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Momentum Monday

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“You manifest what you believe, not what you want” ~ Sonia Ricotti

Read this simple quote several times and let the meaning sink in.

This is often why people say that ‘positive thinking’ doesn’t work.  And it’s also why affirmations by themselves may not be as effective as we’d like.  It’s another reason why much of the time even if you do everything you’re supposed to, it still doesn’t seem that you can manifest what you want – and then we get impatient and simply “quit”, saying “see I told you it doesn’t work”.

The hardest (but most rewarding) work you can do along these lines is to really examine your beliefs. Usually you can figure out the limiting beliefs by identifying the “buts”….for example if you say “I am becoming a millionaire” – listen quietly to your inner voice and hear the “but” that follows that statement. It goes something like this:

Your voice: “I am becoming a millionaire”

You mind: “but there is no way that can happen given my current income and my age. I’ll be dead before I could possibly make that kind of money. Besides I have a day job and don’t have time to work hard enough to make that much money and even what if I decided I wanted to try for it, I would have no more freedom and I’d have such increased responsibilities that I wouldn’t know how to juggle them with my family and my day job…..”

Do you see how many limiting beliefs are uncovered in the short time it took me to jot it down. And I didn’t even give it any thought. These are just things that I have heard come out of people’s mouths when I ask them about their beliefs and desires. You can also see that becoming a millionaire, in addition to being a trigger, is probably not something that person really wants deep inside. This person doesn’t want to work any extra or have anything add responsibilities to their already full day, or that might interfere with their relationships (family, job, etc).  They aren’t even willing to entertain that there are many ways to become a millionaire and that this process does NOT necessarily require extra work or taking you away from your family. But these are good reasons (aka excuses) as to why they won’t even make the effort. This person will say the affirmation but without looking at the “but”, they won’t understand why it won’t come true.

Examine your ‘buts’ and write them down. Keep going too. I could have just stopped with the “given my income and age” but there was more in this person’s belief as to why they couldn’t become a millionaire so we had to let it just flow. Do that with yourself. You will discover many of your beliefs. Once they have been uncovered, you can work on changing the ones you want to and then your desires can be in concert with your new beliefs.

Remember, though, that beliefs may have multiple layers.  So, don’t just stop with one “but” session. Do this repeatedly especially after you’ve identified one or more limiting beliefs in response to a sentence. Then go back and do it again and you’ll most likely realize there are more. It’s that wonderful “onion peeling process” at work. Use it to its full advantage. This part isn’t hard. It may be a bit painful when you see what’s been holding you back (maybe you still think the earth is flat – not really but sometimes your old beliefs are old and new facts have refuted them by now but that message has not made it deep within your subconscious mind). But it definitely will be worth it!

Terrie

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Trust Your Gut (Intuition)

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figure_gets_out_of_his_own_head_400_clr_15375 Sometimes you have to get out of your head and go with your gut. Your brain’s decisions can be influenced by numerous factors including your past, your beliefs, your mood, etc. It’s easy to “change your mind” or worse yet, perhaps, to stick with one idea – kind of digging your heels in and not being able to entertain other possibilities.

I am going to talk about my recent trek across Tennessee again (maybe it’s just that I like to try to spell Tennessee each time) but I learned so much from that ten days that my life completely changed because of it.

I had absolutely NO idea why I wanted to participate in a grueling 314 mile race in Tennessee in July where the three H’s rule (hot, humid, hilly). I first tried it last year but didn’t make it beyond 104 miles.  So, it kind of follows that I wanted to not be a quitter and complete it this year. But why did I want to do it even last year? I couldn’t tell you UNTIL I finished it this year.  I just knew that it had grown on me since I first heard about it in 2013 and followed everyone’s experiences – it was during that time that I decided i was going to sign up for it in 2014. If I had had to put down a reason for doing it, I would not have been able to.  People kept asking why I wanted to do such an insane thing. I didn’t think it was insane. I don’t think I really “thought” about it at all. I just “felt” about it. And that feeling was simply a burning desire.

As I trudged along especially after the first five days when my stress fractures manifested themselves, I wondered what the heck I was doing to myself. But, I just knew that I would continue on  no matter how much pain I had. I was not about quitting – not until mile 298 that is. And I think that it was that period of time – those last 16 miles – that the reason for my doing the race became evident. It was not clear to me at that time because I was in such pain and so exhausted but it definitely was evident by the time I got home to Texas.

There was so much love, so much strength, so much companionship, so much fun, so much of everything good in that last 16 miles. From bawling my eyes out for 2 miles prior to that point, to trying to sleep for a few hours in the hotel room, to having to cover the 3 miles before I met up with the three most wonderful people in the world (Dorothy, The Tin Man and The Scarecrow), my crew (Marv) kept pushing me to the edge. It seemed no one would believe that I had anything more than just the pain that everyone else has (none of us knew I had developed 4-5 stress fractures in my feet – I just knew that every step was agony).

Once I met up with the Wizard of Oz gang and they welcomed me (Toto) into their ranks with loving and open arms, I felt as if I might be able to do it. It was wonderful to have companionship even when we weren’t speaking much. We knew that the others were there and we would NOT let anything happen to anyone.

All the inner strength I realized, all the lessons about myself and my life that I had discovered during that time were surpassed by the experiences of those last several hours.  What I experienced was total and complete love and acceptance – there is nothing more in live than love. It was all around me and made all the pain and problems worth it.

The point to all this is that if I had followed my brain, I would never have participated in this run and I would also have probably quit at 298 miles (I knew there was more going on than the usual pains of a race this long and was very concerned that there was irreparable damage).  I was at peace with a decision to stop (not quit) but those around me wouldn’t let me. Had I allowed my brain to rule, I would not have learned those lessons or experienced that love and acceptance of the last 16 miles (it doesn’t sound like much to you but after 9 1/2 days and 298 miles, 16 miles seems insurmountable).

I trusted my gut – in signing up for the race in the first place, in trying it in 2014 and then being determined to return no matter all that was stacked against me in 2015 and then in finishing. It was all intuition and gut based. The brain decisions were totally opposite.

Trust your gut, open your heart, let the Universe bring you what you’re supposed to have. Don’t resist. If you detect a conflict between your head and your gut, take some deep breaths, relax into the moment and allow Divine Wisdom to come to you. Go with the vibrations and feelings you have inside. Go with what you feel. Don’t try to analyze anything and everything. You’ll never get anywhere. You’ll never take a step forward if you do that.

Remember that everything always works out for you!

Terrie

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Momentum Monday

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quote-119 How has this been a factor in your life? When have you been knocked down but gotten back up and continued to move on, to fight for what you believed in, for what you wanted in life?

When have you been knocked down and stayed down for the count? Have there been instances when you’ve just given up and just not bothered to get back up again? Perhaps you re-evaluated why you were fighting for that thing in the first place. Perhaps you realized that you really wanted to head in a different direction. Perhaps you just gave up. All of these are OK as long as you learned from the experience.

This is similar to the expression about never giving up – that the end might actually be just over the bend or the crest in the hill. We seem to want to give up when the going is toughest. After all, I wanted to quit the 314 mile Tennessee race with only 14 miles to go. That would qualify for quitting when the end is just around the corner so to speak. The difference there, though, was that I knew it was around the corner. Sometimes we just feel as if our tank is completely empty and we cannot go on no matter what. I was at that point for sure. Anyone who knows me knows that it is not like me to cry for 2 miles (or any miles for that matter) but that’s the point where I was. My tank didn’t even have any fumes left in it. This is one time where I would have been knocked down and NOT gotten up again. However, I had people around me that made me get back up (they just didn’t give me any other option). Because of these other people I was able to finish. They pulled me up by my bootstraps. But the point is, it doesn’t matter how you get back up, just that you do.

Surround yourself with people who will help you reach your success point – or even go higher than what you thought you could do. You may need to stop and take a rest but you should not allow yourself to stop forever. Some people may be down for years but they eventually get back on their horse and reach their goal. That is fine too. It has continued to spark a fire inside of them and eventually it got big enough to propel them back in that direction. Just don’t tell yourself that you’re down and out. Tell yourself that you’re just taking a rest perhaps.

Do NOT stay down. Humans were made to be in an upright position. Get up and keep moving! You can do it. You don’t really know what lies ahead of you and what greatness will be there for you to receive.

Terrie

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Embracing Change

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embracing change2“We cannot change anything until we embrace it” ~Carl Jung

This concept is so important. Remember “What you resist, persists”. So when you feel yourself fighting hard against something, just know that you’ll have that something in your life — and will also attract more of the same into that life. Do you want more of that?

In order to keep moving along in life though, things should change. Change means that you can grow and evolve. You don’t really want to stay in one place in your growth or you’ll miss out on a tremendous amount of fun and probably abundance too.

The military is a great place to learn to experience change. Unfortunately I didn’t really learn until last year how to embrace all those changes. I was the type to resist the changes. I would put all the energy I could muster into figuring out why that idea (that involved changing things) would NOT work, instead of raising my vibrations to focus on the solution and discover how the other person’s ideas could probably work if we all just put some work into it. What a tremendous amount of time and energy I wasted all my life. But I think the reason for my resistance was that the idea for change was not mine and so I felt inferior or something. It was hard for me to admit that another person could have an idea. I felt I was inferior if I didn’t have that idea. And since I didn’t want to feel inferior, I fought back – with resistance. How foolish and young of me. Of course I got better at accepting change as the 30 years in the Navy went by but I don’t know that I ever embraced it.

But last year, when the best boss I’ve ever had in my career arrived and I watched her with all of us, I truly did embrace the changes she made – and boy, were there a  lot of them. You know what, though? They were all good, if not great. I learned more from her than I have ever learned from any boss in all my years of working. And I think it was easier to learn those things because I finally did embrace the change. Every week I knew there would be something new and although that meant more work, I actually looked forward to those changes. I knew I would have to alter my outlook and attitude each week and that became a fun challenge. One I saw the great benefits from.

Ways to help you embrace change include anything that will help you relax such as meditation or EFT. Deep breathing is a part of meditation but can also be used separately if you don’t have time or experience to do full blown meditation. Once you’ve relaxed, you’re less likely to put up resistance. Keep this in mind and take some time when you find yourself resisting some change that’s coming into your life. I know that as we have another new boss whose style is totally different than last year’s, I will be doing a great deal of relaxation techniques to just allow the changes to happen and to welcome them into my life to see what gifts they bring even if they aren’t visible right now.

Do you embrace change? Do you resist change? What have you noticed when you’ve done either the embracing or the resisting?

Terrie

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Sometimes It’s The Smallest Decisions

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sometimes-its-the-little-decisions “Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever” (Keri Russell)

Have you ever experienced this? It might take some time to recognize that there were little decisions in your life that changed its course, but I imagine that if you think about it long enough, you’ll see that it’s true.

One day when I was still in Virginia, I was working in DC and there was a snow storm starting. I asked my boss if I could leave early since I had a 60 mile drive. He said “no” because we were having some sort of class or lecture. I was not a happy camper. It took me 8 hours to get home that day because I-95 was closed due to a 100 car pile-up (yes, that is 100 cars). Was I upset? Not at all because I realized that had I left when I wanted to, I would have been right smack in the middle of the pile-up. That would not have been good. But it was a small decision by my boss that saved my day (and maybe saved even more than that).

Even funnier is that I chose to join the military to pay my tuition for medical school. That was not a small decision. But the reason I joined the Navy over the other services surely was a small decision. I liked the uniforms! Seriously, that’s the reason my friend and I picked the Navy. The recruiters didn’t tell us squat to help us make any other kind of decision. In fact, had they told us more, I would have joined the Army because then I could have gone to Viet Nam and done the work I wanted to. In the Navy I couldn’t do that because I was a woman.  However, I will tell you that joining the Navy was the best thing that ever happened to me. Even though I joined for two years and that’s really all I intended to stay for, 30 years later I was retiring with a really great career and life behind me. All because of the uniforms!

Go back through your life and examine the things that have happened to you. What led up to those events? Can you find some small decision that led you down that particular path?

As your life continues, do not demean the small decisions you are being asked to make. What seems small now may not be small in the long run.

Pay attention and investigate the past. It will be a fun exercise to do. We all need a bit of fun right?

Terrie