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Complaining & Criticizing Is Making You Sick & Unhappy…And It’s Holding You Back

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stop complainingI think this is one of the most important points I’ve made in a very long time. Whenever you are complaining or criticizing, you’re putting out negative vibrations and thoughts into the Universe. And even if they are thoughts about someone else or some other situation, the Universe only knows that they are emanating from you! Therefore the Universe simply thinks you want more of that negativity to come into your life.

What good does complaining and criticizing do anyway? Does it accomplish complaininganything? No, of course not. It’s different that stating an issue and presenting a solution if there’s one warranted. If there isn’t a solution needed, then there really isn’t a problem is there? And there’s nothing to complain about. Perhaps it’s something that you’re not overly happy about – let’s say a change requested by your new boss. If there’s no solution you can see, then stop and ask yourself what’s really bothering you. Is it, perhaps, that you just don’t like change and that’s why you’re not happy? Is it that you didn’t think of it and that’s why you’re not happy? Is it because you’ll have to start doing things differently and you are happy and content in your current comfort zone? What really is going on in your mind and your heart? That is what you have to investigate no matter how deep you have to dig. Go within, not without. Complaining and criticizing is going “without”. Whereas the introspection to figure out what is going on inside of you is going “within”. That is growth and will help you learn what is going on inside of you and what to do about it. It may be (but probably isn’t) that there really is a problem and with this in depth look, you’ll come up with a solution. However, it is more likely that you’ll find out more about yourself and then be able to improve your outlook and attract more positive things into your life.

Constant codont complainmplaining and criticizing also will make you sick because of all the negative energy surrounding you. Negative thoughts and feelings put you in a low level stress response and the excess cortisol that you’re constantly producing in that state will eventually lead to chronic fatigue and lower your immunity. You really can make yourself sick in so many ways. Do you ever say things like “I’m sick and tired” or “I’m fed up” or even worse “This is killing me” or “you make me sick”. These are all affirmations to the Universe to bring you more of what you’re talking about – the Universe does NOT know that these are just expressions.

Unless you turn within and investigate what is making you feel these negative vibrations, you will never grow and progress. The complaining and criticizing will hold you back. It’s just further validation of your limiting beliefs. You never have the chance to explore what those beliefs are and why you have them and more importantly, how to clear tholding_back_competitors_400_clr_11096hem and figure out what you really want to believe. That is the only way you’ll grow and progress. So, if you feel you’re being held back, realize that you are not being held back by anyone or anything. It’s you who are holding yourself back.  You really are and can be in control of your progress and growth. Stop blaming anyone or anything but yourself. What happened in the past is in the past. The present and the future is totally up to you. You can continue to try to blame external sources but that won’t get you anywhere. The Universal Laws operate within you. You really do have control of your life. Of course, with that awareness comes the responsibility to take things into your own hands. Often that is a great burden but it also brings tremendous freedom! Once you know that you can change things, you can bring whatever you want into your life, you feel lighter and happier. And you realize that you have the ability to grow and nurture yourself to a degree you’ve never had before.

Keep track of how often you complain or criticize others. Figure out something to do to change your thoughts and behavior when you find yourself doing that. For example, just say something like “that person is doing the best he can with what he has” or “I’m sure that he has reasons for behaving that way and I just don’t know what they are”. Practice that on easy things like when you start to criticize other drivers or other parents or someone at a grocery store or event. Simple things that really are unimportant. Once you start practicing on those, you’ll find it easier to change the way you think about the more important things in your life.

Let us know what you think about this and if you can see any pattern in your life that has followed this sequence. I know I can.

Terrie

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How The Heck Did We Get To Where We Are Today?

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confusionAlthough not “required” to effect change in your life, it helps to figure out how we got where we are today. Why? Because we got here by virtue of our deep beliefs, our thoughts and words that the Universe hears as desires – and as it always does, it brings what you have asked for.

If you have repeatedly felt people with money are greedy and not to be trusted, then you will likely not become one of them because you don’t want to be seen as greedy and untrustworthy.

It’s really helpful to examine where you are right now and what you think got you there. For example, things were going very well but then there were three months that everything got turned upside down. It seemed like it happened all of a sudden and I couldn’t figure it out. Finally it had gone on long enough that I decided to look at what led up to those times.

Lo and behold it was my negative beliefs and thoughts that had been creeping into my mind more and more and because it was a gradual process and was evolving like ivy does. Slowly but surely and then you wonder where it had all come from. It was very obvious after I had looked at it all. I saw how it all unfolded and came together. And it was in all areas of my life. See how easily things can happen to you when you’re not being vigilant at all times. Because we’re always working through and against the past and our past we have to be attentive to our thoughts and words.

Even though it might be painful and in some ways discouraging, it’s important to see if you can determine how you got to this point. Of course it’s also important to be working simultaneously on how you want to fix it and change your circumstances. And although you don’t have to look at the path you took to get here, it will be very helpful in either deterring it in the future or at least aborting it as early as you can once you recognize that things aren’t going so great. We also have to remember to track how much we’re telling stories about how bad things are. Telling our friends and family over and over again brings things to pass.

I use my calendar program as a diary too ( I just happened to find an excellent program that allows me to do both) so I can go back and see what’s happened when and if I’m savvy enough, then I’ll be able to see the progression of thoughts and feelings.

See if there’s something you can look at now and figure out how you got there. Let us know in the comment section. I think it will make a difference in your ability to change from now on.

Terrie

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You Don’t Want To Star In The Exorcist

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figure_rear_view_mirror_400_clr_11283 Don’t be Regan (Linda Blair) – the girl in the exorcist! What do I mean by this? Simply that you shouldn’t keep looking back – for any reason! If you keep looking around behind you, it screws with your momentum. Think about driving along and you’re at a certain speed that’s feeling pretty good and getting you where you’re going. But you’re worried (first clue) that there might be some cops behind you or maybe just someone who is tailgating and wants to pass you. As you’re looking around, you end up putting your foot on the brake to slow down while you look. Your momentum has slowed and now you have to do something to speed up again.

Why do you even want to look at what’s in your past?  The only possibly legitimate reason could be to examine your limiting beliefs…but you could check them out without knowing where they come from. Only curiosity could be the reason for trying to figure out whether you got them from your parents or your teachers or what. But that’s not really important, is it? What’s matter is that you identify that you actually DO have those beliefs  and then how you can change them.

If you’re looking at what events have happened in your life AND what limiting beliefs have been operating in your mind and life. These beliefs have been the primary influencing factor in how the Law of Attraction works in your  life. You can take a short time to look at past events and see if this has been the case – have you been living with self-fulfilling prophecies.  This is just another phrase for the Law of Attraction. I used to (many, many years ago) tell people that they wouldn’t like me once they got to know me and guess what? They pulled away eventually – just as I predicted (prophecy).

There’s a comfort zone involved here as well. No matter how crappy our past was, it still is something we can hold on to. We know what we felt like, we know what our responses were. It’s the knowledge that is the comfort. When we’re stepping out into new territory and changing our thoughts and life actions, it’s scary because we don’t know what’s going to happen. What if something goes wrong? What if I didn’t identify my limiting beliefs enough? What if, what if? By the time you’re done questioning yourself, you want to go back to the past.

Guess what? The past is over, done with, gone! You just have to be daring and brave and move on. Trying the new way of life won’t hurt you as long as you believe in the Law of Attraction and the other Universal Laws. This is a friendly universe. We just seem to be very adept at repeating our past – because we pay so much attention to it. Be different, you might like it.

So stop looking in your rear view mirror and stop playing in the Exorcist. Keep you head forward and watch what’s happening in front of you. This is a major benefit of having a coach. Your coach will walk with you and help  you through the scary parts.

Think about it, then go do it!

Terrie

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Laws Are NOT Made To Be Broken

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laws not to be broken 1You often hear people say “rules are made to be broken”. Even though it sometimes is meant as a joke, people often are serious. They feel it’s ok to break rules and as long as they aren’t “caught”, everything’s fine and dandy.

When it comes to the Universal laws, however, there is no breaking them. Take the most known one – the Law of Attraction – for instance. How would you break the “Law”? By focusing on the things that you don’t want all the while expecting what you want to show up in your life.  The Universe does not respond to words – “I want a million dollars”. It responds to your feelings, your vibrations – “I have so many blasted bills to pay, I’ll never get anywhere since I just don’t have enough money”. Even while writing this I could feel the frustration and even despair that would be in someone’s voice if they were saying that. Those are the emotions. There’s frustration, despair, helplessness, anger, depression, disappointment, etc. These are what the Universe responds to. And, as such, this is what you will receive – more lack, more bills. Why? That is the Law – you receive what you ask for and by concentrating on or focusing on the lack, the bills, that is what the Universe thinks you’re asking for – more of it.

“But I can’t escape reality” you say. “The reality is that I have all these bills ad I’m NOT making a million dollars nor do I see how I ever could. How do you expect me to believe and focus on that?” I don’t. I know that it would seem unrealistic and unbelievable for you to believe you have a million dollars when you have a load of bills to pay. You can’t lie to yourself. Well, you could lie to yourself but you wouldn’t believe that lie. So how do you keep from breaking the Law.

You change what you’re thinking about and focusing on. If you’re ill and have a less than desirable diagnosis, you won’t be able to change that just by making an affirmation. So, you have to find something else to focus on – that Kodak moment I keep referring to. When you are thinking about something that makes you feel good or accomplished, then you build up your momentum and your entire body energy alters and that energy will go about working all throughout your body to try to facilitate manifestation of health.

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The YOUniverse

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youniverse With all the talk we’ve done about vibrations and momentum, it’s so important to realize that EVERYTHING in your life is centered around YOU. That’s why you should think of your surroundings as your YOUniverse.

No, this is NOT selfish but it is self-centered. Most people have a negative reaction to that phrase too – self-centered. But, if you understand the Law of Attraction and the fact that you create everything in your life, you will realize that this requires self-centeredness (is that a word?).

However, this concept is also the most generous and giving there is. Because if you get your own momentum going in the direction you wish (some call it positive although there really is no positive and negative when it comes to emotions) and your vibrations are elevated, you will be doing more for those around you than you can by taking conscious actions.

When you create your world, it’s so important that you focus on the things that make you feel good. Focusing on them will bring more of that good feeling into your life. Remember that you only have to “Ask” the Universe once for something. Then move on to raising your vibration and getting yourself in the right space (vibration) to accept what you have asked for. That 3rd step is the hardest part for us humans. We “ask” all the time – any time we think about something for more than 17 seconds we’ve essentially asked for more of it.  After we’ve asked, the Universe immediately provides it – but what happened? It sure hasn’t appeared as a physical manifestation in your life. So does that mean it doesn’t work? No, it means two things, one of which we should be very grateful for – we cannot immediately manifest things in our life – there is the Law of Gestation which means that things come into your life when the time is right. Dr. Kunath used to use a great example in her own  life. When her kids were little she recognized one day how grateful she was that she didn’t immediately manifest what she said. She found herself looking out the door and seeing her kids playing on top of the neighbor’s roof. She screamed at them “Get down from there – you’re going to fall and break your neck”. At that moment she realized that we needed much more Divine Wisdom to be able to immediately manifest. Otherwise some of the really stupid things we say would actually come true. She also gave a presentation at one of the big international conferences on “Oops, what do you do when you get what you asked for”.  Something to think about for sure. Thank goodness for the requirement for 68 seconds of focus (concentrating on something for a series of 4 consecutive 17 second periods puts the Universe into action bringing you what you’ve asked for). Most people can’t (or don’t) focus on one thing for that long.

The second implication from not receiving what we ask for (or so it seems) is even more important. We must “Allow” the physical manifestation to come into our life.  Many times this is because we’ve been taught that we shouldn’t ask for things or 1236855_603864969656204_580817517_nthat we have to deserve something or earn something.  We have all sorts of limiting beliefs – beliefs that keep us from accepting that we are deserving, we are worthy of receiving what we’ve asked for.  That’s where the vibration/emotions and momentum comes into play. Concentrating on your YOUniverse and how you feel and think and act with the express purpose of being at the highest vibration possible while generating and maintaining momentum on a higher plane will put you in a space where you allow the Universe to bring you what you asked for. Remember my analogy of placing your order (asking), the company fulfills and ships the order (the Universe gives you what you’ve asked for). The shipper is at your front door but if you don’t answer the door or open it to receive what you’ve ordered, you will continually think that your order has not been filled. And you’ll get disappointed, discouraged and disbelieving.

It’s so important for you to work on realizing that what you have in your life is something you’ve asked for at another time in your life. Make a list of the good and bad things that you’ve experienced and see if at some point in the past you hadn’t been concerned or focused on something of that nature.

Being positive, by itself, won’t work. You can say affirmations all day long (and I’m a big believer in affirmations), but if you haven’t cleared the land of your limiting beliefs (especially the self-worth and deserving beliefs), you will blocking the good from coming into your life. For example, you can say affirmations in the morning and the evening but if all day long, you’re thinking about those bills you can’t pay, that is what’s prominent in your vibrations and feelings. As such, you’ve spent much more time on the not having enough money to pay your bills, that you will receive more and more of that as long as you continue thinking that way.

This is why my YOUniversal phrases are (I know I repeat them a lot but they have gotten me out of trouble so many times that I can’t say them enough):

“That is not my truth”

“Nothing and nobody can interfere with my prosperity, well-being and peace of mind, not even myself!”

And say them with emphasis. Keep saying them until your fear or anxiety level has significantly decreased and you can focus on one of your “Kodak Moments” stored in the album in your mind – mine is always running related and it works!

Concentrating on your life will bring you all you need to provide the love and kindness for others that you really want to. You hear all the time that you have to love yourself before you can love others. That applies in every aspect of your life.

Start working more in your YOUniverse and remember the 17 second rule (four periods of focusing for 17 seconds will get you to 68 seconds and that is essential for bringing the manifestation into your life).

Terrie