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It’s All About How You Look At Something

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how-you-look-at-it-resized  It’s all about perspective. What we see is based on a number of factors.

1) What you’ve been taught (our beliefs)

2) What you’ve learned on your own

3) What you want to see (not always the same as what is really there)

4) The angle you’re looking from

5) Your eyesight – do you need glasses? Are you wearing glasses? Are they clean or do they have dirt on them that might be obscuring the situation/object? You’ve heard the expression about rose colored glasses.

6)  Your needs

7) Your anxiety level or level of calmness

8) Your past experiences

9) Your vision – are you colorblind?

There are many variables that lead to two people looking at the exact same situation and yet seeing it differently. How do you look at things? Are you trying to be objective and understanding? Do you take your time to examine all aspects of what you’re seeing? Do you examine the surroundings, not just the object? What has happened in your past that could be biasing you in your observation of this particular event/object?

People look at illness differently. They look at bills/debt differently? You could say that almost everything appears differently to each individual person. There isn’t much we can do about it except realize that it’s a fact and then make another CHOICE in our lives – make a decision to look at everything from a positive perspective. There are people out there who do just that. Often times we criticize them, calling them Pollyanna or “goodie two shoes” (never did know what that means but it fits here).  But these folks have the right attitude. Make the best out of everything should be our motto every day. Why? Because we want to activate the Law of Attraction to bring us more good things, not bad things.

I got started on this fairly early in my life – again, before I knew anything about the Law of Attraction. I developed these weird symptoms and was treated for a year for something it wasn’t. Finally I was sent to the neurologist who immediately said I was having seizures. That, by itself, was a big shock (but also a relief because now “it” had a name). However, he then told me that I either had epilepsy or a brain tumor and ordered a brain scan (back in the days when that was all they had to examine the brain). When I went back for the results he said I had epilepsy. I was never so happy to hear that diagnosis because it was much, much better than having a brain tumor. I have continued to be grateful all my life for a few reasons. My seizures have been completely controlled since I started on medication and I have had experiences (from the medication) that I have used to help me understand my patients better. I have had overdosages on the medication giving me strange feelings (symptoms) and even once I had to be put in the hospital. These events also helped me with dealing with my patients. If I had not experienced them, I wouldn’t have been able to understand what people go through when they talk to their doctors and the doctors don’t understand or pay attention to them. So, not only was I able to directly help individuals but also teach interns how to be more understanding and patient.

I was happy each time that I was alive and ok and that it would just take some time to recuperate and then I’d be back to normal. Each time I get an illness or injury, I look to see what it is that I can learn from it and how can I help others.

When you look at debt do you see the money you owe as helping others? Try it and try praising the money as it goes out into the universe in order to spread more wealth and abundance across the world. The money is being used to pay individuals even though that may be hard to see when paying big companies. But try to drill down and see the person opening the bill and then another one writing a check for their weekly groceries or being able to purchase school items for their kids, etc. There are so many ways to look at the bills you have and the money you are paying out. If you are blessing it and being grateful that you’re helping others, you will become more prosperous as the Universe returns blessings to you.

Try looking at things differently this week. Take a look, also, at how you’ve looked at things throughout your life. You’ll learn a lot about yourself for sure.

Terrie

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Why Are Positive Beliefs Not Embraced Like Negative Ones

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positive-negative beliefsHave you ever noticed that it’s so easy for people to believe something bad or negative and they are so resistant to adopting positive beliefs? I find that truly amazing and don’t really have an answer as to the reason why.

The recent Ebola issue is a perfect example. People were quick to believe that we in the US were going to be overwhelmed with an Ebola pandemic within just a few days or weeks. Now, I don’t necessarily think that we are out of the woods completely. However, all the negative beliefs that were being spread via the media (of course) were adopted without any questioning. People clung to the so called “experts” the TV News stations had on. I could have called them up and been taken on as an expert in disaster medicine as I have a great deal of experience with this (but am certainly NOT an expert). You have no idea what credentials that person really has. But, it’s as if we simply believe something because it comes through that “tube” (the TV). Why is that? Think about yourself. What do you do to question or legitimize anything you hear on the “news”?

I also find it interesting (and this is very controversial I know) how people were NOT up in arms when the quarantine New York imposed was questioned and one or two people claim their rights were taken away. I did not see much outrage at all. But if that had been a few weeks earlier, then I believe we would have seen much more support for the involuntary quarantine. In fact, I think there would have been many more people calling for it. It only makes sense and if people can’t give up 21 days of their being out in public for the safety of an entire population what does that say about those people? I know what it tells me. And I don’t like it.

How quickly have you ever adopted a belief that everything was going to work out fine (or even great) for you? Or have you been the one who’s said “there’s always a black cloud hanging over me” or “nothing ever works out for me” etc? Have you believed you can get rid of an illness quicker than what others have told you? Or have you held on to that “I know this won’t get any better, I’ll never get better, or even I’m going to die”. People believe the latter even when others (including medical professionals) tell them otherwise.

It’s like the negative belief is a much lower hanging fruit, making it very difficult to reach higher for the positive thought or belief. Is it fear of rejection, fear of being let down, what is it? Are we afraid that others will think we’re stupid or abnormal if we hold on to a positive belief? Maybe we won’t get as much attention if we focus on what could go wrong instead of just telling others “hey, I know it will work out fine”. If we say that, then there may not be any way that others will keep checking on us or helping us. Wouldn’t it be great though if we got “stay well” gifts and surprise visits instead of just “get well” ones.

Have you tried to adopt something positive and then found it was too hard to maintain the positive vibration? If so, what is it that’s making it hard? Look around you – at the people and the environment that surround you. Is there some feeling or vibration emanating from that that is tugging at you, trying to stop that positive momentum and leading you down the negative plane? If so, get out of the situation and away from the negative energy. Create your own affirmation that you can hold on to and repeat it over and over until your vibratory plate is not wobbling any more.

Last week, my car felt “funny” as I left a medical appointment one afternoon. But it got me home and I didn’t think any more about it.  Next morning, though, my car wouldn’t start. It was 5:30 a.m. and I couldn’t bother my neighbors to get to work. I just got “lucky” and car_battery_400_clr_11845when I texted one of the men I work with, he hadn’t left yet (lives a mile from me) so I got to work ok. I asked a few of the guys at work to take me home and one was able to make arrangements. I had also Facebook’d my neighbor and got her before she went to work and asked her husband to work on it. But not only did he take care of the battery but he got my oil changed and my inspection done. How great was that? I didn’t fall into the “poor me” or “why me”. I just kept going along trying to keep my life going in the positive direction.  And look at everything terrific that happened to me. Was I grateful for getting my inspection and oil done too? You betcha since it would have taken a few hours out of my weekend had I had to do it. I just allowed the good to come pouring into my life no matter what it seemed like.

Surround yourself with positive thoughts and positive people. People who will share the good stuff with you. We always recommend that you do NOT share things with people because inevitably they will shoot down any good thoughts or start doing the “that’s bad but this is worse….” or the “what if” game. “What if the treatment doesn’t work?” “What if you don’t get that job, what will you do?”. “You know, I knew someone who had the exact same situation and you wouldn’t believe what happened to him.” “Doctors are just pill pushers, you should get another opinion” etc. When you are with people who put down your goal, your thoughts, feelings or ideas, it puts a big hole in your bubble and all the air (positive thoughts and beliefs) come squishing out.

Be with yourself. Raise your thoughts and vibrations. Build on the hope you have. Use your daily gratitude journal to concentrate on the great things happening to you in your life (you know there are plenty of them, don’t you?). Don’t let others defeat you or try to pull you down. Many people don’t even know what they are doing when they are being negative. They think they are being helpful and trying to get you to “think about all sides of the story.” You really do not need to do that. You just need to believe that everything will work out for you and it will. Be brave, stay positive and move onward!

Share some of your experiences with everyone in the comment box. I find this topic fascinating.

Terrie

 

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You Don’t Want To Star In The Exorcist

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figure_rear_view_mirror_400_clr_11283 Don’t be Regan (Linda Blair) – the girl in the exorcist! What do I mean by this? Simply that you shouldn’t keep looking back – for any reason! If you keep looking around behind you, it screws with your momentum. Think about driving along and you’re at a certain speed that’s feeling pretty good and getting you where you’re going. But you’re worried (first clue) that there might be some cops behind you or maybe just someone who is tailgating and wants to pass you. As you’re looking around, you end up putting your foot on the brake to slow down while you look. Your momentum has slowed and now you have to do something to speed up again.

Why do you even want to look at what’s in your past?  The only possibly legitimate reason could be to examine your limiting beliefs…but you could check them out without knowing where they come from. Only curiosity could be the reason for trying to figure out whether you got them from your parents or your teachers or what. But that’s not really important, is it? What’s matter is that you identify that you actually DO have those beliefs  and then how you can change them.

If you’re looking at what events have happened in your life AND what limiting beliefs have been operating in your mind and life. These beliefs have been the primary influencing factor in how the Law of Attraction works in your  life. You can take a short time to look at past events and see if this has been the case – have you been living with self-fulfilling prophecies.  This is just another phrase for the Law of Attraction. I used to (many, many years ago) tell people that they wouldn’t like me once they got to know me and guess what? They pulled away eventually – just as I predicted (prophecy).

There’s a comfort zone involved here as well. No matter how crappy our past was, it still is something we can hold on to. We know what we felt like, we know what our responses were. It’s the knowledge that is the comfort. When we’re stepping out into new territory and changing our thoughts and life actions, it’s scary because we don’t know what’s going to happen. What if something goes wrong? What if I didn’t identify my limiting beliefs enough? What if, what if? By the time you’re done questioning yourself, you want to go back to the past.

Guess what? The past is over, done with, gone! You just have to be daring and brave and move on. Trying the new way of life won’t hurt you as long as you believe in the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws. This is a friendly universe. We just seem to be very adept at repeating our past – because we pay so much attention to it. Be different, you might like it.

So stop looking in your rear view mirror and stop playing in the Exorcist. Keep you head forward and watch what’s happening in front of you. This is a major benefit of having a coach. Your coach will walk with you and help  you through the scary parts.

Think about it, then go do it!

Terrie

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Letting Go

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custom_clipboard_15291I had another post planned for today but had to tell you about my experience this past weekend!

First a bit of background…..You all know that I love running and after a 15 year hiatus from Ultrarunning (more than 26.2 miles), I have gotten back into it in the past 3 years.  One of my first attempts at a 100 mile race was in 1998 at Umstead 100 miler in North Carolina. However, I only made it 50 miles that day. So, when I was back on the scene again so to speak, 3 years ago, I found out when registration for Umstead was. I remember because I was at work that day (even though it was Saturday) and failing to do the time zone math I was an hour late in attempting to register and therefore didn’t get in (it gets sold out in a few minutes).

Then last year when I really felt I could do a good job and complete Umstead in the required time limit, I had the registration date on my calendar for months. On registration day I had 3 computers going to try to get registered. After 20-30 minutes to no avail I was not able to get in. I was so frustrated with the technology and angry etc.

But you know what? It worked out best for everyone because March (the month of the race) was when I was sick for 8 weeks. I would not have been able to attend the race even if I had gotten in.

I forgot about Umstead focusing instead on the Tennessee event this July and keeping my training all directed toward that. Umstead was no where on my antenna.

Michael Hyatt Puts Up Another Winner!

I just had to link to this post by Michael Hyatt.

It’s called Don’t Quit Before The Whistle Blows

I encourage you to read the whole post but it’s about how we respond to setbacks and the bottom line is how we respond says at least 3 things about us:

  1. Our response builds our character. Very often in those moments where we are tempted to bail, our character is a stake. Character isn’t fixed. As Oscar Wilde said, it’s made and unmade by our decisions.When we push through difficulty and see things to the end, we’re developing our character in a positive way. When the urge to walk off the field comes—and it will—ask yourself what kind of person you want to be.
  2. Our response tests our true abilities. Whatever we think about ourselves or the future, if we walk off the track, we never really know what we’re capable of or what was truly possible.Kampf could have finished without giving it her all, and no one probably would have noticed—except her. Instead, she marshaled her strength and found out what her true potential was.

    And it surprised her. “That last 50 meters, I hit a gear that I never knew I had,” she said. A setback can bring out our best if we’ll play full out regardless.

  3. Our response impacts others. Kampf wasn’t just running for herself. She was running for her team, for her school, for her family and community. The impact of her decision was far-reaching—even down to us discussing it today.There’s something at stake in every decision to stay in the game that goes well beyond ourselves. Quitting not only robs ourselves of needed character development and a deeper understanding of ourselves, it has an immeasurable impact on those around us.

Thanks to Michael Hyatt for this great Saturday piece.

Terrie