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Ready For Take Off: Stop Spinning Your Wheels

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single_rocket_graph_takeoff_400_clr_14298I want you to get yourself going – in some direction! Although this could be considered to be about stopping procrastination, that’s not my intent today.

I know that I often will spin my wheels and not be procrastinating. In fact, I’m working very hard when I’m spinning my wheels. But the problem is that I’m trying this and trying that and can’t seem to make up my mind which direction I want to follow. Can’t figure out which is the “right” direction. So, I end up spending a lot of time and energy not really accomplishing anything and then even more time and energy worrying about spinning my wheels and not knowing what to do…..Catch 22 for sure.

The most recent example I can think of was when I was trying to figure out what book to start with.  I had two ideas and I would go back and forth between each of them. I’d try to figure out the pro’s and con’s of each and whether this would “sell” or be “useful” or would the other be more so. You can probably imagine the paralysis I was inflicting on myself. Like a backyard swing – back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And I didn’t get anywhere at all. It was frustrating as well as non-productive.

So one day after doing EFT and some meditation to quiet my mind, I decided to just write and not worry about what book it would go in. That let everything loose and I accomplished so much just by listening to my inner being. I still have another decision to make once I’ve gotten to a stopping place but those decisions can wait.

I have a few favorite sayings and one of them is that “Everything is always working out for me!” I even have that on a timer on my phone.  At certain times during the day, the phone beeps and the saying pops up. What a great reminder for me that as long as I follow my gut, my inner source, everything WILL work out for me. What I had been trying to do was “control” the situation. I was focusing on BOTH what I wanted and what I didn’t want. I wanted the book to be successful. Of course, that’s kind of hard to achieve if you haven’t written it yet – duh. But, at the same time I was also focusing on what I didn’t want. How? By trying to do a pro AND con list. Every time I thought about a con, I was actually concentrating on the things I didn’t want. You can never get to the solution while you’re in the “problem” mode. The vibrations and feelings you have when you think about problems are totally different than when thinking about solutions and they do NOT mix. I was focusing on the problem and not allowing the solution to come to me until I quieted my mind. That enabled my mind to open up so the solution could come in.

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The YOUniverse

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youniverse With all the talk we’ve done about vibrations and momentum, it’s so important to realize that EVERYTHING in your life is centered around YOU. That’s why you should think of your surroundings as your YOUniverse.

No, this is NOT selfish but it is self-centered. Most people have a negative reaction to that phrase too – self-centered. But, if you understand the Law of Attraction and the fact that you create everything in your life, you will realize that this requires self-centeredness (is that a word?).

However, this concept is also the most generous and giving there is. Because if you get your own momentum going in the direction you wish (some call it positive although there really is no positive and negative when it comes to emotions) and your vibrations are elevated, you will be doing more for those around you than you can by taking conscious actions.

When you create your world, it’s so important that you focus on the things that make you feel good. Focusing on them will bring more of that good feeling into your life. Remember that you only have to “Ask” the Universe once for something. Then move on to raising your vibration and getting yourself in the right space (vibration) to accept what you have asked for. That 3rd step is the hardest part for us humans. We “ask” all the time – any time we think about something for more than 17 seconds we’ve essentially asked for more of it.  After we’ve asked, the Universe immediately provides it – but what happened? It sure hasn’t appeared as a physical manifestation in your life. So does that mean it doesn’t work? No, it means two things, one of which we should be very grateful for – we cannot immediately manifest things in our life – there is the Law of Gestation which means that things come into your life when the time is right. Dr. Kunath used to use a great example in her own  life. When her kids were little she recognized one day how grateful she was that she didn’t immediately manifest what she said. She found herself looking out the door and seeing her kids playing on top of the neighbor’s roof. She screamed at them “Get down from there – you’re going to fall and break your neck”. At that moment she realized that we needed much more Divine Wisdom to be able to immediately manifest. Otherwise some of the really stupid things we say would actually come true. She also gave a presentation at one of the big international conferences on “Oops, what do you do when you get what you asked for”.  Something to think about for sure. Thank goodness for the requirement for 68 seconds of focus (concentrating on something for a series of 4 consecutive 17 second periods puts the Universe into action bringing you what you’ve asked for). Most people can’t (or don’t) focus on one thing for that long.

The second implication from not receiving what we ask for (or so it seems) is even more important. We must “Allow” the physical manifestation to come into our life.  Many times this is because we’ve been taught that we shouldn’t ask for things or 1236855_603864969656204_580817517_nthat we have to deserve something or earn something.  We have all sorts of limiting beliefs – beliefs that keep us from accepting that we are deserving, we are worthy of receiving what we’ve asked for.  That’s where the vibration/emotions and momentum comes into play. Concentrating on your YOUniverse and how you feel and think and act with the express purpose of being at the highest vibration possible while generating and maintaining momentum on a higher plane will put you in a space where you allow the Universe to bring you what you asked for. Remember my analogy of placing your order (asking), the company fulfills and ships the order (the Universe gives you what you’ve asked for). The shipper is at your front door but if you don’t answer the door or open it to receive what you’ve ordered, you will continually think that your order has not been filled. And you’ll get disappointed, discouraged and disbelieving.

It’s so important for you to work on realizing that what you have in your life is something you’ve asked for at another time in your life. Make a list of the good and bad things that you’ve experienced and see if at some point in the past you hadn’t been concerned or focused on something of that nature.

Being positive, by itself, won’t work. You can say affirmations all day long (and I’m a big believer in affirmations), but if you haven’t cleared the land of your limiting beliefs (especially the self-worth and deserving beliefs), you will blocking the good from coming into your life. For example, you can say affirmations in the morning and the evening but if all day long, you’re thinking about those bills you can’t pay, that is what’s prominent in your vibrations and feelings. As such, you’ve spent much more time on the not having enough money to pay your bills, that you will receive more and more of that as long as you continue thinking that way.

This is why my YOUniversal phrases are (I know I repeat them a lot but they have gotten me out of trouble so many times that I can’t say them enough):

“That is not my truth”

“Nothing and nobody can interfere with my prosperity, well-being and peace of mind, not even myself!”

And say them with emphasis. Keep saying them until your fear or anxiety level has significantly decreased and you can focus on one of your “Kodak Moments” stored in the album in your mind – mine is always running related and it works!

Concentrating on your life will bring you all you need to provide the love and kindness for others that you really want to. You hear all the time that you have to love yourself before you can love others. That applies in every aspect of your life.

Start working more in your YOUniverse and remember the 17 second rule (four periods of focusing for 17 seconds will get you to 68 seconds and that is essential for bringing the manifestation into your life).

Terrie

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Should Your Doctor Talk To You About The Law Of Attraction At Your Next Visit?

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LOA-doctorThe Law of Attraction is ALWAYS operating in our world (and everyone’s world) whether we’re aware of it or not. What we focus on is what comes in to our lives. And what we HAVE FOCUSED on in the past comes into our lives too. Instead of the saying “you are what you eat”, we should accurately substitute

You are what you THOUGHT!

We often either neglect the effect of emotions, feelings and vibrations on our well being or we tend to think the Law of Attraction only applies to certain aspects of our life, such as “abundance” or “prosperity”. Naysayers of the Law of Attraction say that it’s wrong to focus on money and wealth, interpreting that this is the meaning of prosperity and abundance. But both prosperity and abundance include all aspects of well being, NOT just money. Abundance can refer to health, wealth, peace of mind, love, relationships, any part of your life. Same goes for prosperity.

Thus, it stands to reason that your health can be definitely impacted by what you’ve been thinking. This can be in the form of stress about your job, stress about your financial situation, or it can take the shape of worrying about contracting a certain disease or illness.

Many people, however, do not want to hear that they may be the cause of their condition. After all, that would then mean “it’s all in your head” and no one wants to believe this. But let me talk to about the difference. Psychosomatic illness is a phrase that people cringe at when someone utters it. But it’s so applicable to every single disease of condition you have. What it means is that your body (somatic) responds to your thoughts (psycho-).  This has been proven and it makes sense to anyone who understands the Universal Laws, including the Law of Attraction.

So, to me, it’s logical that Law of Attraction questions SHOULD be a part of the history and physical and discussion that your physician takes when you come to his office. A couple of weeks ago I had to complete a new patient questionnaire and it contained 135 questions. Not ONE of them had anything to do with how I was feeling, what I was worried or stressed about, what I had been thinking of for the few weeks before going to see someone. All of these are pertinent to figuring out what is wrong with the patient as much as all the lab tests they do.

Why are these questions and concepts so important? Your doctor can prescribe you tons of medicines and get many tests but if he or she doesn’t dig deep into what’s behind your symptoms, they will continue even if they are toned down by the medicines. This means it’s liable to return once this exacerbation is “cured”. If you don’t get the splinter out of the foot, it will continue to fester and hurt no matter how much you drain it.

There are also other considerations – what is the “up side” of having something wrong with you? You need to answer that and your doctor should pursue that too. If it’s not identified, then the condition is likely to persist. I have told this story before but it bears repeating. When I was an intern, I dreaded going on my pediatric rotation because I didn’t like kids. I had thought about how much I disliked kids and didn’t want to do the rotation for a long, long time. Interestingly, the week before I was due to rotate onto pediatrics I started getting sick. I was never sick. But, believe it or not, I had developed pneumonia – showed up on the x-ray big as life. As such, I was excused from the first 7-10 days of my rotation. Did I know that was why I got sick then? Heck no, and this was not a well known topic at that time either. It wasn’t until many years later that I realized what I had done. And yes, I did it to myself. I caused myself to get pneumonia. I know there are many other times this has happened as well but none so obvious as that example.

Some of us are prone to accidents and musculoskeletal injuries. These folks are often having too much going on in their lives and they want to be immobilized and prevented from moving forward. The best way for that to occur is for your muscles, bones and joints to be affected.

Often people who develop serious illnesses such as cardiac disease or even cancer have a long history of being concerned about getting it especially if it runs in their families. They feel it’s inevitable and that puts their vibrations right there to attract that to you. None of this is intentional and no one should either rebel at this theory or kick themselves saying they should have been able to prevent it. It’s a philosophy that is coming more into acceptance as the days and months go by.  There are so many programs that involve alternative or complimentary medicine and energy medicine, all of which should be incorporated in your armamentarium for conquering illness and injury.

It’s my thought that a physician should be able to discuss this with their patients and try to get to the root of everything. But, from personal experience, I know that patients get upset if they hear things they don’t want to hear about. There lies the dilemma. These are also the same people who will complain about their doctor not paying enough attention to them. If a doctor is afraid of the repercussions from addressing these issues, why should they bother in this litigation minded populace. It appears that it’s going to be the patients job to work on finding out what’s going on inside of them and being as honest with themselves as they can be.

Look inside whenever you develop any symptoms. What’s going on in your life? What are you concerned about? What has been going on in your family or at work? What are your beliefs? Ask yourself the hard questions and then be honest with the answers.

Terrie

 

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How Do You Deal With Disappointment?

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iStock_000014869787SmallSo, I’m sitting here writing on my blog instead of being out in California running in a 100 mile race. Bummer.

Then, tomorrow I’ll be sitting here writing (or working) rather than going to a long awaited Publicity Summit in New York City. Double Bummer.

Plus, I have to unpack everything both for the race and for the conference since I pack a week ahead of time.  Triple Bummer since that’s reliving the preparations!

On top of that disappointment I have to deal with the concern and disappointment associated with the reason I can’t attend these events – medical issues that are as yet undiagnosed. So that would make it a Quadruple Bummer, right?

Sounds like an Olympic Event to me!

What should I do? What are my options?  Let’s see:

  • I could sit around and mope and tell everyone how miserable I am (I probably did enough of that already though 🙂 )
  • I could sit around and worry about what’s wrong with me and being that I’m a doctor, I could use my very active imagination to come up with some horrible choices.
  • I could sit around and be depressed that I can’t do any physical activity and I’m itching to run and add to that that maybe I won’t ever be able to run again (of course I don’t know that – it would be my imagination again).iStock_000013901371Small

Does all that sound productive, positive or even like any fun? Heck no!

Not only are those options not productive but they are also very damaging. Remember that you can imprint a concept onto the Universe in 17 seconds. Then when you add another 17 seconds and another 17 seconds the power of that thought and concept markedly increases. You HAVE to  interrupt that 17 second repeat cycle or Momentum gets going. Once the momentum starts, it takes a great deal of energy to reverse or stop it! Sometimes you just have to let it run it’s course because the more you try to stop it, the more resistance you are putting up and you’re apt to continue to fall into the Abyss of self-pity or whatever emotional roller coaster you’re riding on.

Newtons cradleIt’s hard for someone to be “positive” all the time – I’m not advocating Pollyanna behavior because that’s not reality. However, I am advocating doing anything you can to stop that 17 second process from proceeding directly into Momentum! This is the phrase that I use to interrupt my thoughts when they are going down a path I don’t want to follow (such as all the terrible things that could be wrong with me) – “That is NOT my TRUTH” – when I say that, it interrupts that 17 second process and it puts the skids on the momentum. Sometimes I have to repeat it to myself many times an hour (or even a minute) but as long as I remember to use it, I don’t head down into the abyss.  Saying that phrase also allows me time to think of something else that can get my emotions/vibrations on a plane where I want them. In my case, I switch from the “oh no, poor me” thoughts to visualizing my long anticipated run across Tennessee this summer. When I do that, I feel happy and my vibrations are raised to a level that puts me in a much happier state and those are the vibrations I really WANT to put out to the Universe. I don’t want the Universe answering my “poor me” phone. I want it answering the “I am fine and dandy and can do anything” phone.  It’s pretty simple to think of something that makes you happy. It can be in the future or in the past – but it’s a memory associated with a happy feeling.

We’ve all heard stories of the Prisoners of War who survived because of their imagination and thoughts and ability to put themselves somewhere outside of their actual environment. That’s what we have to do when we experience disappointment.

Another thing to do to face the disappointment and prevent the momentum of feeling “down” is to put your energy into some other activity or hobby. Preferably something that will engage you so that you won’t have time to travel down that other path.  If you’re not feeling well, you can read or even write in a journal (being careful about what you’re writing though – try to focus on the good things).

A good friend gave me this advice (without knowing that it was advice) yesterday – “I try to appreciate each day”. I like that approach and it really hit home for me. It’s great when friends just say stuff and it rings your bell.

Do whatever you can to stop the momentum and raise your vibration. That is the key to recovering from disappointment. Then just “rinse and repeat” – it’s a slow process and there may be many steps you have to take but just take them one at a time and you will get there. You just want to be moving in the upward direction.

Terrie

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Are You Being Held Hostage By Your Emotions?

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As a follow-on to the Emotional Hoarding post from last week, I want you to look inside and see if you are being held hostage by your emotions.

  • Here’s the basic elements of a hostage situation. After I list them, I’ll discuss how this applies to you and your emotions.
  • Hostages (you and your true self) are being held by the hostage taker (emotions)
  • Containment with the threat of force by authorities (you’re paralyzed and unable to move forward)
  • Substantive demands by the Hostage Takers (continue to feel miserable, pay attention to me, don’t move forward, etc)
  • Communication between Hostage Taker and Authorities (Your higher self) – arguing about release
  • A leader amongst the Hostage Takers (which emotion rules)
  • Time
  • Need to live on part of the Hostage Takers (emotions want to keep on going)

Here’s the phases:

  • Initial – violent, brief (lasts as long as it takes for the hostage taker to make the assault and subdue the hostages) – this is the initial trauma you experience. It’s violent and may or may not be brief. But it is over when you start ruminating over the emotions that have blossomed as a result of the hurt or anger.
  • Negotiation – Demand received; authorities on site; it’s the “standoff phase” where nothing physically changes but a lot is developing relationship wise – “standoff” is a great word for our emotional hostage situation. Nothing appears to change but our relationship with these prominent emotions is changing. If your strong self was the higher “being” before, it’s as likely as not that you are trying to negotiate with these (perceived as) negative emotions but it’s also likely that the emotions will win and become the predominant emotions, taking a foremost position in your thoughts and feelings and actions. Are you consumed by hurt, by anger, or even worry?
  • Termination phase – brief, sometimes violent, final phase. There are three possible results:
  • The Hostage Taker surrenders peacefully
  • Police assault and kill the Hostage Taker
  • Hostage Takers demands are met and they escape

Part of the negotiation is to build a rapport and encourage the Hostage Takers to bring about a peaceful conclusion.

Unfortunately, we often do not even try to build a rapport or encourage a peaceful conclusion. Once attacked by the emotional onslaught of a trauma, we give in and just allow these same emotions to rule our being and our existence. It’s like we’re on a very, very small life raft in the vast sea of our mind. We hang on watching everything circulate around us, simply hoping and wishing things would change. But we don’t DO anything. We allow the sea (the emotions) swirl around us battering us up against the life raft no matter which side of the raft we hold on to.

Is this what you want? Do you want your emotions to be in charge of your life?

The first step in correcting this situation and being freed from the Hostage Takers is recognition and awareness.

Then you have to want to change. Believe it or not, many people want to remain in this abyss and be pushed around. When someone once was independent, sparkling and a free thinker, they now have formed this symbiotic relationship with the emotions that keep them paralyzed and unable to move forward. Is this you?

Let me know your thoughts below. Have you recognized what’s going on inside of you? Do you want to do something about it?

Terrie