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Who Are You Bashing? And Why?

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smashingI wrote about this in a comment on Facebook a week or so ago but I feel it’s so important that we talk about it a bit more.

It’s a common practice nowadays to bash people or professions such as doctors or lawyers or politicians, etc. This also occurs within similar professions. As one reader pointed out doctors bash chiropractors, everyone bashes lawyers and on and on. It’s as if anyone who might possibly be considered to be in competition is a prime target for you to bash. Why do we do this? Why can’t we just congratulate people for their thoughts and actions, their successes and attempts. The more we praise, the more praise that will come back to us.

Make a list of people or categories of people you routinely “put down” (bash). Then on the right side of the paper, put down the reason you do this? This is so important because it usually is directed toward someone we don’t even know personally. It would be one thing if you had a personal reason to bash someone else because you felt they wronged you or something like that. But most of the time we don’t even have a specific person in mind.

Are you afraid of competition? I had been a victim of this many years ago. I am a Doctor of Osteopathy (D.O.) and the Doctors of Medicine (M.D.) fought against acceptance of my profession for oh so long. They were afraid because D.O.s got better successes while using manipulation as well as all the other techniques that M.D.s knew. We were trained to do more things than an M.D. and instead of embracing that and learning from it, they put up a fight trying to keep people from going to D.O.s and trying to keep the D.O.s from being recognized as a legitimate medical profession.  I am forever grateful to the military because they are the ones who got the D.O.s accepted into the medical healing arts. So you see, I have been bashed and then when you add that I am a female, things got even worse.

On this piece of paper, in another column, write down what your beliefs about this person/group of persons are. Do you believe that all lawyers are shysters? Do you believe that all politicians are crooked? Do you believe that doctors don’t care and are only out of the money and don’t pay attention to what your problem is? I’m sure that most of you could fill a piece of paper just with your beliefs about doctors.

Once you’ve finished writing this list, sit back and look at it. Does it still make sense when you’re looking at it objectively. Is there any evidence to support your belief? How many of this category of people have you met?  What happened with your interaction with them? How did your interaction with one person influence your beliefs about EVERYONE else in that profession. What would happen if a person you just met and whom you really liked “confessed” to you that they belonged to one of the “groups” on your list? Would you like him/her less?

Use this method to question and reframe your beliefs about people and stop bashing them. Start looking for good in everyone and every category. You can use the Book of Positive Aspects concept with a group of people just as you can with an individual person.  Try it and put down at least 3 good characteristics of that group of people every day. I bet your thoughts will change when you follow these practices.

Let me know what you discover about yourself.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“Law of Attraction is Universal, and every person is affected by it. And it is always true that what I think and what I feel and what I get are always a match, and there is not a person on the planet that did not know that when they were born, and there is not a person on the planet that would not benefit by knowing it. But many, many, many are not yet asking and therefore are not yet ready for the answer. And so, we would say that — although everyone wants this information — everyone is not necessarily ready for it. We would not spend any time trying to convince anybody of anything because if they’re not asking, your answers are just irritating.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: San Diego, CA on February 07, 1998]

If you remember nothing else from what I talk about remember this:

“What I think and what I feel and what I get are ALWAYS a match”!

I have given you so many personal examples of how this has worked that I am often almost afraid to have any thoughts – not really but trying to get my point across. But you bet I’m always cognizant of what I’m thinking and then especially of what I’m feeling about that thought. It is the feeling that makes the difference. If you just have a thought and let it go, then there’s no “damage” done. But if you dwell on something and start to input your emotions, then you’ll get more of “it” – whether it’s wanted or unwanted. The Universe doesn’t know the difference and doesn’t care. It is just there to bring you what you are putting emotion (vibration) into. That can be by thinking about what you do want but it can also be what you are repeatedly saying you don’t want…but it will bring you more of what you don’t want because that is what you are focusing on.

If you are saying that you want to have a lot of money so you can pay your bills but then focus on the bills instead of the wealth and prosperity, you will get more bills instead of more money.

Your job is to pay attention to what you are thinking and feeling and then make sure they are in alignment with what you want to receive. Try this out. It will teach you a lot about yourself too.

Oh, the second part of this week’s quote just tells you to not bother to try to explain the Law of Attraction or the other Universal Laws to those who aren’t curious about them because they won’t care and you’ll just irritate them. When someone is ready, they will ask!

Terrie

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Forced Patience

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forced patience

This sounds funny doesn’t it? You wonder how you can possibly be forced into patience. I would have wondered that too before 6 March 2015 when I had my surgery. Since then, however, I have been forced to wait for things that before I would have pushed for and tried to rush. Like many of us, I always wanted things “my way”.

Since my surgery I have learned that you can’t always have things your way. This goes along with all that we’ve been discussing about acceptance vs resistance. Had I not accepted this fact, I would be back in the same situation I was before the surgery and would probably need more of the same. I am NOT going there if I can do anything to help it.

It’s interesting, though, that this “forced” or “imposed” patience has extended to other aspects of my life. For instance, my running. I tried to push back into it and I think it was too soon but then I ended up with the heel problem which forced me to stay off that foot for another week. Of course, I was panicking about a) not being able to get ready in time for my big event in July followed by the concern about b) whether this was a sign I was never going to be able to run again. My knees were hurting even before my ankle and I had absolutely no endurance. Nothing was going right. But then I was forced into abstaining again.

When my ankle felt better enough for me to be able to run, things were a whole lot better. But you know what? This time I decided to just take it easy and do what I could and try to enjoy the running. After all, why do it if you don’t enjoy it. A good friend of mine reminded me of that when I had an unmotivated period a year ago. She told me to just go out and have fun. So that’s what I tried to do this time and decided that whatever happens about July happens. It’s sure not the end of the world in any way, shape or form. It worked.

I’ve also applied this same concept in almost every other part of my life including work which might possibly be the hardest. As such, I have to tell you that having this surgery and having to learn to deal with the complications has been the most valuable thing that has happened to me in such a long time.

Is there something that the Universe is trying to force you to be patient about? If so, why not listen?

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“You have the ability to pivot under any and all conditions. But most of you are habitual in nature, and your patterns are so well entrenched that at times the fastest path to the joy you seek is for you to take your pivot as you sleep. By reaching for good-feeling thoughts before you go to sleep and then experiencing the benefit of the quiet mind that occurs while you sleep—and then upon awakening, immediately turning to good-feeling thoughts—you can accomplish the ultimate Pivoting experience.”
~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008]

Pivoting is a cool technique to cultivate. It’s turning your feelings around. When you’re feeling sad, you find things to think about that will make you happy. With intention and practice this can make your day absolutely wonderful. But, as Abraham says, we are such creatures of habit that we tend to stay in the one mood and often spiral even more downward. That tends to be what makes us “happy” – to stay where we are. Even though we profess to not like being in that unhappy state, we don’t seem to want to do anything to change it. Some of that I think is our victimization behavior. We think that it’s the external world that has made us unhappy at that moment and therefore we have no control and it’s the external world that will have to make us happy again. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. The external world doesn’t make us unhappy. We interpret events around us and internalize them and use our emotions to determine whether we feel happy, unhappy or even just neutral (it doesn’t affect us at all). It’s not the world that makes us feel a certain way. It’s the way we interpret things based on our previous experiences.

Since Abraham recognizes that we’re such creatures of habit, he discusses how to get the joy you want. At night, just before going to sleep, you reach for those better feeling thoughts (what I call the “Kodak Moments”) and focus on them as you drift off to sleep. This will work on your spirit and mind while you sleep all night and provide you the joy you seek.

Try this for a week every night and see how you feel in the morning!

Terrie

 

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What Are You Resisting?

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what-are-you-resistingLast time we talked about acceptance and resistance and how it’s much better for you to just accept whatever has happened and then decide to change what will happen.

It’s important for you to take a few moments to try to figure out what you are resisting. Then you can see the effects of that resistance on your life – your inner feelings. Here’s an example. At work, we’re having issues with our higher headquarters not really including us in what’s going on or in plans for various things. This is mostly due to geography. You know, out of sight, out of mind type thing. Some of what’s being changed involves a project I’ve been involved in since 2009. I am one of three people who really know the background of this thing and have intimate knowledge. Therefore, being left out really bothers me. But you know what? For me to just be upset and angry about being left out only brings more situations to be angry about and get me more riled up inside. It will do NOTHING to create a positive resolution to the problem. In fact, given the way the Law of Attraction works, it will simply bring more situations that we are left out of.  No good will come of my continuing to obsess or be disturbed by this.

Even 8 months ago or maybe even 6 months ago I would still have “fought” this. Of course, there is nothing to “fight” because I have no control over what headquarters does nor do I have much influence over them. But I’m not sure I would have realized that. Now, I just think about it and realize that whatever is going to happen, will. I know that I am available to assist but I also know that my life and self-worth does NOT depend on being included in their plans. I feel so much more relaxed and work is just as enjoyable as always because I can leave problems at HQ where they are – at HQ – far away from us. Why let it bother me and ruin my day?

You’ve heard this expressed differently when people tell you that your being upset is only bothering you, not the other person. Why make your day miserable when they aren’t even thinking about what they said or did to you any more? That is so true.

So how do you find out what you’re resisting? You can feel it inside. Those things you feel anxiety and tension about are those that you are resisting. Pretty simple huh? Go through the events/situations occurring in your life (either currently or even in the past because they may still be active in your mind) and see what makes you feel any sense of anxiety or stress.  Write them down because this is what you are resisting!

Make a list and later you’ll be able to see what is causing that churning inside of you.  Once you look this list over, you might decide it’s time to relax a bit and change how you feel about things. It will make a great difference in your life.

Try it, you’ll like it.

Terrie