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What Are You Spending (Wasting?) Time On?

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be patientI’m not trying to be mean with this one – just trying to get you to look at where your energy is going…..no judgments at all, simple awareness.

When you’re focusing time and energy on negative (or less than desirable) things, you are spending time creating more of the same. Is that what you want to do? Always ask yourself that follow-on question. You may surprise yourself and say “wow, I don’t want more of this, this is definitely plenty of that thing”.

Once you’ve realized that you’re going to create more of what you’re focusing on, you can then make a CHOICE as to whether you want to go on in the same vein or completely change what’s happening in your life.

We’ve talked some about CHOICE this week but it’s so important to understand that you can and do have a choice as to how you view life and what happens in your life. I keep reminding you about the Prisoners of War that survive and do well by creating beauty, love and happiness in their minds despite being crammed into horrendous environments. Go inside your mind and visualize what you want in your life and what direction you want to be headed.

Pay attention to what you’re thinking (focusing on) and also what you’re doing physically. Do you come home and just watch TV all night long? If so, what are you watching? Why are you watching TV instead of doing something else. This awareness will reveal a great deal about you – and most importantly TO YOU. You are probably not even aware of WHY you’re doing something. That is the key –  much more than WHAT you are doing. Are you bored? Are you unhappy and lonely? Are you afraid at night and when you’re alone? Are you exhausted? What’s going on inside of you? Once you can identify that, then you can go further and figure out why you’re feeling that way and what to do about it – if you want to do anything at all – remember you have a CHOICE and can simply choose to continue doing what you’ve been doing. That’s ok as long as you’re aware that you made that choice – that it’s no one’s decision but yours. No one is doing anything TO you.

Even if you feel cruddy, you have a choice to continue to feel poorly and wallow in it, or you can do something – rest, go to the doctor, read, force yourself to get up and do something else and see how you feel then, watch a movie, tell a story, write in a journal – perfect time for your gratitude journal. You’re not necessarily looking for some reaction in particular but you’re trying to chronicle how you feel when you do certain activities. If you keep trying different things until you feel better (notice I didn’t say “good”), then that will tell you what it is that you can do in the future to help yourself feel a bit better.

If you’re feeling ok but doing nothing, why? What’s up with that? In my case, I am pretty useless in the evening. Some of that is because I’m bored and don’t have something special to keep me moving mentally and/or physically when I get home from work. But also some of it is because I get up so very early and by the time I get home after work, I’m beat. I have examined this in great detail and know why I don’t do much but I also know that I can do more at night if there’s something that’s worth it. I feel much better knowing what all is behind it. I think we all feel better with some knowledge, especially when it comes to what’s going on inside of ourselves.

Keep a diary for a week or so, write down what you do and what you are thinking about. Then go back and figure out what’s behind the action or inaction. What are you feeling? That’s the key to everything. What are you feeling? You know how people talk about their “gut feelings” – go inside your own gut and listen to what it’s telling you. You are the best physician you know. You know what’s going on inside of yourself. Your feelings will help reflect what’s going on with your body.

It’s just a thought. Try recording what you’re spending your time and energy on. Let us know what you discover about yourself if you want.

Terrie

 

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You Don’t Want To Star In The Exorcist

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figure_rear_view_mirror_400_clr_11283 Don’t be Regan (Linda Blair) – the girl in the exorcist! What do I mean by this? Simply that you shouldn’t keep looking back – for any reason! If you keep looking around behind you, it screws with your momentum. Think about driving along and you’re at a certain speed that’s feeling pretty good and getting you where you’re going. But you’re worried (first clue) that there might be some cops behind you or maybe just someone who is tailgating and wants to pass you. As you’re looking around, you end up putting your foot on the brake to slow down while you look. Your momentum has slowed and now you have to do something to speed up again.

Why do you even want to look at what’s in your past?  The only possibly legitimate reason could be to examine your limiting beliefs…but you could check them out without knowing where they come from. Only curiosity could be the reason for trying to figure out whether you got them from your parents or your teachers or what. But that’s not really important, is it? What’s matter is that you identify that you actually DO have those beliefs  and then how you can change them.

If you’re looking at what events have happened in your life AND what limiting beliefs have been operating in your mind and life. These beliefs have been the primary influencing factor in how the Law of Attraction works in your  life. You can take a short time to look at past events and see if this has been the case – have you been living with self-fulfilling prophecies.  This is just another phrase for the Law of Attraction. I used to (many, many years ago) tell people that they wouldn’t like me once they got to know me and guess what? They pulled away eventually – just as I predicted (prophecy).

There’s a comfort zone involved here as well. No matter how crappy our past was, it still is something we can hold on to. We know what we felt like, we know what our responses were. It’s the knowledge that is the comfort. When we’re stepping out into new territory and changing our thoughts and life actions, it’s scary because we don’t know what’s going to happen. What if something goes wrong? What if I didn’t identify my limiting beliefs enough? What if, what if? By the time you’re done questioning yourself, you want to go back to the past.

Guess what? The past is over, done with, gone! You just have to be daring and brave and move on. Trying the new way of life won’t hurt you as long as you believe in the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws. This is a friendly universe. We just seem to be very adept at repeating our past – because we pay so much attention to it. Be different, you might like it.

So stop looking in your rear view mirror and stop playing in the Exorcist. Keep you head forward and watch what’s happening in front of you. This is a major benefit of having a coach. Your coach will walk with you and help  you through the scary parts.

Think about it, then go do it!

Terrie

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Should We Fear Ebola?

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10678640_10152703358960435_4104647929256730427_nFear is incapacitating and blocks success. You know that but trying to eliminate fear from our being takes some focus and concentration.

As a humanity we seem to have two themes – fear and faith (lack of fear). Sometimes there is an in between but that also is often considered apathy.

I am going to go on a bit of a rant about this right now. Ebola has been waging war with humans for the past several months. However, people in the United States have virtually ignored it (seemingly just hoping it would go away) and didn’t care about the effects it was having upon the rest of the world because it hadn’t affected the United States yet. We tend to have the Ostrich syndrome with our head stuck in the sand (or maybe someplace else – you can tell I’m disturbed by this). It’s amazing how whenever there is any other type of disaster in another country we’re all rushing to help – musicians give free concerts, the Red Cross tells you to text them, every organization out there starts collecting. But in this case, the number of cases and the number of deaths have been rapidly increasing in other countries and we did and said NOTHING…..until, of course, it came into the United States. Initially there was concern when we brought people back for treatment but the media was used to quench any major concerns…..until there was a case of a traveler who flew infected into the country. Now, a greater portion of our country has become concerned (I guess it really is “All about me”) and as the days roll by and there are more people infected, the outrage and fear deepens.

As we’ve talked about repeatedly – all that fear does is attract more of what we are fearing (in this case disease). There is a concept head_stuck_in_sand_400_clr_6605called “Race Consciousness” that explains how things can migrate rapidly from near apathy to massive fear. It seems to spread like wildfire. One day everything is fine and people are going along as usual. But then the next day the fear is all around us -we saw something on the news or on the internet and then, of course, the “power of the story” comes into play.  God forbid we talk about the positive aspects of an event or not talk about it at all. It’s best to not talk about things like an epidemic or anything bad (even the enterovirus that spread across the country pretty rapidly too) especially when we can’t do anything about it. Do NOT feed into the race consciousness because you’ll feel yourself being swept into the waves of fear. And, the sad thing is that you probably won’t even recognize it.

When you find yourself fearing something happening, immediately say “That is not my truth” followed by “Nothing and nobody can interfere with my health and well-being, not even myself”. You can also use “Everything always works out for me”. Stay away from the details either on the news or the internet. Of course you might want to know what’s happening so you can scan your favorite internet site for the latest but then leave it quickly.

Stay away from the “water cooler” syndrome. Don’t engage in conversation about it. You’re probably thinking I’m telling you to stick your head in the sand but I’m not. If you can do something, take action and do it – volunteer, donate money, whatever. But if you’re just talking about the “tragedy”, the “fear” etc, then you are simply attracting more fear and more illness into your life. And when it goes into the Race Consciousness (everything you think is disseminated into the Universe and becomes part of the Race Consciousness) where this massive energy force will bring more of what is feared onto humanity.

So, we do not need to fear ebola…we need to counteract the mass fear that is being spread across all of America (and most likely the world). Use the statements I listed above and continue to say them whenever you feel scared.

You have more power than you realize so use it to everyone’s advantage.

Remember “that which I greatly feared, hath come upon me”.

Don’t let it come upon you.

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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momentum-monday1Practice what you preach they always say. And I needed to remember that this weekend.

I have been having some strange physical symptoms lately and yesterday they really got to me and I wasn’t doing anything but thinking about them and trying to diagnose myself (they say a patient who has himself as his doctor is a fool and I definitely fit into that category).  Even though, at times, I would remember the great saying “That which I feared greatly came upon me” and know that every minute of every day I’m creating my own reality, I still couldn’t seem to stop the momentum. But I didn’t even have the presence of mind to stop fighting that momentum and letting it run its course. So between the resistance I was putting out against these weird symptoms and trying to put the  brakes on this momentum, it was just getting worse.

Like a smack in the head while lying in bed I realized I had completely forgotten my toolbox – the various techniques that you can use to change your momentum or eliminate the resistance. Some tools work better than others – depending on the situation.

In my case last night, I remembered that I had not even thought about EFT (emotional freedom technique) which would remove the feelings of fear surrounding the symptoms and allow things to progress as they should and maybe even disappear. I do know that whenever you’re worried about something, the symptoms intensify and you get to the point where you’ve thought the worst is about to happen (or already has happened)! And you don’t want to be in that situation. You want to eliminate the fear and anxiety as soon as you can.

I used EFT last night and again today and just continued to say “everything always works out for me” and by mid-day the symptoms had lessened.

This week, write down the tools that are in your toolbox and put them on an index card that you can pull out and review when you’re feeling fear or anxiety.

Terrie

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What You “Feel” Is What You Get

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what you feel is what you getThis may be more profound than you realize.

I could have used “You are What you Feel” but everyone is using that take-off – “You are what you eat”, “You are what you think”, “You are what you wear”, etc, etc.

But there is so much truth in “What You Feel is What You Get”. Every week I’m talking about feelings, vibrations, beliefs, materializations, manifestations and the Law of Attraction.  And it’s not because I have nothing else to write about (of course I could write about running..ha ha).

I proved this saying to myself a couple of weeks ago when things weren’t going great at work, no matter what technique I tried. When I finally stopped and looked at the whole thing I made myself finally admit that what I was feeling was what was making me miserable and that I was the cause of my own problems. It’s amazing how often you have to be reminded of these basic principles. And I write about them all the time. It shows how wrapped up in yourself and your environment you can get without realizing that you are creating it. In actuality I knew I had created it – I learned long ago to fess up to that. But I don’t think I knew how I was creating it and all the little parts. You can do well at one or two parts but then if there are many other parts, the whole will still be in a place where you’re not happy (even if little pieces are doing better).

So what did I do? I told myself that I wanted to be happy and that the only way that was going to happen was for me to change ME, not them. So, I did. I stopped having to be front and center and have people pay attention to me and concentrated on whatever I was doing and what I was responsible for. When I concentrated on that and stopped feeling deprived, then things dramatically changed. I did have help understanding the framework of the environment and that helped immensely. But the most important aspect of what I did was to concentrate on what I wanted to feel – shall I say that again – what/how I wanted to FEEL!!! I also made sure that just before I fell asleep, I FELT what I wanted to feel – happy, healthy, successful. I focused on that for the few minutes it takes me to go to sleep.

Once I realized that if I spent time trying to make others happy, then I would feel better too. So I started each day with that small goal. To make others feel good and be calm in dealing with them. It ended up causing me to be less stressed and enjoy “the moment” as they say.

It really is all about how you feel and how you want to feel. If you decide you want to feel good, then you will find the way to feel good. I did also use my two favorite quotes “Everything always works out for me” and “Nothing and nobody can interfere with my happiness, health and peace of mind”. Remembering to say those two affirmations when I started to go to another vibration immediately brought me back to my daily goal (to feel good and have a good time at work). The sayings allowed me to refocus and not have the vibration spin way out of control. It was easy to put the brakes on and move back to the good vibration.

How do you want to feel? Start imagining yourself as feeling that way especially before you go to sleep at night. That is important because it will stick with you all night and work like magic in your sleep.

You can do it!

Terrie