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What’s Your Personal Creed?

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This was in the Weekend Wrap-Up but not everyone reads that so I thought I’d post it here.

I’ve had kind of a nostalgic week. Friday my boss retired. He was an excellent boss and as so often happens in the military, he wasn’t there as long as we would have liked. But I learned so much from him even at my age! He was an exceptional leader and I respect him greatly.
As many of you know, I was in the Navy for 30 years and witnessed many retirement ceremonies but this was the first Army retirement I’d seen. And I have to say it was much more moving than any other I’d seen.

This is not pertinent to the subject but the part that moved me the most was when the young Soldiers presented the flag. They ceremoniously unfolded it to show it in his full view, then refolded it perfectly for presentation. While the Soldiers were performing this, the MC read “Old Glory”. I encourage you to read this poem if you’re an American…and I also recommend you have tissues around.

 

My boss told us his philosophy, his creed, the first day he reported and that is what has stuck even amongst all his other great leadership traits. This is his creed and what he embodies:

  • Treat others with respect
  • Treat yourself with respect
  • Take responsibility

Seems pretty simple doesn’t it? But look at each of the components and see how your life stacks up against them.

Even though I had heard them two years ago, this was a terrific reminder for me – not only to see how well I was doing living up to them but also to think about what my own personal creed is. What do I live by? What do I believe? Do I jump from  3rsone behavior to another or do I stick to the straight and narrow (as I have defined it – we each define our creed in the way that fits our lives).

Does my boss’s philosophy work for you? It sure should because it encompasses everything we need to take care of others in this world. If you’re in a service profession, you know that that’s what life is all about. And you know what? Almost every single profession is a service profession since in order to have any income, you have to provide a service..even if that service is to deliver a product.

Take stock of your life. What would your retirement ceremony be like? Who would speak at it? What would that person say about you? What types of remembrances would you want at the ceremony (they showed a video with photos of my boss all throughout various stages of his career. Interspersed were videos from people whom he had influenced in his life and who were far away. Each one said thank you and told him how much he had taught them – it was extremely touching).

You’ve heard people recommend you write your own obituary. Well, although I think that’s a good idea too,designing your retirement ceremony is a great way to reflect upon your life and then you can also see if there’s anything about your life you’d like to change in the next phase of your life (even if it’s an arbitrary line you draw). In the imaginative world, you can retire at any time you want and begin another “profession/job”- meaning starting a new phase of your life.

Think about it and figure out who you’d invite, when you want to have the ceremony, and what will be said – not only by you but by the guest speakers you invite.

Write it out and keep it. Refine it as you go along.

Try it and see what happens. What do you have to lose?

Terrie

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Watch Your Language – What Are You Saying To Your Kids?

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watch-your-language2Remember how we talk about where beliefs come from? Remember that one of the primary embedders of your beliefs were your parents? Yep, it starts at a very early age. Your parents instill the vast majority of your beliefs.

So what? Well, it’s important for us to realize as adults that a belief is just a thought we think over and over – and if our parents have repeated something many times, it most likely now has been chiseled into our subconscious mind like the 10 commandments in stone. The determination of what beliefs come from where and what to do about our own beliefs are subjects for many other posts.

I am addressing this to parents or teachers who are involved with children. You MUST watch what you say to them and around them. If you are constantly yelling, arguing or condemning and criticizing, think intensely about what that is doing to (or telling) your children. Do you really want to teach them your biases and prejudices? Do you want them to hear you talk about safe driving but then watch you text or talk on your cell phone while you drive them to school or another destination? Do you want them to adopt the phrases you use – “I’m fed up. I’m sick and tired. You’re killing me. You ALWAYS let me down. You NEVER pay attention to what I want. Etc” Do you really want them to learn those “Always and Nevers”?  Do you want them to hear you call people names – even if it’s just at a baseball game and you’re mad at the umpire “You stink, you lousy ump”?

Take some time to think about what it is you really do want them to hear and learn. Think of it this way – what do you want them to be embedding in their subconscious that could be traced back to you. Do you want them to be saddled with a belief that they aren’t good enough because you were having a bad day and they didn’t get a 100 on a test. I remember that vividly – I was asked “why didn’t you get a 100, Terrie”. I couldn’t understand why that was the response instead of joy and happiness at the 98 I had achieved.

Think before you speak. I imagine you give that advice to your kids all the time but do you practice what you preach?

If not, maybe you should start. Remember that the beliefs that your children will grow up embracing will have come from you. This has a tremendous bearing on their lives and ability to achieve success in life. Do your best to help them now.

Terrie

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Should Your Doctor Talk To You About The Law Of Attraction At Your Next Visit?

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LOA-doctorThe Law of Attraction is ALWAYS operating in our world (and everyone’s world) whether we’re aware of it or not. What we focus on is what comes in to our lives. And what we HAVE FOCUSED on in the past comes into our lives too. Instead of the saying “you are what you eat”, we should accurately substitute

You are what you THOUGHT!

We often either neglect the effect of emotions, feelings and vibrations on our well being or we tend to think the Law of Attraction only applies to certain aspects of our life, such as “abundance” or “prosperity”. Naysayers of the Law of Attraction say that it’s wrong to focus on money and wealth, interpreting that this is the meaning of prosperity and abundance. But both prosperity and abundance include all aspects of well being, NOT just money. Abundance can refer to health, wealth, peace of mind, love, relationships, any part of your life. Same goes for prosperity.

Thus, it stands to reason that your health can be definitely impacted by what you’ve been thinking. This can be in the form of stress about your job, stress about your financial situation, or it can take the shape of worrying about contracting a certain disease or illness.

Many people, however, do not want to hear that they may be the cause of their condition. After all, that would then mean “it’s all in your head” and no one wants to believe this. But let me talk to about the difference. Psychosomatic illness is a phrase that people cringe at when someone utters it. But it’s so applicable to every single disease of condition you have. What it means is that your body (somatic) responds to your thoughts (psycho-).  This has been proven and it makes sense to anyone who understands the Universal Laws, including the Law of Attraction.

So, to me, it’s logical that Law of Attraction questions SHOULD be a part of the history and physical and discussion that your physician takes when you come to his office. A couple of weeks ago I had to complete a new patient questionnaire and it contained 135 questions. Not ONE of them had anything to do with how I was feeling, what I was worried or stressed about, what I had been thinking of for the few weeks before going to see someone. All of these are pertinent to figuring out what is wrong with the patient as much as all the lab tests they do.

Why are these questions and concepts so important? Your doctor can prescribe you tons of medicines and get many tests but if he or she doesn’t dig deep into what’s behind your symptoms, they will continue even if they are toned down by the medicines. This means it’s liable to return once this exacerbation is “cured”. If you don’t get the splinter out of the foot, it will continue to fester and hurt no matter how much you drain it.

There are also other considerations – what is the “up side” of having something wrong with you? You need to answer that and your doctor should pursue that too. If it’s not identified, then the condition is likely to persist. I have told this story before but it bears repeating. When I was an intern, I dreaded going on my pediatric rotation because I didn’t like kids. I had thought about how much I disliked kids and didn’t want to do the rotation for a long, long time. Interestingly, the week before I was due to rotate onto pediatrics I started getting sick. I was never sick. But, believe it or not, I had developed pneumonia – showed up on the x-ray big as life. As such, I was excused from the first 7-10 days of my rotation. Did I know that was why I got sick then? Heck no, and this was not a well known topic at that time either. It wasn’t until many years later that I realized what I had done. And yes, I did it to myself. I caused myself to get pneumonia. I know there are many other times this has happened as well but none so obvious as that example.

Some of us are prone to accidents and musculoskeletal injuries. These folks are often having too much going on in their lives and they want to be immobilized and prevented from moving forward. The best way for that to occur is for your muscles, bones and joints to be affected.

Often people who develop serious illnesses such as cardiac disease or even cancer have a long history of being concerned about getting it especially if it runs in their families. They feel it’s inevitable and that puts their vibrations right there to attract that to you. None of this is intentional and no one should either rebel at this theory or kick themselves saying they should have been able to prevent it. It’s a philosophy that is coming more into acceptance as the days and months go by.  There are so many programs that involve alternative or complimentary medicine and energy medicine, all of which should be incorporated in your armamentarium for conquering illness and injury.

It’s my thought that a physician should be able to discuss this with their patients and try to get to the root of everything. But, from personal experience, I know that patients get upset if they hear things they don’t want to hear about. There lies the dilemma. These are also the same people who will complain about their doctor not paying enough attention to them. If a doctor is afraid of the repercussions from addressing these issues, why should they bother in this litigation minded populace. It appears that it’s going to be the patients job to work on finding out what’s going on inside of them and being as honest with themselves as they can be.

Look inside whenever you develop any symptoms. What’s going on in your life? What are you concerned about? What has been going on in your family or at work? What are your beliefs? Ask yourself the hard questions and then be honest with the answers.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1Yesterday was Easter and since most people are busy on that day, I saved my “Easter Message” til today – very fitting, too, because it’s all about Momentum!

A good friend reminded me last week that Easter is about New Beginnings and that was a great thought for me given the last 5-6 weeks. So I thought that everyone could benefit from thinking about what their new beginning was going to be and also how to start your new beginning. Everyone always thinks of Christmas or the New Year as the time to make resolutions and therefore a “New Beginning”.  But, we can actually make a new start, another “beginning” at any time.

One of the problems, though, is identifying what it is you want to change. In other words, identify where your momentum is right now and where you want it to be.  That’s the easy part. After that you might look at triggers and beliefs and what your feelings/vibrations are right now.

What is it that’s bothering you right now (if anything)? If everything is going as you like it in your life and you don’t want to change anything, that’s great and you just need to keep that momentum going – keep telling that story and build on it.

But, if there are things you’d like to change (even if they aren’t “bad”), then this is the time to examine them and start changing your story. In reality all you need to do is stop telling the old story and start telling the story you want to be happening in your life. You can do this even if it seems foreign to you because it hasn’t happened yet. The more you tell that story and visualize the results you want, the greater likelihood that you will ultimately change your vibration which is essential for you to achieve what you want. It isn’t enough to just say you want something all the while you’re still focusing on the things you don’t want. That’s why telling the wanted story and visualizing your successes is so vital. You have to have the feeling of success and achievement permeate your being so that your vibrations do match your desire. If you want well being and health, you can’t keep saying “I want to be pain-free” or “I want to breathe better” or “I want my joints to stop hurting” or “I want to be healed”. All of those phrases are focusing on what you have now which is what you do NOT want. But the fact that you are focusing on the pain, the trouble breathing, etc, means that you will get more of that. Even saying “I want to be healed” means you are still focusing on being ill (or else you wouldn’t need to be healed, right?).

Instead, you would say things like “my joints move with such fluidity and carry me everywhere I wish to go”, “I breathe easily and deeply”,  “I am whole and healthy and my body can do anything I ask of it.” Visualize what each of your phrases square_onemeans to you. Use the 68 second process too. Talk to yourself or a loved one/friend for 68 seconds about how great you feel when you have these things.  If you’re a runner and your knees are hurting, say things like “I run miles and miles and miles and feel so free and happy. I am ecstatic with my speed and endurance. I love to run and it brings me nothing but pleasure. I am running in the Boston Marathon. I am completing my 100 mile run……etc.” Notice I did not mention anything about knees or pain or anything other than the joy I was experiencing. If you talked at all about your knees, it would bring you back to the pain in your knees.

Once you’ve identified the things that you want to change (health, work, relationships, etc), list each one on a piece of paper (or in your computer), then write down what you are feeling about that thing – are you feeling resentment, anger, fear, embarrassment or shame, disappointment, despair, etc. List them all.

Then beneath that list, write down the beliefs you have about that thing – do you believe you aren’t good enough to get another job, that all men (or women) cheat on their spouse,  that all the good men (or women) are already taken, that you can’t get any more income because you have a salary job, etc. What have you “decided” about this area of your life? Remember that a belief is a thought you keep thinking over and over again. So, if you’ve experienced similar results from certain activities in the past, you most likely have developed/created certain beliefs surrounding that activity. This is vital to identify because you most likely don’t even know you created or have that belief since it’s now embedded in your subconscious.

Once you have this table/list, you can look at it and start writing on another piece of paper what it is you want to believe and experience.

Then start talking about those things. Stop yourself when you find yourself telling your old story. Enlist the help of a friend to keep you from telling your story too. We often feel we have to tell everyone how we got to a certain point – often in excruciating detail. Yet, all that does is turn your momentum downward toward the thing you’re trying to change. No one needs to know all that history. You really can rewrite your legacy based on the story you tell. So from now on just tell the story that’s going to make your momentum fly you high and keep it going.

Good luck with your list and your new beginning. If you commit to doing this and especially changing your story telling techniques, you will change your life!

Terrie

 

 

 

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Fire Your Autopilot and Grab Control of Your Life

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riding_the_winds_400_clr_13990It’s time to take back control of your own life!

“Huh”?  you say. I live in the United States – of course I’m in control of my life…..”aren’t I”?

Have you ever wondered “Why the heck did I do (or say) that? I would never say that (or do that). What was I thinking?” Or, perhaps, you react to something without even thinking about it. And then wonder where that came from.  Here’s something to do for fun (and profit actually). Spend a day or two and write down your reactions and thoughts about things as the day goes on.  I’ll give you an example. We were having an email dialogue with the people at our headquarters the other day. My “roommate” (office mate) sent a great email. Well, the last email that came from the boss said “Let’s do it and end the debate”. My roommate interpreted that as the boss being mad at his last email. When I read it (and another colleague thought the same thing) I immediately thought the boss was telling someone else to just “let it go”.  See how my roommate responded (reacted) to what he read and felt he had done something wrong.  That’s just a tiny example but I imagine if you look at your day AND take the time to write your observations and thoughts down, you’ll see very similar patterns in yourself. They could be bigger than this or even smaller.

What’s happening is that you have all these beliefs embedded in you from your prior experience – your growing up and even now. If we are not paying attention to what’s going into our conscious and subconscious, then things slip in without anyone acting as the gatekeeper.  Then we perpetuate it and continue onward thinking and reacting in the same way over and over again – it becomes a habit and then a way of life.

You don’t want your autopilot (other people’s thoughts and ideas) running your life. Yet, that is what is happening when we’re not attentive to what’s going on with this autopilot. Are your beliefs really yours? Are your reactions yours?

Paying attention and writing your observations down will help you recognize thoughts and actions you don’t want to embrace. Once you notice them, you’ll have begun to identify beliefs that are not your own and beliefs you don’t wish to continue to claim as yours. That is the very first step and is the hardest and most important one.

After this identification, you’ll want to list the beliefs you WANT to choose to replace these.

This part will not happen overnight. Most of those beliefs are long standing – they’ve been ingrained in you since childhood and put there by your parents. So you combine the authority figure feature with the amount of time you’ve had that as a part of your subconscious, you’ll simply set yourself up for failure if you expect to change it in one attempt.

Start by claiming “That is not my truth” every time you start to think something that is uncomfortable for you (a clue that it might not really be your belief) or that you’re uncertain about (another clue). An example is the way that everyone falls into the trap of thinking “flu season is just around the corner” because the TV and radio ads are out there in abundance selling cold and flu products. So we mindlessly accept that there’s a high probability that we’ll get sick in the next month. And when we do, we just accept it as the expected outcome of life. If you start by saying “that is not my truth. I do NOT get sick in the winter time and I do not believe in a flu season”, you’ll start to remove that belief from your subconscious. You also should add “I am healthy all year round” to replace the one belief with one you want to embrace.

There are more techniques but this is the primary way to start.

Terrie