however. The first step is being aware that you have fears and then recognizing which ones you have.

Then, you have to clear the land, rid yourself of these fears and stop the momentum.

Try to recognize early that you’re thinking something that is about one of these fears and then try to change the momentum early in the process. Find something you can use to break momentum any time you go start to go down a road that is leading to something you don’t want (for me, it’s a running experience – either in the past or an upcoming one). Go there! Start thinking about that and feeling the way you did (or will) when you were experiencing that event. That should take your momentum in a different direction. You have to keep repeating this process but it will overcome the fears!

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Terrie

 

 

 

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What Do You Do?

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Two runners So here’s a hypothetical question but also pretty relative to most of our daily activities if we think about it.  What  do you do when someone “passes” you? You can translate that into anything that means you interpret someone as doing something better than you if it will be easier for you to think about.

It’s happened to me many times and I would feel different things depending on the situation but last week it happened and I actually thought about what was happening. I was on a night time run so it was dark and I had no idea that this guy was going to pass me (usually there aren’t that many folks out when I run). I was plodding along as I always do (many people would not even consider what I do as running). All of a sudden this tall guy passed me (going in the same direction as I was) and he seemed to be running fast (of course, my 15 year old arthritic dog would seem to run faster than me too).  As he kept moving up over the hill and disappeared from view I started to feel really “down” and depressed. Why? Because he was faster than me and it made me think about how “bad” I was. I felt incompetent, embarrassed, and stupid being out there with the “big guys” – who did I think I was trying to compete with them. I didn’t deserve to be on the same road with these talented and ‘important’ people (I don’t even know who he was but I assumed that since he passed me he was important).

But then I stopped my thoughts – not soon enough but at least I did stop them. I asked myself “what the heck just happened here? I was feeling great and happy just a few seconds ago and all of a sudden I feel like cr*p JUST BECAUSE someone passed me. What’s up with that? How can I let my mood, and possibly my actions, be so influenced by someone you don’t even know and in just a few seconds?”

Think about that. The only difference in those few seconds was that a man I didn’t even know ran past me. So what? What does that really mean? I already know I’m slow – that’s a given – the whole world knows that. So why did observing something that someone else iStock_000016008010XSmalldid change my thoughts and feelings? I know that in 1993 I started running at night because I was embarrassed and full of shame because I was heavy and slow and had no endurance. And I’m still slow and don’t have the endurance I should but gees, I did do two 100 mile events in 6 weeks this spring. Why didn’t I just hold onto that thought and be joyful in that? Or why didn’t I just keep thinking whatever it was I was thinking before he passed me? What caused me to change my thoughts, feelings and almost my actions. I was at the “you should just quit Terrie, there’s no way you can do this race in NYC” point. I should know where I am preparation wise without having someone run faster than me.

This one miniscule event and it’s subsequent reactions demonstrates how deep some of our insecurities are. And worse yet, the reliving of these thoughts and feelings can derail our current progress. Instead of being down, depressed and ashamed, I should have just been happy I was out there running and that I have the opportunity to go to New York and will do the best I can. I had the choice to feel good, bad, or no change at all. Why do we make choices to feel bad? Is it because it’s a habit? Do we think we should be humble and this is the way we feel humble? Do we not know how to feel good for very long and it’s uncomfortable? If you look at NLP and the concepts within its teaching, I should use some other event as an anchor and I can use the control panel in my mind to minimize the impact of this guy’s passing me. Remember it’s all about vibrations. I want my vibrations to be as high as possible and that’s how I’m going to make my choices. I want to feel good and I deserve to feel good AND I have the ability to change how I feel.

Think of people “passing” you and how you think  or feel. What do you do in response? When someone passes you on the highway or street, what do you think? What do you do?

When someone passes you in production at work, what do you do or think? or more importantly, what do you feel?

Take some time to think about this. Share it with us in the comment box.

Terrie

 

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Which Comes First – The Chicken or the Egg?

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chicken_or_egg_400_clr_10064No, this isn’t an early Easter post 🙂

It’s about your expectations and needs.

The question you must always answer is “Can you feel happy BEFORE you have the actual manifestation”? Hopefully the answer to this is yes!

Close your eyes and start to feel what it will be like when whatever it is you want has come into your life. Feel the joy, the happiness, the ecstasy you’ll be experiencing when it happens. Garner these feelings BEFORE you receive the manifestation.  Remember that it’s a three step process – Ask (you’ve already done that), Receive (the Universe has already created it and brought it to your door), Allow – this is the key – eliminating resistance and creating the vibration that will enable you to allow you to accept what you’ve asked for.

So many of us have resistance and so we don’t get what we want and have asked for. And as typical humans we then blame it on the Law of Attraction, simply proclaiming that “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work”.  At some point we need to take responsibility and realize that the Law of Attraction works but we have to go through the steps and “do” our own work.

We are vibrational beings and our primary moment by moment goal should be to raise our vibrations in an attempt to feel the joy that is our right.  We can feel joy without having something in front of us.

Let me give you an example. Even if you are tired of hearing about my running experiences, they help you understand what I’m talking about.  I am looking forward to the running trek across Tennessee in July. I’ve been aiming for this for almost a year now and whenever I start to feel “down” for some other reason, I always “go” there in my mind and it raises my vibration immediately. I feel happy. Do I have the experience yet? No, it’s not July and I’ve never done this event before but I can feel how I will feel in the 10 day trip. My vibration skyrockets when I do this.

But that’s not a physical manifestation, you say. True. As I was planning this post I realized that even though I have not manifested a car yet (because I haven’t made up my mind as to which one I want – we’ve talked about that before), I get great joy and pleasure out of imagining each car at the time I think I want that kind of vehicle. My mind gets off any problems or troubles and I smile and think about sitting in and driving that particular vehicle and I am happy. This feeling can last as long as you’d like. You just have to continue thinking about the feelings you’ll have.

In the health arena, imagine and then feel how you’ll react and be inside when you get the clean bill of health and the doctor tells you everything is fine. Hold on to that happy feeling – like you’re doing cartwheels. Or, if you want, envision how great you’ll feel when you feel strong and able to run or lift weights or just make it through the day with tons of energy – whatever it is you are asking for.

Do NOT entertain any “Buts” – get off your “but” and if one comes into your thoughts, then immediately say “That is not my truth” and go right back to envisioning and feeling the joy associated with receiving that gift.  Remember the 68 second process and try to hold onto that good vibration and excitement for at least 68 seconds  – simply basking in the joy of receipt.

Try it, you’ll like it and you’ll realize you don’t really need the manifestation in order to experience the happiness and other feelings that go along with the manifestation. Plus, you’ll find yourself going to various “places” in your mind and emotions during the day just to feel better!

Let me know how it’s going for you.

Terrie