We’ve talked about this before but it’s so important that I want to discuss it again – perhaps in a different way.

It’s a basic application of the Law of Attraction.  You get more of what you’re focusing on. You are sending out the “problem” energy wavelengths. Therefore, of course you’re going to get more of the problem.

If you put your energy out there in the “solution” wavelength, you will get the solution.

How do you switch from focusing on the problem to concentrating on the solution? You have to WANT the solution first. “Obviously” I can hear you muttering. But it’s not so obvious. Many people want to continue to focus on the problem because that’s what will get them the attention they crave. They aren’t doing it consciously. It’s a learned behavior, a habit that’s been engrained in their souls for a very long time. They probably weren’t taught how to focus on anything else. I think another word for all this is “worry”.  These people often also don’t like change. If they continue to pay attention to the problem, then they don’t have to change. Things will stay the same with even more of the same (the problem). It gives them something to talk about too. How often do you find a news program or newspaper that is filled completely with good news? Rarely. It’s blood, guts, murder, crime and all the other bad stuff that makes the news. This is because our culture is excited by drama and misfortune. I don’t know why but I’m sure the psychologists do. It just aggravates me so I don’t participate – that means I don’t watch the news. Your first step, then, is to stop participating in the conversations that are problem centered. This may take some creativity but I have confidence that you can do it. Most people are pretty skilled in changing the subject or even just walking away to find something else to do. If you continue to hang out with them, your motivation to change your habits and behavior will be minimal. And even if you are motivated to change, you are more likely to be overwhelmed by the behavior and talk of others.

Next, repeat my favorite affirmations many, many times during the day. The easiest one is “Everything always works out for me!” You can also tailor and then use the other one “Nothing and no one can interfere with my prosperity (or health, or finding the solution or whatever is appropriate for you), not even myself”. People think affirmations don’t work. But they do. And one thing they do is to redirect your momentum and wavelengths from the negative. You may not yet be focusing on the positive but you’re more neutral and less focused on the negative.  This is a crucial step. You want to stop those problem-focused thoughts in their tracks.

Then follow the affirmations with “Show me the way” – this will open your mind to the Universe and you’ll be more likely to receive an answer!

Repeatedly tell yourself that there is a solution for every problem and it is yours for the asking.

Try to look at what the solution would be like when it comes to you.

There are many other things you can do once you decide you no longer want to be involved in the problem mindset. Make a list of them and keep it on an index card with you all the time.

Be creative and just remember the ultimate goal – the solution.

Terrie

As you move about your day, do you think about who you may have influenced or may yet influence? If you do, then it might change your behavior for the good.

There are so many people observing us and watching everything we do and say. If we pay attention to that fact, it might “up our game” a bit. By that I mean that it might force us to watch what we say, how we respond or react to things and what actions we take when faced with various circumstances.

I think that this most aptly applies to parents or those who work with/around children because they are always watching what we do and emulating this. Remember a little child standing next to a parent and mimicking the way they stand – like mirror images. We always find that so cute. But what we should also realize is that it’s representative of how attentive children are to us and what we do. They are very attentive even when they are trying to act as if they don’t care.  They are like sponges that absorb everything around them.

Where they run into some difficulty, though, is when they encounter dichotomies – they hear adults talk about how things should be and about how they should act but then they see a totally different behavior. They hear that you shouldn’t text on the phone while you’re driving. But then one day, they’re riding along in the back seat and see you texting. What are they supposed to believe? Should they or shouldn’t they text while driving?

You preach patience and understanding and controlling your temper. But then they see you yelling at some bozo who cut in front of you. See how they don’t know which is correct – what comes out of your mouth or what you do?

How many times a day do you give mixed messages? Try to be consistent throughout the day and throughout your life. Always think about what you’re doing and what message you’re giving before you take action. This could be at work, at church, at home or anywhere you are. Always act in concert with what you believe and what you preach. The phrase “do as I say, not as I do” doesn’t cut it in this day and age. “Big Brother” really is watching you – although in reality, it might be little brother or sister.

Start each day with the resolve to inspire someone during the day. You can define what you think that means to you but set that as your intention and then go about trying to fulfill it. Behave as if you’re surrounded by folks that hang on your every word and want to know more about you and what you believe. Behave as if you want them to emulate what you’ve done!

You may never know who you influenced/inspired today but I would bet that there is someone. And wouldn’t you rather have that happen, then just going through another boring day in your life?

Keep track of this for a week. See how you feel at the end of the day. Did you find yourself acting differently, carrying yourself in a way other than usual? Is it worth keeping up? Let us know

Terrie