This is great. Go ahead. Try something, anything, just as long as it’s new for 30 days. Start small but start. Then do something else new for the next 30 days and so on. See if you can do it and more importantly, see if it makes a difference either in your life or in your outlook on life!
Terrie
This sounds funny doesn’t it? You wonder how you can possibly be forced into patience. I would have wondered that too before 6 March 2015 when I had my surgery. Since then, however, I have been forced to wait for things that before I would have pushed for and tried to rush. Like many of us, I always wanted things “my way”.
Since my surgery I have learned that you can’t always have things your way. This goes along with all that we’ve been discussing about acceptance vs resistance. Had I not accepted this fact, I would be back in the same situation I was before the surgery and would probably need more of the same. I am NOT going there if I can do anything to help it.
It’s interesting, though, that this “forced” or “imposed” patience has extended to other aspects of my life. For instance, my running. I tried to push back into it and I think it was too soon but then I ended up with the heel problem which forced me to stay off that foot for another week. Of course, I was panicking about a) not being able to get ready in time for my big event in July followed by the concern about b) whether this was a sign I was never going to be able to run again. My knees were hurting even before my ankle and I had absolutely no endurance. Nothing was going right. But then I was forced into abstaining again.
When my ankle felt better enough for me to be able to run, things were a whole lot better. But you know what? This time I decided to just take it easy and do what I could and try to enjoy the running. After all, why do it if you don’t enjoy it. A good friend of mine reminded me of that when I had an unmotivated period a year ago. She told me to just go out and have fun. So that’s what I tried to do this time and decided that whatever happens about July happens. It’s sure not the end of the world in any way, shape or form. It worked.
I’ve also applied this same concept in almost every other part of my life including work which might possibly be the hardest. As such, I have to tell you that having this surgery and having to learn to deal with the complications has been the most valuable thing that has happened to me in such a long time.
Is there something that the Universe is trying to force you to be patient about? If so, why not listen?
Terrie
“You have the ability to pivot under any and all conditions. But most of you are habitual in nature, and your patterns are so well entrenched that at times the fastest path to the joy you seek is for you to take your pivot as you sleep. By reaching for good-feeling thoughts before you go to sleep and then experiencing the benefit of the quiet mind that occurs while you sleep—and then upon awakening, immediately turning to good-feeling thoughts—you can accomplish the ultimate Pivoting experience.”
~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008]
Pivoting is a cool technique to cultivate. It’s turning your feelings around. When you’re feeling sad, you find things to think about that will make you happy. With intention and practice this can make your day absolutely wonderful. But, as Abraham says, we are such creatures of habit that we tend to stay in the one mood and often spiral even more downward. That tends to be what makes us “happy” – to stay where we are. Even though we profess to not like being in that unhappy state, we don’t seem to want to do anything to change it. Some of that I think is our victimization behavior. We think that it’s the external world that has made us unhappy at that moment and therefore we have no control and it’s the external world that will have to make us happy again. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. The external world doesn’t make us unhappy. We interpret events around us and internalize them and use our emotions to determine whether we feel happy, unhappy or even just neutral (it doesn’t affect us at all). It’s not the world that makes us feel a certain way. It’s the way we interpret things based on our previous experiences.
Since Abraham recognizes that we’re such creatures of habit, he discusses how to get the joy you want. At night, just before going to sleep, you reach for those better feeling thoughts (what I call the “Kodak Moments”) and focus on them as you drift off to sleep. This will work on your spirit and mind while you sleep all night and provide you the joy you seek.
Try this for a week every night and see how you feel in the morning!
Terrie
Last time we talked about acceptance and resistance and how it’s much better for you to just accept whatever has happened and then decide to change what will happen.
It’s important for you to take a few moments to try to figure out what you are resisting. Then you can see the effects of that resistance on your life – your inner feelings. Here’s an example. At work, we’re having issues with our higher headquarters not really including us in what’s going on or in plans for various things. This is mostly due to geography. You know, out of sight, out of mind type thing. Some of what’s being changed involves a project I’ve been involved in since 2009. I am one of three people who really know the background of this thing and have intimate knowledge. Therefore, being left out really bothers me. But you know what? For me to just be upset and angry about being left out only brings more situations to be angry about and get me more riled up inside. It will do NOTHING to create a positive resolution to the problem. In fact, given the way the Law of Attraction works, it will simply bring more situations that we are left out of. No good will come of my continuing to obsess or be disturbed by this.
Even 8 months ago or maybe even 6 months ago I would still have “fought” this. Of course, there is nothing to “fight” because I have no control over what headquarters does nor do I have much influence over them. But I’m not sure I would have realized that. Now, I just think about it and realize that whatever is going to happen, will. I know that I am available to assist but I also know that my life and self-worth does NOT depend on being included in their plans. I feel so much more relaxed and work is just as enjoyable as always because I can leave problems at HQ where they are – at HQ – far away from us. Why let it bother me and ruin my day?
You’ve heard this expressed differently when people tell you that your being upset is only bothering you, not the other person. Why make your day miserable when they aren’t even thinking about what they said or did to you any more? That is so true.
So how do you find out what you’re resisting? You can feel it inside. Those things you feel anxiety and tension about are those that you are resisting. Pretty simple huh? Go through the events/situations occurring in your life (either currently or even in the past because they may still be active in your mind) and see what makes you feel any sense of anxiety or stress. Write them down because this is what you are resisting!
Make a list and later you’ll be able to see what is causing that churning inside of you. Once you look this list over, you might decide it’s time to relax a bit and change how you feel about things. It will make a great difference in your life.
Try it, you’ll like it.
Terrie
No, you can’t add the intermediate “uncertainty” because that’s not really an intermediate – it’s a form of resistance.
When talking about Universal Law and when talking about life in general, you are either accepting something or resisting it. Life goes much better for you when you accept things. Even if it’s a less than desirable “item” it’s best to accept it. Then you can change it to whatever you want.
Awareness and recognition are such important qualities when it comes to this topic. If you are aware that you are resisting something, you can then make a decision to change that state (the state of resistance). Once you recognize what it is you are REALLY resisting, then that makes the change so much easier. Sounds complicated but the two do build on one another. Although you can be aware that you are resisting something and not know exactly what it is, usually the act of becoming aware is like turning your flashlight on low beam. You can begin to see some sort of outline and begin to identify the object.
Once you have a bit of light on the subject, it’s amazing how quickly definition and subsequent recognition follow. If you think about your own past experiences, you know that some definition even if not complete can lead you to identifying what something is. If it has the outline and positioning of a couch, you know that it probably is a couch. Sure, you may not know exactly what color or style it is, but you know what it is and what it’s for. That’s the kind of recognition we’re after here. Specifics will naturally follow since you’ll be adding more light as you pay more attention to the subject.
Acceptance of where you are and where you’ve been led is vital because acceptance will then decrease the amount of stress in your life. Even when there is a bad situation such as an illness or financial crisis, your stress level will decrease once you accept it. Most of the time we have a great deal of stress because we don’t know what’s going on or what we’re going to be able to do about it. However, if you sit back, take a deep breath and accept that it (the situation) is here in your life, then you can relax a bit. Once you tell yourself “ok, I am having this problem – that’s a fact. I accept it. Now I shall go about dealing with it and changing the outcome using the Law of Attraction.” No one is saying that acceptance means you’re happy about the situation. Sometimes I think people feel I’m saying that. It’s simply an expression of fact. Sometimes just the act of acceptance will even ease the situation. If you continue to worry about what a particular symptom (or situation) means, then you attract more of the same and things feel worse and then get worse. Take a sore throat for example. If you continue to worry about that sore throat and then find the swollen glands in your neck and worry about them, then you are liable to jump to the next conclusion – that you have a cancer of the lymph nodes. This is even worse if your best friend is Google.
If you, instead, simply say “I have a sore throat. I will either wait a few days to see if it gets better or I’ll call a doctor and I’ll get better soon.”, you’ve stated a fact (you have a sore throat) and you’ve listed two decisions you can choose from (wait or call the doctor). You’ve also made another decision (that you’ll get better). You’ve moved forward out of the worry spin cycle and are into the positive action mode. In a few days if you’re still having a sore throat, you don’t get panicky because that was a choice you made recognizing that you might or might not get better and low and behold you have NOT gotten better so you now will call the doctor. There’s no going round and round about having cancer or some other immune disorder or ebola or something else weird. You’ve remained calm throughout all of this. No one is saying that you’ve felt ok because the fact is you still have a sore throat. But, you have remained calm and been able to stay alert and focused in the positive direction of decision making. In so doing, you’ve worked the Law of Attraction to your benefit and your emotional agony is minimized. When you clear yourself of as much emotional excess as possible, your thinking process is much clearer. I don’t want to go into this today but EFT is a phenomenal way to help clear that emotional excess or baggage.
All I ask is for you to stop each time something happens and ask if you are accepting it or resisting it. Just doing that will lead you along the rest of the path now that you’ve been exposed to it. See how your outlook changes when you do this. See how your life changes too.
Terrie