Monthly Archives: May 2015

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What Are You Resisting?

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what-are-you-resistingLast time we talked about acceptance and resistance and how it’s much better for you to just accept whatever has happened and then decide to change what will happen.

It’s important for you to take a few moments to try to figure out what you are resisting. Then you can see the effects of that resistance on your life – your inner feelings. Here’s an example. At work, we’re having issues with our higher headquarters not really including us in what’s going on or in plans for various things. This is mostly due to geography. You know, out of sight, out of mind type thing. Some of what’s being changed involves a project I’ve been involved in since 2009. I am one of three people who really know the background of this thing and have intimate knowledge. Therefore, being left out really bothers me. But you know what? For me to just be upset and angry about being left out only brings more situations to be angry about and get me more riled up inside. It will do NOTHING to create a positive resolution to the problem. In fact, given the way the Law of Attraction works, it will simply bring more situations that we are left out of.  No good will come of my continuing to obsess or be disturbed by this.

Even 8 months ago or maybe even 6 months ago I would still have “fought” this. Of course, there is nothing to “fight” because I have no control over what headquarters does nor do I have much influence over them. But I’m not sure I would have realized that. Now, I just think about it and realize that whatever is going to happen, will. I know that I am available to assist but I also know that my life and self-worth does NOT depend on being included in their plans. I feel so much more relaxed and work is just as enjoyable as always because I can leave problems at HQ where they are – at HQ – far away from us. Why let it bother me and ruin my day?

You’ve heard this expressed differently when people tell you that your being upset is only bothering you, not the other person. Why make your day miserable when they aren’t even thinking about what they said or did to you any more? That is so true.

So how do you find out what you’re resisting? You can feel it inside. Those things you feel anxiety and tension about are those that you are resisting. Pretty simple huh? Go through the events/situations occurring in your life (either currently or even in the past because they may still be active in your mind) and see what makes you feel any sense of anxiety or stress.  Write them down because this is what you are resisting!

Make a list and later you’ll be able to see what is causing that churning inside of you.  Once you look this list over, you might decide it’s time to relax a bit and change how you feel about things. It will make a great difference in your life.

Try it, you’ll like it.

Terrie

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Acceptance or Resistance

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acceptance v resistanceNo, you can’t add the intermediate “uncertainty” because that’s not really an intermediate – it’s a form of resistance.

When talking about Universal Law and when talking about life in general, you are either accepting something or resisting it.  Life goes much better for you when you accept things. Even if it’s a less than desirable “item” it’s best to accept it. Then you can change it to whatever you want.

Awareness and recognition are such important qualities when it comes to this topic. If you are aware that you are resisting something, you can then make a decision to change that state (the state of resistance). Once you recognize what it is you are  REALLY resisting, then that makes the change so much easier.  Sounds complicated but the two do build on one another. Although you can be aware that you are resisting something and not know exactly what it is, usually the act of becoming aware is like turning your flashlight on low beam. You can begin to see some sort of outline and begin to identify the object.

Once you have a bit of light on the subject, it’s amazing how quickly definition and subsequent recognition follow. If you think about your own past experiences, you know that some definition even if not complete can lead you to identifying what something is. If it has the outline and positioning of a couch, you know that it probably is a couch. Sure, you may not know exactly what color or style it is, but you know what it is and what it’s for. That’s the kind of recognition we’re after here. Specifics will naturally follow since you’ll be adding more light as you pay more attention to the subject.

Acceptance of where you are and where you’ve been led is vital because acceptance will then decrease the amount of stress in your life. Even when there is a bad situation such as an illness or financial crisis, your stress level will decrease once you accept it. Most of the time we have a great deal of stress because we don’t know what’s going on or what we’re going to be able to do about it. However, if you sit back, take a deep breath and accept that it (the situation) is here in your life, then you can relax a bit. Once you tell yourself “ok, I am having this problem – that’s a fact. I accept it. Now I shall go about dealing with it and changing the outcome using the Law of Attraction.” No one is saying that acceptance means you’re happy about the situation. Sometimes I think people feel I’m saying that. It’s simply an expression of fact. Sometimes just the act of acceptance will even ease the situation. If you continue to worry about what a particular symptom (or situation) means, then you attract more of the same and things feel worse and then get worse. Take a sore throat for example. If you continue to worry about that sore throat and then find the swollen glands in your neck and worry about them, then you are liable to jump to the next conclusion – that you have a cancer of the lymph nodes. This is even worse if your best friend is Google.

If you, instead, simply say “I have a sore throat. I will either wait a few days to see if it gets better or I’ll call a doctor and I’ll get better soon.”, you’ve stated a fact (you have a sore throat) and you’ve listed two decisions you can choose from (wait or call the doctor). You’ve also made another decision (that you’ll get better).  You’ve moved forward out of the worry spin cycle and are into the positive action mode. In a few days if you’re still having a sore throat, you don’t get panicky because that was a choice you made recognizing that you might or might not get better and low and behold you have NOT gotten better so you now will call the doctor. There’s no going round and round about having cancer or some other immune disorder or ebola or something else weird. You’ve remained calm throughout all of this. No one is saying that you’ve felt ok because the fact is you still have a sore throat. But, you have remained calm and been able to stay alert and focused in the positive direction of decision making. In so doing, you’ve worked the Law of Attraction to your benefit and your emotional agony is minimized. When you clear yourself of as much emotional excess as possible, your thinking process is much clearer. I don’t want to go into this today but EFT is a phenomenal way to help clear that emotional excess or baggage.

All I ask is for you to stop each time something happens and ask if you are accepting it or resisting it. Just doing that will lead you along the rest of the path now that you’ve been exposed to it. See how your outlook changes when you do this. See how your life changes too.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“You might say, “How do I know if I’m in a receiving mode or not?” And we say, you always feel good when you’re in a receiving mode. When someone offers you a compliment, do you receive it, or do you sort of just shrug it off? There’s something about believing that you must justify your existence through your effort or through your perseverance, through your struggle. And many of you just have not practiced the receiving mode.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Spokane, WA on May 19, 2001]

This is great! How do you feel? Remember that it’s all about feelings. I was definitely in the receiving mode a few weeks ago when I received many compliments about my presentation. In fact, there were more compliments than I had ever had…..and I know that it was because I was calm and very open to accepting them. Usually I do as Abraham says “just shrug them off”. But I was very receptive at that time and as a result, more and more of the compliments flowed in.

Allow yourself to bask in your success – whether it’s your success in accomplishing something specific or a success in allowing the Universe to deliver what you ask for. If you leave your doorstep uncluttered and have your address clearly marked on the street and mailbox, you’ll receive all the packages you’ve ordered very easily. The delivery person (the Universe) does not have to search and search and cut through shrubs or other obstacles to deliver your order. Mark the way clearly and see how everything you ask for comes quickly.

This works not just with compliments but with everything you “order” from the Universe. Once you’ve placed your order (told the Universe exactly what you want), sit back and rejoice in having it even if it hasn’t arrived at your door yet. Feel (and act) as if you have it in your possession. This feeling is often more pleasant and energy producing than actually having it in your hands. Have you ever anticipated something so much and for so long that you feel as if you’re on top of the world – even though it hasn’t come to you yet? That’s being in the receiving mode. Just relaxing and letting things come to you, knowing that you’re cradled in the protective arms of the Universe; knowing that your every wish really does come true. You just need to be sure you know what you are wishing for because the Universe delivers what you focus on. So focus on the wonderful things you want.

Be in the receiving mode all the time if you can! It will make a big difference in your life. Just know that whatever is coming to you is what you deserve so sit back and simply say “thank you”.

Terrie

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How The Most Important People In Your Life Have Ruled It

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people-influencing1We all like to think that we are autonomous and have some semblance of control over our lives. But, in actuality we do not have as much control over our lives as we think. No matter how old you are, you are carrying a great deal of baggage with us. And we don’t even know it. That’s the difficult part.

Why does this happen? Because we are so influenced as a child and as we grow up. We believe pretty much everything that people tell us because we don’t know any better. By the time we do know better, our beliefs have been so ingrained in us that we don’t even recognize that the choices aren’t ours.

If we’re not open to exploring where our beliefs and thoughts came from, then we’re stuck with what was taught us in our growing years. You have to be able to look at your beliefs and say “whoa, maybe that’s not true…let me check it out.” I think this pattern is how racism and other forms of discrimination are perpetuated. I think we are taught that certain colors, genders, behaviors etc are “good” or “bad” and since the people we respected and relied upon when growing up told us these things, they must be true, right? It’s not easy to question things that you have believed for decades. That’s hard, and often times it hurts too. Especially when you realize that the people you respected and loved might have been wrong about something. But, in order to grow we have to do it. We have to be willing to experience uncertainty and fear and the unknown in order to grow. If we stay in our little cocoons, then we don’t grow or change and life will just continue to pass us by.

When you think about this concept, it’s a bit easier to look at the “mass consciousness” and see how that works. So many things have changed throughout the years because people have been willing to question what they were taught. This happens in nutrition and science all the time. When I was growing up, you had to balance your food using the word “starch” – you never hear that now. Then you have the controversy about which type of diet is the best for you. Are eggs good or bad? Is meat good or bad? Should you worry about your cholesterol or not?

Medicine has changed because people have been willing to challenge and question beliefs. That’s how infections were discovered and subsequently dealt with.  Cancer treatments and theories have changed throughout the years. If people just accepted what they were told, then there would be no research and no improvements in treatments.

How can you examine your beliefs and your thoughts and see what it is you need to (or want to change – maybe you won’t want to change things but at least you should examine them)?

Take some time to think about your life and your experiences and even browse the news websites and see what items get your emotions going. If you can read a title of something and not get emotional or charged, then you probably don’t have an issue with that concept or belief. But if you hit something that really gets you going, then you might benefit from looking at what you believe and then, more importantly, why. A good example is all the articles and discussions about police brutality. What is it that you believe about the police? About demonstrators? And then answer where you got those ideas?

Do the same about wars and about weight and about publicity or models or actors. Or anything you see around you. What do you think about various races or even gender identity? Do “Gay Pride” parades bother you or what? Go to TED.com and look at the titles of the presentations. Do they generate any emotions? What do you think about athletes making so much money? Actors making so much money? What does that tell you about your beliefs about wealth? You have to go further than just ‘that makes me mad” – what is it about that thing that does make you mad? Is it that you feel you’ve worked very hard all your life and you “deserve” to make more money and yet these athletes just run around a court or a field and make more money than “they’re worth”? Are these the thoughts that go through your head? Write them down as they come. Examine them later.  But do examine them!

Take a few days to start this process and see what happens. Any time you react to anything, you know there is a belief somewhere in there.

Terrie

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Why Your Worst Deeds Don’t Define Your Life

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I thought this was a very profound TED talk. It made me think about how people can change and how we really should be willing to give people (whether in jail or not) more than one chance to redeem themselves. After all, who died and made us God that we can judge someone forever and not think that they might change.

Wouldn’t you want someone to give you a second chance in life if you did something “wrong” but then realized it. We all have been young and done stupid things – some more stupid than others. But as we grow, we change and we become more mature (eventually anyway). Do you think we should be evaluated just based on the stupid thing we did years ago? Of course not. That’s what life is all about…change.

This man talks about acknowledgment, apologizing and atonement. I think he’s more mature than most of us and has endured more than we will in our entire life.  We can be better people by learning from the tough times others experience.

If you like this, there is another profound video on the TED talks about women Lifers and it almost made me cry at the misfortune some of them have endured for over 30 or in some cases 40 years – being in prison for that long is just unimaginable to me.

Let us learn from others.

Terrie