Monthly Archives: May 2015

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“If you feel drawn to someone, but you are annoyed because you think that they are telling you some lies, try to look beyond the lies and try to focus upon the feeling. People offer all kinds of words for all kinds of different reasons. Most lies are offered to try to keep things in alignment. We’re not encouraging it, but the motive behind lying is usually a pretty honorable motive. In other words, when a child lies to their parents, it’s usually because they want to be free to do what they want to do, and they don’t want their parents to be upset about it. It’s about wanting an alignment. Physical ears have a hard time hearing this. You keep talking about “We need to be honest.” And we say, we don’t meet any of you who are honest. Even those who claim to be the most virtuous, are not honest, but your vibration always is. We would trust the feeling more than the words.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the workshop: Houston, TX on January 13, 2001]

This is a very interesting concept and one that even I have a hard time comprehending and embracing. However, if I can look beyond my wanting to be so virtuous, I can see the truth and meaning behind it.

I think the key thing is that if you can really tune into that person’s feeling and allow yourself to absorb where they are coming from you should be able to discern the person’s true nature. If you use your instinct and trust your gut, you’ll be able to tell whether the person is truly honest or not. If you detect that this is a truly good person, then you will be able to realize that there is some special reason behind any lie they might tell. It could be embarrassment or shame or any personal feelings that they don’t want exposed. It’s possible they have told a lie because they have a fear of rejection if they told you the truth. It’s self protection and I bet if you looked at your past, you might even find a time when you told a “white lie” in order to protect yourself.

Take the person as a whole. Ask yourself how much that one particular lie matters in the grand scheme of things. Is it possible that you or they have misinterpreted something and therefore it’s not even a lie?

It’s a concept worthy of thought. Why not contemplate it this week and see what it does to you. Let your gut feel things.

Comment on this if you’d like.

Terrie

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The Easiset Way To Change Others Is To Change Yourself

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stick_figure_telepathy_caps_400_clr_5816You really can’t change someone else. So don’t even try. However, if you change your attitude and outlook, often times it will effect a change in the other person.

If you’re unhappy with a relationship (friend, spouse, significant other, boss, fellow employee, sibling, etc), don’t think that it’s the other person’s fault you’re unhappy. You can make the most of a situation from an internal perspective no matter what’s going on externally. Remember how the POWs in World War II survived in their tiny crowded rooms – they did it with their mental attitude and thoughts. They were able to project themselves away from their present and into the future, or at least into a more pleasant part of their memory.

You can do the same as the POWs – many of you may feel as if you’re a prisoner of war in that relationship so this isn’t that far off.

Instead of focusing on the things you don’t like about the relationship or characteristics of the other person, focus on yourself and your contributions to the relationship. You can also do the “Book of Positive Aspects” where every day you write down at least 3 really good things about the other person. Don’t even go to the negative aspects at all. It make take you awhile to come up with some things but do the simple little things so that you have something good to write. The point of this is to focus on good things about the other person if you have to go there at all. If you can just think about your own happiness (and you can’t say you WOULD be happy if….. if they would change or if you were out of the relationship or if this or if that….”if”s are NOT allowed in this game.

Focus on where you can change or even better focus on what the Universe may be telling you. You attracted this relationship remember. I know you don’t want to believe that but you did. So take a look at it and see what is going on in your head and your emotions that is attracting these things you don’t like or want. Look at your beliefs and see if you can track it down that way. For example, do you believe that all men (or women) cheat on their partner? Was that your experience in your family of origin perhaps? If so, that would follow that you’d developed that belief. Maybe you believe that you don’t deserve to be happy. If so, you’d naturally attract situations  where you wouldn’t be happy. Maybe you think that work should be hard and you should be unhappy at work (struggle). So, you’d attract a boss who would make you work hard or you’d attract situations where you don’t have enough staff or you have incompetent staff and you have to work hard to make up for that. Maybe you believe you’re not good enough for a loving relationship or you don’t deserve to be loved or aren’t worthy of love. What do you think is going to be in your life if that’s your belief? Yep, you got it….the exact circumstances you’re trying to avoid.

Uncover your beliefs, do the Book of Positive Aspects and then see what happens in your life. Many times, your relationship changes for the good. Don’t count on that though or that will defeat the purpose of this exercise. The purpose really is to help yourself feel better in your circumstances no matter what does or doesn’t happen externally.

Think about it; try it.

Terrie

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What’s In Your Mirror?

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256916353712336198_lmDCULr4_bThis probably should have been titled “Who’s in your mirror?” but I wanted to follow the trend of “What’s in your wallet” so humor me.

It’s so important for us to be able to see ourselves as we really are. And by this I mean beyond the external looks. So many people are hung up on their weight or the way their noses or mouths or any other body part looks.  Be honest with yourself right now – what are your thoughts when you look in the mirror? Do you thank the Universe for your  body? I would bet that the majority of you will say “no” if you’re honest with yourselves.

Why not? Why don’t we express our thanks for the wonderful vehicle our souls and minds get to move around in? Because of society and the mass compulsion (in the U.S. anyway) with looking a certain way, weighing a certain weight, having a certain color of hair etc. When people talk about what’s attractive, these physical characteristics are what’s mentioned first and I imagine figure predominantly in most people’s thoughts.

I’ve always said that we’d be much more tolerant and more of a loving population if everyone were blind. Then you couldn’t make your judgments based on the way something looks.

Can you practice “looking” at people beyond their exterior? Think about people you meet and ask yourself if you’ve already made a judgment because of their weight, their features, the way they dress etc.  If you have made a judgment of that nature, revisit that opinion and see if you can change it based on something else.  I had an experience a month ago while waiting for a doctor’s appointment in a crowded waiting room. I asked if I could sit down next to this woman who was overweight but as soon as she smiled, it was as if she could mesmerize the entire room – it was such a magnetic smile that I will NEVER forget it. It’s that type of characteristic that I want you all to find in everyone you meet – even if it’s for just a day, or maybe just an hour. Are you willing to try that?

I’ve been at a conference all week and I have practiced this technique. I look at everyone who comes into my field of vision and I look for a smile, a turn of the head, a word, the depth of the eyes..anything other than their external appearances. It’s been a wonderful experience.

The other thing you should practice at least once a day is to thank God (the Universe, Buddha, whomever you wish to thank) for all of your body. Your heart beats so many times a minute EVERY SINGLE minute. It doesn’t get depressed and want to sleep all day. It doesn’t “give up” (unless you have heart disease) and just stop doing what it’s supposed to do.

What about your legs? Do you thank the Universe for them? They move you around. Even if you have arthritis, they still get you around. And the arthritis is telling you something too.  It forces you to slow down and pay attention to things around you.

Your body is wonderful and you should bless it! Thank it! Who cares what it looks like? Does it do everything it’s supposed to do? Then you should acknowledge it. Think about your job. Do you know anyone (or maybe it’s you) that quietly goes about their business doing everything they are supposed to do day after day and never get any acknowledgment? This is no different. That person will eventually get worn down. But if they get some kind of recognition, they get energized again. If you thank your body for the great work it’s been doing, there is  a much higher probability that it will continue to bring you more of the same health and well-being. I think that is often the cause of some of our illnesses. We just disparage our bodies so much, that we attract more of the bad things we are thinking or saying. Do you ever say “I hate the way I look? or “I hate being old”? “I hate being fat”? Any of these are generally accompanied by strong emotion when you’re thinking or saying them. That strong emotion is what attracts more of the same emotion to you – more hate and dislike – and discontent. Do you want that? If not, start loving your body and see what happens.

Try these experiments this week!

Terrie

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Tuesdays With Terrie

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tuesdays-with-terrie-croppedIt’s been a few weeks but things were not going as well as I’d like (plus I was busy as the dickens with work) so I wanted to work through those things before I posted.

I finally feel like my energy is returning from the surgery. It took much longer than I expected which is probably a function of both the type of surgery and my age (nah!) but at least I’m feeling stronger.

I had started trying to run but was not happy at all and in fact, was downright discouraged because I felt worse than when I first started running in 1994. I had no endurance and everything hurt. And then….something unusual developed in my ankle – I got some sort of bursitis in the heel – very unusual for me.  I couldn’t run OR walk. So that was a big downer too.

As a result, I had to ask myself what the Universe was trying to tell me. Was it that I wasn’t going to be able to run anymore or that I wasn’t going to be able to do the Tennessee event in July (running out of time) or even that I needed to revisit my purpose in life? Many questions, no answers.

So, I just relaxed and let the answers come. One answer was that it was NOT too late to consider Tennessee but that I shouldn’t fall into the trap I did last year and try to do too much in too short a time and then violate all the training laws I had ever learned – thus, leading to my injury and early pull out. That answer was very helpful.

Also, I was feeling discouraged but realized that I had control over my feelings no matter what the external circumstances were. I pulled myself up by the bootstraps and realized that my life was NOT dependent on running and that even though I love it very much, if I can’t run, there are many other things I can (and want to) do. Building my coaching program is a major part of my life especially since I’m so immersed in the course I’m taking right now. Also, finishing my book is very important to me. I showed myself how rich and rewarding my life is whether I’m out there on the road or not. It’s ok to take the time to let my ankle heal (no pun intended). If I don’t make it to Tennessee this year, there is next year.

Bottom line, just relax and let the Universe unfold in front of me, holding the positive things that I want to do with my life in the front of my mind, not concentrating on the negatives, or worse yet, the ‘possibles’.  As Mark Twain said –

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

The last thing I want is for those worries TO HAPPEN in my life and being so good at attracting events into my life, I do NOT want to concentrate on any of the worries. I want to focus on all the great stuff that I desire.

One of the activities that is helping with this is my making a desire inventory. I’m listing all the things I desire in life without regard to how or when they might happen. For example, if I wanted a 15 million dollar house (which I don’t but I saw this online last night) I would write it down despite the fact that I have absolutely no idea how I would get it. The point is to put down everything that would make me happy and that I would love in my life.

Try it..it will take awhile especially since you’ll have to get rid of some of these blocks before you can get everything out. But it will be a liberating exercise for you. It will get you out of the confined space where you are right now.

Have a great week!

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“You create your own reality and you do so because the thoughts that you are thinking cause you to emanate a vibrational frequency that the Law of Attraction is constantly responding to. And so, in all waking moments, you are creating your own point of attraction and everything that you experience is coming to you because of your vibrational emanation and the response of Law of Attraction to that vibration. It is as if you are standing on a sort of spinning vibrational disc and only things of the same vibration can join you on your disc. Your disc changes depending upon the thoughts that you are thinking and the emotions that you are feeling.” ~Abraham [Excerpted from the book: Co-creating at Its Best on November 13, 2013]

We’ve talked about this many times but I find that it’s never bad to bring it up again. It’s such an important concept that being reminded every day would be a good thing even.

What this quote tells you is that you MUST watch what you’re thinking about almost each and every moment. If that seems impossible, remember that your goal is to create habits that have you thinking in a way that will attract what you want at all times. Where people get into trouble is when one minute they are up and then the next minute they are down and worried. The roller coaster ride keeps the Universe circling without bringing you anything except more of what you already have – if that’s stuff you don’t want more of, that’s what you’ll get. If it’s good things, then you’ll get more of that. BUT nothing will come very rapidly.

Your desire should be to continuously receive all that you want in abundance. The way to do that is to become steadfast in your thoughts. Whenever you start to think a less than positive producing thought, catch yourself and say “that is not my truth” and immediately switch your thought. I did that yesterday. I was really feeling down about my lack of progress running and then my ankle problem forcing me to take a week off running so I was starting to think that I was doomed to stop running and not do my trek across Tennessee this summer etc etc etc. Fortunately I caught myself early on and reversed that thought to something I could live with. I say ‘that I could live with’ because you don’t want to just try to be Pollyanna because your subconscious mind might not be able to wrap itself around the “goody two shoes” thoughts depending on where you are with it all. The ‘something I could live with’ was the thought about the other directions my life could take and where I could be happy even if I couldn’t run. That got me back into a positive momentum – not positive, perhaps, from a running perspective but positive from a life perspective.  And that’s what’s important. I was able to move from one love into the rest of my life to find something else that I love (coaching and especially this new topic I’m studying) so there were plenty of opportunities for my thoughts to travel – all along a really great line of thinking. So, I did not attract anything bad to me.

Be mindful of your thoughts – if you “slip”, immediately turn them around using some key phrase, word or even “Kodak Moment” to get back on that vibrational disc that will keep the Universe delivering the great things you’re asking for!

You really just have to be aware of what you’re “saying” – either out loud or internally! Continual practice at this will make it your natural state and that’s what we want –  to develop that habit!

Terrie