Monthly Archives: April 2014

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1What’s on your plate for this week?

Let’s start the week off on the right vibrational set! Pick some events or categories you have this week and use this to craft your momentum swing. Start right now thinking about that thing and visualizing the result you want.

Let’s say you have  a presentation to give on Friday. Instead of scurrying around feeling anxious and nervous about whether you’ll be prepared or perform well, start by taking a few deep breaths.  Then close your eyes, picture yourself sleeping well the night before the presentation, getting dressed the day of and looking at yourself in the mirror realizing how successful you look. After that, with your eyes still closed, watch the Academy Award winning movie you’re creating. In this scene you’ll see yourself giving the most amazing presentation that anyone has ever seen. You’re watching the faces of the observers and notice how mesmerized they are. As you wrap up this perfect meeting, you are surrounded by coworkers and bosses that flock to you to congratulate you.  How do you feel when you open your eyes? Keep that feeling going by constantly replaying this movie. You are the star in that movie and it will be available to you any time you feel your momentum slipping.

Let’s say you have a doctor’s appointment this week and you’re very nervous and scared about the doctor’s visit as well as very worried about what the results of your tests will show. Again, start with the deep breaths and then close your eyes. Picture yourself standing tall as you walk into the office and everyone there treats you so wonderfully you wonder if they’ve mistaken you for someone else. But they haven’t mistaken you, they know exactly who you are and are very happy to see you and they tell you so. You notice that you’re taken into the exam room but it’s warm and not so frigid as most doctor’s offices always seem to be. They ask if you need anything and you respond that you’re fine. In the next act you see the doctor coming in to the room and you are grateful (and amazed) that you have not had to wait. In the next to last act you listen to the doctor tell you that your tests turn out fine and that you’ll respond really well to whatever she (or he) is going to give you. The last act is you expressing your gratitude both to the doctor and to the Universe for this great news. Finish up with a few more deep breaths. Repeat this movie over and over as soon as you feel some anxiety.

Then if your momentum starts to go in a direction other than the way you want, use the most valuable phrase there is – “Nothing and nobody can interfere with my prosperity, well-being and peace of mind, not even myself”. Say this over and over until you feel that spinning wheel of momentum either stop or change to the direction you desire.

It’s important to not contribute to any anxiety by telling the wrong story this week. Do NOT participate in discussions about whatever event you are going to be working on this week. If you do talk to others about it, you’ll be tempted to tell the story behind and then voice your worries and anxiety – this is human nature. But what it does is change your momentum in the direction you do NOT want it to go.

Try this all week. Make watching your movie your meditation practice this week. Let us know how it goes.

Terrie

 

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Instant Gratification vs Instant Satisfaction

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Everything nowadays has to be “instant” – happening right now. I want it and I want it yesterday! Wait? You want me to wait? Why on earth should I wait? I’ll go over here where they offer something that gives me results right this minute.

According to the dictionary:

To Satisfy is to “fulfill the desires, expectations, needs or demands”.

To Gratify is to satisfy…lol. Also “To give pleasure to by satisfying desires”

The distinction we’re making here is “instant gratification” which is often used to label the satisfactions gained by more impulsive behaviors: choosing now over tomorrow. The key parts for us here are that there are  IMPULSIVE behaviors  and choosing NOW over tomorrow.  We live in an age where everything is centered around instant gratification. When I worked in the ER, people would come in and demand antibiotics because they had a sore throat and were “sure” they had Strep (this was before the rapid strep test). Considering there are over 100 viruses that cause sore throats and one bacteria that needs antibiotics, the probability that their infection was a virus, not Strep, was very high. But people didn’t believe that. They wanted antibiotics so that they would feel better NOW. I can definitely understand wanting to feel better NOW. But I also know that the body has a process it has to go through to, not only fight the current disease, but also to create immunity for future infections. So the first part is the instant gratification part but the second is, by analogy, the satisfaction phase. Satisfaction, huh? What I mean by that is that you are comfortable knowing that are doing the right thing for your body now and for the future even if it means it might take longer for you to feel better.

Anne used to tell people that they really didn’t want the Instant Gratification part because then statements we make like yelling at your kids “Get down from there. You’ll fall and break your neck!” would come true and your kids would fall and break their neck. We don’t have enough wisdom yet or we wouldn’t make statements like that.

We come across the Instant Gratification desire when people are saying “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work” or “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me”.  There are multiple reasons people say this or believe this. Either they are not congruelaternownt between their vibrations/feelings and what they are saying they want. When they are really focusing on the problem (like “gees I don’t have enough money to pay the bills this month”) and yet saying “I am prosperous”, they are incongruent. Their focus is on the lack, the poverty feelings. That is what they feel – the anxiety and worry over how they are going to pay their bills. So, simply making an affirmation, a statement that they are prosperous, won’t do squat because it’s not really what they feel. Their vibration is in the lack mode whereas their words reflect poverty. What does the Universe pay attention to? Feelings/vibrations or words? Of course, it’s feelings/vibrations.

There is also the Law of Gestation that governs how long it takes for things to come to pass. Just like when you plant a seed, it isn’t going to be a flower the next day. AND, it won’t be a flower at the same time as another type of flower grows. Everything has to abide by the Law of Gestation.

What will help you along and make your desire come to you sooner is the Satisfaction you feel. The key thing is to believe and feel BEFORE the manifestation appears. We’ve talked about momentum and getting in a space where you can change your momentum or bring it back up after the unwanted momentum has run its course. I continue to feel so satisfied and happy when I think about and “go to” the run across Tennessee in July. In reality, though, I have no idea whether I’ll be able to complete the event given the rigors of it and I know that it will not always be a pleasant time but I’m not even thinking about those things. I’m thinking about getting to the start line and then experiencing the joy that experiencing it is going to bring me. That will change my momentum in a heartbeat. It’s still months away but it gives me such satisfaction to think and feel about it. If I were concentrating on Instant Gratification, I would only feel good about my most current run or training run or how work went yesterday.  And most likely I’d be depressed because those things are over and done and those who need instant gratification need to have something happening RIGHT NOW.

Once you can go to the feeling of having the manifestation before it’s here, you’ll have the primary process conquered. It’s faith but based on knowledge of the laws of the Universe.

Go for the Satisfaction and put the Instant Gratification on the shelf for awhile and see what happens.

Let us know how it goes.

Terrie

 

 

 

 

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Name That Fear: 5 Beliefs That Keep You Stuck

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fearWhat keeps us stuck? It’s our beliefs and fears (which are based in beliefs).

Consider these 5 fears that often paralyze us:

  1. Fear of Rejection
  2. Fear of Dying (or having a bad illness)
  3. Fear of Disappointment
  4. Fear of Being Poor (losing your money or not having enough)
  5. Fear of Being Alone

 

Fear of Rejection:

If someone is afraid that they will not be accepted by others, then they spend their life trying to figure out if what they say, wear, or do will make another person (or worse yet, personS) think good or bad of them, then they can essentially be paralyzed from doing anything. This is because it’s inevitable that whatever one person will approve of is something that another person will NOT approve of. So, what do you do? Nothing. I spent a good portion of my life altering my life and thoughts dependent on whom I was around. And when I finally realized it, I couldn’t even imagine how I operated for all that time. It was like being a yo-yo and bouncing all around. How stressful was that? Unbelievably stressful.

You have to follow your heart and do things for your own reasons, not because of others. If you’re not sure how others will react, don’t tell them.

Fear of Dying (or contracting a bad illness):

This is another fear that can paralyze someone from taking any type of action at all. Usually, the person will be so engulfed with fear that they spend all their time thinking about their death and how it’s going to happen and then they fear certain activities, knowing for sure that that one activity will bring about their death. Or they sit and think that they should do something before they die but because they are so afraid, they don’t do anything.  If if’s fear of contracting an illness, they use most of their energy examining their bodies and every sneeze or cough or other bodily function. With the advent of the internet and search engines, this has become worse. You can even find that hiccups are a symptom of cancer (which it may be in rare situations – emphasis on the word ‘rare’).

Fear of Disappointment:

This can be a fear of being disappointed or of disappointing others.

In the first instance, people don’t get intimate or even develop close friendships because they fear that they will be disappointed. Or they misinterpret another person’s actions as being something against them intentionally when it may not be that at all. This leads to sadness and unhappiness and behavior that leads to problems in that relationship (whether it’s a close one or just a working relationship). And then the person who has been disappointed, is stressed and experiencing emotions that bring them down and prevent them from pursuing their desires.

If someone has a fear of disappointing others, this is paralyzing for the same reasons as above. They don’t do anything for fear it will disappoint someone! They over analyze and then try to mind read what the other person wants them to do. Then if the other person doesn’t respond in a positive, happy way, the sense that there’s been disappointment ensues. And of course, that person is too afraid to ask what’s going on and if they have disappointed. Worse yet, based on the second person’s reaction, someone might change their behavior hoping that the new behavior will make the other happy. Another yo-yo situation. So, you either bounce around or you do nothing. Is that any way to live your life?

Fear of Being Poor:

This is related in many ways to fear of growing old and fear of dying. Many people are afraid of what’s going to happen when they get older or when they stop work because they don’t think they will have enough money to survive – or to survive in the manner to which they are accustomed.

The TV Ads make this worse because they are forever putting on advertisements telling you about how Joe is very afraid that he won’t have enough money in retirement but “OUR BANK/PLAN” will help you prevent poverty, etc.  This is one reason I don’t watch much TV. The Ads we are exposed to are horrible fear generators. That’s what they teach you in copywriting too – capitalize on the fears that people have.  And if you didn’t have them before you saw the Ads, you will afterwards.

This fear leads either to not spending anything and leading to deprivation (which like with diets, doesn’t last long) or to overspending, thinking “what the heck, if I’m going to be poor, I might as well enjoy it now.”

Remember, though, that the Law of Attraction brings to you what you are concentrating on. So, if you are paying attention to and being afraid of poverty, then that is what you will attract.

Fear of Being Alone:

This is often a consequence of the other fears and leads to further problems because if you are afraid of rejection or afraid of disappointing/being disappointed then you’re liable to stay away from people – the result – you will be alone.  Also, with the Law of Attraction – if you think about being alone, that’s what you’ll get.

What To Do?

You do not have to succumb to these fears, however. The first step is being aware that you have fears and then recognizing which ones you have.

Then, you have to clear the land, rid yourself of these fears and stop the momentum.

Try to recognize early that you’re thinking something that is about one of these fears and then try to change the momentum early in the process. Find something you can use to break momentum any time you go start to go down a road that is leading to something you don’t want (for me, it’s a running experience – either in the past or an upcoming one). Go there! Start thinking about that and feeling the way you did (or will) when you were experiencing that event. That should take your momentum in a different direction. You have to keep repeating this process but it will overcome the fears!

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Terrie

 

 

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1Yesterday was Easter and since most people are busy on that day, I saved my “Easter Message” til today – very fitting, too, because it’s all about Momentum!

A good friend reminded me last week that Easter is about New Beginnings and that was a great thought for me given the last 5-6 weeks. So I thought that everyone could benefit from thinking about what their new beginning was going to be and also how to start your new beginning. Everyone always thinks of Christmas or the New Year as the time to make resolutions and therefore a “New Beginning”.  But, we can actually make a new start, another “beginning” at any time.

One of the problems, though, is identifying what it is you want to change. In other words, identify where your momentum is right now and where you want it to be.  That’s the easy part. After that you might look at triggers and beliefs and what your feelings/vibrations are right now.

What is it that’s bothering you right now (if anything)? If everything is going as you like it in your life and you don’t want to change anything, that’s great and you just need to keep that momentum going – keep telling that story and build on it.

But, if there are things you’d like to change (even if they aren’t “bad”), then this is the time to examine them and start changing your story. In reality all you need to do is stop telling the old story and start telling the story you want to be happening in your life. You can do this even if it seems foreign to you because it hasn’t happened yet. The more you tell that story and visualize the results you want, the greater likelihood that you will ultimately change your vibration which is essential for you to achieve what you want. It isn’t enough to just say you want something all the while you’re still focusing on the things you don’t want. That’s why telling the wanted story and visualizing your successes is so vital. You have to have the feeling of success and achievement permeate your being so that your vibrations do match your desire. If you want well being and health, you can’t keep saying “I want to be pain-free” or “I want to breathe better” or “I want my joints to stop hurting” or “I want to be healed”. All of those phrases are focusing on what you have now which is what you do NOT want. But the fact that you are focusing on the pain, the trouble breathing, etc, means that you will get more of that. Even saying “I want to be healed” means you are still focusing on being ill (or else you wouldn’t need to be healed, right?).

Instead, you would say things like “my joints move with such fluidity and carry me everywhere I wish to go”, “I breathe easily and deeply”,  “I am whole and healthy and my body can do anything I ask of it.” Visualize what each of your phrases square_onemeans to you. Use the 68 second process too. Talk to yourself or a loved one/friend for 68 seconds about how great you feel when you have these things.  If you’re a runner and your knees are hurting, say things like “I run miles and miles and miles and feel so free and happy. I am ecstatic with my speed and endurance. I love to run and it brings me nothing but pleasure. I am running in the Boston Marathon. I am completing my 100 mile run……etc.” Notice I did not mention anything about knees or pain or anything other than the joy I was experiencing. If you talked at all about your knees, it would bring you back to the pain in your knees.

Once you’ve identified the things that you want to change (health, work, relationships, etc), list each one on a piece of paper (or in your computer), then write down what you are feeling about that thing – are you feeling resentment, anger, fear, embarrassment or shame, disappointment, despair, etc. List them all.

Then beneath that list, write down the beliefs you have about that thing – do you believe you aren’t good enough to get another job, that all men (or women) cheat on their spouse,  that all the good men (or women) are already taken, that you can’t get any more income because you have a salary job, etc. What have you “decided” about this area of your life? Remember that a belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over again. So, if you’ve experienced similar results from certain activities in the past, you most likely have developed/created certain beliefs surrounding that activity. This is vital to identify because you most likely don’t even know you created or have that belief since it’s now embedded in your subconscious.

Once you have this table/list, you can look at it and start writing on another piece of paper what it is you want to believe and experience.

Then start talking about those things. Stop yourself when you find yourself telling your old story. Enlist the help of a friend to keep you from telling your story too. We often feel we have to tell everyone how we got to a certain point – often in excruciating detail. Yet, all that does is turn your momentum downward toward the thing you’re trying to change. No one needs to know all that history. You really can rewrite your legacy based on the story you tell. So from now on just tell the story that’s going to make your momentum fly you high and keep it going.

Good luck with your list and your new beginning. If you commit to doing this and especially changing your story telling techniques, you will change your life!

Terrie

 

 

 

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Fire Your Autopilot and Grab Control of Your Life

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riding_the_winds_400_clr_13990It’s time to take back control of your own life!

“Huh”?  you say. I live in the United States – of course I’m in control of my life…..”aren’t I”?

Have you ever wondered “Why the heck did I do (or say) that? I would never say that (or do that). What was I thinking?” Or, perhaps, you react to something without even thinking about it. And then wonder where that came from.  Here’s something to do for fun (and profit actually). Spend a day or two and write down your reactions and thoughts about things as the day goes on.  I’ll give you an example. We were having an email dialogue with the people at our headquarters the other day. My “roommate” (office mate) sent a great email. Well, the last email that came from the boss said “Let’s do it and end the debate”. My roommate interpreted that as the boss being mad at his last email. When I read it (and another colleague thought the same thing) I immediately thought the boss was telling someone else to just “let it go”.  See how my roommate responded (reacted) to what he read and felt he had done something wrong.  That’s just a tiny example but I imagine if you look at your day AND take the time to write your observations and thoughts down, you’ll see very similar patterns in yourself. They could be bigger than this or even smaller.

What’s happening is that you have all these beliefs embedded in you from your prior experience – your growing up and even now. If we are not paying attention to what’s going into our conscious and subconscious, then things slip in without anyone acting as the gatekeeper.  Then we perpetuate it and continue onward thinking and reacting in the same way over and over again – it becomes a habit and then a way of life.

You don’t want your autopilot (other people’s thoughts and ideas) running your life. Yet, that is what is happening when we’re not attentive to what’s going on with this autopilot. Are your beliefs really yours? Are your reactions yours?

Paying attention and writing your observations down will help you recognize thoughts and actions you don’t want to embrace. Once you notice them, you’ll have begun to identify beliefs that are not your own and beliefs you don’t wish to continue to claim as yours. That is the very first step and is the hardest and most important one.

After this identification, you’ll want to list the beliefs you WANT to choose to replace these.

This part will not happen overnight. Most of those beliefs are long standing – they’ve been ingrained in you since childhood and put there by your parents. So you combine the authority figure feature with the amount of time you’ve had that as a part of your subconscious, you’ll simply set yourself up for failure if you expect to change it in one attempt.

Start by claiming “That is not my truth” every time you start to think something that is uncomfortable for you (a clue that it might not really be your belief) or that you’re uncertain about (another clue). An example is the way that everyone falls into the trap of thinking “flu season is just around the corner” because the TV and radio ads are out there in abundance selling cold and flu products. So we mindlessly accept that there’s a high probability that we’ll get sick in the next month. And when we do, we just accept it as the expected outcome of life. If you start by saying “that is not my truth. I do NOT get sick in the winter time and I do not believe in a flu season”, you’ll start to remove that belief from your subconscious. You also should add “I am healthy all year round” to replace the one belief with one you want to embrace.

There are more techniques but this is the primary way to start.

Terrie