Get an Emotional Hostage Negotiator – A Coach!

coachingSo often we find ourselves just spinning our wheels. We get into a rut and can’t seem to get out of it. What’s happening in these situations? Why do we seem to spiral downward?

We’ve become an emotional hostage – our emotions are keeping us stuck. For those of you who are old enough to remember, it’s like a record player and the needle getting stuck in the same groove and playing the same section over and over again. The needle moves a tiny bit but then skips right back to the place it started. For those of you who are not that old, maybe you remember the movie “Groundhog Day”. Being an emotional hostage is similar to that. Repeating the same events, the same feelings and thus the same vibrations over and over again without any hope of change.

We don’t want to be stuck and when we get out of that groove we surely don’t want to repeat it but it’s as if we started playing the record again from the beginning – it skips again. If you put yourself in the same or similar circumstances with the same emotional tools as you’ve had all along, all your brain knows is to repeat history. And it’s very good at repeating history – that’s called “habit”. Before you know it, you’ve reacted the same way as you did before , whether it was last week, last month or yesterday. It takes the path of least resistance (and least effort). Unfortunately, that most often leads us right back to that rut again.

So how do you break out of this hostage situation. Think about it. If you don’t make any changes, you are a hostage to your emotions. They have reacted before you’re even aware of it. You don’t want that but you’re not sure how to prevent it since it just “seems to happen”.

You can try Abraham’s processes on your own and be pretty successful but you’ll be more successful if you get yourself a “coach” (a Life Coach, Law of Attraction Coach, Personal Coach – whatever type of coach meets your needs). Often times, it’s just the accountability factor that makes this work but when you really are an emotional hostage, your coach will help you spot these areas and your responses and guide you to creating different methods of response – preceded by thinking about where you really want to be. A primary advantage of using a coach is the speed with which you can make the changes. You don’t have to flounder around on your own, trying this and trying that.

Consider talking to me about Law of Attraction coaching. If you’re interested, you can either comment in the comment box or contact me using the contact form. I am a certified Law of Attraction Coach and have been practicing/teaching the Universal Laws of Metphysics for over 25 years.

Terrie

Momentum Monday

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tumblr_mr7bdsqhMT1qitvdso1_400You’ve heard “Don’t worry, be happy”?

That’s truer than you realize even though it seems very simplistic and “cute”.

This week try catching yourself whenever you start to worry. Pull up one of your “Kodak Moments” we’ve been creating (or recalling) over the past several months. Stop that worry in its tracks. But, since sometimes people have difficulty letting go of things, remind yourself that you’re just doing this for “today” or “this week” if you’re brave. Remember it’s one step at a time. Take this the same way.

But look at what this picture is telling you – why would you want to destroy any possible  happiness you can be having today by worrying about something that might not happen. It most likely WILL happen though, if you continue to focus on it (that’s the Law of Attraction working quite well in your life even if you don’t believe it is).

So, by not worrying today you accomplish at least two things. You divert your emotions/vibrations from the “lack” that you were going to worry about and possibly prevent it from coming. You also ruin your vibrations for right now and get your momentum started in the wrong direction. By the time you’re realizing it, your car will be at the bottom of the hill and the momentum will NOT be able to be stopped. Try stopping it at the top of the hill. Then you can change the direction of your momentum easily. That’s what we’re aiming for when we want you to stop worrying about tomorrow as soon as you recognize that’s what you’re doing.

Try it, you’ll like it. Let us know how it’s going or ask questions about the best way to do this.

Terrie

Life is Like An Ultramarathon

stick_figure_running_icon_400_clr_3621Boy is this a great post for me right now. As you may remember, I’m training for a massive ultramarathon – 314 miles across the state of Tennessee. Last week for the first time I finally began to question whether or not I could actually do this event.  I still do not know the answer to that question.

People think life is a sprint and if something doesn’t work right away, they think it’s never going to work. This is one of the most common reasons people refute the Law of Attraction and say it doesn’t work. They feel that it should work right away as soon as they say an affirmation, think some positive thoughts or so something else. Without understanding the nature of the Law and how it works, they think that if they don’t get what they think they want right away, the Law either doesn’t work or doesn’t work for them. But they don’t realize that they really haven’t changed their feelings or emotions sufficiently to get the Universe moving their desire toward them. Remember that the steps are #1) Ask – you do that constantly through contrast – you find out what you want by identifying what you don’t want, #2) The Universe delivers – once you’ve asked, the Universe provides it for you. You have manifested your desire. But remember that manifestation and materialization are different things and materialization depends on Step #3) Allowing. This is where we have the most trouble. We have to consistently be in a space where our vibrations (emotions) will allow the gift that the Universe has created for us to come into our lives.

Step 3 is where the life is like an ultramarathon comes in. You can’t expect to go directly from  a life of thinking about poverty or lack immediately into a life of amazing prosperity and abundance. Our vibrations, emotions and beliefs don’t change that quickly. When you do a sprint you are simply focused on a fast time and perhaps winning, not on any changes. When you participate in an ultramarathon, there is more concentration on completing the distance even if there’s not a large amount of speed involved. You learn more about yourself because you have time to think about your life and you have time to make changes in your strategy. Maybe you have to go slower or even take a break. You might have to stop and eat something or get more fluids. Anything can change in an ultramarathon. It’s the distance that counts and that involves understanding yourself and your environment and being prepared to handle anything that comes along. It’s a problem solving adventure. You bring what you have learned in life and in training into the event but you also know that anything can happen and to be successful, you have to be able to roll with the punches.

Be patient. Remember the Law of Gestation. You don’t plant corn and then every day yell at the ground and kick it up because it hasn’t produced an ear yet. You know it’s going to take a certain amount of time and you are patient. Same with a baby – you don’t expect to find out you’re pregnant today and then be upset that the baby hasn’t been delivered tomorrow. If you can understand that the Law of Attraction also works with the Law of Gestation and you have to continue to water and feed your desire without stirring up the dirt around it, it will blossom in its time. The most effective method is to plant your desire, increase your vibration to the point where you really do “know” it will come to you and then let it go!

I told you last week or the week before that what you give out comes back to you. I proved this again to myself this past week. I had given money to someone in much greater need and given it freely and without any expectations or attachments.  Then this past week I finally got around to going to the bank to deposit my old IRS return. I hadn’t even opened it because I “knew” how much it was for. Well, I got  into the car and started to fill out the deposit slip, slit open the envelope and started to laugh. The check was for the exact amount I had given my friend.  The exact amount! Can you believe that? I am always amazed at how the law works. That check had gestated on my desk for a very long time and then it was there to replace what I had given out. How much more evidence do you need?

You just have to take your time. You have to let things happen all the while NOT giving up on your practice of the Law. Do NOT lower your vibration by thinking “nuts, I knew it wouldn’t work”, “It’s not going to work because I don’t deserve anything good to happen”, “Why does it work for everyone else except me”. And worse yet, do not move back into your lack thinking. Because if you do, you will simply attract more lack. That is probably the hardest part. For instance, when you receive another bill, write on it and bless it. Thank it for coming to remind you of the prosperity that is yours and that the Universe is delivering to you. View that bill as a demonstration of you having plenty of money that you are so happy to pay it because you know you are helping others out there that will benefit from the income you are providing them when you pay the bill. Never look at it as “how on earth am I going to pay this?”, “see, I knew I was not going to be prosperous”, “how can I possibly be prosperous when I keep getting bills.” Think of this as you being the employer for all who have contributed service or labor leading to this statement of wealth in your hands. It’s really all about how you look (and feel) at/about your circumstances.

Try to turn all your negative thoughts around.  Start with traffic lights – call them “Go lights” as Zig Ziglar does – he says they are there to make your travel go smoother and safer. Don’t think of them as “Stop lights” – try this for a few days.

Change another word and see what a difference it makes. Instead of “have to” or “I’ve got to” do something, catch yourself and say “I get to do something.” I made a conscious effort every morning when I said goodbye to my dog. In the past I had said “I’ve got to go to work now”. Then I changed it to either “I get to go to work now” or “I am going to work now”. I eliminated any of the sensations/thoughts/feelings associated with the “have to” statement. Because you know what? I really didn’t have to go to work. I could have quit. But I was fortunate to have the job (and still am very fortunate) and so I changed my attitude to express the appreciation I have for the job. It made a great deal of difference in my outlook and I could even feel my vibrations soar when I changed that wording.

Try one or two of these things. Start training now for your ultramarathon. It won’t be over in a few minutes, days or even months. Lay the groundwork (the base training) and practice until it becomes habit for you.

Let me know how it’s going and if you have any questions. Put them in the comment box!

Terrie

Momentum Monday

momentum-monday1Start your week off right!

I have had to really practice what I preach last week. And it was not easy. The Friday before my momentum had plummeted downward because I let something at work affect me. I should have just accepted it and moved on but I chose the harder way. Perhaps I made that choice so I could see how out of sorts it made me feel – so I could value positive momentum more. I don’t know why I chose that path but it pretty much continued the whole week and I was NOT on a high-flying disc.

So, yesterday while on a miserable 20 mile run (things just didn’t feel right from the moment I opened the door and saw the rain), I made up my mind that I had let that momentum run out and that I was going to start on a new path this week. I started on the run and began to look at things that were along the way and notice how beautiful they were and what they represented (nature, invention, progress, love, convenience, etc). I kept repeating one of my mantras – I control my mood. That is such a great thought – there really is something I can control (and you can too). Look at the Prisoners of War who survived years of captivity and torture. It was all about their attitude and mood.

I am happy to be here and be able to do the things I want to do and I know I’m very blessed. Who knows what the next moment will bring. I am making every attempt to “live in the moment”, to live in the “now” as much as I can. That has become so important to me. It’s no longer all about the ultimate outcome, but about the journey. I’ve always “known” that intellectually but now I realize it is the way to live. Enjoy everything that happens (even the bad momentum happenings).

I know I’ve been on this kick for awhile but the last 7 months of my life have brought it to the forefront of my life and I want to live every moment in joy. Even on “miserable” training runs. I can count my blessings and know what those blessings have given me.

Join me in this new adventure. Don’t shoot for the moon but enjoy feeling whatever and wherever you are right this minute.

Terrie

What You Give Out Is What You Get Back

BoomerangWhat a delightful day today was. Every month for the past 10 years I’ve had a pest service. San Antonio is one buggy place and bugs are NOT my favorite living beings.

I’ve had the pleasure of having three different guys service my property over this period of time. The first guy was very knowledgeable but unbelievably negative. I got to the point where I dreaded the day the pest man came to my house every month. Even when I tried to avoid discussing anything with him, he would follow me around telling me his troubles and woes. I even did something I don’t normally do. I gave him one of my “As a Man Thinketh” books and talked to him about it. It was like talking to my Siberian Husky though. She was as stubborn as this man was.

Finally after about 7 or 8 years he left the company and went to another job. At that point I got to know one of the sons of the manager. Nick was such a joy and was always happy and pleasant and full of life and joy, no matter what happened. It was terrific and I looked forward to his visit every month. But, Nick wanted to serve so he joined the Army about 7 months ago.

Next on the list was his older brother Andrew, another charming reflection of his dad.  Nick, Andrew and their dad are wonderful people and always joyful no matter what else might be going on in their lives. I am honored to know them.

Today Nick graduated from his school in the Army and will be going to Ft Hood (near home). Andrew was more talkative than ever and it was such a refreshing experience chatting with him. He told me how he always meant to serve the people whose houses he visited. That he looked on his job as one that was to make folks feel good, not for him to make a million dollars. He talked about all the things he had taught his little brother, Nick and had tried to show him what was important in life to look at. As he talked, I noticed that he kept referring to what people “do” or what they “are”, never about what they “had”. That is the mark of a true human being – even at his young age, he recognized that the important thing in life is what’s inside a person and what you reflect outwards to try to help other people, NOT what you achieve.

Even though he didn’t know it, he was emanating an extremely high vibration and was on those high flying discs (his momentum was phenomenal and as he talked, you could actually see the 68 second rule in action – even without him knowing it). He smiled, was animated and kept talking about the good he could do other people just by being friendly and looking to extract the good about any circumstance that you run into. We then talked about Russell H. Conwell’s “Acres of Diamonds” – a man was very happy and content with what he had until he learned of the existence of something called a diamond. At that point, the man became despondent and felt poor – although nothing had actually changed in his life. He wanted to be “rich” by finding diamonds. So he left his home and his family in search of richness (diamonds), only to never find any and subsequently ended his life.  The man who took over his property was digging in the ground one day and found a diamond  – right under his nose. This turned out to be the most proliferative diamond mind ever. Riches were right under this other man’s nose – right there for him to look at. Don’t look elsewhere. Find the gold and riches in your life as it is right now.

One way you do that is by giving out what you wish to receive. But don’t give out joy and pleasure “just so” you can get it back. You have to blossom with happiness, goodness and joy for the sake of those qualities and what they will do for another person. If you make it your goal to serve others and treat them well, you will have it made in life. Think about just saying hi to someone, just smiling, just waving to people even if you don’t know them. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life that you might be helping them. You might even save them from ending their life if they realize that there are people out there that care. Can you imagine how wonderful that would be?

Make your vibration and your momentum be a boomerang. Send forth goodness and it will definitely return to you.

What good thing, no matter how small, can you do today? Tell us about it in the comment box below. What gold is in your life that is covered up? What can you find in your own backyard? Look where you are and love where you are!

If you need anything, just let us know, too.

Terrie