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Whose Dreams Are These Anyway?

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It’s getting close to the end of 2012 and the beginning of a brand new era for you. Some might argue that it began yesterday since the world didn’t end 🙂

You should have some idea of the dreams and desires you want to work on for 2013 but these don’t need to be solidified yet…in fact, there really is nothing magical about 1 January either.

What’s more important is that you take your time and get them right.  Write them down and then sit on them. Let them marinate inside of you – allow yourself to “feel” them – are they really YOUR desires and dreams or are they those of someone else? This is the most important part of the entire process. If you’re building a truck, you have to have parts that go with a truck, not a compact car. Although those parts might enable the vehicle to work (shows how much I know about cars), it won’t work like it’s supposed to. The same with goals or desires. You might stick to a resolution for awhile if it’s for someone else, but when things get a bit rough, the desires of others are most likely the first to go. Why? Because you really are not invested in them. Some might last longer than others but the sense of satisfaction of beating the tough times is not there…there may be motivation but there won’t be inspiration. What’s the difference between motivation and inspiration? Motivation comes from an external source whereas Inspiration comes from within. You want inspiration. That will win against all odds.

Here’s the process you should be using over the next several days. Do NOT try to do this in one day. You want to experience emotion while you’re narrowing down what you want to accomplish in 2013. If you’re hurried, you’ll just want to get something down on paper to get it done. This is a formula for failure. So take your time:

  1. Start making a list (if you haven’t already). It can be long right now, that’s ok. This is a list of things you want to accomplish in 2013.  Write them down.Keep writing for as long as you can think of things. Use this as a brainstorming time. Now you may not need to go into great depth here if you already know the major desires you have (for example, I have 3 primary desires for 2013 but I have been nurturing these for a month or two now. Sure there are smaller goals and there are the mini-goals I talked about in the webinar a few weeks ago but the primary ones are fixed in my mind. But I still wrote them down!
  2. Now go do something fun. Come back to this list later.
  3. When you come back, go over your list. Next to each item write the emotion(s) you feel when you think of yourself accomplishing this. Write quickly so that you don’t censor your feelings and emotions – we’re prone to doing that.
  4. Now look over your list and pick out the top 7. The way you know they are your top 7 is to find those with the most positive words next to them – words like “joy”, “excitement”, “enthusiastic”, “exhilarated”, etc. If you didn’t have many to begin with you can pick the top 5
  5. Cross out the others.
  6. Copy these 7 to another sheet of paper – without the emotions written next to them.
  7. Go do something fun again.
  8. Number these 1 through 7 with 1 being the most important desire to achieve in 2013.
  9. Look at this piece of paper and take a deep breath.
  10. Determine whose goal each one is. Next to each item put “mine”, “someone else” (put a name if you know who it is), “not sure” or more than one.  Examples:
    • Lose weight – husband and mine
    • Stop smoking – Mom and dad
    • Get into college – Dad
    • Visit the Grand Canyon – mine
    • Have a new car – mine
  11. Cross out those that do not have a “mine” next to them. This list now may include desires that are yours as well as someone else’s.
  12. Go do something fun.
  13. Return to your list and  renumber them with 1 being YOUR primary desire/dream for 2013.
  14. Rewrite the list in the new order. The ones with “mine” next to them should be at the top of the list.
  15. For the ones that have yourself and someone else next to them,
    • try to determine how much of that desire is YOURS. Put a percentage next to it.
      • For example, “lose weight – 90% mine”.
      • It may be that your spouse’s percent is 90% too but we’re not concerned about that at this point.
      • We just want to know how much this desire is YOURS. If it’s someone else’s too, that’s great because that will add to your support.
      • But it HAS to be yours in order for you to persist toward that goal.
    • Be VERY CAREFUL here, though. Make sure it’s not your goal BECAUSE you want to please someone else.
    • If possible, leave these “multiple personality” desires OFF your list.
  16. Cross out those that do not have 90% or more next to them.
  17. Rewrite your list again. Preferably have only YOUR goals on this final list.

How many do you have on your list?

Go through them and determine if they are all realistic. Notice we’ve left this til the end because we didn’t want you to have any factors influencing you other than whose dreams they are.

If they are not realistic, cross them off the list.

You should be left with about 3 primary 2013 achievements. There should be no more than 5 however.

This is the list you’re going to be working with from now on so take your time with it.

Terrie

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Take Stock of Your Beliefs…

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As the New Year comes around, it’s time for you to take a look at your beliefs. I had a great call with one of my mentors (Rich German) yesterday and as he went through the class I realized that so much of  what has been holding me back has been my fears – or, more precisely, my thoughts that I could not do something. As he talked, I realized it was all about whatever beliefs I had been harboring deep in the recesses of my mind for all my life. These are thoughts that have been ingrained in me somehow by someone (or a group of someones) throughout my life and mostly during my early years. Parents, teachers, family (in my case it was my brother whom I idolized), clergy, friends and then eventually the media – all contributed to what I think and feel now. I thought to myself “Do I want to be a puppet?” Because that’s what I am being by simply going along and following in the footsteps of what was brainwashed into my heart, mind and soul – no matter how good the intentions were. Of course I don’t want to be a puppet. I want to achieve those things I want to achieve. And with some examination of what my beliefs are, I can remodel my thoughts, feelings and subsequent actions. Remember that a belief is just a thought you’ve been thinking for a long time. Here’s a wonderful quote from Abraham:

A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, and you have the ability—if you try even a little bit—to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story, to achieve a different vibration, to change your point of attraction. The Law of Attraction is responding to your vibration, and you can easily change your vibrational point of attraction by visualizing the lifestyle you desire and holding your attention upon those images until you begin to feel relief, which will indicate that a true vibrational shift has occurred.

— Abraham

Excerpted from the book “Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness”

 

I invite you to use the next 12 days before the New Year to take a look at your beliefs. Use your future goals/desires to figure them out. What happens when you say “I am making 50% more money than I did last year at this time”? Is there a “but” that comes after that? If so, that is where your limiting beliefs are lying. Use this technique repeatedly to figure out where those limiting thoughts lie and then make a commitment to do something about changing them. Examine your life, take inventory, what is there about your life that will actually contradict those thoughts. I bet you’ll come up with a great list and once you look at the list, you’ll go “what the heck have I been thinking all these years? Look at all I’ve accomplished”. You see, we do NOT take inventory enough. We live in the moment and do not use our experience or our past to propel us forward. Or, if we do look at the past, we’ll be looking at the negative aspects because that’s the mood we’re in at the time. Try to look at your life objectively and pick out the great things that you’ve done, received or accomplished in your life. Be grateful for the joy you have. Start this process by saying your “gratitudes” – I am thankful for….

Do not be a puppet. Join us in 2013 for  Fresh Start!

Terrie

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Processing The Tragedy in Connecticut

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 We have all been devastated to a degree by the senseless shooting of innocent children (and adults) in Connecticut.  Parents, especially, may be feeling a deep sense of fear for their own children.

Perhaps it even brings back memories for you of a time when you were terrified….maybe memories of 9/11 or Columbine or any of the other tragedies that have seemed to increase in the past few years.

How can we process this event, not contribute to the negative aspects of it and yet not appear cold to others?

First of all, I think people will think what they want to think of you no matter what you do. So why not do what’s best for you and your family?

You know I talk about vibration all the time – this is key right now. You must do everything you can to raise your vibration and this will take some doing as the news media latches on to this tragedy. I realize they have a job to do but it should NOT be 24 hours a day, saying and showing the same thing over and over again.  We all know the facts – at least 20 children and 6 adults (I might be off on the numbers) were killed by a deranged young man who simply burst into school and started shooting. Do you really need to know any more than than? If you said yes, ask yourself “why” you need to know more than that.

If you said “so I can prevent it from happening again”, you are deluding yourself. By concentrating on its occurrence and focusing so much of the country’s (and the world’s) time, emotions and energy on this crisis we are all working to bring MORE of it into our lives.

We have to work to raise our vibrations and feel love and compassion for those involved. Do anything you can (meditate, pray, hold hands, hug, whatever works for you) to get into a place of peace. As you begin to feel inner peace, you’ll also begin to radiate it outward and that is what we all want to do. The more peace and love we can radiate out toward those affected, the more good we are doing for them, rather than the “virtual rubbernecking” that we’re doing by being tied to the TV news.

Why is this so important? If you have children or are around children, remember that they know what’s going on even if you try to hide things. They read your emotions, they “know” you, they “feel” you and your thoughts, feelings and vibrations.

Do you want them to feel your fear? Of course not. You want to reassure them in any way possible. Let them know that they are safe and loved and that those in Connecticut will be taken care of, be loved and will thrive as children do – if we let them.

If you start to hover or be over protective, they will pick up on your fear. They will then start to be afraid and yet not know why.

It it NOT cold or mean or unfeeling to try to raise your vibration. Use the Rampage of Appreciation to get in a better feeling place. Use the “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” technique as well. More importantly say your “gratitudes” (use your Gratitude Journal) and show the Universe how much you appreciate what you have. NO matter how bad things seemed yesterday morning for you, I bet they appeared not so significant when you heard the news. Do anything you can to move your thoughts to the positive. Think about how resilient children are and think of examples in your own family life – that should bring smiles to your face. Write them down. Better yet, start planning 2013 and determining your plans to achieve your desires in 2013. Figure out what your desires really are. Take time to think about them and solidify them. Use this time to take an inventory of where you are and where you were last year and how far you’ve come. Do anything to focus on the positive right now. Play with your kids but don’t cling to them.

Remember NOT to tell this story over and over again. Do not engage with others who just want to revisit the same old stuff. Find a way to move off from those who have to discuss it. Change the topic, excuse yourself and slip away. Do anything to tell a positive story – even if it has to be a silent one inside your head. Also remember the invaluable phrase “That is not my truth”.

Help the vibration of the world become positive so that the magnetic energy diverted to Connecticut can be healing and loving energy, not anger or fear.

Let me know if you’ve found a way to accomplish this.

Terrie