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Courage

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courage1Remember the Cowardly Lion in the Wizard of Oz? Today’s topic is courage!

Here’s some definitions of courage:

“Strength in the face of pain or grief.”

“The quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.”

“The power or quality of dealing with or facing danger, fear, pain, etc”

Here are 6 attributes of courage (from Melanie Greenberg, PhD:

  1. Feeling fear yet choosing to act
  2. Following your heart
  3. Persevering in the face of adversity
  4. Standing up for what is right
  5. Expanding your horizons, letting go of the familiar
  6. Facing suffering with dignity or faith

All I really know about courage is from observing friends who have displayed immense amounts of courage. I don’t think I’m a very courageous person BUT I do believe I am so very blessed to have people in my life that repeatedly demonstrate courageous acts day after day, minute after minute. They live in a courageous mode.

Ideally we would like to not have to be in any situation that requires courage. We’d create a world where everything goes perfectly and smoothly and nothing bad comes into your life that requires a demonstration of courage. But, since the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws are not taught in our childhood as they should be, we develop multiple limiting beliefs that create situations in our lives that will require courage.

I know two people who, in the last 9 months, have been diagnosed with cancer and have endured the treatments with an upbeat attitude despite the pain and discomfort they’ve had to experience. I admire them both and feel honored to know them.

There is one woman I’d really like to focus on today. She received her diagnosis and projected plan of action about 4 months ago. After 250px-Cowardly_Lionthe initial shock, she realized, as she put it, she didn’t have any “choices”. She just had to get up and go with the flow, finding a way to maneuver her work and life schedule in and around the treatment schedule the medical professionals set up (without consideration for our personal lives at times). She dealt with delays that not only created more anxiety but also interfered with conduct of her work schedule. But she took each one of those at a time and handled the situation in an extremely professional manner. She continued in her outside activities. Both her work and these outside requirements were in service of other people. I am sure that this helped because she has spent her life giving and not taking. She is an exceptional person in that regard. I know of nothing she does that has a selfish motive or intent – NOTHING.

Your first question after hearing about how great she is would be “So why did the Universe give her cancer if she’s so good?” That is a great question and similar to “Why do kids get cancer? What have they done wrong?” I have many theories regarding these questions but none of them is proven so let’s just suffice it to say that there have been forces in life that have brought this disease about.

The more important issue right now is the immense courage of someone like my friend who refused to give up and when they wanted to do something else, she let them, knowing they had her welfare in mind. It was still extremely scary and difficult for her. She had friends and acquaintances around her to help when she was “down” but she still had to endure all of this on her own. That’s what it boils down to – do you have that something deep inside that you can draw upon in order to help you put one foot in front of the other?

She could have given up. She could have said “I don’t care anymore”, “I don’t want to go through all this so I’m just going to curl up in my bed and not come out.” Many people do that and sit around all day wondering “why me”. My friend didn’t allow herself to do that. She mustered up all her internal resources – her strong immune system, her amazing will, her desire to help others, and her realization that she just had to go on. It turned out that this immense will to go on living the life she had been living pulled her through at least the first phase of treatment. She experienced fear, pain, uncertainty, anger, bitterness, despair, feeling of loss of control and multiple other emotions (as you can imagine perhaps – I can’t possibly imagine what it felt like inside of her). She dealt with each emotion, handling it head on and finding a pathway around it. She conquered everything. I don’t like to talk about “battling” something because that puts more energy into it. To conquer, however, is the outcome. Although she has more waiting and treatment to go, she is taking it one step at a time.

I think the “one step at a time” is crucial in talking about courage. It’s so easy to get overwhelmed by trying to deal with everything that you’re getting bombarded with. When we’re overwhelmed, the next “logical” step is inaction or circling the drain, not accomplishing anything positive. When we stop, look at alternative thoughts and actions, we are more able to break it down into measurable activities that you can work with.

Take one part or one emotion and deal with that. If you’re depressed, think about why and if you can do anything to mitigate that depression. What would make you feel “differently”, not necessarily “better” in your mind. Remember that it’s an emotional scale so any movement up that scale is considered positive action even if the emotion is not normally considered positive.  For example, anger is a step up from depression on the scale. So, can you work yourself into being angry about something?

Forcing yourself to look closely at these things and take some sort of action (even if it’s just getting mad), is the embodiment of courage in my opinion.  I applaud anyone who is dealing with any adversity in their life and my friend has my highest accolades. She has been just amazing through the past 4-5 months!

What have you had to show courage in during your life? Put the answer in the comments section and let us know.

Terrie

 

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Home Sweet Home!

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stick_figure_drawing_house_400_clr_9637Your life is like planning for a new home. There are particular steps you have to take in order to live comfortably with minimal to no problems. You don’t just get some land, stick a tent on it and move in unless that’s the style of life you’re used to living and want.

You usually follow the following steps:

  • Obtain the property
  • Clear the land
  • Build the foundation
  • Build the remainder of the house
  • Furnish the house
  • Move in & start living

So how is your life like this process?

Think about it this way. Can you simply turn things over by thinking “ok, today I will change my beliefs and my life will be changed forever”? No, that’s a start but you have to follow this “Home, Sweet Home” process to make the changes really take effect.

Obtain the Property: This is equivalent to obtaining the knowledge – that life can be different, understanding the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws. Additionally, this step involves making the decision that you want to change things.  Often times people will start to make changes without having a basic understanding that what’s holding them back is not the Universe but their YOUnVerse – the beliefs and thoughts inside their minds. Therefore it’s in their control – they are not subject to the happenings of the Universe.

Clear the Land: This is one of the most essential steps. If you were to start building your house without clearing the land (and without laying the foundation), you’d have floors that are bumpy and not straight. The stairs are not even. You can’t stack things on top of one another. What a mess. The land has to have the trees removed (including the stumps and roots), rocks placed elsewhere and the land free of obstacles. You have to do the same.

This part may take the longest of all but once you do it, you’ve accelerated your path toward greatness. You examine your beliefs and determine which ones are limiting and which are the ones you still want to believe it. You look at your beliefs objectively (very difficult) and figure out who instilled them in you (parents, teachers, friends, clergy, media, etc).  Once you have determined where the beliefs came from, you can next evaluate whether or not they are still pertinent and whether or not you should continue to believe them.

Things change and evolve over the years. For instance, there are diseases that didn’t have treatment or vaccines when I was a child but now do. Should I continue to believe these diseases are not treatable? Of course not. These are beliefs I need to dissolve and replace with new beliefs. Remember that a belief is just at thought you keep thinking over and over again.

You can change your beliefs in several ways – you can use denials, you can use affirmations with denials, you can use EFT, etc. custom_text_on_a_shelf_13626Simple analysis with your analytical mind won’t do it although it will help. Beliefs are so embedded in your subconscious that you have to work not only on the cognitive function but also the emotional aspect.

Build the Foundation: Once your old beliefs have been identified and you’ve begun to remove them, you should replace them with the beliefs you choose to embrace at this point in your life. This is creating the foundation for your new life. This phase also consists of learning more about the Universal Laws so that you can understand what is happening in your life and why.

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Momentum Monday

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You have to find a way to be all right with thriving because you are always going to want to thrive. The economy is moving forward in response to the desires of people. And depriving yourself of something does not make more money for someone else to spend. If there were not people who were purchasing things, then all of the people who are working at manufacturing and marketing them would have to find some other ways of making their living. There are so many people who innately want to thrive, who as soon as they begin thriving a little, begin imposing all of these exterior judgements about how much thriving is appropriate, “It’s appropriate to thrive that much, but not that much.” And you have to ask yourself, “At what point do I lose the balance of thriving?”
—Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop: Detroit, MI on September 27, 2003

 It is quite all right for you to want to be prosperous! Somehow we get indoctrinated in our childhood to think that when there are other folks who don’t have it very good, we shouldn’t be abundant. I think that the folks who taught us that also thought that we shouldn’t flaunt our prosperity if we were “fortunate” enough to have it. But, then if we feel we are hiding our prosperity, then there’s the sensation of guilt. See how it’s a no-win situation.

My advice, in the face of everything that we’ve learned as we grew up is to try to wipe out those beliefs (remember that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again) and replace them with beliefs that make more sense now.

  • What is your definition of prosperity and abundance? When you hear those words what do you think? Write the answers down.
  • At the top of a second piece of paper write down what you’ve been taught and what you’ve been thinking all your life about prosperity and abundance.
  • Draw two columns on that same page. Label one column “pros”  and the second column “cons”.
  • Fill in the two columns. It doesn’t matter how you phrase things because you’re the only one who’s going to see it. Often we don’t do something simple like this because of what I call “Fear of Critique”. In this case, we might be afraid that someone would think what we wrote was stupid or that things aren’t spelled correctly. Don’t worry about that because only you will ever see it.
  • Now look at the two columns and decide if you want to keep your definitions or create new ones.
  • If you want to create a new one, write it down below the list of pros and cons.

Now read your new definitions several times a day and keep reading them (it) until you begin to actually believe it.

Try that this week for me and let me know how it goes. Comment below.

 

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Get an Emotional Hostage Negotiator – A Coach!

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coachingSo often we find ourselves just spinning our wheels. We get into a rut and can’t seem to get out of it. What’s happening in these situations? Why do we seem to spiral downward?

We’ve become an emotional hostage – our emotions are keeping us stuck. For those of you who are old enough to remember, it’s like a record player and the needle getting stuck in the same groove and playing the same section over and over again. The needle moves a tiny bit but then skips right back to the place it started. For those of you who are not that old, maybe you remember the movie “Groundhog Day”. Being an emotional hostage is similar to that. Repeating the same events, the same feelings and thus the same vibrations over and over again without any hope of change.

We don’t want to be stuck and when we get out of that groove we surely don’t want to repeat it but it’s as if we started playing the record again from the beginning – it skips again. If you put yourself in the same or similar circumstances with the same emotional tools as you’ve had all along, all your brain knows is to repeat history. And it’s very good at repeating history – that’s called “habit”. Before you know it, you’ve reacted the same way as you did before , whether it was last week, last month or yesterday. It takes the path of least resistance (and least effort). Unfortunately, that most often leads us right back to that rut again.

So how do you break out of this hostage situation. Think about it. If you don’t make any changes, you are a hostage to your emotions. They have reacted before you’re even aware of it. You don’t want that but you’re not sure how to prevent it since it just “seems to happen”.

You can try Abraham’s processes on your own and be pretty successful but you’ll be more successful if you get yourself a “coach” (a Life Coach, Law of Attraction Coach, Personal Coach – whatever type of coach meets your needs). Often times, it’s just the accountability factor that makes this work but when you really are an emotional hostage, your coach will help you spot these areas and your responses and guide you to creating different methods of response – preceded by thinking about where you really want to be. A primary advantage of using a coach is the speed with which you can make the changes. You don’t have to flounder around on your own, trying this and trying that.

Consider talking to me about Law of Attraction coaching. If you’re interested, you can either comment in the comment box or contact me using the contact form. I am a certified Law of Attraction Coach and have been practicing/teaching the Universal Laws of Metphysics for over 25 years.

Terrie

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Laws Are NOT Made To Be Broken

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laws not to be broken 1You often hear people say “rules are made to be broken”. Even though it sometimes is meant as a joke, people often are serious. They feel it’s ok to break rules and as long as they aren’t “caught”, everything’s fine and dandy.

When it comes to the Universal laws, however, there is no breaking them. Take the most known one – the Law of Attraction – for instance. How would you break the “Law”? By focusing on the things that you don’t want all the while expecting what you want to show up in your life.  The Universe does not respond to words – “I want a million dollars”. It responds to your feelings, your vibrations – “I have so many blasted bills to pay, I’ll never get anywhere since I just don’t have enough money”. Even while writing this I could feel the frustration and even despair that would be in someone’s voice if they were saying that. Those are the emotions. There’s frustration, despair, helplessness, anger, depression, disappointment, etc. These are what the Universe responds to. And, as such, this is what you will receive – more lack, more bills. Why? That is the Law – you receive what you ask for and by concentrating on or focusing on the lack, the bills, that is what the Universe thinks you’re asking for – more of it.

“But I can’t escape reality” you say. “The reality is that I have all these bills ad I’m NOT making a million dollars nor do I see how I ever could. How do you expect me to believe and focus on that?” I don’t. I know that it would seem unrealistic and unbelievable for you to believe you have a million dollars when you have a load of bills to pay. You can’t lie to yourself. Well, you could lie to yourself but you wouldn’t believe that lie. So how do you keep from breaking the Law.

You change what you’re thinking about and focusing on. If you’re ill and have a less than desirable diagnosis, you won’t be able to change that just by making an affirmation. So, you have to find something else to focus on – that Kodak moment I keep referring to. When you are thinking about something that makes you feel good or accomplished, then you build up your momentum and your entire body energy alters and that energy will go about working all throughout your body to try to facilitate manifestation of health.