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Muddy Vision….

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  How appropriate is this quote from Abraham for today and this week’s conversation? Of course, it’s appropriate for all of your life too.  Let’s think on this for a bit:

“You have sole ownership of your vision. And the Universe will give you what you want within your vision. What happens with most people is that they muddy their vision with “reality”. Their vision becomes full of not only what they want but what everybody else thinks about what they want, too. Your work is to clarify and purify your vision so that the vibration that you are offering can then be answered.

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Boston, MA on Sunday, October 11th, 1998 # 614″

 

This is what was happening (in part) to me this week. I had a vision – to run this marathon that I had trained for this entire year (actually 13 months) but it just as easily can apply to any other goal that we have (you or me). I resisted what others thought about my goal for the year. I got the usual comments (when I even told anyone about it): “you’re too old, aren’t you?”, “that’s an awful lot of work”, “why on earth would you want to do that? It’s so much work.” and on and on and on. So, mostly I just didn’t tell anyone. Because I knew what I wanted. I did NOT want their opinions to get in my way or to even possibly influence me to change my goal – based on what they were saying or thinking. They were NOT inside of me or my head.

It’s worse for many of you that have family and have ideas about your goals that may not be as supportive as you’d like. You have to live with them and try to figure out how to keep the peace and still accomplish what you want.

Our job (and this is where coaching and a support network comes in) is to keep that vision right there in front of us and NOT let anyone cloud it up (muddy it up). If you’ve thought of this idea, this goal, this vision, then know that it definitely is yours. Do you get excited when you think about it? Do you feel alive when you visualize it? Do you just know that it’s yours to do and have? It really is yours if it generates all that enthusiasm, excitement, even love.

Do NOT let anyone else interfere with what you want, no matter what. You will regret it and you will be unfulfilled. Remember that the Universe gave you this idea because it was yours to do.  Do not be concerned if it seems too big or too massive for “little ole you” to accomplish. It came into your mind for a reason and if it came into your mind, then you can do it. Just hold onto that thought. There are many ways to recruit and deploy the necessary resources to accomplish your dream, your vision, your goal – whatever you want to call it. Do not get discouraged before you start. I could have easily given up before I ran a step a year ago. Two years ago this month I could not walk one-tenth of a mile without severe back pain.  So how dare I even contemplate trying to run 26.2 miles? I even allowed my vision to be muddied over the Christmas holidays in 2011 when I started to have some back pain and talked to one of my doctors about it and he said I was too old to be putting that much pounding on my back. For several weeks I “listened” to him – I had his words in my head. But fortunately, my desire to run pushed him away and I got back on track. That is bound to happen to us since we live with other people. But the key thing is to continue to hold the vision so that we can get back on track or not deviate forever. It may be that life circumstances get in the way and we have to change our schedules but we should NEVER give up the dream and vision.

This is why we recommend often that you don’t tell people about your goals and dreams. Human nature is to find something inherently wrong in what you’re after, especially if it’s lofty or will make you very happy. People think they are “helping you” when they are pointing out why you shouldn’t do it or how hard it’s going to be. Don’t let them in. That’s the easiest way to keep your vision from being muddied. Or if you have to let them in, tell them the least amount possible and keep it very generic. It’s your goal and dream, not theirs.

Having a coach is one way to ensure that you’ll not be pushed off your desired path by others. The coach is your coach and will support you, not those with the other opinion. A coach will help you get back on track, nudge you to shake off that mud that’s clouding your vision. Someone who is there for you and with you all the time, supporting you in your goals, helping you continue along the path. It is possible to reach your goals on your own but it’s so much easier and faster if you do it with someone.

All I care about is that you continue with your dream, your vision, your goal. Your path is just that – yours! March down it keeping your head up high and always know that you will get there. It may be postponed (as with my marathon) or it may even come earlier than you think. But the point is, it will come!

What are your dreams? Who is your coach?

Terrie

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Thanks to All of You – I Am Back In The Saddle Again

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  I wasn’t on the site much yesterday as I tried various ways to “move on”. This a.m. as I came to post a New Day Thought (or a New Thought Day 🙂  ) I saw how many wonderful comments you guys made and my heart was filled with even greater joy and comfort. I  do know what has come from all this and all your support and I intend to surprise you with it in the next week or two – I think you’ll enjoy it. But I have all of you to thank for it! This event, this year and your support has changed my life dramatically – and all for the good. There were obstacles even up to the end (even though it didn’t end – the lack of completion was a big part of it) and there were joys up to the end…but it’s not the end. For something even better has come from it.

Not only do I have you all to thank but as I wrote yesterday, my EFT practitioner (Kay) really got me back in alignment and I am forever indebted to her. She helped me get right about my decision (and the timing was perfect) and she helped me move forward past the resistance I was having that was making me feel “stuck” yesterday. I highly recommend EFT for almost any issue you’re having. She has brought me through the last 2 years and my life has completely changed through using EFT.

I am back in the saddle and ready to go forward – both with my running and my life – and you all will be the ones that benefit from that. Thanks again and stay tuned to see what I have to offer you! Just remember that we all need coaches and you guys have been there helping me (coaching me) and giving back and I am truly grateful and appreciative.

I feel very blessed and honored to be a part of your family!

Terrie

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Mission Statements for Different Roles

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Here’s a different concept but one that makes great sense to me.

It’s from Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.

We’ve talked about establishing goals but we never divided up the different parts of our life with mission statements. This might help us with establishing priorities in goals as well as realizing what we are ignoring that we shouldn’t ignore. It also will point out areas that we need to address with more gratitude. It will help you figure out where there is and isn’t balance in your life.

For instance, maybe you’re a boss, a mother, a girlfriend to other women, a church member, a volunteer, a club member, a PTA member, part of your Home Owners Association, a mentor, etc.

List each part of your life as a role.

Write out a mission statement for each of your roles. What are your responsibilities and desires for each of these roles. Be specific (in everything we do, you have to be specific). Then go ahead and see how well you’re “making it” in each role. If you’re not achieving or reaching what you expect, then what can you do about it. For example, right now my life is focused on this computer project at work. We have about 3 weeks to go but then there’s training after it. It’s consuming most of my life. It’s out of balance. What is losing time and attention is my fitness and my dog. However, now that I am back from two weeks in Colorado I am refocusing my life on my dog and the role I have set out for my life with her. This is very basic but hopefully it will give you an idea.

Terrie

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Examine Your Fears – Find More Limiting Beliefs

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  Another reason we don’t get far in achieving our successes is our fears. Often we are too afraid even to examine our fears.

Refusal to do that however, is a sure way to remain stuck in the same rut we’re in.

But to tell you to examine your fears is one thing. To actually do it is another. Often it’s difficult to do this because it involves being able to know what that success is like. Here’s where your visualization and imagination come into play. Remember that visualization is a vital element in creating your Success List. You have to be able to see yourself with that success in your “hands” so to speak. It has to become yours in your mind before it can become yours in the external world. So part of your job in visualizing this success is to see how your life will change and what will be required of you when you hold that success for real.

Let’s take a few examples:

– Weight loss or getting into shape.

What happens when you lose weight? Well, you get lots of compliments and people pay attention to you. Can you handle all that? Are you good at taking compliments? Do you just prefer to fade into the wallpaper? You’ve probably heard that one reason women gain weight is that they’ve been a victim of some sort of abuse in the past and this is their way of protecting themselves from abuse – they try to make themselves unattractive. So what will happen when they take the weight off?

You’ll have to alter your outfits so that will involve shopping and money. Do you have the money and the desire to get new clothes? Will that involve doing something you’ve never done before? Maybe you don’t have alot of money or your spouse doesn’t want you to spend money on clothes or you feel guilty. Or worse yet, you don’t want to get new clothes because you’re afraid that you’ll gain the weight back. This applies to your having to get rid of your old clothes too. There’s that fear of letting go.

These are all underlying fears and they can all serve to sabotage you if you’re not aware and don’t do the clearing (denials) needed to lay the groundwork for a new you.

– Prosperity

You’ve all heard that a great proportion of people who win the lottery are broke again in a few years (or less). If you’re going to be prosperous, you have to know more – know how to handle money, how to save, invest, properly pay off bills etc. You also have to have the proper demeanor when you are prosperous. You need to wear the right clothes, go to the right places, behave in the right manner, etc. Are you prepared to change? Do you want to change? Do you want to learn the new things you have to learn? If you’re afraid of money because you’ve already had problems with it before, then you’ll shy away from achieving what you really deserve. If you’ve been told that you’re no good with money, you’ll have that belief that has to be changed to.

Maybe you think that all prosperous people are snobs or greedy or something negative and you don’t want to be like that. That’s certainly a fear and/or limiting belief.

– Improved relationships

This is a big one. If you’re looking for a significant other, there are many changes you have to make. Are you happy living with someone or are you someone who prefers to live alone? Do you have enough closet space for another person or are your closets all full of your stuff? If so, the Universe doesn’t believe you have any real intention of having someone else in your house. What about your garage? Is there enough room for another car? Do you like your freedom and are afraid that you won’t have this freedom once someone else comes into your life – you won’t be able to come and go as you please?

Do you have habits that you might have to change if someone else is in your life? For example, do you get up early to do stuff around the house or to go running? Maybe that new person in your life won’t like that. Are you willing to give that up? Or, are you afraid of having to change all your habits? Do you have animals and are afraid that a new person will not tolerate them? Are you afraid because you don’t know how to cook? Or don’t clean things up like others think you should?  Do you have so much stuff that there’s just no room for another person?

There’s so much more to think about that can uncover fears and desires of your own. It’s so important that you look beyond the romantic notion of someone paying attention to you. There’s so many more facets to relationships and you have to anticipate them all and decide if this is really what you want.

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Help From Napoleon Hill

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Napoleon Hill talks about “Applied Faith” in his “Keys to Success“. As I was skimming through the chapters I saw this and felt it would be perfect as we continue on our positive path for 2012.

It’s called “Demonstrating The Power of Your Faith” and I’m just going to list the steps he talks about in order to build your faith and your “PMA” (Positive Mental Attitude):

1) Adopt a definite major purpose and begin to attain it. This is what we’ve been working on for the past 5-6 weeks now.

2) Affirm the object of your desire through prayer, morning and night. See yourself already in possession of it. You will achieve precisely the success you can envision for yourself.

3) Associate as many as possible of the ten basic motives with your definite major purpose. Give yourself a compelling motive for doing what you want to do. Bring that motive into your mind frequently through the day. Here are the 10 basic motives toward action:

  • Self-preservation
  • Love
  • Fear
  • Sex
  • Desire for life after death
  • Freedom for mind and body
  • Anger
  • Hate
  • Desire for recognition and self-expression
  • Wealth

4) Write out a list of all the advantages of your definite major pupose and bring them into your mind as often as you can.  This will make you success-conscious by the power of self-suggestion.

5) Associate with people who are like-minded.

6) Don’t let a day pass without making at least one definite move toward attaining your major purpose.  This is what he calls persistent action. It is key to take action. You can’t sit around and think that your denials and affirmations will make your desire come to pass. It just doesn’t work that way.

7) Choose a “pacesetter”.  Pick someone prosperous, self-reliant and successful and make up your mind not only to catch up with that person but to pass him or her by.  Don’t tell anyone your goal (we’ve told you that many times).

8) Surround yourself with books, pictures, mottoes and other suggestive devices.  Pick things that symbolize and reinforce achievement and self-reliance.  Keep adding to your collection, move things around, always making it fresh in your mind.  Keep a notebook or diary program around to write down things that inspire you.

9) Never run away from disagreeable circumstances. Fight them with all your resources.

10) Recognize that anything worth having has a definite price tag. The price of self-reliance is eternal vigilance in applying your faith.

Cloe the door of fear behind you and you will quickly see the door of faith open before you.

Write out (or print out) these ten steps and review them daily. Then put them all into practice. Each night you should review this list and see how you are doing with applying your faith!

Terrie