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Dr. Terrie Wurzbacher

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“The standard of success in life isn’t the things. It isn’t the money or the stuff — it is absolutely the amount of joy you feel.”
—Abraham Excerpted from the workshop: Lincroft, NJ on October 15, 1996

This concept is vital to your enjoyment of life. Did you know that you can feel so very good when you’re just imagining or visualizing a result (or even the process) and haven’t even attempted it yet! Isn’t that pretty cool? I think it is and I can tell you it’s a definite truth. I have used this with my ultra running events and have felt terrific as I’ve crossed the finish line for a 100 mile event while lying in my bed doing my visualization. The actual event might even be a let down if I’ve done the visualization correctly.

You can enjoy being a millionaire even before you make anywhere near that much money. You can feel just as if you had it in your bank account by knowing how you want to feel and how you will behave and think when it happens. In actuality, it doesn’t even really matter if it ever does occur if you’ve been thoroughly enjoying the process of feeling your way there.

The more you have these joyful feelings, the more you’re going to bring what it is you’re thinking about into your life. How would you feel if you had a million dollars? Write it down. Savor it. Write yourself a story about what you’d do and how you’d feel while doing it. I know that I have my own vision of what I’d do if I either had a million dollars or won the lottery and there is very little in this world that would make me feel as good as doing those things would. So, thinking about doing those things puts a smile on my face and makes me very happy and warm inside. Of course it would be great to actually have the million or the lottery but I can get great feelings and thoughts just by pretending I have it. Those feelings improve my health and happiness without having even one more penny in my pocket.

Practice this. Think about what you want and then “pretend” you already are there and have achieved whatever it is. How are you feeling? Are you smiling? Is your body feeling better? Let us know what’s happening in your life when you try this.

Terrie

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Tweak Your Beliefs, Transform Your Life

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tweakyourbeliefsTiny changes in your belief system will significantly transform your life! Just think about that for a moment. It won’t take a great deal of work to make small modifications.

How can you do that? You can identify something that you believe but don’t want to – such as “I don’t deserve to be rich” or “the rich are greedy” (these are beliefs you hold deep in your subconscious and they hold you back). You want to have money. You want prosperity in your life. But somehow something is holding you back. If you then realize that you’ve always been told and believe that rich people are greedy or even that they are stingy, you’ve got these obstacles to your obtaining prosperity because you don’t want to be greedy or stingy.

What is a small tweak you can make in this belief? Think of just one person you know who has a lot of money (and that is from your perspective, no one else’s). Is that person greedy or stingy. An easy one to pick is Bill Gates. Everyone criticizes him for Windows and then they are “mad” that he has so much money from something that doesn’t always work as they want it. Well, there are several items for examination here. One is that Bill Gates himself doesn’t deserve to be paid for creating his product(s). We have run into that frequently in the spiritual realm. People think that just because it involves spirituality or religion, everything should be free. That is totally bogus. If something is valuable, you should be willing to pay for the product or service in order to show gratitude in one way but more importantly to circulate our currency throughout the Universe. Notice how we’ve uncovered another belief here – that people “owe” others free information. Or said in a different way “I shouldn’t have to pay for information that will benefit me”. That is really one you have to work on if it’s in your subconscious mind.

Another belief we identified here is that it’s the program creator’s fault that something doesn’t work as you want it to. 10994464_10153114509652863_2092206806244416611_nConsider that it might have something to do with all the other junk you have on your computer (I speak from experience) or that the other folks who have developed programs might have messed something up. Don’t blame everything on someone else – we’ve talked about that before.

You can see how thinking of one rich person for just a few seconds has surfaced several limiting beliefs and a pattern of putting blame (and responsibility) on external sources.

Working on all of these beliefs (and I’ll bet there are others underneath them) seems ominous and intimidating. But let’s start small. Remember we’re working on the belief that rich people are greedy and stingy. All you have to do is think about how much good Mr. Gates has done for AIDS. He has probably done more than anyone else in the world as far as that cause is concerned. If he were greedy and stingy would he have done that? Your next limiting belief might surface at that statement – “well, he probably just supports the charity because of tax deduction.” While that may be a benefit, if you research how much he’s done and what it’s entailed, you’ll see that it goes way beyond tax deductions. Most rich people are passionate about helping others in some way or another. I know that the primary reason I want to be prosperous is so that I can support St Jude Children’s Research Hospital and can help others.

This is just a tweak but it’s already dug into the foundation of your limiting beliefs regarding being rich. You only need to delve into things slightly and then once you start digging, you’ll be like an archaeologist and be excited about all you’ve uncovered. You’ll want to continue your expedition and see what else you can work on to help you eliminate these beliefs that are holding you back!

Try it and see what happens.

Terrie

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Complaining & Criticizing Is Making You Sick & Unhappy…And It’s Holding You Back

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stop complainingI think this is one of the most important points I’ve made in a very long time. Whenever you are complaining or criticizing, you’re putting out negative vibrations and thoughts into the Universe. And even if they are thoughts about someone else or some other situation, the Universe only knows that they are emanating from you! Therefore the Universe simply thinks you want more of that negativity to come into your life.

What good does complaining and criticizing do anyway? Does it accomplish complaininganything? No, of course not. It’s different that stating an issue and presenting a solution if there’s one warranted. If there isn’t a solution needed, then there really isn’t a problem is there? And there’s nothing to complain about. Perhaps it’s something that you’re not overly happy about – let’s say a change requested by your new boss. If there’s no solution you can see, then stop and ask yourself what’s really bothering you. Is it, perhaps, that you just don’t like change and that’s why you’re not happy? Is it that you didn’t think of it and that’s why you’re not happy? Is it because you’ll have to start doing things differently and you are happy and content in your current comfort zone? What really is going on in your mind and your heart? That is what you have to investigate no matter how deep you have to dig. Go within, not without. Complaining and criticizing is going “without”. Whereas the introspection to figure out what is going on inside of you is going “within”. That is growth and will help you learn what is going on inside of you and what to do about it. It may be (but probably isn’t) that there really is a problem and with this in depth look, you’ll come up with a solution. However, it is more likely that you’ll find out more about yourself and then be able to improve your outlook and attract more positive things into your life.

Constant codont complainmplaining and criticizing also will make you sick because of all the negative energy surrounding you. Negative thoughts and feelings put you in a low level stress response and the excess cortisol that you’re constantly producing in that state will eventually lead to chronic fatigue and lower your immunity. You really can make yourself sick in so many ways. Do you ever say things like “I’m sick and tired” or “I’m fed up” or even worse “This is killing me” or “you make me sick”. These are all affirmations to the Universe to bring you more of what you’re talking about – the Universe does NOT know that these are just expressions.

Unless you turn within and investigate what is making you feel these negative vibrations, you will never grow and progress. The complaining and criticizing will hold you back. It’s just further validation of your limiting beliefs. You never have the chance to explore what those beliefs are and why you have them and more importantly, how to clear tholding_back_competitors_400_clr_11096hem and figure out what you really want to believe. That is the only way you’ll grow and progress. So, if you feel you’re being held back, realize that you are not being held back by anyone or anything. It’s you who are holding yourself back.  You really are and can be in control of your progress and growth. Stop blaming anyone or anything but yourself. What happened in the past is in the past. The present and the future is totally up to you. You can continue to try to blame external sources but that won’t get you anywhere. The Universal Laws operate within you. You really do have control of your life. Of course, with that awareness comes the responsibility to take things into your own hands. Often that is a great burden but it also brings tremendous freedom! Once you know that you can change things, you can bring whatever you want into your life, you feel lighter and happier. And you realize that you have the ability to grow and nurture yourself to a degree you’ve never had before.

Keep track of how often you complain or criticize others. Figure out something to do to change your thoughts and behavior when you find yourself doing that. For example, just say something like “that person is doing the best he can with what he has” or “I’m sure that he has reasons for behaving that way and I just don’t know what they are”. Practice that on easy things like when you start to criticize other drivers or other parents or someone at a grocery store or event. Simple things that really are unimportant. Once you start practicing on those, you’ll find it easier to change the way you think about the more important things in your life.

Let us know what you think about this and if you can see any pattern in your life that has followed this sequence. I know I can.

Terrie

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Tuesdays With Terrie

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tuesdays-with-terrie-croppedI’m home! See – everything DOES work out for me.

Although there are plenty of places I would rather be, this was one of THE most enjoyable hospital experiences I have ever had (no I am not a masochist, just reporting what I experienced).  I had the best care (shame on the Navy – Army medicine here in San Antonio certainly has Navy medicine beat) you could ever ask for. And I had friends to take care of me and be by my side even when I didn’t know they were there – that was a funny part of the story better kept to telling in person.

The EFT work I did with Mary Ayers  before hand was instrumental in my getting out of the hospital in less than 72 hours from the end of my surgery. I just kept using the techniques that Mary went through with me and whenever I was having concerns or worries, I turned to what she taught me and it worked. I highly recommend both EFT AND Mary to anyone who wants to work with an EFT coach. This has just solidified my faith in coaching and the benefit working with another person who is on your side will give you. I would not have made it through with so little anxiety without Mary! I owe her so very much for working with me on this.

That is the primary lesson for this week – find a coach and hold on to them although there may be times when you have to move on to a different coach. People change but the usefulness of a coach is always positive. A “coach” is a vehicle that helps you get from one place to another – a place of your choosing. You can look at a coach as a sounding board or as a guide or even just a friend. A coach is probably the most valuable resource you can have.

From the weather to my arrival home, everything went according to plan! And whether it was my plan or that of the Universe, I can tell you I was very happy with the plan and its results. The weather was supposed to be a mess – a rIMG_2320are winter weather advisory with icy roads was predicted. Did any of that happen? Heck no. It wasn’t even rainy. My friend cruised right up to the hospital and let me out and I went to the waiting room. I guess if there was any “hitch” at all, it would have been that there was a very, very long delay before I went into the operating room. I knew it would be later than I wanted since I was third on the schedule but I didn’t know it would be that late…and there was no way to get messages to people out of state who were waiting to hear what happened.  But I had great company while waiting (my boss was there the whole time – what a wonderful gesture that was and the staff was great). the Anesthesia crew listened to my concerns about my neck and not wanting to have nausea when I woke up and they succeeded in preventing all of those problems.  The surgical staff was wonderful and kept stopping by to fill me in on the progress in the room and then I went in.

I don’t remember much after that until sometime the next day but I know that people were there and they were my advocates while I was under the “influence” so I was in great hands no matter what.

IMG_2322My pain was pretty minimal and for that I was extremely grateful. I have restrictions that I don’t like (so what else is new huh, when someone else tells me what to do – ha ha). But you know what? I AM going to do what I am told and I am going to find the good in every part of it. I can’t run for 4-6 weeks but I can walk which is more than I expected so I am ecstatic. I can also rest and one thing I realized is that I cannot remember the last time I actually took some time to rest. That feels pretty good. I may even take all the time off work that we planned. That would be unusual, wouldn’t it? But I think it would be delightful.

There are some problems post-operatively that I’m not overly happy about but I’m not going to obsess over them too much, knowing that nothing is insurmountable and I will continue to work with EFT (and hopefully Mary will want to continue to work with m) on them. I am going to use this time to get rested and ready for Vol State this summer but I am also aware of how I messed up my training last year thinking I had to get “it all done” in a short period of time, over trained and got injured to start the run…the perfect recipe for disaster.

If you declare everything good, work to minimize the anticipatory anxiety as much as you can, know what to do when you encounter further anxiety, treat people with gratitude, courtesy and respect no matter what happens and know that you have so much to give to others, NOTHING can go wrong for you.

I thank everyone for their support and concern and hope that you continue to send healing prayers to me as my body works on its molecular level to heal!

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“Cravings are going to occur to you. So here’s the rule of thumb about eating, or about investing in the stock market, or about anything else: If the impulse comes from a joyous thought that feels good, follow it. If the impulse comes from an uncomfortable thought that felt bad, don’t follow it.”
—Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop: Portland, OR on July 13, 2002

On the surface, this seems very simple. But….

The hard part is identifying whether there was a uncomfortable thought leading  to the craving. That requires that you slow down enough to allow yourself to notice what it was that led to your current feeling or desire.

One of my current themes is to slow down and smell the roses. So this saying of Abraham’s comes at the perfect time.

We are so conditioned to think of something like a “craving” as a negative. There’s too much black and white in our culture today. I’m also learning that most things are NOT either good or bad (which implies a moral judgment) but that is such a falsehood. If you consume or feel something in excess and to the exclusion of other aspects of your life, then maybe it could be considered “bad” but its mere existence does not make it bad.

Take food cravings for instance. It also depends on how you define craving but if you were dehydrated or just finished a race or endurance athletic event and were craving water, would that be a bad thing? Heck no. It would be healthy and it’s a positive reflex in the body to have this “craving”.  The “impulse” for the water did not come from a thought that felt bad at all. So, according to Abraham (and I agree) it’s good to follow it. But let’s say you decided to satisfy your thirst by guzzling alcohol….ask yourself what your thought was that led to the desire to quench your thirst with booze. How did that thought feel?

Remember that it’s all about your feelings.

Spend time this week slowing down and paying attention to what’s behind any of your actions or impulsive desires. Keep track in your journal (you can use your gratitude journal to record things like this too you know).

Have a great week!

Terrie