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Success vs Skepticism

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did so If you’ve been following the Diana Nyad story (which you probably have if you’ve been reading the blog) you’ll know that now all the skeptics are out in full force. I’m short on time this morning but wanted to bring this up because often times people are afraid of success and I think that the ambush by skeptics is one of the reasons they are afraid. You put yourself out there, training (whether it’s for a sport or for anything in life), preparing and then competing and when you do achieve something great, people start to come after you – they may or may not allow you to have a moment of glory but then they start to dissect every little bit of what’s happened.

I think that Lance Armstrong has saddled us with having to put up with this behavior for a long time to come and I was an avid denier and supporter of his until the “Proof” came out and then I was crushed. So, who do we believe and when do we stop going after the “truth”. Well, I still prefer to believe that people are basically honest, good and forthright in their assertions based on their past behavior.

I realize that the areas that these “experts” are concerned about with Diana have valid points but I believe in her integrity and honesty until it’s been proven otherwise.

You have to know in your  heart whether you achieved what you said you did in an honest manner or not. Did you cut off a mile here or a mile there? Did you get someone to help you with a project you then said you did all by yourself (I remember when I was in high school I got a bad grade on a Latin project – I made a replica of the Coliseum – because the teacher said my father helped me and he did NOT)? Is what you said really what happened. That’s all you need to do in life. Tell the truth. Remember that it’s always easier to tell the truth repeatedly than to remember all the details of a lie you told.

You still have to step out there and try to achieve something great (your “Nyad”) and know in your heart that you did it and that other folks will come out of the woodwork like roaches to try to knock you down. So part of your training should be preparing yourself for this part of success and how you might handle the naysayers.

You know what? I know Diana swam a whole hell of a lot more than any other 64 year old so she’s still my hero even if they are upset because of how she put on the gear etc. That’s NOT all that this event was about. What bothers me most is that the skeptics may be deterring all the wonderful good that Diana did to inspire people of all ages to get off their butts and do something whether it’s physical or not – just do what you feel you need to do! There are always lessons for us to learn and there may be more here to come but hold on to what you know is right inside of you and you’ll be fine.

Have a great day!

Terrie

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Remembering 11 September 2001

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Remember September 11, New York CityI really didn’t do this on purpose but today being 11 September 2013 (12 years after that fateful day) is a perfect follow-on or continuation to our “what’s your story” series. That day was one of THE most eventful and significant days in American history (and probably in  World history too) at least since Pearl Harbor.  Yet I’m a bit disturbed. I’m writing this about 3 a.m. and looking at the various news services on the internet, IF they cover 9/11 at all, it’s buried and not prominent. This is bad in my opinion. It’s also a sign of the times. Since it happened 12 years ago and there has not been another event of its nature, people forget that it happened and also tend to sweep its significance under the table.  Why do we do that? I don’t know but it appears to be very difficult for people to remember what happened yesterday or last week, let alone 12 years ago.  I don’t really think it’s denial – that they hope that by ignoring it, the threat won’t be there or that it never really happened.  I think it’s just similar to that instant gratification syndrome we have. Unless it stays right in your face, you move on – there’s so much external stimuli now, that that kind of behavior is protective in a way. But please do not forget it. Take that moment of silence (it IS just a moment after all) at 8:46 a.m. Eastern time.

What’s your story surrounding September 11th? How do you remember it? It was a horrible day but it also has many positive spins and those are what we should focus on – it’s not sacrilegious to look for the positive. It’s a great way of remembering and celebrating. You can apply this to any aspect of your life and you could start today.

Where were you at 8:46 Eastern time on that day. I know exactly where I was and I know what happened and the thoughts that went through my mind. After we found out the story, my mind has created a montage of scenes, TV views, iStock_000004087071XSmallfeelings, thoughts, fears, etc surrounding that day. I think that Alan Jackson’s song “Where Were You When The World Stopped Turning” captures the lives of almost everyone in every possible scenario. But I didn’t let fear encompass me and paralyze me. It was tempting and perhaps the fear took over a bit that first night but after that, while stuck in Chicago trying to find a way to get out, I tried to focus on the good stories that were coming out of the event. I developed a closeness to people I never expected to. I began to cherish more aspects of my life than I had before.

I will tell you that the most significant and emotional part of the entire time was my running in the New York City Marathon 6 weeks after the attack. And if I had to pick one memory from the time I would pick that. I ran that entire 26.2 miles with my eyes filled with  tears. I will always remember the woman on the side of the road who offered us candy and told us she had been on the 84th floor of one of the towers. She was out there supporting us, New York, America and herself that day. She was making a positive story and changing her vibrations. Finishing that marathon was technically no big deal – I had done alot of marathons before that one but crossing the finish line  that day was significant for me and represented all that I stood for in my life and in my career. I accomplished a small feat that day and the United States had accomplished a much bigger feat by demonstrating its resilience in the weeks, months and years following that day.

You can continue to be horrified by an event or you can see what good came from it. I could write for days about the good that came from that day’s happenings but what I really want is for you to look at your own story about 9/11 and see if you can tell a different one. Go back and read yesterday’s post if need to see the benefits for changing your story. Try it today.

Terrie

 

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What Story Are You Telling?

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book_character_reading_400_clr_9091What? What the heck are you talking about Terrie? What do you mean by my “story”?

Everything we talk about is in story form in one fashion or another.

There are facts and there are stories that revolve around those facts. The stories vary from person to person. Look at so-called “eyewitness” accounts. They can differ dramatically. It’s all about interpretation. You’ve heard “perception is reality” I’m sure. Well that is true.

And there is a definite vibration surrounding your story. So why not tell the story the way you wanted it to be? “But that would be lying” you say. Not really. You can talk about facts without putting lower level vibrations (also known to some as “negative” vibrations) into them. Let’s take a recent example that I mentioned Sunday about not getting into the 100 mile endurance run I wanted to get into.

Facts:

  • I prepared really well:
    • I wrote in my gratitude journal that I got into this event
    • I had no other activities planned for that day until after the sign up time
    • I rebooted both of my computers and shut down everything that would use up resources
    • I was online on both computers on the right site so that I just had to click refresh
  • I clicked refresh repeatedly when the registration link did not show up
  • I repeated this action for 30 minutes, never getting a live registration link
  • I did not get into the event

Stories:

  1. It’s just not fair that I didn’t get in. I did everything right. It must be fixed so that only certain people get in. Why couldn’t I get in. It’s not fair. They don’t want people to participate unless they are specially chosen. I can’t do anything right. This must mean that all this Law of Attraction and gratitude stuff doesn’t really work. I’m so hurt, sad, disappointed, frustrated. I’m really mad I wasted my whole Saturday.
  2. I didn’t get in. There is a reason and it’s one I can’t see right now but I know that “everything always works out for me” and this will too. I had considered whether the dates of this event were too close to the more important 150 mile event I am going to do for MS so maybe this is the Universe’s way of confirming that. It also means I can find other events to run in. I just have to look and will find something even better for me.

See how the facts are pretty straight forward but the two stories are completely different? And there are multiple variations on the story that I could have written.

Which story do you want to tell? Practice changing your story. We’ll talk more about this later this week but right now it’s time for a run!

Terrie

 

 

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Don’t Watch Your Life Pass You By

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Are you trying to get somewhere in life? Would you like to change your direction and go where YOU want to go? I know I want to be in control of where I’m going and what I’m doing in life. I imagine you are like that too. But, perhaps you’ve tried so many times before and you just feel as if you’re stuck on the busy highway that life has you on and you just can’t get off that highway or even make a turn down another street.

Perhaps you’ve seen “The Secret” and “tried” it for awhile. But “it” didn’t work.

I’m not sure what you think didn’t work but usually it’s people thinking that the Law of Attraction didn’t work.  I have breaking news for you though. The Law of Attraction is just that – it’s a Law – it’s always working. The Laws of the Universe are not like the human laws we have (and break constantly thinking they are there for other people or for when you have more time). Think about the Law of Gravity for example – can you ever think of a time where you told something you let go out of your hand not to drop to the floor – and had it work? You may wish as you see things falling that it wasn’t doing that but inevitably we see the object on the floor (or counter or wherever it landed). No matter what you do, the Law of Gravity works. Half the time we don’t pay attention to the fact that it’s a Law and we don’t think about whether it’s working or not. We KNOW it’s working so we’re careful about holding onto things so they don’t drop.

Why do you think the Law of Attraction is different? Because we didn’t learn about it in school or in Physics or some other class when we were growing up? Why? Because we don’t want to admit that we have attracted ALL situations we’ve experienced in our lives? That’s kind of uncomfortable for us now. But what if we had been taught this as children? Perhaps we would have been able to learn to work with the Law and it would not seem so foreign now as adults. If you have children, consider exposing them to this Law and how it works while they are young – they will embrace it alot more too.

Why is it so hard to understand and believe in the Law of Attraction? I think it’s because we do not want to acknowledge and admit that we’ve created many of the situations and events that have developed in our lives. It’s much easier to just go on and say that it was “fate” or “it was meant to be” or it was “because…… (and you can fill in the blanks)”.  If something bad has happened, it’s very hard to tell the world that we brought that horrible thing into our lives. Who wants to brag about that…welll perhaps those who are into “drama” and “pity parties” – but they don’t even realize that they are looking for people to attend their pity party and they want the best entertainment of all – “my story is worse than your story. You can’t top what’s happened to me” – do you know anyone like that. How can you have a pity party if you’ve created terrific things in your life? You can’t. So you draw in the bad things so you can hold your party and celebrate and say “see, I just have this black cloud over my head.” Does this ring any bells?

Many people want to own up to and acknowledge the good things and take credit for bringing the good things into our lives but you know what? If you’re willing to accept that you created the great things in your life, you HAVE to accept (and admit) that you brought the  other things into your life – those not so good things – the things you don’t want to brag about.  You can’t have one without the other.

Bottom line – you attract what you focus on.

Take a minute and think about what you are concentrating on the most during your day. Then identify the emotions associated with those thoughts. It’s the emotions that are key to everything! You must be in vibrational sync with the things you want.

You can’t be saying “I am a millionaire” and expect it to work when

  • Most of the rest of the time you’re worried about (or thinking about) paying the bills
  • You can’t even conceive of having a million dollars because you only make $30,000 a year now
  • You have a belief that “Rich people are not trustworthy or are greedy or are snobs etc” – what are your beliefs about rich people or about millionaires.

So we have a few issues here that get in the way of creating the life we want:

  • What you’re focused on all the time – we have to pay attention to this and get vibrationally (and emotionally) into the space of thinking about what you really want
  • What you can conceive of – similar to what you’re focused on
  • Your beliefs are getting in the way and you don’t even know about it

It’s easier to work through the emotions and the feelings part of focusing than it is to get at all the beliefs we have that are buried and need to be cleared before we move along and plant/nurture the empowering beliefs.

Your beliefs are like your computer’s operating system and they make you tick without any conscious effort. Right now pay attention to your breathing – it’s weird isn’t it? You breathe all the time without conscious effort -even when you’re exerting yourself your breathing increases as your body needs it to, not because you’ve decided to breathe faster or harder. Same goes with your heart beating – if your heart had to wait for you to consciously tell it to beat, you’d be in deep trouble. That’s kind of like the Law of Attraction. It’s working whether you know it or not. I don’t know if you have ever been exposed to biofeedback or not but that is a technique that enables you to control your basic body system functions – breathing, heart rate, blood pressure. It takes a lot of effort and conscious effort at that. But you can work with your body functions just like you can work with the Law of Attractions.

I want to keep focusing on limiting beliefs and transforming them into empowering beliefs. So hang in there with me and we’ll do the work as we go along.  The first task will be to identify those beliefs and decide whether you want to continue to believe them.

Terrie

 

 

 

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Are You Just A Spectator In Your Own Game of Life?

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iStock_000013428675XSmallNow that my 30 days of Inspiration is over (or is it “are over”? Oh well), ask yourself where you fit in all this talk of inspiration, courage and determination. Are you just a spectator in your own game of life? Or are you on the playing field – actively participating and making things happen – influencing your own outcome?

If you are just a spectator AND don’t want to be (sometimes it’s ok to watch and learn but most of the time we want to be an active part of what’s happening in our lives), then we need to look at the beliefs AND the emotions behind why you’re just spectating and NOT making things happen.

I know for me it was hard to grasp the concept of beliefs and that’s what I’ve run across with other folks too. But once I did, man did it make a big difference. Then, when I coupled it with the idea of how much emotions guide where we’re going (and where we’ve been), it almost feels like a no-win situation. Until you realize that you can change all of that. You do have control over both your emotions and your beliefs. If you’re thinking that that’s not true, then guess what? You have what we call “limiting beliefs” – things that are holding you back and keeping you from achieving everything you ever wanted.

I’m going to be talking about limiting beliefs and transforming them into empowering beliefs over the next month or maybe more depending on where we all go from here. My goal is to show you how to empower yourself, how to identify where you’re holding yourself back and then, most importantly, what to do about it.

Remember that if you’re on this site, there’s a fantastic chance you understand or at least know about the Law of Attraction. Bottom line – we create our own reality whether we do it consciously or not. You can’t just take credit for the good things in your life that you “intentionally” manifested. You have to take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life because you brought it all in there.

“Me?” you mutter. “Why on earth would I want to create this bankruptcy or this divorce? You’re out of your mind if you think I did that on purpose”.

No one is saying “on purpose” because that implies a definite intention and unfortunately if we had learned about our intentions (and how powerful they can be) a long time ago, we probably wouldn’t be in this boat right now. But we attract what we are in vibrational synch with (bad grammar or not it’s true). So, if you grew up in an era or a family that had financial problems or was always talking about not having enough or being in debt or “how are we going to pay these bills” (which equals lack), this is what your body began to vibrate with because that’s all you knew. So you now have this long-ago engrained thought/feeling/emotion/belief that you don’t and can’t have enough.

Remember that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again.

Beliefs are generally divided into (or categorized into) limiting and empowering beliefs. Which would you rather have – a belief that holds you back or a belief that lets you know that you CAN actually have everything you’ve ever wanted?

I know the answer for me – I want everything I’ve ever wanted. And you know what? I CAN have it…and so can you. We just need to work on identifying and transforming those limiting beliefs! And that’s what we’ll do over the next 30 plus days.

Start writing down what you believe in….or what you think you can have and what you think you can’t have…stay tuned for more

Terrie