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Dr. Terrie Wurzbacher

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Courage

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courage1Remember the Cowardly Lion in the Wizard of Oz? Today’s topic is courage!

Here’s some definitions of courage:

“Strength in the face of pain or grief.”

“The quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.”

“The power or quality of dealing with or facing danger, fear, pain, etc”

Here are 6 attributes of courage (from Melanie Greenberg, PhD:

  1. Feeling fear yet choosing to act
  2. Following your heart
  3. Persevering in the face of adversity
  4. Standing up for what is right
  5. Expanding your horizons, letting go of the familiar
  6. Facing suffering with dignity or faith

All I really know about courage is from observing friends who have displayed immense amounts of courage. I don’t think I’m a very courageous person BUT I do believe I am so very blessed to have people in my life that repeatedly demonstrate courageous acts day after day, minute after minute. They live in a courageous mode.

Ideally we would like to not have to be in any situation that requires courage. We’d create a world where everything goes perfectly and smoothly and nothing bad comes into your life that requires a demonstration of courage. But, since the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws are not taught in our childhood as they should be, we develop multiple limiting beliefs that create situations in our lives that will require courage.

I know two people who, in the last 9 months, have been diagnosed with cancer and have endured the treatments with an upbeat attitude despite the pain and discomfort they’ve had to experience. I admire them both and feel honored to know them.

There is one woman I’d really like to focus on today. She received her diagnosis and projected plan of action about 4 months ago. After 250px-Cowardly_Lionthe initial shock, she realized, as she put it, she didn’t have any “choices”. She just had to get up and go with the flow, finding a way to maneuver her work and life schedule in and around the treatment schedule the medical professionals set up (without consideration for our personal lives at times). She dealt with delays that not only created more anxiety but also interfered with conduct of her work schedule. But she took each one of those at a time and handled the situation in an extremely professional manner. She continued in her outside activities. Both her work and these outside requirements were in service of other people. I am sure that this helped because she has spent her life giving and not taking. She is an exceptional person in that regard. I know of nothing she does that has a selfish motive or intent – NOTHING.

Your first question after hearing about how great she is would be “So why did the Universe give her cancer if she’s so good?” That is a great question and similar to “Why do kids get cancer? What have they done wrong?” I have many theories regarding these questions but none of them is proven so let’s just suffice it to say that there have been forces in life that have brought this disease about.

The more important issue right now is the immense courage of someone like my friend who refused to give up and when they wanted to do something else, she let them, knowing they had her welfare in mind. It was still extremely scary and difficult for her. She had friends and acquaintances around her to help when she was “down” but she still had to endure all of this on her own. That’s what it boils down to – do you have that something deep inside that you can draw upon in order to help you put one foot in front of the other?

She could have given up. She could have said “I don’t care anymore”, “I don’t want to go through all this so I’m just going to curl up in my bed and not come out.” Many people do that and sit around all day wondering “why me”. My friend didn’t allow herself to do that. She mustered up all her internal resources – her strong immune system, her amazing will, her desire to help others, and her realization that she just had to go on. It turned out that this immense will to go on living the life she had been living pulled her through at least the first phase of treatment. She experienced fear, pain, uncertainty, anger, bitterness, despair, feeling of loss of control and multiple other emotions (as you can imagine perhaps – I can’t possibly imagine what it felt like inside of her). She dealt with each emotion, handling it head on and finding a pathway around it. She conquered everything. I don’t like to talk about “battling” something because that puts more energy into it. To conquer, however, is the outcome. Although she has more waiting and treatment to go, she is taking it one step at a time.

I think the “one step at a time” is crucial in talking about courage. It’s so easy to get overwhelmed by trying to deal with everything that you’re getting bombarded with. When we’re overwhelmed, the next “logical” step is inaction or circling the drain, not accomplishing anything positive. When we stop, look at alternative thoughts and actions, we are more able to break it down into measurable activities that you can work with.

Take one part or one emotion and deal with that. If you’re depressed, think about why and if you can do anything to mitigate that depression. What would make you feel “differently”, not necessarily “better” in your mind. Remember that it’s an emotional scale so any movement up that scale is considered positive action even if the emotion is not normally considered positive.  For example, anger is a step up from depression on the scale. So, can you work yourself into being angry about something?

Forcing yourself to look closely at these things and take some sort of action (even if it’s just getting mad), is the embodiment of courage in my opinion.  I applaud anyone who is dealing with any adversity in their life and my friend has my highest accolades. She has been just amazing through the past 4-5 months!

What have you had to show courage in during your life? Put the answer in the comments section and let us know.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there’s usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you’re going to get it. When you pose questions you don’t have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.
—Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop: San Antonio, TX on January 29, 2005

Read this quote over and over again. The importance of it cannot be overstated. It follows on yesterday’s post about Good Vibrations too.

You have the answers to:

  • What you want (clarity comes even from those things you don’t want)
  • Why you want it/them

You don’t necessarily have the answers to:

  • How you’re going to get it
  • When you’re going to get it
  • Whose going to be involved
  • etc

What this quote is saying is that it’s easier to focus on the “why” you want something and since there is usually an emotional investment (and a positive one) the vibrations are high and positive and it’s much more likely that you’re going to be able to allow it into your life. If you’re trying to focus on the “how” with all the attendant logistical concerns. Your intellectual brain starts getting involved with the who, what, when, where, why and how. When that happens you are trained to think of the “pros and cons” and that means you have to think in terms of lack.

If you focus only on the what and why you can be emotional and get your positive vibrations really buzzing on a high plane without any negatives or lack to get in the way.

Try it this week. Focus only on the what and why. If you find your brain drifting toward the “how”, immediately go back to the why!

Terrie

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“Good vibrations”

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Get out into the sunlight — out where everything is — with a vibration that is so dominant that those who annoy you; those who don’t agree with you; those who make your life feel uncomfortable don’t come into your experience, because your vibration — through your practice — has become so clear, so pure, so clean, so in keeping with what you want, that the world that revolves around you just feels like that. That’s what you planned.
—Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop: San Rafael, CA on March 09, 2001

If you’re thinking that I don’t write about anything other than vibrations, you could be right… ha ha. But, that should show you the importance of working to get your vibrations to the highest possible plane.

I can attest to the validity of this statement – when I can get my vibration up above all the daily worries and problems (that I create much to my chagrin), the day goes so much more smoothly. You would think I’d be able to remember that in the morning. You’d also think I’d be able to remember that I create the havoc and hectic environment I’m experiencing right now. I do know it…I just don’t remember it in time to change things.

So what should I do to improve my vibrations?

One easy thing is to do segment intending. Before I get out of bed I should “pave” the way for at least the first part of my day even if it’s just running. The whole point is that you do this paving of your day segment by segment. Before I leave for work, I should pave my ride to work so it’s smooth without red lights or traffic. Then when I pull in the parking lot, I will segment intend my first interactions and even extend to the first meeting or two. I’ll do this before I enter the building. When it’s time to pave the way to another segment I’ll go into the restroom and pave another segment (don’t you wish all road construction was this effective?) and on and on.

Another thing I can do is write in my Book of Positive Aspects each night to write the positive things about the folks that I am creating that havoc with or around. That’s worked well in the past for me. I need to work it on a regular schedule.

So, my goal this week is to raise my vibrations to the point that’s talked about in the quote above. We’ll see what happens! I know this stuff works but as they say “you have to work it”.

Terrie

 

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Letting Go

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custom_clipboard_15291I had another post planned for today but had to tell you about my experience this past weekend!

First a bit of background…..You all know that I love running and after a 15 year hiatus from Ultrarunning (more than 26.2 miles), I have gotten back into it in the past 3 years.  One of my first attempts at a 100 mile race was in 1998 at Umstead 100 miler in North Carolina. However, I only made it 50 miles that day. So, when I was back on the scene again so to speak, 3 years ago, I found out when registration for Umstead was. I remember because I was at work that day (even though it was Saturday) and failing to do the time zone math I was an hour late in attempting to register and therefore didn’t get in (it gets sold out in a few minutes).

Then last year when I really felt I could do a good job and complete Umstead in the required time limit, I had the registration date on my calendar for months. On registration day I had 3 computers going to try to get registered. After 20-30 minutes to no avail I was not able to get in. I was so frustrated with the technology and angry etc.

But you know what? It worked out best for everyone because March (the month of the race) was when I was sick for 8 weeks. I would not have been able to attend the race even if I had gotten in.

I forgot about Umstead focusing instead on the Tennessee event this July and keeping my training all directed toward that. Umstead was no where on my antenna.

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Momentum Monday

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A dream is a manifestation. Just like what you live is a manifestation, but a dream is quicker and easier to achieve, and not so troublesome if there’s something you don’t want.

—Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop: Orlando, FL on February 15, 1997

You manifest what you want (and sometimes don’t want) when you dream. Things just appear or happen! Your life could be like that but we allow our limiting beliefs, our doubts, other people, etc to get in the way and prevent the true materialization of what we’ve already manifested.

Visualization is close to dreaming especially once you get very good at it. Then you’re able to remove your obstacles and produce what you want — even if it’s just in your imagination. The more you visualize, the more you begin to penetrate into your subconscious and get past those limitations.

Enjoy your life. Don’t dwell on the things that make it tough or complicated. See if you can break it down into parts that are easier to handle. Recently I’ve been having a “less than enjoyable” time at work. So this week I decided to try to eliminate the emotions that are a very big part of me (I get passionate about things and people think I’m mad or something but I’m not, I’m just talking about something I care about) and not even respond to any thoughts that have an emotional content. Whenever something came to mind that involved emotion and not just getting the job done, I put it aside and went back to the logistical/practical aspects of work. It’s been working well for the past few days. We’ll see in a week or so what difference it ultimately makes. I have found that it makes me more productive. That is essential.

Use your emotions when you’re experiencing the good things or things that you want more of in your life. Save them for then. Remember that your emotions affect your vibration and it’s most likely that you’re sending multiple mixed messages to the Universe. One minute you’re happy and want this and the next you’re not happy and “don’t want” that. Focus on the things you want. It’s not easy when times are hard but try to do it (remember the Kodak Moments you’ve created and draw upon them) and see if it makes any difference in how you feel. It should ultimately also bring more of the even keeled moments and less of the undesirable ones.

Let me know how things go.

Terrie