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Dr. Terrie Wurzbacher

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Easier Said Than Done – Embrace the Journey

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maze_solved_14345Boy has the last few months been an adventure (to put it mildly) for me. But it wasn’t until yesterday that I realized the importance of the phrase “Embrace The Journey, Not The Destination” (there are multiple variations on this but this is the quickest way to say it). People, myself included, often focus on the ultimate goal – the destination. And then if the goal is not achieved, they are crushed and all that time has gone by without them enjoying that time.

You have to be present at all times. You always hear that you need to enjoy the moment because you don’t know what’s going to happen in the next. Until you experience that, however, you don’t really know what it means. On Feb 17th this year, I experienced a life change that was totally unexpected and led down this path to my recent surgery. It wasn’t as significant an event as many have had to deal with. But it was enough to stop me in my tracks for the first time in my life. As I’ve been trying to recuperate, my primary focus had been on getting back to running so I could train for the run across Tennessee in July. But, yesterday as post-op issues continued to prevail and as I realized I still have several evaluations to go through, I found myself understanding that it’s all about today, this minute, not what’s going to happen (or what I hope to happen) in July.  Strangely, though, I felt at peace with that knowledge. I have spent too much of my life working toward something else – working thru my childhood just to graduate medical school and at that time my only thought was “What now?” (not a good feeling); training for a race; working 5 days to get to the weekend; working 8 hours to finally go home, etc. I never have spent time smelling the roses along the way. In my initial years as a physician I was a typical physician – go, go, go. Then in my later years I worked in the DC area and that’s completely rush, rush, rush, especially when coupled with my lousy working hours due to the distance and traffic.

I would say that the closest I have come to embracing the journey has been when I’ve been doing my long runs because I have so much time to think and do whatever I want. However, when you add training to that picture, it throws in the goal and that takes away from the pure enjoyment I used to have on the runs.

So, what happened yesterday? I think it was a combination of no longer wanting to fight these undesirable post-op issues as well as just having the time to take care of myself. All of a sudden I found myself thinking that I may not make it to the Tennessee run in July. I just don’t know what will happen in the next few months – with my training and my body. Rather than be upset about maybe not getting there (still an unknown), I am choosing to love my body and love the challenges I’m experiencing and just be grateful. I am going to put gratitude first in my life and try every day to do something nice for someone else.  And I’m going to be kind to my body and try to listen to it more. If I make it to Tennessee, that will be wonderful. If I don’t, I won’t have passed up months just thinking about getting there – I will have spent those months enjoying life and doing for others, two of the most important things you can do in life.

See, you’re never too old to learn about life. Even though it’s easier said than done, I feel confident that I am on a different path at this point.

Terrie

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Tuesdays With Terrie

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tuesdays-with-terrie-croppedI’m feeling stronger every day but am still having post-op issues which I am choosing to see as lessons that the Universe has sent me and I’ve refused to look at before. I think we all are like that and don’t really pay much attention to these messages until they smack you in the face. It behooves us to listen and learn earlier on rather than waiting for that smack. Oh well.

I make bone broth (good for immunity) in batches and put them in very large mason jars. Then when I’m ready to start to use that batch I have to remove the layer of hardened fat at the top (not as gross as it sounds).  If there is a thick layer (like all our limit beliefs), first I have to recognize that I don’t want this part of the package (identifying the limiting beliefs thatIMG_2329 are, well, “limiting”), then I have to cut through it (recognizing that a belief is a thought I just keep thinking over and over again) followed by removal of the lard to uncover the beautiful and healthy broth underneath (letting the real you come through and cultivating UNlimiting beliefs).

By now, you’re thinking that I need to see a psychiatrist or be locked up I’m sure. But it really is just like identifying and undoing your limiting beliefs.

This morning when I started a new batch, the lard layer was very deep and it took more effort to cut through it and I had to make more slices than the usual 4. I had to cut it more like a pie (or a pizza – yum). That took more effort to get through (those beliefs we’ve been harboring since childhood). Then when the cuts were made, I was having difficulty getting the pieces out because of the rounded shape to the bottle (sometimes we just give up trying to change our beliefs when we find it too hard to even break through. We give up when we can’t find a way to make any progress. Even when we’re trying to dig deep to get under the lard (belief), it seems as if there is a wall there and there is no way to remove this stuff (belief).

IMG_2330But then all of a sudden, you’ve manipulated the stuff around and around and finally you get a small piece out (you see some changes in your repetitive thoughts). Once that first piece is out, the foundation is rocked and you can now proceed to remove the rest more rapidly. It almost seems easy at that point and you wonder why it took so long or seemed so hard (you now are having an easy time with your new thoughts/beliefs).

When I recognized this metaphor/analogy/whatever (I always get them confused) this morning, I knew that this was a turning point, not only for people I work with on their limiting beliefs but also for myself.  The initial frustration made things more difficult – I was pushing against resistance to try to get big pieces out with one attempt. That ended up taking more time than if I had just worked to get a small piece removed and gradually continued with my progress. I think we try to bite off more than we can chew (or remove) and then we’re upset when we can’t get it all out (get to the goal – the ultimate destination) “real soon”. It takes patience and we really do need to slow down.

“Slow down” has become my mantra after this experience as you’ve seen in other posts and will continue to see. I’ve missed so much of life going after the destination and trying to remove all the lard at once. Now I’m going to not fight, not meet the resistance with force but with relaxation and gentleness and see what happens. So what that I can’t go to the 100 mile race this coming weekend – the one I was so happy to have finally gotten into? Will my world end? Heck no. So what if I still can’t run for a few more weeks? What else can I do to substitute for that? Many things. I have a wonderful life and just want to give to others in whatever way I can. That is my journey.

I know I rambled a lot today but I’ve learned so much just from this one jar of bone broth! Who knew?

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, ‘It takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.’
—Abraham” Excerpted from the workshop: Cleveland, OH on July 11, 2000

We’ve talked about this before but it never hurts to repeat it. This is the difference between manifestation and materialization. You manifest something as soon as you’ve thought it and put feeling and vibration into it. But materialization requires that you’re willing to accept it into your life and you’ve stopped checking the mailbox every day to see if it’s  come – or changing your order constantly so that the delivery cannot be made.  Materialization is when what you have desired actually shows up in your life.

Doubt and hesitation are both forms of resistance. Feeling unworthy and not deserving are also resistance. You have to examine your beliefs and see if you feel unworthy or as if you have to “do something” in order to deserve to have what you’ve asked for. Discover (or uncover) what other thoughts and feelings might be keeping your order from showing up at your door!

Try to place your order and let it go, knowing that it will come to you. Always remember the law of gestation though. An Acorn could wish with all it’s might to be an oak tree tomorrow and if the gestation period hasn’t elapsed, it’s not going to happen. If you’re unemployed or making $20,000 a year, the probability of you being able to quickly and easily accept the fact that you can make a million dollars a year is not high. You certainly can set smaller and quicker goals so that your subconscious will put forth less resistance in accepting a newer income. Work your way up by accepting and embracing the smaller goals. Once you’ve reached the first increment, then you can move up to the second and so on. It works much better that way.

Try all of this and see what happens!

Terrie

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The Price of Shame

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I put this video from the TED talks 2015 up on Facebook yesterday but wanted to talk some more about it because I think Monica Lewinsky has an extremely powerful, heartfelt message that we can all learn from and perhaps even change the world by acknowledging or maybe even save someone’s life.

17 years have passed since the scandal she was involved in. She has just recently begun to speak out against cyberbulling and humiliation. Her message is poignant and it made me realize how easy it is to quickly type some words and hit “send” or “enter” or “post” and then just go about my business – never, perhaps, considering the consequences or effects of those words.  But, we need to think about the consequences AND we need to think about them BEFORE we hit that button – no matter what it’s labeled.

One of her first questions to the audience was “could I see a show of hands of those of you who did not do something when you were 22 that you are ashamed of or wish you hadn’t done.” No one that I could see raised their hand. We all make mistakes. She fell in love with her boss. Her boss, however, just happened to be the President of the United States. And in 1998 the internet had begun to flourish even though it was before the social media age. So, she was bombarded with hate and contempt by people who didn’t even know her and people who probably were just angry at politics and using this situation as a vehicle for that anger and hatred. These people did not have to answer to anyone because, after all, they were “just posting their thoughts” on the Internet – what’s wrong with that? It’s easy to forget that there is a person at the other end – a real live person with feelings and capable of feeling immense pain and humiliation. Why do we fail to recognize or remember that?

Have you ever lashed out at a post or article on the internet, feeling safe and cozy in your own home behind your computer screen? Think hard before you answer. Then, if your answer is yes,  answer this – who or what were you really lashing out at?

Ms. Lewinsky was so deeply affected by her public thrashing that her parents were afraid she would end her life. Can you imagine living as she has for the last 17 years? I can’t.

What can you do to prevent others from being so affected by the cyber-bullying and intimidation that is going on day in and day out? She tells the story of another young man who committed suicide after a video of him went viral. A valuable life lost for no good reason but that someone thought it was funny to post this video on the internet. How sad is that?

Compassion is a primary message in this video and one that I hope you take some time to consider this week (and even longer if possible). Who can you say or write something compassionate to? It may actually counter many shameful words hurled at the recipient. See what you can do and how you can influence others into remembering that there is a person on the other end of the virtual “line”.

Terrie

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Empowerment Comes From Within

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custom_sweatshirt_15158We’ve said that awareness of the Universal Laws and concepts then imposes responsibility on you. In other words, once you’re aware of how the Universal Laws work, you cannot get away with blaming others or the world for anything that happens to you. You know that you’re responsible for creating your life and all that’s in it. And if you don’t like it, you must take action to correct it. You and only you!

Although this may seem “unfair” and inequitable, it’s also very empowering if you think about it. To know that you really can control your life through your thoughts, words and feelings. You can change your vibration and momentum at the drop of a hat and if you’re diligent, you can bring everything you want into your life. Of course it takes some work because you have to slow down, take your time to investigate and uncover your limiting beliefs and then proceed to clear them and replace them with current beliefs that are not limiting and further your ability to achieve anything you want!

Tale that power (from within) and vow to work on it, knowing that it will help transform your life phenomenally! Find your desires, get specific about the details (and of course about the “why” you want them), identify your fears about achieving these goals and once you’ve written all of these things down, then figure out what are the new beliefs you wish to cultivate.

For example, replace “I’m not worthy of being rich, I haven’t earned it” with “Richness and abundance is part of my Divine Right and I am so deserving of all riches, including wealth. I can do so much good for others with the money I earn.”

Replace “you have to work hard to make money” with “Richness is mine by Divine Right and the Universe knows how to deliver anything I want in the quickest and easiest way and I’m certainly all for that!”

Make up your own replacement phrases. Write them down for two reasons:

  1. You want to make sure you have no negatives in the phrases and you want it to be in the present tense as much as you can (typical of any affirmation).
  2. This way you’ll be more likely to remember them and be able to read and say them repeatedly during the day. You can also tweak them if they don’t sound exactly like you’d like. Maybe tweaking the words some will make the phrase resonate more with you. As you begin to cultivate these new beliefs you’ll want to adjust the phrasing so that you refine your belief and maybe even change it so it’s more freeing.

You should identify your fears regarding these things you want and then face them, knowing that what you fear is an afraid to doindication of what you should do next! Your fears are simply pointing out more of your limiting beliefs. For instance, if you were more successful and made more money, maybe you’re afraid that you won’t have enough time for your family or to even rest, relax or play as much as you’d like. Alter that belief just as you did the others. “I have Divine abundance/prosperity and along with my success comes all the time to do the things I want to do. I am never exhausted and always feel energetic, rested and relaxed. I have all the time in the world to play and do things I want and with the people I love.” – or whatever sounds good to you. Turn your fears around via words and then you’ll be excited as the fear sensation fades away. You’ll be amazed!

Take your empowerment from within and run with it. There will be no stopping you!

Terrie