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Check Your Attitude….And Your Momentum

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attitudeWhat ARE you thinking about right now? What are you feeling – this is much more important than what you’re thinking. You could be thinking that you have to go shopping today but even though you’re thinking this, you’re feeling depressed and lonely. Is your posture upright or slumped?  Try sitting upright right now and see if that changes how you feel. Take a deep breath and repeat that a few times.  Breathing deeply and having an upright posture will definitely improve how you feel and think.

Your momentum will be based on your attitude/feelings. And remember what I wrote about a few weeks ago – you CAN change your attitude. You can change how you feel. You may have to repeat a favorite affirmation several times or even use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) which I highly recommend. But find some way to think the way you want to feel. Pull up a Kodak Moment and focus on it.  That should at least make you smile. When you smile, you’ll find that your feelings change.

Write in your Book of Positive Aspects or your Appreciation/Gratitude journal. Look around you and see the beauty around you – I like to go outside and look at my cactus garden and see what new “sprouts” might have popped up.  For some reason I am not a flower person but really cherish my cactus (maybe it’s because there’s less effort involved). Looking at them and seeing how much they have grown makes my day. It’s a little thing and only involves me going outside and looking at these living objects and I’m happy. Even if that happiness is short lived,  it has put me onto a different plane and spun my momentum in a much better direction. If I pull up another Kodak Moment or start a Rampage of Appreciation (which is usually very easy to do because there has to be something around you that you appreciate), then my attitude and momentum go even further in the direction I want. There is no “right” or “wrong” momentum or attitude just as there are not really positive or negative emotions. What we consider to be a “negative” emotion is actually letting you know what you don’t want in life. It’s contrast showing you what you really want. If you’re depressed, you know you don’t want to be depressed, you want to be happier.  Once you recognize this and then remember that you control your thoughts, you can move up the emotional scale to head toward any somewhat happier emotion. You will move onto a different plane of momentum.

I’m not saying that becoming happy and joyful is necessarily easy but it is possible and is most likely easier than you even realize.  That’s why I continue to encourage you to create your Kodak Moments album in your head.

When you’re stuck and think there is no way to change your attitude and have tried everything I have recommended, consider getting a coach. A coach will help you identify ways to pull yourself out of that funk you think you’re in speedy_turtle_400_clr_13232and improve your attitude/momentum. You really can do this but sometimes you need help.  Folks underestimate the power of a coach. If you’ve tried various ways to reach a higher plane and improve your thinking, you may need help. Remember that quote “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.  If you continue to get the same results, ask for help. If you want to improve your life and reach for the stars but they have seemed just “out of reach” for you, a coach will give you the boost you need. A Coach will help you climb the stairway to your goal. Look at the sports teams that are stuck in the cellar (bottom of their sport) and all of a sudden a new coach is hired. They frequently will skyrocket to success. The new coach has helped them break out of their habits and enabled them to elevate their attitude and momentum.

Start with a Rampage of Appreciation. Look around you for something you think is “nice”. Then start elaborating on what you appreciate about either that thing or the things around it. Keep that going until you run out of things to appreciate and then move to something else similar to it and start appreciating it. Just keep going for at least 68 seconds if not more.

I want you to be happy. I want the best for you. All these posts are to help you realize you control your own life. I simply want you to take that control and do something with it that makes you happy!

Let me hear from you if you need more advice.

Terrie

 

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Momentum Monday

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We want to help you regain clarity about your individual power. Everyone has it. No one can ever take it away from you. No one can ever do anything “bad” to you. No one can assert into your experience. Everything, without exception, comes only by your individual invitation to it. Do you understand the process of asking? When you give something your attention and it becomes your dominant vibration relative to the subject—that is your asking. So, deliberate creating is not so much about looking out into the world and saying, “Oh, there are things that are good that I want to create or attract into my experience, and there are things that are bad that I don’t want to create or attract into my experience.” Deliberate creating is more about deliberate allowing. Deliberate allowing is more like deliberate vibration.

—Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop: San Francisco, CA on March 08, 2003

It’s important to grasp the essence of this quote – you have power! It is yours and as Abraham said, no one can take it away from you.  Have you ever caught yourself saying “you hurt my feelings”? If you have individual power, how can someone outside of you hurt YOUR feelings? You have chosen to feel hurt by something that person did or said. Another person might not react the same way.

It’s essential that we recognize this and acknowledge it. Take responsibility for how we feel. We cannot blame it on other people. If we do, we abdicate all our power and become puppets. I know that at times all of us feel as if we have absolutely no control. But if we’re able to remove ourselves from that situation for a bit, we’ll be able to see that we actually still do have control and can extract ourselves from it. Once we’re able to recognize that, our feelings will improve almost immediately.

The problem we have is that we either don’t take the opportunity to go someplace else to regroup or we don’t want to. We might want to feel like a victim, at least for awhile anyway. That may be what we need in order for the momentum of that moment to run out. But it’s better for our focus and discipline if we can remove ourselves and redirect our thoughts and feelings.

You have two choices this week – one is to just let things happen and then journal about what you observed and what you did or didn’t do.

The other choice is to make a conscious effort to remove yourself when a situation develops that has your momentum heading south. See if you can redirect it. Then journal about that too.

Let me know how things went.

Terrie

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Are You Living (Existing) Day To Day?

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living day to day 2Take a moment and think about the direction your life is going.

When you get up in the morning do you have a definite purpose to the day or do you just know that you’ll be doing whatever you do every day in the same pattern etc.

Even if it’s a small goal like feeling better by going to the gym a few days a week or going for a walk every other morning or evening, you’ll have a goal and a purpose.

Start out slowly but come up with some goal or purpose to your existence. Consider volunteering or fund raising. Maybe it would just be to try healthy smoothies a few days a week.  Search deep inside of you to find a reason to get out of bed other than that you “have to”.

Don’t you want to be excited to start the day…and continue through it? I know I do. I really was unhappy when all my life was about was getting up, going to work and coming home exhausted while thinking about having to get up the next morning to go to work too. Ugh big time.

When I have other things to look forward to – when it was just working out with Dan, I felt energized because I was working toward a goal. I started with him to try and get rid of the right upper back pain I had been having when walking and I wanted to do a 3 day walk. But then my goals with him evolved. That will happen to you if you just set a small goal to begin with.

Sit down and think about what you would like to do. What would you like to accomplish? Don’t be intimidated by that word – accomplishment means simply that you’ve done something. It doesn’t mean you’ve done something phenomenal that would rock the world. I think too many of us demean our own “small” achievements. We should never do that any more than we should compare what we do to what others do.  You will be happier if you have some purpose to your daily life.

If, perhaps, your life seems to revolve around your spouse and your children and is very hectic, figure out what you are trying to get done with them. Is it to teach them ethical behavior, to have morals, to set goals themselves and then go about achieving them, to provide them with the best all around education you possibly could? I know there is some reason you bust your butt to take them here, take them there or watch their sporting activities. You don’t just do this because you “have to” even if it feels that way right now. Examine what you really feel toward your family and what you want it to become. Perhaps it’s just to keep your kids from experimenting with drugs. That’s a major goal and definitely one worth accomplishing!

According to Abraham our sole aim is to achieve joy. Joy is defined differently for everyone. If you aim to feel joyous every day, then I think you will come up with a purpose even if it’s just for that day.

Don’t exist day to day – you never know when it will be your last day. Go after something every day.  Change it day to day or create a number of goals – short, midterm and longterm. Look into Define and Conquer (even though it says 2013 and says “group”, the audios are now available for replay) for the best methods of defining and achieving your goals.

What i really care about is that you are living for something other than the end of the day!

Terrie

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Start Your Engines….And Your Calendar

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stick_figure_holding_checkered_flag_400_clr_3917I learned several years ago that I needed to write down everything that happens – AS IT HAPPENS.

Instinctively I knew this because as an ER doc I’ve seen many people hem and haw when asked about when this symptom started or how long they’ve had something. They simply don’t know. And in medicine it gives us an idea of the seriousness of an issue or even helps with the diagnosis to know things like incubation periods etc.

In life it’s very helpful for you to journal what happens. You can see your progress and you can even see the obstacles in your way.

“But I’m so busy” you say. How to get around that? Most people use a calendar of some sort. I have an old faithful computer program that I simply love. I can put appointments (or events) in the calendar so that at a quick glance I can tell what’s coming up and what has happened.  I can also open that date and add notes to my heart’s content. There is also a section for journal entries. I can store my whole life there.  Even if I write down symptoms and never use them, that’s great. But if I have to talk to a doctor, then I know what’s going on and how long it’s been going on, etc. I can be more informed and take a greater part in my care.

Why do I care? Because at the end of the year at the very least (and usually I like to do it at least every six months if not quarterly) I can look at this calendar, see what’s happened to me and I can calculate how much progress I’ve made in my life and how the various Universal Laws have impacted my life. I can look to see if there are things I’ve done (and even emotions I’ve felt if I’ve recorded them – another good reason to use a journal) that I would have liked to do differently. I can see progress or lack thereof.

“But it’s the middle of the year and I haven’t done anything to this point. I guess I’ll just wait to start at the first of the year.” – WRONG! Start now. Get those engines going right this minute.

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Momentum Monday

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“The Law of Attraction states that you are basically a magnet, attracting the images that are inside your head.”
by Frank Mangano

If you think of the Law of Attraction in this way, it might help you focus on good images and generate good feelings/vibrations. Think of carrying a magnet around in your pocket all the time. You will pay attention to what you’re walking near so you only attract what you want to attract (coins for instance) and avoid things you don’t want being drawn up to your pocket (like nails, screws, scrap metal).

So why shouldn’t you do the same with your life. Use that magnet and pull in more of the things you want in your life. Think of the Corona Beer Ads with the two people sitting on the beach and looking out into the ocean.  They are attracting more beauty, peace, reverence (and beer, of course) into their life by creating the tranquil scene in their world. You can do the same thing using the Kodak Moments or visualizing something or someone beautiful in your life.

As you focus on that thing or person, the Universe will know that you want more of it and will immediately bring it to you. Then, your only other job is to allow it into your life. No more of the “I’m unworthy” or “I don’t deserve such good things” etc. Just picture it being in your life and when you can, think about how much you do deserve it and how much you want it.

If you have to just picture the magnet in your body (think of the “u” part of the magnet as your upper torso and the legs as your arms reaching out to receive).

Practice this image – you are the magnet, when you see (or think about) something you want more of, walk toward it and spread out your arms and visualize it coming into your life. When you see something (or feel it) that you do NOT want in your life, turn around and put your arms at your side. Visualize yourself pushing it away. Make this a game.

See what happens this week as you play magnet. Let us know by commenting below.

Terrie