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Fix It or Manage It?

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tools_in_custom_pocket_15703I’m taking a course and this is an issue that came up a few weeks ago. How often do you find something going wrong in your life and you spend endless hours trying to fix it? Only to find that nothing you do has worked and in fact, things have gotten worse the harder you’ve tried to fix them? Most of the “getting worse” is because of the Law of Attraction – when you’re trying to fix something, you’re delving deep into it and usually it’s something negative or at least something you do not want in your life. But since you’re entrenched in it, you’re only thinking of it in terms of not wanting it – otherwise it wouldn’t need fixing. You really want the opposite but you won’t attract that because you are focusing on what you do NOT want.

What if you just accepted what was going on and then tried to manage the effects or more importantly, your response to it? Managing the situation is not the same as fixing. It’s accepting things as they are and figuring out how to enjoy life and be happy and satisfied while experiencing this less than desirable thing. What would happen then is that your stress level is markedly decreased and you can concentrate on what you want to happen in your life.

It’s all about focus. Focus only on what it really is you want, not what you don’t want. I’m not suggesting that you have to be a Pollyanna about everything. Far from it. You just have to look at your life from a different perspective.

Practice managing not fixing.

Terrie

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Who Are You Bashing? And Why?

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smashingI wrote about this in a comment on Facebook a week or so ago but I feel it’s so important that we talk about it a bit more.

It’s a common practice nowadays to bash people or professions such as doctors or lawyers or politicians, etc. This also occurs within similar professions. As one reader pointed out doctors bash chiropractors, everyone bashes lawyers and on and on. It’s as if anyone who might possibly be considered to be in competition is a prime target for you to bash. Why do we do this? Why can’t we just congratulate people for their thoughts and actions, their successes and attempts. The more we praise, the more praise that will come back to us.

Make a list of people or categories of people you routinely “put down” (bash). Then on the right side of the paper, put down the reason you do this? This is so important because it usually is directed toward someone we don’t even know personally. It would be one thing if you had a personal reason to bash someone else because you felt they wronged you or something like that. But most of the time we don’t even have a specific person in mind.

Are you afraid of competition? I had been a victim of this many years ago. I am a Doctor of Osteopathy (D.O.) and the Doctors of Medicine (M.D.) fought against acceptance of my profession for oh so long. They were afraid because D.O.s got better successes while using manipulation as well as all the other techniques that M.D.s knew. We were trained to do more things than an M.D. and instead of embracing that and learning from it, they put up a fight trying to keep people from going to D.O.s and trying to keep the D.O.s from being recognized as a legitimate medical profession.  I am forever grateful to the military because they are the ones who got the D.O.s accepted into the medical healing arts. So you see, I have been bashed and then when you add that I am a female, things got even worse.

On this piece of paper, in another column, write down what your beliefs about this person/group of persons are. Do you believe that all lawyers are shysters? Do you believe that all politicians are crooked? Do you believe that doctors don’t care and are only out of the money and don’t pay attention to what your problem is? I’m sure that most of you could fill a piece of paper just with your beliefs about doctors.

Once you’ve finished writing this list, sit back and look at it. Does it still make sense when you’re looking at it objectively. Is there any evidence to support your belief? How many of this category of people have you met?  What happened with your interaction with them? How did your interaction with one person influence your beliefs about EVERYONE else in that profession. What would happen if a person you just met and whom you really liked “confessed” to you that they belonged to one of the “groups” on your list? Would you like him/her less?

Use this method to question and reframe your beliefs about people and stop bashing them. Start looking for good in everyone and every category. You can use the Book of Positive Aspects concept with a group of people just as you can with an individual person.  Try it and put down at least 3 good characteristics of that group of people every day. I bet your thoughts will change when you follow these practices.

Let me know what you discover about yourself.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“Not only does the thought you are choosing right now attract the next thought and the next . . . and so on—it also provides the basis of your alignment with your Inner Being. As you consistently and deliberately think and speak more of what you do want and less of what you do not want, you will find yourself more often in alignment with the pure, positive essence of your own Source; and under those conditions, your life will be extremely pleasing to you.”  ~Abraham (Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008)

Remember how important it is to choose your thoughts. Don’t just let them come to you randomly. Or, if they do, then use something like “that is not my truth” if it’s a negative thought. Or, immediately switch to something positive.

This requires some effort for awhile because you’re trying to change a habit. You have to make a commitment to change if you want to be in better alignment more often.

You’ve heard the expression “boy, you got out of the wrong side of the bed today”.  This happens when your thoughts get into alignment but it’s not necessarily an alignment you’ve chosen. It happens when your thoughts randomly flow and began with one negative thought..when one negative thought begins the train and you don’t change it, more negative thoughts are attracted into your mind. And as Abraham says above, you get into alignment with the negative.

Examine each of your thoughts as they occur. If you don’t do it as the singular thought occurs, at least try to check in with your mind as soon as you detect any evidence of negative alignment. Maybe it’s that your shoulders are slumping. Maybe it’s your heart rate increasing or even your respirations. It can be a physical clue – you know your body. It can be a verbal clue – you know what you say when things are not going great inside your mind. It can be an emotional clue – perhaps you’re getting angry or irritable and don’t really know why. Or something someone does every day is bothering you today whereas it doesn’t usually bother you on other days. These are clues that your mind has gone off on its own and is now aligning with the negative.

You can stop it right there if you make some effort. Start thinking of something good that can come from the not so good thing happening right now. Then what could happen based on that good thing? Why does this have to be a negative situation? Have you had experiences in the past that you initially thought were negative and going against you but in the long run turned out to work in your favor? I know that’s happened to me many times.

Pay attention to your thoughts and then the alignment you’re in. Do something about it!

Terrie

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“A Body In Motion Stays In Motion”

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bodies-in-motionWe’ve heard this in the TV ad for some arthritis medication and it’s very true. Your joints may, indeed, be very painful when you first try to move them but once you get them going, the lubricant within will start moving around and cushion the bones so they are not rubbing against one another. Once you’re up and about, you can continue to keep going without any problem. Your body is very happy moving around all the time because the pain is minimized.

In life, it’s the same. Procrastination or inertia keeps you from starting something – perhaps there’s a habit you wish to change and you know exactly what you want to do but you just “never get around to doing it” (I’ve certainly been there, done that and have plenty of the t-shirts).

However, once you get that first step taken and do something once, even if it’s just a part of what you planned, then it seems easy to keep doing it. Then you want to do it again. The next time, you’ve started to develop more “grooves” for the new habit and it’s easier to start – you might actually even be excited to start doing it. You could even get to the point where it’s hard for you to stop! Wouldn’t that be great. For you to get so happy about an activity that you have been avoiding for so long would be phenomenal.

Wouldn’t you like to see how this works. Pick a day and a time – oh, and of course, an activity. Put this “appointment” down on your calendar so you’re being held accountable for it (even if it’s just accountable to yourself). Then just do it. Even if you only do a tiny little bit. See how you feel afterwards. Journal about it. Then do the scheduling thing again and again until this becomes second nature to you!

Let me know how much motion you get!

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“Law of Attraction is Universal, and every person is affected by it. And it is always true that what I think and what I feel and what I get are always a match, and there is not a person on the planet that did not know that when they were born, and there is not a person on the planet that would not benefit by knowing it. But many, many, many are not yet asking and therefore are not yet ready for the answer. And so, we would say that — although everyone wants this information — everyone is not necessarily ready for it. We would not spend any time trying to convince anybody of anything because if they’re not asking, your answers are just irritating.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: San Diego, CA on February 07, 1998]

If you remember nothing else from what I talk about remember this:

“What I think and what I feel and what I get are ALWAYS a match”!

I have given you so many personal examples of how this has worked that I am often almost afraid to have any thoughts – not really but trying to get my point across. But you bet I’m always cognizant of what I’m thinking and then especially of what I’m feeling about that thought. It is the feeling that makes the difference. If you just have a thought and let it go, then there’s no “damage” done. But if you dwell on something and start to input your emotions, then you’ll get more of “it” – whether it’s wanted or unwanted. The Universe doesn’t know the difference and doesn’t care. It is just there to bring you what you are putting emotion (vibration) into. That can be by thinking about what you do want but it can also be what you are repeatedly saying you don’t want…but it will bring you more of what you don’t want because that is what you are focusing on.

If you are saying that you want to have a lot of money so you can pay your bills but then focus on the bills instead of the wealth and prosperity, you will get more bills instead of more money.

Your job is to pay attention to what you are thinking and feeling and then make sure they are in alignment with what you want to receive. Try this out. It will teach you a lot about yourself too.

Oh, the second part of this week’s quote just tells you to not bother to try to explain the Law of Attraction or the other Universal Laws to those who aren’t curious about them because they won’t care and you’ll just irritate them. When someone is ready, they will ask!

Terrie