Category Archives: Beliefs

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Words of Wisdom

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I read this in “Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey and it applies to our goal setting process and the identification of our limiting beliefs.

“If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions.”

This is exactly why we go through the entire process from inventory to future desires to identification of limiting beliefs, removing them and replacing them with those you choose.

Terrie

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Metaphysical Moment From “The Help”

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As I wrote in my day 2 Gratitude, I am grateful for the movie “The Help”.  Apparently this movie has created quite a stir because of what it portrays and many people say it’s inaccurate but then others say it’s very accurate.

I do not want to debate that. I feel it was an excellent movie and hope that it gets several Academy Awards – but they are a long way off.

It ought to get a “Metaphysical Award” though. There was one concept repeated throughout the movie that everyone must be aware of and practice. Aibileen (the star in my opinion) has taken care of many white babies and children through her years of service with multiple families. She ALWAYS tells the children that they are smart and important no matter what anyone tells them. She repeats this daily and whenever a parent yells at a child. She talks about how important it is to her to make sure the children have self-respect and confidence, again no matter what the parent says or does. This scene is placed stategically in the movie several times and Aibileen talks about it many times too. Please pay attention – this woman knows that what is impressed upon us as children tends to stay with us – thus, the basis for our “beliefs” – and it is the limiting beliefs we have that keep us from attaining the goals we aspire too. Unfortunately, because they are so ingrained in us, it is often extremely difficult to figure out what they are.

See the movie or read the book (or both) but always remember to tell your children (and anyone else you interact with) that they are smart and important.

Have a great day!

Terrie

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How to Use The People In Your Life To Change Your Life

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Since the Law of Attraction essentially means “like attracts like”, use the people around you to determine your personality qualities. The people in your life that annoy you are the ones you should pay great attention to because these qualities are probably somewhere within you too. Those folks whom you admire are the ones who have characteristics you want to adopt. Use affirmations and denials to clear the old and embed the new.

Make a list of people in your life who irritate you. Write down the qualities they have that bother you. Just keep a running list of these qualities for now. Once you have collected all the people’s names and the characteristics they have that bother you, it’s time to get rid of them. Do NOT make the mistake of trying to decide if you have them or not. It is a high probability that you do and if you try to analyze it, you’ll just talk yourself out of it. “There’s no way I am like that” – I can just hear you now.

For each of these undesirable qualities, create a denial. A denial simply is telling the Universe that there is none of this characteristic in your life. You just fill in the blank “There is NO ____ in my life”. For example “There is no lack in my life”, “There is no limitation in my life”, “There is no disharmony in my life”, “There is no hatred in my life”, etc. Do that for each of the characteristics you don’t like. Read this list of denials every day at least twice a day (morning and night) and if you can do a third time in the day that would be ideal. Read the list over 2-3 times at each session. Ideally you should do this for 7 days.

Now, make a list of the people in your life whom you respect (it can also be people in history that you respect). do the same with this list. Write down the qualities you like and want. Next you take this list and make affirmations out of them. An affirmation must be in the present tense, using positive words and you have to check the combination of your words to make sure you’re not asking for the wrong thing. For example you do not want to say “My life is in harmony” because your subconscious hears inharmony and will bring chaos and discontent to your life. Put another word in between – “my life is in perfect harmony” for instance. Don’t say “my affairs are in order” unless you want to start having affairs.

Make this list of affirmations and do the same as you did with the denials. Read this list 2-3 times every morning and evening and preferably in between. You can also take the affirmations (and even the denials) and put a select group on index cards and take the cards with you and say them at any point throughout the day when you have the opportunity.

Using affirmations and denials will enable you to clear out the qualities you don’t want and embed the qualities you do. It really works. Sometimes you have to continue saying both the affirmations and the denials for longer than you think you should have to but just keep doing it and you’ll see a change in yourself (and your life) within  a month or so.

Although there is an art to making affirmations that don’t get boring, as long as you remember to put everything positively and in the present tense, you can’t go wrong. If you want to learn more about how to create the affirmations check out  Creating Effective Affirmations .

Terrie

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Do You Know Who You Were Born To Be?

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As anyone who’s followed this site for any length of time knows, I am an avid Susan Boyle fan. I could write for days about why and what I think she represents but today I wanted to share the lyrics of one of her most wonderful songs – and one that was written for her. It’s “Who I Was Born to Be”, written by Johan Fransson; Tim Mikael Larsson; Tobias Lundgren; Audra Mae.

Here are the lyrics:

When I was a child
I could see the wind in the trees
And I heard a song in the breeze
It was there, singing out my name

But I am not a girl
I have known the taste of defeat
And I’ve finally grown to believe
It will all came around again

And though I may not know the answers
I can finally say I am free
And if the questions led me here
Then I am who I was born to be

And so here am I
Open arms and ready to stand
I’ve got the world in my hands
And it feels like my turn to fly

Though I may not know the answers
I can finally say I am free
And if the questions led me here
Then I am who I was born to be

When I was a child
There were flowers that bloomed in the night
Unafraid to take in the light
Unashamed to have braved the dark

Though I may not know the answers
I can finally say I am free
And if the questions led me here
Then I am who I was born to be
I am who I was born to be

This song says so much more than I could possibly write to you about what I feel each of us needs to do and be  in order to live our lives to the fullest.

Read them again and see if you don’t agree. Search back in your memory and see if you know the answer to who you were born to be.

Print these out and put them on your wall or your desk. Read them every day and see what you were born to be.

Terrie

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Did You Know You Can Change Your Beliefs…And Change Your Life?

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Did you know you can choose your beliefs? Your beliefs are just thoughts, standards or ideas that others have embedded in your subconscious mind so frequently that you came to believe them. You can change these thoughts. You can eliminate the ones you no longer choose to believe. Then you can replace those thoughts with beliefs you decide you want to adopt. Let’s talk about these things.

Your parents constantly told you things. Most were well intentioned and in an attempt to guide you through life in the way they thought was proper or to protect you. However, not all of their ideas are accurate nor did all of them serve you well. For example, I was always told I was no good with money. So guess what happened? Yep, that’s right. I grew up not really knowing how to manage my finances. I’m sure you’ve heard about the experiment where one teacher tells a group of poorly performing students how smart they are and that they are the best in the school etc. And lo and behold, they became the best and the smartest. The teacher believed in them and then they came to believe in themselves.  It’s all about what you believe.

Write down the first memory you have of a belief that you want to eliminate. You know the kind of beliefs I’m talking about. These are the things like, “You’re not good with money,” or, “If you didn’t go to college you won’t make money,” or, “You don’t have the personality for it,” or, “You don’t know enough. You’re not smart enough.” Write down any of those things and if possible when was the first time you heard it and who said it. Once you figure out who said it and where it came from, then the first thing you need to say is, “Why am I giving them the authority to make my life miserable and make me feel want, lack and limitation? Why am I today allowing something that heard 30 years ago to influence what I’m doing today?” That’s what you’re doing.

If somebody told you long ago, “Count your change. People want to cheat you,” then you’ll set yourself up to be cheated. Don’t believe that from somebody else. You say, “I am honest, therefore I only attract honest people to me. I will not accept what my great grandmother said about people and their honesty.”

Spend about 15 minutes every day listing beliefs that you now know you’ve had and do the same thing with them. These are not beliefs that you choose today. These things are so very important. The only way to get rid of them is to look at them and ask, “Why do I think that they knew?”

Keep these things in your journal. Review them frequently and most importantly keep the list of these beliefs updated. You’ll find more and more as you peel back the layers of that onion. If you want to find out more about how to continue replacing your beliefs why don’t you check out The Art of Making Things Happen

Terrie