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Dr. Terrie Wurzbacher

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Slow Down

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caution_street_sign_16545I don’t know about you but I’ve always heard (and, of course, never paid much attention to) that the Universe will give you messages and if you don’t heed them, you’ll get other messages in ways that you can’t avoid. If I had paid more attention to this, perhaps I wouldn’t be going through all of this right now. Don’t get me wrong – I am not going through nearly what others are enduring right now so I’m not complaining at all.  In fact, I think it’s been good for me because I’ve learned so much in just a few short months. And one of those lessons is what I want to talk about today.

I’ve also been taking a coaching program that’s called the Psychology of Eating and it’s been phenomenal (with so much more to go too).  It’s not about the conventional methods that people use to take off the weight. One of the prime concepts is to slow down.

I think I mentioned this concept when I discussed embracing the journey not the destination. But it’s so important for us to slow down so we can figure out where we’re really going. Often when we decide on our destination while rushed and hurried, the associated stress response doesn’t allow us to make as wise a choice as we would if we slowed down and took our time to evaluate all courses of action and the pro’s and con’s of each. When was the last time you did that? Haven’t you felt rushed to make a decision. It seems to be part of our culture now. If you go to make a purchase, there’s inevitably someone standing over your shoulder pressuring you to make a choice NOW.  Can you think back to some of these decisions and see if, in the long run, they were the best decisions? Were these the journeys you really wanted to go on?

We need to slow down in everything we do. I know it sounds like I’m talking about a dream world because “that’s just not the way life is in this day and age!” Yeah, I get it. I’ve been there, done that and have lots of T-shirts.  I am aware that making changes is difficult (the subject of upcoNOT-RIGHT-NOW-2ming posts) but what about starting with just ONE aspect in your life that you think you might be able to make a change and slow down – at least for a little while to see if it makes a difference. Remember that you make the rules. No one is forcing you to do anything and certainly no one is saying how long you have to do an experiment for. I’m just trying to get you to make those determinations for yourself BEFORE the Universe decides it’s time to send you the message – ha ha.

Do you eat fast? Do you multi-task as you eat? Can you change that? For at least one meal? Can you turn off the TV or sit away from the computer while you eat just one meal? Try taking 5 deep breaths before you start eating. Remember to be thankful for the food and look at it with love (I am hoping that you prepared it with love too – food really does digest better if it’s been prepared with love). Then take your time with each mouthful. Don’t just shove it in forkful after forkful. Take time to chew slowly and taste the food – having good quality food helps with that too.

What else can you slow down in? Can you start your day with meditation or relaxation? Maybe you’ll have to get up a few minutes earlier but see if it will be worth it – you can try it out on the weekend if you’d like – just to see how it goes.

Make a list of areas where you think your life is fast. This might take you a few days to figure out because you might have to pay attention as you go through the days. Maybe you need the help of a coach or even a good friend. You can even reply here and see if others can give you some help.

I just know that I have learned to slow down and enjoy things as I go along – even if they are not pleasant things. I am revising my outlook to see what I can learn (or what I’m supposed to learn) from every challenge or event that comes into my life.

Let me know where you think you can slow down!

Terrie

 

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Special Remembrance For A Very Special Guy

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stock_photos_55I’m doing something today I’ve never done before. I’m dedicating this post to someone I didn’t know and never met. His name was John. He passed away two days ago.

His presence on this earth significantly impacted a very good friend of mine and through her discussions with me about him and his last journey I became extremely impressed and touched.

Rarely is someone who is not famous or in the news somehow so able to influence others. But John had that talent, that capability. Every time my friend talked about him, I received more of his essence and came to admire him more and more each day.

He fought this illness with the mindset and character of a very special man. There were ups and downs and he took them all in stride, trying to make the best of each event, no matter how despicable the news.

He tried to maintain his daily activities and interactions with people as they always had been right up until the end, despite immense pain and suffering. There was never any complaining about how bad his “lot in life” was. Although it might have been in his thoughts, he didn’t lament “why me” to others trying to solicit their sympathies. He continually tried to buoy up the spirits of those around and close to him, knowing how painful it was for them, knowing it was he who was leaving and going to a better place yet they would remain behind trying to do something with that void.

When my friend mentioned him and his battle, she always talked about his courage and his gentleness. If you think about that, it’s rather paradoxical to be gentle while being courageous. When you think of courage you think of the warrior getting ready for battle, not the lamb standing there trusting all around it.

John’s passing has affected me in a way I can’t even describe no matter how I try to reach for the proper words – and I never even really knew him. How does that happen? It reaffirms to me that there is a universal essence and that no matter where in the world (or Universe) someone is, their being still flows via all those energetic lines that we can’t see. This man had something I wish to emulate – strength that is so deep and diffuse that it could not even be defined.

Have you ever experienced something like this? I find it a very strange, sad, yet peaceful experience and I thank both John and my friend for bringing his love and being into my existence. I pray for the easing of the remaining pain for those around him

Rest in great peace, John!

Terrie

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Tuesdays With Terrie

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tuesdays-with-terrie-croppedSeparation Anxiety – that’s the best way to describe it. A certain group of readers will understand this completely..ha ha.

It’s now been over a month since I’ve been able to/allowed to run. Even though I am allowed to walk, it’s just not the same. Every day I walk by my Garmin wrist device and I have to stop and talk to it so it doesn’t feel lonely. It just sits there wanting to jump onto my wrist and go out and play with me. But, it sees me walk away – it feels snubbed. Who ever thought a device could feel snubbed? But I swear it does. I just hope I remember how to operate it when I’m allowed to run again.

However, I must admit that I have found pleasure in walking for the past several weeks. Knowing I am not allowed to run has enabled me to not worry about my performance but to just enjoy being outside in the gorgeous weather we’re having here in Texas (sorry East Coast). It’s making me long for my Tennessee trek in July. And definitely making me long for the day (1 1/2-2 weeks away still) when I can just take off and run!

I’m back at work now (yesterday was the first day) and still working through some post-op issues but I “think” they are improving (I can’t ever tell until a few days have gone by because my system is so funky). I was wiped out by noon though so fortunately my great boss let me leave early. I think I will do that again today and tomorrow probably – easing my way back into the full swing of things. More of the “taking it slow” concept.

It was good to see everyone again and fortunately we are pending a major crisis at work so that occupied my mind for quite a while – I do much better with an occupied mind rather than having to just dive right back into the boring aspects of my job.

Learning that the world continued to revolve just fine without me was interesting. A few years ago (and maybe even just a year ago) that would have bothered me and I would have felt unneeded. But, this time, it’s part of embracing the journey. I was proud of the guys who took over for me and did a fine job. I  know that they have learned well and know exactly what to do! That felt great too.

I will continue with my “slow down” theme for the month leading into April and encourage you to embrace the concept as well.  There is so much more that we can get out of life if we just slow down and take our time.

Take your time, enjoy your life, you never know what the next moment will bring. Really try to figure out what “enjoy the moment” means to you. Then just do it.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“Make peace with outrageous abundance. You are more likely to have a pure vibration and attract more abundance if you leave money out of the equation. But it isn’t because money is the “root of all evil.” It’s because it messes up your vibration, usually.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: San Francisco, CA on February 27, 2005]

This is a great follow-on to last week’s Momentum Monday. People often criticize us for talking so much about prosperity and abundance. That always tells me something about the complainer, though. If they have a narrow view and see the words prosperity and abundance as meaning only money, then their thoughts in life are narrow and they could benefit from expanding their view and concept of these words. Both prosperity and abundance apply to every aspect of your life – health, peace of mind, friendship, love, happiness, spirituality, wealth (not just monetary) and any other aspect of your life.

The best way to embrace these concepts is by considering it all as abundance (and as Abraham says, make it “outrageous” abundance). Go into a quiet place and listen to your body when you say or think the words “outrageous abundance”. If there seems to be something negative, try the word “abundance” by itself and see if it’s that or the “outrageous” part. Practice visualizing abundance in your life in the easiest way you can imagine – it might be love or friends or it might be health or anything else. Find whatever will give you the best vibration. Work on that feeling and try to then move it over to another aspect of your life. Take your time and go slowly. Try to see if you can remember things you were taught when you were a child regarding these aspects – see if you can identify any limiting beliefs. Once you’re aware of them, then see if you think they are still valid or just have stayed in there because you haven’t paid attention to them previously. Taking everything slowly is the key to seeing what each of these beliefs means in your life.

You really do deserve abundance and can have it!

Terrie

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Who Did You Inspire Today?

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teen_girl_study_chalkboard_custom_16493As you move about your day, do you think about who you may have influenced or may yet influence? If you do, then it might change your behavior for the good.

There are so many people observing us and watching everything we do and say. If we pay attention to that fact, it might “up our game” a bit. By that I mean that it might force us to watch what we say, how we respond or react to things and what actions we take when faced with various circumstances.

I think that this most aptly applies to parents or those who work with/around children because they are always watching what we do and emulating this. Remember a little child standing next to a parent and mimicking the way they stand – like mirror images. We always find that so cute. But what we should also realize is that it’s representative of how attentive children are to us and what we do. They are very attentive even when they are trying to act as if they don’t care.  They are like sponges that absorb everything around them.

Where they run into some difficulty, though, is when they encounter dichotomies – they hear adults talk about how things should be and about how they should act but then they see a totally different behavior. They hear that you shouldn’t text on the phone while you’re driving. But then one day, they’re riding along in the back seat and see you texting. What are they supposed to believe? Should they or shouldn’t they text while driving?

You preach patience and understanding and controlling your temper. But then they see you yelling at some bozo who cut in front of you. See how they don’t know which is correct – what comes out of your mouth or what you do?

How many times a day do you give mixed messages? Try to be consistent throughout the day and throughout your life. Always think about what you’re doing and what message you’re giving before you take action. This could be at work, at church, at home or anywhere you are. Always act in concert with what you believe and what you preach. The phrase “do as I say, not as I do” doesn’t cut it in this day and age. “Big Brother” really is watching you – although in reality, it might be little brother or sister.

Start each day with the resolve to inspire someone during the day. You can define what you think that means to you but set that as your intention and then go about trying to fulfill it. Behave as if you’re surrounded by folks that hang on your every word and want to know more about you and what you believe. Behave as if you want them to emulate what you’ve done!

You may never know who you influenced/inspired today but I would bet that there is someone. And wouldn’t you rather have that happen, then just going through another boring day in your life?

Keep track of this for a week. See how you feel at the end of the day. Did you find yourself acting differently, carrying yourself in a way other than usual? Is it worth keeping up? Let us know

Terrie