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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“You might say, “How do I know if I’m in a receiving mode or not?” And we say, you always feel good when you’re in a receiving mode. When someone offers you a compliment, do you receive it, or do you sort of just shrug it off? There’s something about believing that you must justify your existence through your effort or through your perseverance, through your struggle. And many of you just have not practiced the receiving mode.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Spokane, WA on May 19, 2001]

This is great! How do you feel? Remember that it’s all about feelings. I was definitely in the receiving mode a few weeks ago when I received many compliments about my presentation. In fact, there were more compliments than I had ever had…..and I know that it was because I was calm and very open to accepting them. Usually I do as Abraham says “just shrug them off”. But I was very receptive at that time and as a result, more and more of the compliments flowed in.

Allow yourself to bask in your success – whether it’s your success in accomplishing something specific or a success in allowing the Universe to deliver what you ask for. If you leave your doorstep uncluttered and have your address clearly marked on the street and mailbox, you’ll receive all the packages you’ve ordered very easily. The delivery person (the Universe) does not have to search and search and cut through shrubs or other obstacles to deliver your order. Mark the way clearly and see how everything you ask for comes quickly.

This works not just with compliments but with everything you “order” from the Universe. Once you’ve placed your order (told the Universe exactly what you want), sit back and rejoice in having it even if it hasn’t arrived at your door yet. Feel (and act) as if you have it in your possession. This feeling is often more pleasant and energy producing than actually having it in your hands. Have you ever anticipated something so much and for so long that you feel as if you’re on top of the world – even though it hasn’t come to you yet? That’s being in the receiving mode. Just relaxing and letting things come to you, knowing that you’re cradled in the protective arms of the Universe; knowing that your every wish really does come true. You just need to be sure you know what you are wishing for because the Universe delivers what you focus on. So focus on the wonderful things you want.

Be in the receiving mode all the time if you can! It will make a big difference in your life. Just know that whatever is coming to you is what you deserve so sit back and simply say “thank you”.

Terrie

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How The Most Important People In Your Life Have Ruled It

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people-influencing1We all like to think that we are autonomous and have some semblance of control over our lives. But, in actuality we do not have as much control over our lives as we think. No matter how old you are, you are carrying a great deal of baggage with us. And we don’t even know it. That’s the difficult part.

Why does this happen? Because we are so influenced as a child and as we grow up. We believe pretty much everything that people tell us because we don’t know any better. By the time we do know better, our beliefs have been so ingrained in us that we don’t even recognize that the choices aren’t ours.

If we’re not open to exploring where our beliefs and thoughts came from, then we’re stuck with what was taught us in our growing years. You have to be able to look at your beliefs and say “whoa, maybe that’s not true…let me check it out.” I think this pattern is how racism and other forms of discrimination are perpetuated. I think we are taught that certain colors, genders, behaviors etc are “good” or “bad” and since the people we respected and relied upon when growing up told us these things, they must be true, right? It’s not easy to question things that you have believed for decades. That’s hard, and often times it hurts too. Especially when you realize that the people you respected and loved might have been wrong about something. But, in order to grow we have to do it. We have to be willing to experience uncertainty and fear and the unknown in order to grow. If we stay in our little cocoons, then we don’t grow or change and life will just continue to pass us by.

When you think about this concept, it’s a bit easier to look at the “mass consciousness” and see how that works. So many things have changed throughout the years because people have been willing to question what they were taught. This happens in nutrition and science all the time. When I was growing up, you had to balance your food using the word “starch” – you never hear that now. Then you have the controversy about which type of diet is the best for you. Are eggs good or bad? Is meat good or bad? Should you worry about your cholesterol or not?

Medicine has changed because people have been willing to challenge and question beliefs. That’s how infections were discovered and subsequently dealt with.  Cancer treatments and theories have changed throughout the years. If people just accepted what they were told, then there would be no research and no improvements in treatments.

How can you examine your beliefs and your thoughts and see what it is you need to (or want to change – maybe you won’t want to change things but at least you should examine them)?

Take some time to think about your life and your experiences and even browse the news websites and see what items get your emotions going. If you can read a title of something and not get emotional or charged, then you probably don’t have an issue with that concept or belief. But if you hit something that really gets you going, then you might benefit from looking at what you believe and then, more importantly, why. A good example is all the articles and discussions about police brutality. What is it that you believe about the police? About demonstrators? And then answer where you got those ideas?

Do the same about wars and about weight and about publicity or models or actors. Or anything you see around you. What do you think about various races or even gender identity? Do “Gay Pride” parades bother you or what? Go to TED.com and look at the titles of the presentations. Do they generate any emotions? What do you think about athletes making so much money? Actors making so much money? What does that tell you about your beliefs about wealth? You have to go further than just ‘that makes me mad” – what is it about that thing that does make you mad? Is it that you feel you’ve worked very hard all your life and you “deserve” to make more money and yet these athletes just run around a court or a field and make more money than “they’re worth”? Are these the thoughts that go through your head? Write them down as they come. Examine them later.  But do examine them!

Take a few days to start this process and see what happens. Any time you react to anything, you know there is a belief somewhere in there.

Terrie

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Why Your Worst Deeds Don’t Define Your Life

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I thought this was a very profound TED talk. It made me think about how people can change and how we really should be willing to give people (whether in jail or not) more than one chance to redeem themselves. After all, who died and made us God that we can judge someone forever and not think that they might change.

Wouldn’t you want someone to give you a second chance in life if you did something “wrong” but then realized it. We all have been young and done stupid things – some more stupid than others. But as we grow, we change and we become more mature (eventually anyway). Do you think we should be evaluated just based on the stupid thing we did years ago? Of course not. That’s what life is all about…change.

This man talks about acknowledgment, apologizing and atonement. I think he’s more mature than most of us and has endured more than we will in our entire life.  We can be better people by learning from the tough times others experience.

If you like this, there is another profound video on the TED talks about women Lifers and it almost made me cry at the misfortune some of them have endured for over 30 or in some cases 40 years – being in prison for that long is just unimaginable to me.

Let us learn from others.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“If you feel drawn to someone, but you are annoyed because you think that they are telling you some lies, try to look beyond the lies and try to focus upon the feeling. People offer all kinds of words for all kinds of different reasons. Most lies are offered to try to keep things in alignment. We’re not encouraging it, but the motive behind lying is usually a pretty honorable motive. In other words, when a child lies to their parents, it’s usually because they want to be free to do what they want to do, and they don’t want their parents to be upset about it. It’s about wanting an alignment. Physical ears have a hard time hearing this. You keep talking about “We need to be honest.” And we say, we don’t meet any of you who are honest. Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest, but your vibration always is. We would trust the feeling more than the words.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Houston, TX on January 13, 2001]

This is a very interesting concept and one that even I have a hard time comprehending and embracing. However, if I can look beyond my wanting to be so virtuous, I can see the truth and meaning behind it.

I think the key thing is that if you can really tune into that person’s feeling and allow yourself to absorb where they are coming from you should be able to discern the person’s true nature. If you use your instinct and trust your gut, you’ll be able to tell whether the person is truly honest or not. If you detect that this is a truly good person, then you will be able to realize that there is some special reason behind any lie they might tell. It could be embarrassment or shame or any personal feelings that they don’t want exposed. It’s possible they have told a lie because they have a fear of rejection if they told you the truth. It’s self protection and I bet if you looked at your past, you might even find a time when you told a “white lie” in order to protect yourself.

Take the person as a whole. Ask yourself how much that one particular lie matters in the grand scheme of things. Is it possible that you or they have misinterpreted something and therefore it’s not even a lie?

It’s a concept worthy of thought. Why not contemplate it this week and see what it does to you. Let your gut feel things.

Comment on this if you’d like.

Terrie

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The Easiset Way To Change Others Is To Change Yourself

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stick_figure_telepathy_caps_400_clr_5816You really can’t change someone else. So don’t even try. However, if you change your attitude and outlook, often times it will effect a change in the other person.

If you’re unhappy with a relationship (friend, spouse, significant other, boss, fellow employee, sibling, etc), don’t think that it’s the other person’s fault you’re unhappy. You can make the most of a situation from an internal perspective no matter what’s going on externally. Remember how the POWs in World War II survived in their tiny crowded rooms – they did it with their mental attitude and thoughts. They were able to project themselves away from their present and into the future, or at least into a more pleasant part of their memory.

You can do the same as the POWs – many of you may feel as if you’re a prisoner of war in that relationship so this isn’t that far off.

Instead of focusing on the things you don’t like about the relationship or characteristics of the other person, focus on yourself and your contributions to the relationship. You can also do the “Book of Positive Aspects” where every day you write down at least 3 really good things about the other person. Don’t even go to the negative aspects at all. It make take you awhile to come up with some things but do the simple little things so that you have something good to write. The point of this is to focus on good things about the other person if you have to go there at all. If you can just think about your own happiness (and you can’t say you WOULD be happy if….. if they would change or if you were out of the relationship or if this or if that….”if”s are NOT allowed in this game.

Focus on where you can change or even better focus on what the Universe may be telling you. You attracted this relationship remember. I know you don’t want to believe that but you did. So take a look at it and see what is going on in your head and your emotions that is attracting these things you don’t like or want. Look at your beliefs and see if you can track it down that way. For example, do you believe that all men (or women) cheat on their partner? Was that your experience in your family of origin perhaps? If so, that would follow that you’d developed that belief. Maybe you believe that you don’t deserve to be happy. If so, you’d naturally attract situations  where you wouldn’t be happy. Maybe you think that work should be hard and you should be unhappy at work (struggle). So, you’d attract a boss who would make you work hard or you’d attract situations where you don’t have enough staff or you have incompetent staff and you have to work hard to make up for that. Maybe you believe you’re not good enough for a loving relationship or you don’t deserve to be loved or aren’t worthy of love. What do you think is going to be in your life if that’s your belief? Yep, you got it….the exact circumstances you’re trying to avoid.

Uncover your beliefs, do the Book of Positive Aspects and then see what happens in your life. Many times, your relationship changes for the good. Don’t count on that though or that will defeat the purpose of this exercise. The purpose really is to help yourself feel better in your circumstances no matter what does or doesn’t happen externally.

Think about it; try it.

Terrie