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Life Is A Team Sport – All Teams Have Coaches

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four_legged_race_fail_400_clr_13648Are you part of a “team” that’s not quite in synch?  A group that’s falling all over itself – whether this is a family, group of friends or colleagues at work. Take a look at the teams you’re involved with.

Humans are, by nature, members of groups. Oh, you may think of yourself as a loaner but when push comes to shove, you don’t survive alone.  Even Sandra Bullock in “The Net” really wanted relationships with others but was painfully shy (and nerdy).

But also as humans we want to “do our own thing”.  We think we’ve got our stuff together and we know how to get along with everyone or worse yet, we don’t care if we get along.

We should care and we need to invoke the greatest knowledge possible to interact in a productive manner each and every day.  We don’t know what’s going on in other folks’ minds. We don’t even really know what they mean when they say things. We THINK we know what they mean but we rarely will ask for clarification or verification of what they really mean.  So we blithely go along acting in response to what we THINK.

You’ve heard the expression/quote that says “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”. Sometimes we don’t realize that we are doing the same things over and over – we just do them. That’s the power (not always good) of habit. And awareness is required for us to see the habits that sort of run our days. You can work on this yourself by paying attention to EVERYTHING you do but that could get cumbersome and might even defeat your purpose and develop other habits. There is nothing wrong with stopping before you think or act though and analyzing why you are taking that action.  That will help you become aware.

You can also solicit an “accountability” buddy and ask that person to help you recognize when you do something you’ve decided you want to change. Of course, that accountability buddy can also be considered a coach since you’ve asked someone four_legged_race_400_clr_13647outside of yourself to examine your behavior and help you identify when and why you do something.

We all can use help or support. That is exactly what a coach does. You can use a coach in any way you choose – any way you think will help you conquer your problem. Life Coaches (or even Law of Attraction coaches like myself) help you in whatever area of your life you are looking to improve. You identify an area you want to change and the coach will help you get your ducks in a row and help you figure out what you have to do in order to achieve that goal. You can have one primary coach with many additional supporters or you could even have various coaches. I know people who have both life coaches and business coaches. I can see the benefit in that for sure.

Figure out if you’ve been doing the same thing over and over again without getting the results you want.

Then consider using a Law of Attraction coach to help you continuously raise your vibration and stay on those high-flying discs in order to achieve your goal. Contact me if you’re interested in seeing what we could do together.

Terrie

 

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What’s Your Personal Creed?

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This was in the Weekend Wrap-Up but not everyone reads that so I thought I’d post it here.

I’ve had kind of a nostalgic week. Friday my boss retired. He was an excellent boss and as so often happens in the military, he wasn’t there as long as we would have liked. But I learned so much from him even at my age! He was an exceptional leader and I respect him greatly.
As many of you know, I was in the Navy for 30 years and witnessed many retirement ceremonies but this was the first Army retirement I’d seen. And I have to say it was much more moving than any other I’d seen.

This is not pertinent to the subject but the part that moved me the most was when the young Soldiers presented the flag. They ceremoniously unfolded it to show it in his full view, then refolded it perfectly for presentation. While the Soldiers were performing this, the MC read “Old Glory”. I encourage you to read this poem if you’re an American…and I also recommend you have tissues around.

 

My boss told us his philosophy, his creed, the first day he reported and that is what has stuck even amongst all his other great leadership traits. This is his creed and what he embodies:

  • Treat others with respect
  • Treat yourself with respect
  • Take responsibility

Seems pretty simple doesn’t it? But look at each of the components and see how your life stacks up against them.

Even though I had heard them two years ago, this was a terrific reminder for me – not only to see how well I was doing living up to them but also to think about what my own personal creed is. What do I live by? What do I believe? Do I jump from  3rsone behavior to another or do I stick to the straight and narrow (as I have defined it – we each define our creed in the way that fits our lives).

Does my boss’s philosophy work for you? It sure should because it encompasses everything we need to take care of others in this world. If you’re in a service profession, you know that that’s what life is all about. And you know what? Almost every single profession is a service profession since in order to have any income, you have to provide a service..even if that service is to deliver a product.

Take stock of your life. What would your retirement ceremony be like? Who would speak at it? What would that person say about you? What types of remembrances would you want at the ceremony (they showed a video with photos of my boss all throughout various stages of his career. Interspersed were videos from people whom he had influenced in his life and who were far away. Each one said thank you and told him how much he had taught them – it was extremely touching).

You’ve heard people recommend you write your own obituary. Well, although I think that’s a good idea too,designing your retirement ceremony is a great way to reflect upon your life and then you can also see if there’s anything about your life you’d like to change in the next phase of your life (even if it’s an arbitrary line you draw). In the imaginative world, you can retire at any time you want and begin another “profession/job”- meaning starting a new phase of your life.

Think about it and figure out who you’d invite, when you want to have the ceremony, and what will be said – not only by you but by the guest speakers you invite.

Write it out and keep it. Refine it as you go along.

Try it and see what happens. What do you have to lose?

Terrie

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Honoring Dr. Jeanette Cates – Day #4 – Honor Someone Who Has Inspired You

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catesheadshot300 Today’s honoree is a very special person in my life in SO MANY WAYS! I could (and probably will) say that about many folks during my “Top 30 Month” but Dr. Jeanette Cates holds a particular place in my heart – and mind.

I first met Dr. Cates in 2006 at a Jim Edwards conference. I had just started my business and knew how to do teleseminars with my business partner. Dr. Cates was speaking on, imagine that, teleseminars. I was intrigued by her teaching style, her knowledge and most of all by the fact that she lived just 70 miles up the road from me in Austin, Texas – at that point in my business life I thought that all IMPORTANT people were untouchable and lived “far away” (even though George Strait lives “far away” although he’s right here in San Antonio).

As the conference went on my shy little self finally got the courage to talk to Dr. Cates and thank her for her information and expertise.  We talked a bit and then I crawled back into my hole 🙂

When I got home I made sure that I followed everything she did and bought every product of hers that I could find. Her ability to teach and get the important points and concepts across in such a short period of time – so concisely and succinctly- amazed and pleased me. I had taken many courses that were weeks long and by the time I finished I forgot what was said in week 1. But Dr. Cates could take that information (from several weeks of a course) and place the practical knowledge into our heads in about an hour. I was blown away by her amazing talents to say nothing of her phenomenal knowledge.  She had a follower forever in me.

As the years went by we became closer (I think that’s because I was just a pest that she finally started to accept). We met at a few more conferences and I got a bit less shy and we talked more.  We also found out that she sometimes was in San Antonio and we took advantage of that and had lunch and then I would drive to Austin and we’d have lunch – can you see a pattern here – and a common denominator – food…LOL.

Without boring you I just will say that Dr. Cates has been a very influence in my life as a friend, mentor and internet business presence. There is NO ONE on the internet that can take you from nothing to success in such a short period of time like she can. She is so far beyond all of us (I still am a beginner in many ways even though I’ve done this for 7 years now) but, unlike so many, is able to remember what it was like to be at the beginning and knows exactly what we need.

She is compassionate and caring and will do just about anything for anyone who needs help and wants to learn. She is brilliant (genius is a better descriptor) but is not “too good” for everyone else as you often find in people that smart.

Dr. Cates really wants people to succeed – she’s had opportunities to expand beyond the beginner arena and yet remained a staple for us – a life preserver for us.  There really is no one else out there that fills her shoes. I would follow her anywhere and if she tells me to jump, I jump.

But she is so much more as a person and I owe her my life in so many ways. She stepped forward two years ago and gave me the information and the opportunity to change my life and begin again. I can NEVER thank her enough for that. So, not only has she had such a positive impact on my internet business but also on my personal life. Where in life do you ever have the opportunity to have such a total friendship/relationship. This only happens once in a life time and I know that I am so very blessed and realize that the Law of Attraction has brought Dr. Jeanette Cates into my life for a very important reason – I’m not sure I would be alive today if not for her. Not many people have a friend that has been a life line for them and had such meaning. But I am one who does and I revel in it every day.

Thank you Dr. Cates! For EVERYTHING! I honor you today (and every other day of my current and future life).

Terrie

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What I Learned in Just 7 Days, Part 1 – ….Amazing Shift in Power and Perspective

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 It’s kind of funny. I was just preparing some material for Define & Conquer 2013 and was looking back at last week’s posts. In the morning post from the 26th I sounded rather blah about doing a second 1/2 marathon that day. Little did I know what was going to happen. I had no idea how much my life and psyche was going to change in just 7 days.

Instead of just doing two back to back half-marathons, I ended up doing 6 1/2 marathons and 1 FULL marathon (26.2 miles) in 7 days. I had NOT planned on doing that at all. I was going to “try” to run 3 half-marathons in a row over the weekend. Although I had thought about doing all 7 half-marathons, that had been thwarted by my having to go back to work on Thursday and Friday. But then I got brave and asked my boss for those two additional days off – not so I could run but for other reasons. And I was blessed because he said “yes”.

Now that I had the opportunity to run all 7, did I have the courage and the capability?

I wasn’t sure. And I definitely wasn’t going to commit to anyone that I was going to try. That might mean failure if I couldn’t. And no one wants to risk failure if they can help it. But I don’t know that it was that I didn’t want to risk failure. More that I didn’t want to be embarrassed if I failed (in my mind it would have been a failure – not in other people’s – see how our limiting beliefs get in the way).

But you know what? I did the second and then I committed to showing up to try the 3rd. Doing the second one was uncharted territory for me and doing 3 in a row certainly was. But by then I was really up for a challenge and willing to put myself out there.

Why?

Because of the love and support I felt from these people I had simply interacted with once before – over Thanksgiving weekend. They embraced my attempt and realized that it was something new for me and beyond what I had done before. It was ‘nothing’ for them because they were all doing 12 FULL marathons in a row so doing another half marathon really was no big deal for them. But you would never have known it. You would have thought I was running for president and they were all my supporters. It was such a shift of energy – a feeling of acceptance and support I had never felt before from runners. Since I’m so slow and most runners are all about time and being fast, they don’t usually want anything to do with a slowpoke – and an old one to boot.

I know that I would not even have attempted this had it not been for all their energy. I was thinking about that last night especially as I still sat in awe of what I actually went out and did. Would I have done 6 runs in a row of 13.1 miles each and one of 26.2 miles – all in 7 days without them? NO! I can almost guarantee it. I fed off their energy pure and simple. You could feel it surround everyone, not just me. This group of people (and especially the race director) are very special folks filled with so much love and dedication.

Each step was preceded by my new mantra – forward motion. That’s all it was – relentless forward motion. I had to just continue moving forward. That’s what we all must do in life – every day, every minute, we have to continue to move forward. Do not ever forget that.

There were many obstacles during this 7 days for sure. I will talk about them more later. Again, if left to my own devices I would not have completed these events. Yet with the encouragement and witnessing of what each of them was working toward and overcoming I was able to overcome my own monsters (obstacles).

Here’s some words  and phrases that describe the concepts I experienced in 7 days – and I’ll talk more about these in future parts: Perspective, Perception, Persistence,  Overcoming Obstacles, Judgment, Perseverance, Passion, Pursuit, Love, Friendship, Camaraderie, Chunking Down, Acceptance, Mind over Body, Mind with Body, Pushing Pain, Loving What you Do, Doing What You Love, Teamwork, Balance, Rest,  Achievement, and so much more

There’s much to be learned about life in this short time frame. I can tell you that my power and my perspective has definitely changed.

Til later – sign up for Define & Conquer 2013 NOW.