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Dr. Terrie Wurzbacher

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Show A Little Love – EVERY DAY!

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jackie2I am learning so much about love in the past few days. Unconditional love and living up to your standards no matter what other people do or say about you. It’s been a very painful and educational experience for the past 6 days. I have learned that people are not always who they appear to be on the surface and that you have to look deep and keep your eyes peeled in order to see the clues. Otherwise they will be very deceptive and manipulative and you’ll find that you’ve been used and you won’t even know it. If this weren’t a “family” blog we could make another kind of reference that starts with “slam bam…..” but you get my drift. I have been blind to all the clues that were right there in front of me and I have allowed myself to be manipulated so much in the past week that it’s cost me a thousand dollars. But, I did live up to my standards and as Dan told me yesterday, no one can take that away from me, no matter how hard they try to hurt me or my friends.

I have learned alot about true friendship too and that’s the valuable part. I have strengthened some friendships in this time of trial as well. So I must consider myself blessed. You have to show love to people and be supportive.

But you can show love in other ways and should every day. My little girl, Jackie, is almost 15 years old and she’s not doing well. She’s frail and has very little balance because of her hips or her back and has become increasingly incontinent. She doesn’t want to lie down anywhere except on my bed and I don’t really know what I’m going to do when she can’t get up there any more. Thank God that Steve built her sister a ramp.

But she’s still a strong willed dog and has shown me so much character in the last 4 years since her sister died. I did not expect her to live beyond a year but she’s pulled through some serious illnesses and is hanging in there. My dilemma, also in the past week, has been to know “when is it time”. So  I’ve had to ask the Universe to “show me the way”.

And although I haven’t seen the answer light up the sky about when it’s time to say goodbye, I have seen the answer and that’s to spend as much time with her as possible and show her love in whatever way I can every single day. And I think everyone should show love every single day even if it’s in a small undetected way. Dan, my trainer, showed me great love yesterday by listening and helping me get my head straight.

I’ve decided to take Jackie for a short walk once or twice a day. And you have no idea how happy she is. It’s like her head does not realize how frail her hind end is. But she’s happy to have the leash around her neck and be out there sniffing away. And you know what…if I didn’t have the leash on her, she’d start running in her bunny hop way and beat me down the road – at least for awhile.

So, if this makes her happy for at least a few moments, then it’s the thing I can do to thank her for all the joy, happiness and companionship she’s given me for the 13 years I’ve had her. She and her sister were pretty set in their ways when I got them at age 2 (like most two year olds) but I have to say that Jackie is THE BEST DOG I’ve EVER had and I”m so grateful for the opportunity to have shared this time with her.

What love are you going to show today?

Terrie

 

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Go Ahead – Take That Step

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Urban Runner What’s holding you back? When you think about taking some action, what are the very first thoughts that come into your mind?

Are they fear-based thoughts and emotions? Do you feel as if there’s a glass door in front of you but when you look at it you can’t see clearly through it and what you do see is very scary? Is it grimy and blurry? Is there a big green monster looking back at you? Does your heartbeat go up when you look at the door? Do you automatically back away without even thinking any more about going through that door?

How often during the day (and even the night) do you think about that door and what’s beyond it? You know that if you could get out there, you could get what you want and be oh, so happy. But something is holding you back…..

You haven’t even tried the door before you backed away. You don’t even know if it’s locked or not of if with the slightest pressure it will open and reveal the greatness of what is out there for you. There’s no blur or grime – nothing to stand in your way once the door is opened.

FEAR is an overpowering and overwhelming emotion that holds us back from achieving and obtaining so much of what we desire and iStock_000011322531XSmalldeserve. It’s the fear that is loading those obstacles in front of us. When we look through our FEAR-filled eyes, our vision is extremely blurred and everything does look monstrous and forboding.

What’s the answer? You just have to decide to first, try the door and see if it’s locked or not. If it’s not locked, then your journey will be so much easier. If it is locked, then you have a few more things to conquer. But right now you don’t even know whether it’s locked or not. Once you’ve decided to see if it’s locked or not, then you simply tell yourself to open the door and focus all your energy and will on putting that foot out past the door jam.

You will be amazed at what will happen. I imagine if it’s like most situations, you’ll be kicking yourself because it turned out just fine. All that you feared didn’t happen. In fact, after you’ve actually gotten out the door, you’ll soon forget what it was you were worried about. You will be totally amazed and will be wondering why the heck you didn’t try this before.

You’d think that would help you the next time but it’s no surprise that the next set of FEAR based thoughts will keep you from venturing through the other door.

Let me give you an example since you’re probably thinking “yes, this is so easy to say but not easy to do.” Believe me I know it’s not easy. I just want to help you make it easier as each situation presents itself.

As most of you know, I finished my 2nd 100 mile event about 3 weeks ago. What I don’t think I mentioned was that at mile 90 my right foot was in agonizing pain. Every step for the next 3 1/2 hours was filled with nauseating pain (the pain that is associated with “bone” pain – which to me was indicative of a stress fracture of one of the long bones in the foot). But despite wanting to cry for a good part of that time and feeling so alone and abandoned, I finished. But I was worried.

Fortunately I had an appointment on Monday with my AIRROSTI provider and felt she could help me figure out what was going on. She agreed that she thought it was a stress fracture. Of course I wanted to know if it was as soon as possible. To make a long story short, I was finally able to get an MRI and it did NOT show a stress fracture. There were some abnormalities visible but nothing to explain the type and location of my pain. Although it was sort of a relief that it wasn’t a fracture, it created more consternation because my foot still hurt and no one knew what was wrong. If it had been a stress fracture I would have known that it would be 4 weeks minimum without running but then I could start running again. Without a diagnosis it was hit or miss as to when I could run again. I was told that after 3 weeks I could try to run again..that put the ball back in my own court. I had to open that door!

So much of FEAR is based on the UNKNOWN. I guess it’s why so many are afraid of the dark and why things always seem worse at night or when the lights go out. When you can’t “see” very far in front of you, your old programming takes over and your imagination goes wild. Your heart rate speeds up, your breathing rate increases, and your anxiety level maxes out. It’s a very similar reaction to our “Fight or Flight” survival physiology. We FEAR the UNKNOWN and want to run away from it rather than standing tall and facing it. In some instances that may still be appropriate but our intellect tells us that we should assess our situation before we decide the response. Or we could even say “ok, I don’t mind initially responding with flight, but when I’ve gotten a bit away, I’ll stop and reassess everything and see if further flight is warranted or if this is something I can handle”. I did the right thing because I shut my body down from running to allow whatever it was to heal. But I didn’t know how long that was going to be. The UNKNOWN consisted of not knowing whether it was going to be healed enough that it wouldn’t hurt; of not knowing if it would hurt or not; of not knowing how far I could get.

The other component of FEAR is “What if”. We are so good at creating imaginary scenarios in our mind and living them and reliving them virtually. And for some reason we always seem to go to the negative scenarios, not the positive ones. What would happen if I went out and ran on it and it hurt? What if it never gets better? What if that means I have to stop running? What if this means I can’t do the New York City Marathon this year? What if, what if, what if?

So, after we stop our flight or flight reaction and reassess what the UNKNOWN really is, then it’s time to play the “What if UP” game. This is an Abraham-Hicks process and is meant to get you to not only look at the other possibilities but also to raise your vibrations. In my case it would go like this “What if my foot doesn’t hurt? What if I can run really well and far without pain? What if I’ve given it enough time to heal? What if I feel really good when I’m out there again? What if everything is fine? What if I was worrying for nothing? And I wasted all that energy on worrying when I could have been doing something positive? That’s key – what if I was worrying for nothing? How many times have you worried about an upcoming event and then when it came along it turned out to be a great thing and one you actually enjoyed and were so glad you experienced. Do we think, then, about the worry? Probably not. But if we used it to learn a lesson about worry, that would be great!

What happened with me? I went out and ran today and was able to do 2 miles (that’s all I intended so as not to push it) without ANY pain. And almost felt normal again. Of course, all my attention was focused on my foot and “oh what was that I just felt?” But no matter how hard I tried (LOL) to make it hurt it didn’t. Now I’m prepped to go out tomorrow and run further and see what happens.

Try the “What if UP” game and see if you can raise your vibration (I guarantee this will do it) and then you’ll be able to move back to the door and reach for the handle….and then actually turn the handle and find out that it’s beautiful outside.

Terrie

 

 

 

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Law of Attraction – Rule #3 – Place Your Order Once

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rule3 This Rule is closely tied to rule #2 – remember in rule #2 I told you that you had to decide specifically what it is you want. You can’t go back and forth and back and forth and expect the Universe to know what it is you’re really asking for.

Well, Rule #3 tells us that once you’ve made up your mind (evaluating all factors but most importantly your emotions), you have to tell the Universe what it is you want. You place your order.

You don’t go into a restaurant and say “I’ll have the chicken please”. The waiter will look at you like “and…..?”

You have to tell him what kind of chicken you want. And then he’ll ask about how you want it done, whether or not you want salad, what sides you want, if any, etc…..he wants you to tell him exactly what your order is! The Universe is standing by just like the waiter – simply waiting for you to place your order. Think of an online order. You can’t finish the checkout if you haven’t answered all the questions. In real life it is feasible that the waiter might think he knows the answers to all the required questions and he might fill in some for you but online you have to select all the boxes yourself before you can finish. The “system” won’t let you complete and place your order unless you make some sort of selection. The “system” just like the  Universe doesn’t know if you’ve made the correct selection or had a “fat finger” accident but all it knows is whether or not you’ve specifically made your choices.

Now that you’ve completed the first part of your order you must do the second most important thing – you must PLACE YOUR ORDER! In the words of Abraham-Hicks you have to “Ask” for what you want. In other words you have to click on the ORDER button. You can work very hard to make your decisions as to what you want and fill in all the blanks but if you don’t click on the ORDER button, you will NEVER get your order, no matter how long you wait.

Many people get stuck at this point. Perhaps it’s because they are unsure if this is really what they want or perhaps it’s because they have been taught that you shouldn’t ask for things – that that is too self-centered or egotistical. That couldn’t be further from the truth. You have to ASK the universe for what it is you want. If you don’t, no matter how specific you’ve been, you won’t receive your gift. The Universe will have created what you want but it’s still sitting in the warehouse, unable to be delivered because you have never asked for it. Think of all this like Amazon. There are many fulfillment centers around the country (and probably the world) but none of them will package up a product and send it to you if you haven’t asked for it. Get the point yet?

There is another part to this rule – you have to then sit back and wait for it to be delivered. It does no good for you to be running to your man with head in mailboxdoor every five minutes to check to see if  your order has been delivered  yet. If you hit the “order” button, then it will be delivered. The Universe thinks you’re questioning it (and interprets that as you’re not sure you made the correct selection so it backs up a bit). So, sit back and relax knowing that it will show up. Have faith that you made the right selection and that the Universe will bring you what you asked for. This is the “Receive” part of the equation. You have to allow it to come to you. This is where you must break down your resistance and stop thinking things like “it won’t work” or “I’ll never get that”. You have power and you have the Law of Attraction which is always working for you. So sit back and wait for the delivery.

Terrie

 

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Law of Attraction – Rule #2 – Shoot Straight, Don’t Play Ping-Pong

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Print We’ve talked about this before but it’s probably right up there with Rule #1 in importance.  I call Rule #2 – “Shoot Straight, Don’t Play  PIng-Pong”

What do I mean by this…and why is it important? Remember that the Universe will bring you whatever you ask for (especially those things you really feel strongly about). You simply have to place your order.

People hear that and say “but I know I don’t want any more bills or any more debt but that never happens. Does that mean the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me? And if so, why is it so selective?”

The Law of Attraction is NOT selective. It works, bottom line! No matter what, it works. All you have to do is read last week’s post on Rule #1 to realize that it works. So what’s the problem in this situation?

The problem with this person’s request/order is that it’s based in “lack” so that’s what they will get more of – more lack. That is NOT what we’re after! We have to approach our desires from a position of abundance. But we’ll cover that in a later rule.

What Rule #2 is all about is being sure of what you want.

You’ve heard me talk before about wanting a new car and not getting it. I know exactly why I haven’t gotten it and that’s because I can’t figure out which car I want. Some days I want a Toyota Prius, other days it’s a Honda hybrid (and there are a few of them to pick from) and then other days I want a replacement for my convertible that’s 22 years old but still runs well.

I just can’t make up my mind. As soon as I start thinking about a Toyota Prius, the Universe begins to make plans to deliver that to me. stick_figure_long_shot_pc_400_clr_3328Everything is working to manifest my desire….but then, bam – I change my mind and I’m wanting a Honda. So, now the Universe is scurrying around stopping “production” of the Toyota Prius and starts working on delivering the Honda. But then I think about another type of car. The Universe then stops “production” (or creation/manifestation) of the Honda and begins working on the other car.

See what I mean about playing Ping-Pong. If I can’t make up my mind, how can the Universe give me what I want. I haven’t decided what it is I really want and therefore I am not focused enough to be placing my feelings in a positive, consistent direction to bring the car into my life.

Take your time and decide what the heck it is you want!  You have to be specific and you have to really want whatever it is you’re asking for. You can’t be wishy washy and you can’t keep fluctuating in your desires and thoughts.

In all my discussions on this, I tell you how to make sure it’s your desire and that it’s believable, etc. You have to check on the “Define and Conquer” information for more on that.

Shoot Straight and let the Universe know exactly what to bring you.

Terrie

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The Law of Attraction in Action – Rule #1 – Pay Attention!!!

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stick_figure_standing_under_sign_text_11276 So, I’ve been missing in action for quite awhile. Those of you who know me will know why – I’ve been running, running, running….culminated in my 2nd 100 mile event in 6 weeks – finished 1 week ago. But in the week before that event which started at 6 a.m. Friday the 14th of June, I saw the Law of Attraction work taking my life from bottom to top – and I created it all! I want to share it with you because it’s such a powerful lesson in what you can do with and to your life if you don’t pay attention to your every thought, word and most of all feeling.

Let me start a bit earlier though. When I finished my first 100 miler 7 weeks ago I was on top of the world and felt like I had accomplished so much – after all, this was a 15 year old dream I had had. I wanted to try it again and the only chance I would have to be able to do it in my time frame was this one 6 weeks later. So I signed up. I even ran 2 or 3 marathons in the interim to try to keep my endurance up.

All throughout these 6 weeks I debated writing to all of you to ask you to figure out some way to support me as I knew I would have no support during the race but wanted to ask you all to think of a charity or something you would donate to if I finished – that would motivate me to keep going. But I was too chicken to write and ask you all because I felt it would be too presumptuous and you’d laugh at me or worse yet, ignore me (see how our feelings and emotions really mess with our world and how beautifully we could orchestrate it if we paid more attention and believed in the Law of Attraction more?). So I never even let you know what I had done or was planning to do.

Two Sundays ago as I scrutinized the weather forecast (I had been doing that every day for the entire six weeks even though it was of no use since the weather can’t be predicted out that far). But by that Sunday they had the 10 day forecast available and it said SUNNY and in the mid 90s for Friday and Saturday. I was terrified. The trail we run on for the events has absolutely no shade and I did not believe I could survive the pounding sun and heat for two daylight periods (totally probably 28 hours of sunshine out of the 40 hours it would probably take me to do the event). I was panicking. I think that on Monday or Tuesday I wrote the race director and told her I didn’t think I could survive and wasn’t even sure I could/should start the race. All of this was churning and turning in my mind.

By Tuesday night/Wed early morning though, the forecast said “mostly cloudy” and I knew how much I wanted to run this race so I told myself I could do it and would do it and would conquer all of these adverse factors no matter what. I had made up my mind!

What I didn’t know is that the fear and uncertainty that I had experienced over the previous few days had also “made up my mind” and the Law of Attraction was definitely in action (as it is all the time in my life- and yours too).  By Wednesday mid-morning I could not walk. My sacroiliac joint had “gone out” and my back was so bad that I could only walk short distances and by limping.

What the heck? I really wanted to run this race but if I couldn’t walk, how could I even start. Well, my fear had created an “acceptable” way of getting out of starting the race – no one who even saw me could possibly think I would be able to make it to the start line. My mind had given my body the “socially acceptable” way out.  The Law of Attraction had given me what I had asked for.

My only problem was that I had “fixed” my mind and decided I wanted to do the race and eliminated the fear and all the other negative emotions that went with it and had gotten excited again about doing the race. Unfortunately, the Law of Attraction and my mind had gone to work immediately when I said I was too scared to start.

So now what?