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Take Personal Responsibility

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responsiblity clipboardIt’s so often that we want to blame something or someone else for our problems. But, once we’ve embraced the metaphysical teachings, including the Law of Attraction, we have to accept the fact that we really are the ones responsible for everything that happens in our lives.

Although it’s much easier to externalize the blame or put the responsibility elsewhere, it’s not correct. And it’s definitely dis-empowering (not sure that’s a word but it says everything).  If other people or other circumstances are responsible for what happens to you, then you’re like a little bobblehead doll just sitting there waiting for someone to shake you. You can’t move until you’re shaken. Do you want to live like that? I know I don’t.

I met a man last week and joined his coaching program. I got the distinct impression when I met him and (and when I talked on the first coaching call) that he didn’t like me. In the past, I would have just moped around saying to myself (or anyone who would listen) that he didn’t like me….which translates into “poor little ole me……blah blah blah”.

Now, however, I have a much different approach – instead of accepting that conclusion (which, by the way, has no real basis), whenever I start to have that thought I continue to say to myself  “if that’s true, it’s my job to change that and I can do that”. That makes it my responsibility. It means I have to take the action to behave in a way that would turn his opinion around, not just sit and wait and “hope” that he’ll change and magically start to like me. It’s all within my power.

This type of situation often occurs when there are abnormal family dynamics too. If you sit around the BBQ and listen to people talk, it’s always “the mother-in-law’s” fault or the “sister” or someone else. Instead, stop and look at what your part is in the dynamic. If you’re not even part of the disagreeing parties, then you should probably just stop even talking about it. If you are involved, consider using the Book of Positive Aspects to see what can be changed about the situation. Every day write down THREE things about that other person that are good. Sometimes that might be hard but you can even resort to things like “he/she is always clean” or something of the sort until you can come up with another more meaningful positive attribute.

Take the responsibility for your life and your actions. It will make all the difference in the world.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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Your World

I had this concept hammered into my head this past week. It’s so important to simply do something. I am an expert at procrastination – I think I should say I HAVE BEEN an expert at procrastination and I CHOOSE to change that right now.

I was impressed with how much action I need to take but also impressed with the results that may occur when I stop procrastinating.  I can sit and watch life go by or I can spend my time doing things that are profitable to me. I’m not just talking about profitable in regards to money but I mean profitable in everything in life – relationships, love, happiness, fitness etc. ANYTHING that I would like to have more of is something I will work at.

What are you going to do to shape your own world? Or are you just going to sit around and let things happen around you? I’m not. Join me in making a change today! Let me know what you’re going to do?

Terrie

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Make Every Situation a “Win-Win” Situation

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winwinThis will be a quickie because I have to leave for the airport soon (headed home – yeah!).

This title was planned a while ago but it’s certainly extremely timely.

I’ve been at this publicity summit for the past week – completely out of my comfort zone!!!!! Talk about anxiety (which of course I lessened using EFT).

I wanted to quit on Wednesday because I wasn’t well prepared and didn’t feel I was doing very well. However, as “fate” will have it, I met the most wonderful man who sat and talked with me for over a half hour helping me understand that what I was feeling was normal and “ok”.

He kept me going but then there were all the terrific people in the room that also kept me going. I don’t think I did very well with the media but I sure did really well with all the people that were surrounding me. What an amazing experience.

I was also able to give back to the people who were around me, reaching out to help them too. I had a great time and now have lots to follow-up with and plan but at least I know the direction to go in!

What more of a win-win situation could there be.

Talk to you later…gotta run for the plane.

Terrie

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Your Next Chapter

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next chapterI also could have titled this “Starting Over” because that’s what it really is about. I have been completely inactive now for almost 12 weeks – that’s THREE months.  And I was getting very discouraged because in the last two weeks I felt I was getting worse – my feet were hurting more and I felt unsteady walking. I finally realized that my unsteadiness is from markedly decreased muscle strength, which is from inactivity.

So now my job is to figure out how to combat the pain (which is not specifically from my fractures) and to build my strength back up.

But what I also realized was that when I do get the strength back and hopefully will also be able to combat the pain, I will almost have to learn to run again.

That could be depressing and for a little while I was depressed but that didn’t last. Because I also thought about how fortunate I am and have been to have been able to run for as long as I have. But on a less fatalistic note, I also thought that this does NOT mean I won’t be able to run again. It just may take awhile and I have to be patient. I’ve never had a fracture in my lower extremities (let alone 4 of them) and I’m older now. So I really don’t know what to expect. I’ve had to walk on these feet all the while they have been trying to heal too.

Patience is a word that is not normally in my vocabulary. However, it’s going to have to become a major part of it now.

It might be time to write a new chapter of my life. It might be a continuation of the same chapter or it might be completely different. I also know that whatever it is, it will be a gift for me to work with and package up to be as beautiful as the gift (actually it’s gifts) I’ve already been given.

It does no good to lament any loss. It’s more important and useful to embrace the new chapter and look forward to what’s going to come with it. Doing so with happiness, joy and a wonderful outlook will put that Law of Attraction into motion and bring me wondrous things.

The thing I think we sometimes forget, though, is that the memories and thoughts about the past are there and can be used in whatever way you want them to be used.  You can use them to feel sorry for yourself or you can use them to experience joy and help get your vibration up to assist you in making the most of your new chapter! Memories are great when you want to experience the old days but don’t dwell on them and do the “poor me” dance. Enjoy them and be grateful you had them and know that you’ll have more.

Starting over can be a good thing. You can learn new methods or skills and you can influence people in different ways. Your purpose might even be able to be better fulfilled in this new chapter. I often think about the greatness of those that experience tragic illnesses or injuries and can no longer do what they have trained to do all their lives and then go on to do something even more special and impactful.

Turn that page!

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1                                    when you feel like quittingI think this is a great saying for all of us to remember at any point when we are having second thoughts about something.

If you started whatever you’re doing for a good reason, then there’s still that reason and it should propel you to keep going. Ask yourself what it was that made you start this project and why was it important to you.

Then it’s legitimate to ask “is that original reason still valid?” If not, then you might want to consider deep-sixing the entire thing. But if it’s still an important reason and you still feel strongly about it, then ask yourself what it is that’s holding you back or making you want to quit. Has it become difficult (or more difficult than you anticipated)? If your reason is still important to you, then you can certainly overcome “difficult” – maybe you just need a different approach. Or maybe even just take a short break to regroup. But if it’s still important to you, you really do not want to quit.

I’m pretty sure I wrote about wanting to quit my July race at 298 miles (with only 16 to go). People do not believe me when I say that I would have been at peace with that and was at peace if my crew had let me quit. I would not have had regrets and would not have second guessed myself. I had had 4 1/2 days to think through this even though it hadn’t been something I wanted to do at that point. But remember I was doing these 4 1/2 days on fractured feet (I didn’t know that – I just knew that they hurt like the dickens). So I had had plenty of time to think about it all. I had made peace with myself and was extremely happy with what I had already done so I could live with it.

But with the publicity seminar I’m going to this week, things are different. I wanted to quit but it was simply out of fear. I realized this yesterday. The reason I wanted to go was still valid. I was just afraid. That helped me regroup and reset.

Try it and see what happen.

Terrie