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Whose Dreams Are These Anyway?

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It’s getting close to the end of 2012 and the beginning of a brand new era for you. Some might argue that it began yesterday since the world didn’t end 🙂

You should have some idea of the dreams and desires you want to work on for 2013 but these don’t need to be solidified yet…in fact, there really is nothing magical about 1 January either.

What’s more important is that you take your time and get them right.  Write them down and then sit on them. Let them marinate inside of you – allow yourself to “feel” them – are they really YOUR desires and dreams or are they those of someone else? This is the most important part of the entire process. If you’re building a truck, you have to have parts that go with a truck, not a compact car. Although those parts might enable the vehicle to work (shows how much I know about cars), it won’t work like it’s supposed to. The same with goals or desires. You might stick to a resolution for awhile if it’s for someone else, but when things get a bit rough, the desires of others are most likely the first to go. Why? Because you really are not invested in them. Some might last longer than others but the sense of satisfaction of beating the tough times is not there…there may be motivation but there won’t be inspiration. What’s the difference between motivation and inspiration? Motivation comes from an external source whereas Inspiration comes from within. You want inspiration. That will win against all odds.

Here’s the process you should be using over the next several days. Do NOT try to do this in one day. You want to experience emotion while you’re narrowing down what you want to accomplish in 2013. If you’re hurried, you’ll just want to get something down on paper to get it done. This is a formula for failure. So take your time:

  1. Start making a list (if you haven’t already). It can be long right now, that’s ok. This is a list of things you want to accomplish in 2013.  Write them down.Keep writing for as long as you can think of things. Use this as a brainstorming time. Now you may not need to go into great depth here if you already know the major desires you have (for example, I have 3 primary desires for 2013 but I have been nurturing these for a month or two now. Sure there are smaller goals and there are the mini-goals I talked about in the webinar a few weeks ago but the primary ones are fixed in my mind. But I still wrote them down!
  2. Now go do something fun. Come back to this list later.
  3. When you come back, go over your list. Next to each item write the emotion(s) you feel when you think of yourself accomplishing this. Write quickly so that you don’t censor your feelings and emotions – we’re prone to doing that.
  4. Now look over your list and pick out the top 7. The way you know they are your top 7 is to find those with the most positive words next to them – words like “joy”, “excitement”, “enthusiastic”, “exhilarated”, etc. If you didn’t have many to begin with you can pick the top 5
  5. Cross out the others.
  6. Copy these 7 to another sheet of paper – without the emotions written next to them.
  7. Go do something fun again.
  8. Number these 1 through 7 with 1 being the most important desire to achieve in 2013.
  9. Look at this piece of paper and take a deep breath.
  10. Determine whose goal each one is. Next to each item put “mine”, “someone else” (put a name if you know who it is), “not sure” or more than one.  Examples:
    • Lose weight – husband and mine
    • Stop smoking – Mom and dad
    • Get into college – Dad
    • Visit the Grand Canyon – mine
    • Have a new car – mine
  11. Cross out those that do not have a “mine” next to them. This list now may include desires that are yours as well as someone else’s.
  12. Go do something fun.
  13. Return to your list and  renumber them with 1 being YOUR primary desire/dream for 2013.
  14. Rewrite the list in the new order. The ones with “mine” next to them should be at the top of the list.
  15. For the ones that have yourself and someone else next to them,
    • try to determine how much of that desire is YOURS. Put a percentage next to it.
      • For example, “lose weight – 90% mine”.
      • It may be that your spouse’s percent is 90% too but we’re not concerned about that at this point.
      • We just want to know how much this desire is YOURS. If it’s someone else’s too, that’s great because that will add to your support.
      • But it HAS to be yours in order for you to persist toward that goal.
    • Be VERY CAREFUL here, though. Make sure it’s not your goal BECAUSE you want to please someone else.
    • If possible, leave these “multiple personality” desires OFF your list.
  16. Cross out those that do not have 90% or more next to them.
  17. Rewrite your list again. Preferably have only YOUR goals on this final list.

How many do you have on your list?

Go through them and determine if they are all realistic. Notice we’ve left this til the end because we didn’t want you to have any factors influencing you other than whose dreams they are.

If they are not realistic, cross them off the list.

You should be left with about 3 primary 2013 achievements. There should be no more than 5 however.

This is the list you’re going to be working with from now on so take your time with it.

Terrie

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Take Stock of Your Beliefs…

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As the New Year comes around, it’s time for you to take a look at your beliefs. I had a great call with one of my mentors (Rich German) yesterday and as he went through the class I realized that so much of  what has been holding me back has been my fears – or, more precisely, my thoughts that I could not do something. As he talked, I realized it was all about whatever beliefs I had been harboring deep in the recesses of my mind for all my life. These are thoughts that have been ingrained in me somehow by someone (or a group of someones) throughout my life and mostly during my early years. Parents, teachers, family (in my case it was my brother whom I idolized), clergy, friends and then eventually the media – all contributed to what I think and feel now. I thought to myself “Do I want to be a puppet?” Because that’s what I am being by simply going along and following in the footsteps of what was brainwashed into my heart, mind and soul – no matter how good the intentions were. Of course I don’t want to be a puppet. I want to achieve those things I want to achieve. And with some examination of what my beliefs are, I can remodel my thoughts, feelings and subsequent actions. Remember that a belief is just a thought you’ve been thinking for a long time. Here’s a wonderful quote from Abraham:

A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, and you have the ability—if you try even a little bit—to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story, to achieve a different vibration, to change your point of attraction. The Law of Attraction is responding to your vibration, and you can easily change your vibrational point of attraction by visualizing the lifestyle you desire and holding your attention upon those images until you begin to feel relief, which will indicate that a true vibrational shift has occurred.

— Abraham

Excerpted from the book “Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness”

 

I invite you to use the next 12 days before the New Year to take a look at your beliefs. Use your future goals/desires to figure them out. What happens when you say “I am making 50% more money than I did last year at this time”? Is there a “but” that comes after that? If so, that is where your limiting beliefs are lying. Use this technique repeatedly to figure out where those limiting thoughts lie and then make a commitment to do something about changing them. Examine your life, take inventory, what is there about your life that will actually contradict those thoughts. I bet you’ll come up with a great list and once you look at the list, you’ll go “what the heck have I been thinking all these years? Look at all I’ve accomplished”. You see, we do NOT take inventory enough. We live in the moment and do not use our experience or our past to propel us forward. Or, if we do look at the past, we’ll be looking at the negative aspects because that’s the mood we’re in at the time. Try to look at your life objectively and pick out the great things that you’ve done, received or accomplished in your life. Be grateful for the joy you have. Start this process by saying your “gratitudes” – I am thankful for….

Do not be a puppet. Join us in 2013 for  Fresh Start!

Terrie

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What Is It You Want? The Trouble With Goal Setting – Replay!

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This will only be available for the next week. Then it will be in the coaching area which requires membership. So, watch and listen to it now!

 

 

 

 

Click on the image and it will take you to the replay page. Then click that image to start the replay.

Trying to work through your “New Years Resolutions” – check out this special offer!

Even better – get 2013 off to a terrific start with the Forward Motion Mastermind Group!

 

Terrie

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Is That All There Is?

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 This month is about (and most of the year should be about this) goals.  Here’s Abraham’s quote for today so it fits in quite nicely even though it’s also kind of funny:

If you had one goal, and that was to feel good, you would never again need to hear another word from anyone. You would live successfully and happily and in a way of fulfilling your life’s purpose ever after.

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Napa, CA on Thursday, February 27th, 1997 # 639

 

It lets us know that the ultimate goal in life is to be happy and find joy. That’s the goal we should all be pursuing. And, I guess, in a sense we all are doing that by having other goals because we think that achieving those “other” goals will make us happy. But do they really? I remember my very first experience with goals and how they don’t always lead to joy. I had wanted to be a doctor since I was 4 years old. I persevered and persevered and finally made it. But you know what? On graduation day I felt more empty than I ever have in my entire life. I had no idea what was next. My life had been focused on “becoming” a doctor and now that I had “become” one, now what? I felt like that very old song – “is that all there is?” I had never even thought beyond that day and so, of course, I was empty. I do not ever want to have that feeling again.

So, as you look toward the upcoming New Year, ask yourself what will make you happy. And then go a step further and ask what will you want after that to continue to make you happy.

More about this and an upcoming webinar in the next few days.

Terrie

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Where The Heck Are You?

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 Do you find yourself thinking “I haven’t gone anywhere in my life. I’m stuck in a rut.”? Or any phrase like that?

If so, the answer to your blues may be very simple. It’s something I’ve only recently discovered (and chronicled with you).

Take a look at where you were a year ago (or even 6 months ago) in relation to the same situation or event. I think you’ll be surprised.

You see, not only does instant gratification work in the present tense and we “want it now” but it also prevents us from looking back very far – sometimes we don’t even look to last week.

You frequently hear the phrase “history repeats itself”. But I bet that if you start paying attention to the past in light of what you want to alter, your history will NOT repeat itself unless you choose for it to.

This is the essence of my “Activate Your Life’s GPS” system. There is so much attention on goals that it’s no wonder people get lost and don’t achieve them. You have to have a specific destination (many people are not specific enough in their goals and so they get lost in the nebulousness of them) – but you also have to know where you are to start with. And if you don’t know that, then, just like your car’s GPS, you can’t even get started because you don’t know how to navigate to the destination because you don’t have a beginning point.

And if you don’t look at your own history and where you were a few months (or a year) ago, then you really still don’t know where you are. I have a pet peeve in medicine. Interns and medical students would always tell me that a patient’s “vital signs are stable” but then when I asked what they were, they would only give me one set of numbers. They didn’t understand my look of consternation nor did they understand when I asked how they could then tell that they were stable. You see, in order for something to be “stable” you have to know that it hasn’t changed. And if you only have one set of values, then you don’t know that it hasn’t changed. Same goes for your life. If you don’t know where you were a year ago, how do you know where you are right now. Our perceptions get warped by what’s immediately around us instead of putting everything in perspective.

Think about this, open your emails and take advantage of the no cost coaching sessions I’m offering……

Terrie