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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”  Steve Jobs
Take this quote to heart. It’s fitting that I ran across this not too long after the movie about Steve Jobs was released. I haven’t yet seen the movie but I admire the man. And, perhaps this quote explains why. I do know that it’s changed the way I do things. I am not sure how long “too many days in a row” is but I now ask myself that every single day. And then I vow to do something about it in the next 24 hours. Somehow I do something different and something that is in alignment with what I want my life to represent. It may just be doing a random act of kindness (or an intentional act of kindness). That’s pretty simple isn’t it?

Try this every morning for at least a week and see how your life changes.

Terrie

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Reality is Perception

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glass_half_full_empty_400_clr_5473 Most of you are used to reading this as “Perception is reality”. I think, in simple terms, they both say the same thing. As Wayne Dyer says “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.

I made the “mistake’ of looking this phrase up and was immediately inundated with theories of reality and blah blah blah…I fell asleep reading the scientific and philosophical mumbo jumbo.

It’s really pretty easy for me. What you see and hear really depends on a multitude of factors:

Your heritage and upbringing (people with different backgrounds have different meanings for certain words and phrases)

Your mood (when you’re in a good mood you look at something completely differently from when you’re in a bad mood)

Your beliefs (if you feel that something is against what you believe, you may be offended even if it’s not meant offensively)

Your experience with the “event” (if you’ve had a good experience with something, you’ll believe it’s a good thing…read some product and book reviews and you’ll see what makes someone give an item a poor review – it may just be poor customer service even though the product was ok).

Your education (you may not understand what the event/product/statement is supposed to mean because your education level has either differed from others or it’s related to your upbringing as we discussed above)

There are many other things that can influence how you look at something.

The only way to stop letting these factors interfere with your enjoyment or happiness is to have an open mind and go into every situation saying to yourself that you’ll look at this completely differently than you used to. That is changing your thoughts. And it is the most valuable activity you can do.

If you’re quick to judgement (I would never know anything about that – ha ha), stop yourself after you’ve made that first judgement and re-evaluate. Take a deep breath and write the “thing” on a piece of paper.

Underneath the “thing” write down the possible ways you can look at it. Just write in a free-flow manner.

Once you’ve exhausted your ideas, go back and read over the list.

What do you see? Do you see varying ideas and interpretations? What would make one better than the other? Or, more real than another?

Can you figure out how you want to change your thoughts about this particular situation?

If so, you’ve taken the first step to changing your life to make it the way you want it to be! That is empowerment. That is freedom.

Enjoy the process – that is probably the most important thing of all.

Terrie

 

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Are You a Slow Learner? What’s LIfe Trying To Tell You?

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slow learner Generally when things keep “going wrong” there is a message that you’re supposed to be getting. What usually happens, though, is that we don’t pay attention. We don’t slow down enough to actually “hear” what that message is.

So, then we go along and repeat the exact same action – as they say – we just “rinse and repeat”. Guess what? The Universe will deliver whatever it is we’re paying attention to and focusing on. More of the same comes our way.

Instead of just walking along blindly, falling into the same hole over and over again, slow down or even stop and take a look at what life is trying to tell you. What are you supposed to be hearing? Could it be that you should be more patient? How about less judgmental and more accepting? Maybe you need to learn how to say “no”. Maybe you have to develop outside interests. Maybe you need to pay more attention to your health. Any of these and more are possibilities.

Eventually the Universe will get your attention. But you really don’t want it to get this far, do you? Why experience so much more misery? If you could slow down, listen and make on the spot corrections, then your life could be so much more simple and happy. It’s “ok” to have one bad experience but why go through it so many times?

When you do stop and take some inventory, you will most likely uncover many of your limiting beliefs. Frequently people who experience abuse repeatedly are either a product of abusive childhoods or believe that they deserve to be punished – for just about anything and everything. This is a significant limiting belief and unless you uncover it and work to get rid of it, you really will just repeat history.

  • Figure out what’s happened to make you unhappy at this particular moment.
  • Swallow your pride and listen to what others have to tell you about the cause – even if you have to hear that you’re not the greatest at something or that you have a fault that warrants correction. Although it’s not easy to hear that now, it’s much better than to experience the same tragedy over and over again.
  • Evaluate what others have told you. Put it up against what you think might be going wrong. Was it you? Was it someone or something else? But always remember that we attract EVERYTHING into our lives and it’s our job to figure out what that was and why we keep attracting it. That’s where a large majority of your time should be spent.
  • When you’ve made that evaluation list, examine it and see if you can uncover some of your limiting beliefs? What are they? Go as deep as you can. Do you feel unworthy of love or money? If so, why?
  • Once you’ve discovered these limiting beliefs see if you can identify other events in your life that were based on the same limitations.
  • Write down the limiting beliefs (or other reasons you think this has happened).
  • What are you going to do about it? What actions are you going to take? Maybe you admit that you have to take responsibility for what’s happened and you make an attempt to change the actions or thoughts that have caused the problem.
  • Start a book of positive aspects if it involves other people. Remember to write at least 3 things a day about the other person. I think you can also try this for a situation too even though it was developed for problems with people.
  • The important thing is to journal (even if it’s just jotting short notes) of what happens, what you think, how you’re changing (or not), what you want to keep doing, and what the results are. Write it all down so you can learn from it later.

Try this and stop being a slow learner. Move up the ladder in life by making the changes.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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If you’re going through a bad time right now, this saying is for you.

Can you look back on your life and examine any time where it seemed as if everything was falling apart but things ended up being better than they ever were before. During the crisis you thought that your world was ending and you’d never be happy or have anything again. But, often, after months or even years, you’re happy again. What’s up? How did that happen? Somehow you made it through the rough times and were able to make the most of the situation. As you were experiencing it, you were able to express to the Universe what you really wanted, put emotion into it and the Universe delivered.

Often when you are faced with dire circumstances, your brain waves get you going in the direction of yelling out (figuratively and often literally) what you really want. This is in contrast to the moping and concentrating on the lack in your life. You turn the corner, even if it’s for just a few seconds and shout it out that you want abundance – abundance of whatever you’re missing (love, friendship, peace of mind, money, work, etc). In that moment, you are concentrating on the good and stating what you want. Believe me when I say that the Universe listens when you put all that emotion into it. It perks up because it’s hearing something different from you and it immediately begins to “fill your order”. It begins working to bring you what you really want. Often, that moment in time is a turning point for you and you may not even realize it. You’re able to make it through all the bad times because you’ve realized (even it only subconsciously) that you don’t want the bad stuff, but you want the good stuff. Now that is what you’re going for – and you vow to not quit until you get that. If you can hold that focus, then you’re all set. The Universe will bring it to you pretty quickly (remember the Law of Gestation, though. Everything has it’s own time to come to you).

Try to remember this when you are considering going back into the slump you were in before. Remember to reach for a better feeling thought. That doesn’t mean you have to be PollyAnna but you can just try to think something a bit better. This is where diversion is often helpful for getting to that better feeling thought. You can also remember that the Universe will bring you what you’re asking for and if you continually vacillate from wanting the positive to lamenting your lack, then the Universe is like a warehouse attendant that takes something off the shelf to fulfill an order and then has to put it back up there when the order is changed. And on and on.

Keep the “ordering” process in mind no matter how bad things get and adamantly state what you want – and what you really do deserve!

Terrie

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Variety is the Spice of Life

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variety is the spice of lifeThis is a “no brainer” when we’re just making conversation. But what about when it has to do with our own lives? Oops…when we actually have to embrace the concept – no matter what the changes may be – it’s not so easy.

Now I’m not talking about plain old variety but often the forced kind of variety. Case in point – when someone is no longer able to perform a hobby or even a job because of an illness or injury, they then have to switch to some other activity or job. It becomes very awkward and is often met with resistance IF the person has not had other activities to at least dabble in while they were so immersed in the thing they love to do.

I guess this phrase goes along with the “don’t put all your eggs in one basket” theory too. If all your eggs are in one place and that basket is dropped or crushed, you’re left with nothing. So, for the sake of your future, it’s wise to find other things to occupy your time and life.  Otherwise you end up depressed and worried about trying to get into a new activity when you’ve never even thought about it.

Variety also helps keep you from being burned out. This applies to both work and play events. The more variety you have in each area of your life, the more you mind can engage different parts of your brain and raise your endorphins.  That gives you a lift in all parts of your life. In addition, it keeps you busy and that is always useful for keeping you excited about life.

In order to prevent being caught without something to do in your life, start spreading your wings and become interested in different things in your life. This will keep you from being totally derailed if anything happens that throws you off your game for awhile (or even permanently).

Take an inventory and see how narrow your life is or isn’t. Are there areas you want to or should broaden. Is your life just focused on one thing. For example, my life was all medicine when I was younger. If anything had happened that would have removed me from that field, I have no idea what would have happened to me. I would have been in a great state of despair. Fortunately, nothing happened and I learned to extend my interests. And after many years, I also developed other interests other than my primary one of running. This was beneficial since I have been out of running now for nearly 4 months and would have gone stark raving mad had there been nothing else in my life.

Take a look at your life and figure out what else you might be interested in! You won’t regret it.

Terrie